Today I realised how two completelly opposite techniques can be used together to manipulate people in a really consistent way. That’s what the Catholic Church (and religions in general) do: they make complex issues look simple, but they digress for ages about really simple stuff – overall turning the reality upside-down.
I’m sick and tired of biggots treating me hatefully because of my sexual orientation.
Especially, if they are catholic. Why? Because they have even less of a moral highground than the other biggots. Here’s the logic:
As you might know, I’m in an open relationship and I’m even asking How is monogamy still a thing? in one blog post. But when I got asked for an advice on how to open a relationship, I realised I have honestly no idea what to say.
But after some thought, it boils down to that, more or less:
I’m sick and tired of the idiots on the Internet and on TV, who keep babbling about how “nowadays you can’t even hug a woman without harassing her” or how “in some countries you now need a written consent form before having sex” (like in the fake post below or in this 9gag post). Someone even created https://legalfling.io/ that uses blockchain to sign such a form...
It’s all bullshit. Consent is not at all a complicated issue!
– Morning! How was your weekend?
– Morning! Well, we went do Poland to visit my boyfriend’s family and we...
– Oh, so you have a boyfriend? That’s ok. You know, I have gay friends.
– Erm... OK... So what? I have gay friends too. And straight friends... What’s your point?
I’ve been taking actual HIV drugs for a month.
It doesn’t feel like something you should admit to publicly, does it? And that’s exactly why I decided to write about it. The stigma around HIV is so huge and baseless, I’m hoping to reduce it, even just a tiny bit. And hopefully to make some people aware that something like PEP even exists.
Today I found out that in some laboratories, when you want to get your blood tested for HIV/HCV/syphilis/etc. (for free and anonymously), you do not have to go to confession about your sexual life. It was a great surprise for me, because whenever I did such tests, I always got to fill out a questionnaire about what, when, how many times, and with how many guys I did it. And then I had to further elaborate in a face-to-face conversation with some stranger.
Dziś dowiedziałem się, że w niektórych laboratoriach gdy robią ci (darmowe i anonimowe) badania krwi na HIV/HCV/kiłę/etc., wcale nie musisz się nikomu spowiadać ze swojego życia seksualnego. To dla mnie niemałe zaskoczenie, bo kiedy bym sobie takich badań nie robił, zawsze najpierw dostawałem do wypełnienia ankietę, co, kiedy, jak i z iloma robiłem, a potem jeszcze musiałem to doprecyzować face-to-face jakiemuś obcemu kolesiowi...
Let’s not kid ourselves, most of us would like to have more than one partner. But we rarely dare to admit it. The taboo on polygamy is too big.
I hate taboos though! Let’s loosen it up a notch! Let’s talk about non-monogamy and why it’s not as evil and depraved as it might sound.
I got into a nasty argument with a friend of mine, who was basically screaming at me for joining the “crowd of stupid, crazy people that get naked and have sex in the middle of the city”. Seriously.
Just FYI, I’ve never seen anyone publicly have sex during pride. Neither did he. He just doesn’t like pride celebrations, so he used every stupid argument he could think of to justify that.
His whole angry rant could be summed up like this: we shouldn’t celebrate, because there’s nothing to celebrate. Nothing, really?
At first I didn’t really think about it. It was yet another thing that my parents taught me and I just accepted. Boys and girls need to have separate toilets and locker rooms, so that the boys wouldn’t do nasty things to the girls. Simple.
But one day a cleaning lady came in to the boys’ locker room. And one day a female teacher come in. How come? Why can they see half-naked boys, while our female classmates cannot? That got me thinking and trying to find any sense in that.
It is a scientific consensus based on tons of studies: children of same-sex parents are just as happy, healthy and successful as the ones in “traditional” families.
The only difference is that they have to face the discrimination because of who raises them.
So if you really cared about children’s well-being so much, you wouldn’t deny them the chance of getting adopted by some loving same-sex parents. If you want children to be happy, science tells you to stop discriminating LGBT people, not the opposite.