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Woman covering her face under a bedsheet

Yes, of course the only person responible for a rape is the rapist – they're a criminal and should be severely punished. I'm in no way defending them, nor am I victim-shaming the victims. At most, I'm culture-shaming our culture.

With that said: other than chasing the perpetrators, there's also a big cultural change we need to make, if we want to reduce the number of rapes...

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Tęczowa flaga Polski

Polszczyzna, jak każdy żywy język, nieustannie się zmienia i ewoluuje.

W kwestii inkluywności płciowej obserwujemy na przykład trend powrotu do używania feminatywów. I choć jest to świetne dla reprezentacji kobiet w przestrzeni publicznej, to do neutralnej płciowo polszczyzny jeszcze daleka droga.

Osobom niebinarnym ciężko jest się odnaleźć w binarnym do bólu języku polskim.

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Coffee with milk

The most important maths lesson in my life wasn't actually that hard. It wasn't even really about maths.

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I've seen some begginer programmers asking themselves: why do I even need constants? Variables I get, they're super important, but why have an extra thing that's like a variable, but worse? It can't even change! And if I know that const NUMBER_OF_COLUMNS = 3, why can't I just write 3?

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@emile_wickham on Twitter: I’ve never understood the LBGTQs community insistence on fighting for acceptance from religious entities. Church participation for the most part is voluntary. Find a church whose doctrine lines up with your beliefs?

Under a news that yet another church keeps being an asshole towards queer people some guy is asking why don't they just ignore it and find a better church.

Oh the privilege...

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It's a very common trope in movies and series: people wondering whether, and when, and how they should say “I love you” for the first time to someone they're dating... people worrying about saying it too early, about the other person not saying it back...

But what if we stopped making such a big deal out of it?

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It's not God's fault he punishes us. If we would only listen to him... deep down I know he loves us.

As a kid I just couldn't wrap my head around the idea of salvation. It wasn't a big deal, I just accepted what they taught me at home, in church and at school, and assumed that when I'm older and wiser, I'll finally understand.

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My workspace

Here's a list of tools that I use for work and can fully recommend:

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A picture of myself

#IAmNonbinary is trending on Twitter. Next to beautiful pictures and inspiring stories of nonbinary folks, there’s also tons of hateful replies. Apart from the usual phobic comments, there’s also some idiotic requirements. Haters reproach people that they aren’t andogynous enough, or that they aren’t using “they/them” pronouns, etc, etc.

Oh for fuck’s sake. You’re missing the entire point.

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My new blog, despite being simple and freshly rewritten, loads way too much crap... So I took a few moments to optimise it a bit – and I ended up with almost 50% reduction in resources size in just two steps!

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avris/fontawesome-optimiser

Toxic masculinity always has misogyny in it.

You can’t be scared shitless about seeming even just a bit feminine without secretly thinking that being a woman is somehow worse than being a man.

„Poznałem dzisiaj nowego kolegę. Jest gejem i wspaniałym człowiekiem. Przez 4h rozmowy nie wspomniał ani słowem o swojej orientacji ani nie wyraził się nieuprzjemie w żaden sposób o innym człowieku. Bije od Niego ciepło i empatia. A Pan to tylko duże ego i nic więcej...”

Witamy na dorocznych zawodach w byciu „dobrym gejem”!

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If you’re saying that “faith doesn’t require evidence, otherwise it wouldn’t be faith”, you don’t sound smart.

Rather, you are admitting to the very thing I’m accusing faith of being: out of touch with reality, reason and facts.

Good job! 😅

I get that a lot: “oh, you’re gay, you demand tolerance, but you told me that my god is a mythology and that’s soooo intolerant of you blah blah...”

Well, let me tell you how is sexual orientation different from believing in Santa Claus, and why tolerance has nothing to do with it.

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just saw Jojo Rabbit

it’s the saddest fucking comedy ever

don’t trust the trailer, bring tissues

(oh, and also, it’s great!)

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Screenshot of the new version of the blog

It wasn’t really supposed for the New Year, but I’ve had plenty of free time on my hands during the holiday break, so here it is already: a brand new version of my blog 🥳

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It’s sad, being a member of a minoritised community and seeing some of its members turn against the others. Like in case of that twitter discussion on whether or not “weird looking” people and drag queens should be allowed to represent us, or even mention publicly that they are queer, for fear of giving us a bad reputation.

I used to be that asshole who answers “no” to this question.

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Imagine aliens visit us one day, make an in-depth research into our species and sum it up in a history book that they bring home to teach their alien children from.

What would it say? What would it focus on?

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If I had to chose only one song that I would be allowed to listen to for the rest of my life, I would be brokenhearted about all the wonderful music I would lose, but I wouldn’t hesitate for a second about which track I’d choose.

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@UrFavGay_ on Twitter: Pansexuality is gay

My bio says I’m “pan/gay”, which might seem pretty self-contradictory, right? It’s one or the other, right?

Well, here’s why:

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I think we should see other people... No, I’m not breaking up with you, quite the opposite.

Seeing other people might be beneficial for a relationship. How? Well, let me introduce you to the concepts of “NRE” and “compersion”.

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The very first thing I’ve ever tattooed on my body is a symbol of atheism. It might sound stupid for some (“if you don’t believe in god, why do you care so much about the nonexistent?”), but it’s a really important thing for me. Let me tell you why.

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Did you know the dicks you see in porn are not real? Per se, sure, but if you look at them as a group? That’s not what what real cocks look like!

I know. I checked.

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Diederik de Groot: Vind jij jezelf een ‘echte man’?

No such thing as a “real man”.

It’s just a social construct. It changes over time, it differs from country to country, from social group to social group. It’s super arbitrary.

All men are real men.

Self-Defined Dictionary is a fresh-new open-source project aiming to allow minoritised groups define the words that describe them – finally from their own perspective, and not the perspective of people who never even experienced their struggles.

I took an opportunity to suggest a definition of polyamory from a perspective of a polyamorous person.

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So it turns out, coming out is still something that I have to do sometimes 🙄. Surprisingly, though, it’s the other way around now. That’s a brand new experience to me 😅 So here it goes:

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Na podstawie naszej historiiMiłość nie wyklucza stworzyła poradnik, jak niszczyć polską rodzinę tuż za zachodnią granicą 😈🥰

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Fair warning: this library is pretty useless. And only moderately fun... 🤷

But it seemed like a cool way to learn a bit about web components, so here it is: a component that creates googly eyes that follow your mouse.

Demo gitlab.com/Avris/Ocz npmjs.com/package/avris-ocz

It’s #ComingOutDay, so I feel like I should tell you something...

Here it goes...

Ekhm...

I’m queer af 😱

I know, I know, but please try to contain your shock 😅

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I’m watching a documentary about Polish incels, I see them creepily ask radom women on the streets “are you single?”, “do you have a boyfriend?”, and I can’t help but think – why are those questions even a thing in our society?

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For quite a while my VPS was misconfigured – any HTTP requests it got but couldn’t assign to a vhost, it redirected to the main website, avris.it. I didn’t think it would be a big deal, until I recently found out that my post Ungoogling is indexed by Google under https://askara.avris.it/blog/ungoogling

This subdomain hadn’t existed for a long time already, my server doesn’t serve a certificate for it anymore, but it requires HSTS, so browsers end up showing users a scary error message.

I had to do something about it.

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As much as I despise DailyMail’s usual hatred and and shittiness, I can’t stand on the side of their recent “victims”: Harry and Meghan Windsor and Elton John. Calling out the hypocrisy and entitlement of the rich is what press is supposed to be doing.

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No, honestly, why not? I know why yes, that question is boring, I don’t need anyone convincing me that it’s possible and probably very rewarding to love and be in relationship with more than one person, or that having legal protections for such relationships would be nice.

But I’m curious what would the challenges of such a possibility be.

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