Avris
I think we should see other people... No, I’m not breaking up with you, quite the opposite.
Seeing other people might be beneficial for a relationship. How? Well, let me introduce you to the concepts of “NRE” and “compersion”.
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The very first thing I’ve ever tattooed on my body is a symbol of atheism. It might sound stupid for some (“if you don’t believe in god, why do you care so much about the nonexistent?”), but it’s a really important thing for me. Let me tell you why.
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Did you know the dicks you see in porn are not real? Per se, sure, but if you look at them as a group? That’s not what what real cocks look like!
I know. I checked.
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No such thing as a “real man”.
It’s just a social construct. It changes over time, it differs from country to country, from social group to social group. It’s super arbitrary.
All men are real men.
Self-Defined Dictionary is a fresh-new open-source project aiming to allow minoritised groups define the words that describe them – finally from their own perspective, and not the perspective of people who never even experienced their struggles.
I took an opportunity to suggest a definition of polyamory from a perspective of a polyamorous person.
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So it turns out, coming out is still something that I have to do sometimes 
. Surprisingly, though, it’s the other way around now. That’s a brand new experience to me 
So here it goes:
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Na podstawie naszej historii Miłość nie wyklucza stworzyła poradnik, jak niszczyć polską rodzinę tuż za zachodnią granicą 
Fair warning: this library is pretty useless. And only moderately fun... 
But it seemed like a cool way to learn a bit about web components, so here it is: a component that creates googly eyes that follow your mouse.
It’s #ComingOutDay, so I feel like I should tell you something...
Here it goes...
Ekhm...
I’m queer af 
I know, I know, but please try to contain your shock
I’m watching a documentary about Polish incels, I see them creepily ask radom women on the streets “are you single?”, “do you have a boyfriend?”, and I can’t help but think – why are those questions even a thing in our society?
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For quite a while my VPS was misconfigured – any HTTP requests it got but couldn’t assign to a vhost, it redirected to the main website, avris.it. I didn’t think it would be a big deal, until I recently found out that my post Ungoogling is indexed by Google under https://askara.avris.it/blog/ungoogling
This subdomain hadn’t existed for a long time already, my server doesn’t serve a certificate for it anymore, but it requires HSTS, so browsers end up showing users a scary error message.
I had to do something about it.
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As much as I despise DailyMail’s usual hatred and and shittiness, I can’t stand on the side of their recent “victims”: Harry and Meghan Windsor and Elton John. Calling out the hypocrisy and entitlement of the rich is what press is supposed to be doing.
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No, honestly, why not? I know why yes, that question is boring, I don’t need anyone convincing me that it’s possible and probably very rewarding to love and be in relationship with more than one person, or that having legal protections for such relationships would be nice.
But I’m curious what would the challenges of such a possibility be.
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Politics sucks. Even people who are honestly interested in all the political games often admit: it’s shit.
I would compare it to the Scrum methodology – it might be a useful tool to get your team to get the shit done, but it often ends up resulting in more meetings about what to do than actually doing it.
What if instead of elections we just had a draw?
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For whatever reason, many monotheists seem proud of believing in just one god as opposed to those “pagans” who believe in many. They consider it some kind of a “progress” (well, one is closer to the actual number of gods – zero – so technically it might be correct). But are they really monotheistic?
When you walk into the church I used to attend as a child, what do you see in the very center? Yes, the tabernacle, allegedly containing god himself. But what’s way way above it? What’s surrounded by golden ornaments and votive offerings? A figurine of Mary.
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Platforma Obywatelska obiecała, że wprowadzą głosowanie elektroniczne. Ta partia nie jest znana z realizowania obietnic, więc nie boję się zbytnio, że ten okropny, okropny pomysł wejdzie dzięki nim w życie. Ale temat mnie poruszył, bo widzę, jak bardzo ludzie są zafascynowani taką opcją i jak bezkrytycznie ją popierają, myśląc, że skoro wszystko inne jest lepsze dzięki komputerom, to głosowanie też musi.
Otóż wcale nie musi.
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I just had a chance to watch a prerelease showing of “Blinded by the Light”.
I started crying during one of the first scenes and I couldn’t stop till the end.
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Homophobes get offended when I compare their anti-LGBTQ bigotry to racism.
Good.
An image search brought be to Pinterest, which automatically… logged me in to an old account, I didn’t even remember I had. I definitely never logged in on this browser.
They just logged me in without asking. WTF?!
Ostatnio widzę, że wiele osób robi dobrze Kościołowi katolickiemu, publicznie namawiając ludzi, by nie dokonywali formalnej apostazji.
Twierdzą, że to “upokarzające”, że Kk i tak nie usunie twoich danych, i że wciąż będzie uznawał cię za katolika (tylko ekskomunikowanego), więc w sumie to po co się fatygować?
No właśnie, po co?
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I know, I know, all this will be pure speculation. But does it not sound really likely?
Imagine that you have a partner of opposite sex, but you don’t really have the greatest relationship... And your conservative parents or grandparents are constantly nagging you: “when is the wedding?”, “when will we get grandchildren?”, blah blah blah... Then you turn on TV and you see people there who cannot get married or have children, but they would very much want to. How would you feel about it?
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Wiem, to wszystko będzie czysta spekulacja. Ale czyż nie brzmi prawdopodobnie?
Wyobraź sobie, że masz (różnopłciowego) partnera, z którym no jesteś bo jesteś, jakoś tak siłą rozpędu... a twoi konserwatywni rodzice czy tam dziadkowie ciągle suszą wam głowę “a kiedy ślub?”, “a kiedy wnuki?”, bla bla bla... Włączasz telewizor i widzisz tam ludzi, którzy nie mogą wziąć ślubu ani mieć dzieci, a bardzo chcą. Co byś czuł?
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Niektórzy twierdzą, że problem pedofilii w Kościele katolickim wynika wprost z celibatu – skoro nie mogą z kobietami, to z jakiegoś powodu biorą się za dzieci. Może i po części coś w tym jest, ale upraszczanie całej sprawy do tak prostej zależności nie jest wcale solidniejszą logiką niż zrzucanie całej winy na homoseksualistów, jak to oficjalnie robi Kk.
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It might be obvious for most people, (you know, those who know the meaning of words), but apparently, judging from the tweet above and the answers to it, (where Polish right-wingers show WNBR as an example of how the LGBTQ community has “deprived” the West), some people still confuse naturism with exhibitionism and they think that it’s gay...
Well, here’s why it’s neither of those things:
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Być może dla wielu jest to oczywiste, (dla tych, którzy znają znaczenia słów), ale sądząc po tweetach z prawej strony, niektórzy mieszają naturyzm z ekshibicjonizmem, i myślą, że WNBR to przykład tego jak społeczność LGBTQ seksualnie deprawuje Zachód...
Well, naturyzm nie jest ani ekshibicjonizmem, ani domeną homoseksualistów, a oto dlaczego:
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Who killed Dumbledore? It was Snape, right? We’ve all read the book, we saw Snape cast the spell... But Dumbledore kinda killed himself, right...? And it wouldn’t have happened without Malfoy, right? And what about the role of Voldemort in that death?
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Dyskusja dyskusją, ale co mnie w powyższym tweecie najbardziej zaciekawiło, to homofobia kryjąca się aż na trzy różne sposoby w samym tylko pierwszym zdaniu:
Did anyone receive a message recently that contained a video of me watching porn? 
Because apparently I was being blackmailed that all my contacts would receive it, if I don’t pay 202€ in BTC. Alas, I didn’t check the spam folder, so I’d missed the deadline a week ago
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PinkNews has just shown an example of “great” journalism by reporting about the list of Hollywood’s smallest penises. An inclusive LGBTQ news portal taking part in body shaming? What a disgrace!
Also: someone seriously still gives a fuck about someone else’s cock size? You probably won’t even sleep with any of those celebrities anyway. Just stop invading their privacy already...
Anyways... maybe it’s time for me to weigh in a bit on the subject of cock sizes?
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Depending on one company with all of your data is pretty risky. Even if we ignore the obvious privacy concerns of when some corporation knows everything about you... Just imagine what would happen to you personally, if one day that corporation would just... disappear for whatever reason. Say, Google gets a huge fine from the European Commission for one of their monopolistic practices or shitting on their users’ privacy, and turns out they don’t recover from that. How screwed are you?
One day you lose your emails, photos, passwords, documents, notes, calendar, what else?
So, recently I decided to diversify my technical dependencies. Not to boycott Google completely, but to at least use it less.
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Pan Dziewiecki zasłynął ostatnio tym, jak z ambony ogłosił, że osoby niewierzące w boga nie są zdolne do miłości. Jest to wierutną bzdurą, co dla większości jest zapewnie oczywiste. Pozostałym służę krótkim wypunktowaniem.
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To fascynujące, że choć “prof. dr hab.” przed nazwiskiem świadczy o imponującym dorobku naukowym, to wystarczy dodać “ks.”, żeby tytuł “ks. prof. dr hab.” nie świadczył zupełnie o niczym.
I’ve finally seen “Spotlight”. And then, for the first time in my life, I grabbed the first object around and angrily threw it on the floor. And, of course, I burst into tears out of helplessness.
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Obejrzałem wreszcie “Spotlight”. A potem po raz pierwszy w życiu zdarzyło mi się złapać pierwszą lepszą rzecz, która była pod ręką, i z wkurwu cisnąć nią o podłogę. No i oczywiście poryczałem się z bezsilności.
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Przez kilka dni obserwowałem, jak wygląda świat z perspektywy twitterowego prawicowca. Zobaczyłem świat tak przeżarty nienawiścią, że aż chce mi się ryczeć.
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Well, why not both?
I know, I know, it doesn’t sound like a question with two possible answers that are not mutually exclusive, but let me rephrase it first.
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The PHP ecosystem is full of frameworks: Symfony, Laravel, Yii, Zend, Phalcon, and so many, many, many more... All of them built by professionals and supported by big communities. So why on earth would a junior developer, who has just started his first job, try his hand in building yet another one?
Well, here’s why:
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Ever wondered, why does the biblical arch-enemy have such cool names? “Satan” means “the accuser”. Is he accusing the God Almighty himself? What could he possibly have on that omnipotent, benevolent guy? “Lucifer” means “light-bringing”. Does it mean he brings the humanity the knowledge, the enlightenment?
Could it be, that Satan is the good guy?
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