There is a song by Faun (“Tanz mit mir”) in which a girl agrees to dance with a guy and then spend the night with him, but only if he is “faithful” and “doesn’t kiss any other girl”.
It got me thinking... From a perspective of a non-monogramist that sounds like an extremely low bar for cheating. Really, a kiss is too much already? Maybe he can’t even check out a girl? Oh, right, he probably can’t.
If we counted how many kisses or hugs me and my husband have given out to other guys, we’d have to get divorced repeatedly... Does it mean people in open relationships have no bar whatsoever? Hell no! We can feel cheated too!
The thing is: my husband is the most important person in the world to me – and I can expect the same from him.
So when I really need him, when I’m going through some trouble, when I’m feeling down or whatever, I can always count on him being there for me. If he weren’t, even though he could, I would feel betrayed...
No matter if it was because of a crazy sex party or just a beer with his friends... The important part is not the sex, but the fact that some petty thing was more important than me.
So there it is: a totally different outlook on the issue of cheating. Based not on physical pleasures, but on trust, love and showing the other person that they’re the most important one.
Doch nur wenn du heut’ keine andre küsst,
Keine andere küsst, wenn du treu mir bist
Doch nur wenn du heut’ keine andere küsst,
Sonst schläfst du wohl allein