Avris

i took this picture exactly 12 years ago, early in the morning, at lake garda in italy. it's a very special photo for me – it marks a day i now consider the first day of my new life ️

I create lots of things, mostly software, and I put them on the Internet for free. As an author I have the right to decide under which conditions do I waive my copyrights. Common practice is to just pick one of the permissive licenses, many of which aim to maximise the user's freedom…

But I don't care.

Slurs are derogatory terms weaponised by the oppressor to attack the oppressed. Not the other way around.

Sometimes it takes people a long time to figure out their gender and sexuality (and it's perfectly okay!) I was 27 when I came out as pansexual, and honestly it's not even that late. Still, it makes me feel sad about all time “wasted” not knowing who I am and being confused AF.

So today I'd like to take a moment to rant about three of the awful things that contributed to that.

I'm on a quest. A quest to find two words: one to describe gender, sexual and romantic minorities, and one to describe the rest.

I know, the title gives away the result, but please bear with me while I explain how I got there

Aparently, this question is getting asked more and more often nowadays, so let me put in my two cents worth. Are polyamorists part of LGBTQ+? And I don't mean those who, like myself, are both pansexual and poly, or both trans and poly, because of course we are. I mean: does polyamory itself make you part of the community?

There's plenty of reasons to love Daði Freyr's song (and my personal favourite for the 2020 Eurovision win) ”Think About Things”. But the most important reason is this: Daði is singing about treating his child like a human being. And that's why the song brings me to tears.

Under a news that yet another church keeps being an asshole towards queer people some guy is asking why don't they just ignore it and find a better church.

Oh the privilege...

This post is not about gays. It's about maths.

It’s sad, being a member of a minoritised community and seeing some of its members turn against the others. Like in case of that twitter discussion on whether or not “weird looking” people and drag queens should be allowed to represent us, or even mention publicly that they are queer, for fear of giving us a bad reputation.

I used to be that asshole who answers “no” to this question.