{"tag":"trans","articles":{"blog\/society\/the-pronoun-police":{"key":"blog\/society\/the-pronoun-police","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2023-02-11T10:43:21+01:00","publishedAt":"2023-02-11T10:43:21+01:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"society","slug":"the-pronoun-police"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"the-pronoun-police","title":"The Pronoun Police","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Screenshot of the mentioned tweet\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022408.03953871499\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Screenshot of the mentioned tweet\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022408.03953871499\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlejandra Caraballo posted\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E a video of a powerful testimony by Lola Smith\u003C\/a\u003E,\na 12-year-old nonbinary person forced to beg for their rights in front of the Florida Medical Board.\nThis video is both terrifying and empowering. Indeed, everyone should see it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut transphobes transphobing and trans people being forced to defend their dignity is just a part of the struggle.\nAnother one is how our \u201callies\u201d are pretending to ally\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Screenshot of the mentioned tweet\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022816.07907742998\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg 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data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Screenshot of the mentioned tweet\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022816.07907742998\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\n                        \u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E\n                        twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\n                    \u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlejandra Caraballo posted\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E a video of a powerful testimony by Lola Smith\u003C\/a\u003E,\na 12-year-old nonbinary person forced to beg for their rights in front of the Florida Medical Board.\nThis video is both terrifying and empowering. Indeed, everyone should see it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut transphobes transphobing and trans people being forced to defend their dignity is just a part of the struggle.\nAnother one is how our \u201callies\u201d are pretending to ally\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u0027d think that if a nonbinary person says they\u0027re nonbinary within the first few seconds of a video,\nif they literally introduce themselves with name, age and gender,\nthen people watching the video and commenting on it would get the message that the person is nonbinary.\nAnd yet, there\u0027s comments underneath the tweet calling Lola\na \u201cbrave young lady\u201d, \u201cinspiring young woman\u201d, she\/her-ing them\u003Csup\u003E1\u003C\/sup\u003E\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust because transphobic politicians are setting the bar for treating trans people with dignity\nas terrifyingly low as letting them exist in public spaces,\nit doesn\u0027t mean that\u0027s where your allyship should stop.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EReal allyship \u003Cem\u003Estarts\u003C\/em\u003E with \u003Cem\u003Eactually\u003C\/em\u003E respecting a person\u0027s identity.\nIf you look at a person who says they\u0027re nonbinary and you see a girl\u003Csup\u003E2\u003C\/sup\u003E,\nyou\u0027re missing the entire point.\nLola is very likely to see this tweet and see the comments where \u201callies\u201d purposefully misgender them.\nHow will they feel, after having to defend themselves in front of a panel full of transphobes,\nseeing that even self-proclaimed allies don\u0027t really respect them?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYes, \u003Cstrong\u003Epurposefully\u003C\/strong\u003E misgender.\nIf you make a mistake, if something slips your mind \u2013 it\u0027s perfectly fine, we all do that;\nbut you need to take effort to correct that mistake!\nAs an analogy, say you reposted an information about a celebrity dying,\nbut it turns out it was all a hoax, they\u0027re very much alive, and you were made aware of that.\nYou would edit or remove your post, so that the fake news doesn\u0027t circulate anymore, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYet here the \u201callies\u201d in question, after getting politely corrected (and interacting with the replies),\nstill as of time of writing this post (13h after) have neither apologised nor removed their tweets.\nSo how on Earth is it not a purposeful misgendering of a child?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd apparently, according to some other user in the replies,\npolitely correcting a factual error that actively harms a trans kid\nis what makes us \u201cinsufferable\u201d, \u201csmall-minded\u201d, \u201cpedantic\u201d, \u201ccounter-productive\u201d,\nand a self-designated \u201cpronoun police\u201d \ud83e\udd26\ud83e\udd26\ud83e\udd26\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHoly fuck, that\u0027s absurd\u2026 The video we\u2019re commenting under is about Lola demanding respect for their identity,\nand the \u201cally\u201d in question not only didn\u2019t do that but keeps refusing to do that by not removing the tweet\n(well, it got 38 likes, you could see how big of a sacrifice it would be to lose those imaginary internet points!).\nHow is it \u201ccounter-productive\u201d to correct someone\u2019s mistake, especially in this context?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut most importantly\u2026 \u201cPronoun police\u201d? Seriously?!\nPolice are a tool of power, authority, and often oppression.\nCalling a minoritised group\u2019s effort to protect each other from mistreatment\nby simply pointing out that someone is hurting us\na \u201cpronoun police\u201d is misguided at best, malicious at worst\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u0027re trying to flip the reality. You\u0027re literally calling the oppresed oppressors,\nyou\u0027re comparing care for a kid\u0027s identity to state-sanctioned violence.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow \u003Cem\u003Einsufferable\u003C\/em\u003E of you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Chr \/\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Csmall\u003E\u003Csup\u003E1\u003C\/sup\u003E Lola doesn\u0027t mention their pronouns in this short video,\nit could also be some neopronouns or even indeed \u201cshe\/her\u201d \u2013\nbut outright assuming it\u0027s \u201cshe\/her\u201d just because of their AGAB is a bad assumption to make;\nEnglish has a normative pronoun used to describe people whose gender and\/or pronouns we don\u0027t know\n(eg. \u201csomeone left \u003Cem\u003Etheir\u003C\/em\u003E umbrella in the hallway\u201d), so that\u0027s what I\u0027ll be using here.\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Csmall\u003E\u003Csup\u003E2\u003C\/sup\u003E Calling them a \u201cwoman\u201d, even if preceded with \u201cyoung\u201d, is also kinda cringe\u2026\nThey\u0027re a kid. A 12-year-old who should be enjoying their childhood\nand not be put in the situation where they have to advocate for their rights\nin front of adults filled with hatered\u2026\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["nonbinary","trans","transgender","allyship","allies","acab","cops","police","pronouns"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_small.png","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Screenshot of the mentioned tweet\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022204.0197693575\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlejandra Caraballo posted\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E a video of a powerful testimony by Lola Smith\u003C\/a\u003E,\na 12-year-old nonbinary person forced to beg for their rights in front of the Florida Medical Board.\nThis video is both terrifying and empowering. Indeed, everyone should see it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut transphobes transphobing and trans people being forced to defend their dignity is just a part of the struggle.\nAnother one is how our \u201callies\u201d are pretending to ally\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Screenshot of the mentioned tweet\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022204.0197693575\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Etwitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlejandra Caraballo posted\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E a video of a powerful testimony by Lola Smith\u003C\/a\u003E,\na 12-year-old nonbinary person forced to beg for their rights in front of the Florida Medical Board.\nThis video is both terrifying and empowering. Indeed, everyone should see it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut transphobes transphobing and trans people being forced to defend their dignity is just a part of the struggle.\nAnother one is how our \u201callies\u201d are pretending to ally\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u0027d think that if a nonbinary person says they\u0027re nonbinary within the first few seconds of a video,\nif they literally introduce themselves with name, age and gender,\nthen people watching the video and commenting on it would get the message that the person is nonbinary.\nAnd yet, there\u0027s comments underneath the tweet calling Lola\na \u201cbrave young lady\u201d, \u201cinspiring young woman\u201d, she\/her-ing them\u003Csup\u003E1\u003C\/sup\u003E\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust because transphobic politicians are setting the bar for treating trans people with dignity\nas terrifyingly low as letting them exist in public spaces,\nit doesn\u0027t mean that\u0027s where your allyship should stop.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EReal allyship \u003Cem\u003Estarts\u003C\/em\u003E with \u003Cem\u003Eactually\u003C\/em\u003E respecting a person\u0027s identity.\nIf you look at a person who says they\u0027re nonbinary and you see a girl\u003Csup\u003E2\u003C\/sup\u003E,\nyou\u0027re missing the entire point.\nLola is very likely to see this tweet and see the comments where \u201callies\u201d purposefully misgender them.\nHow will they feel, after having to defend themselves in front of a panel full of transphobes,\nseeing that even self-proclaimed allies don\u0027t really respect them?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYes, \u003Cstrong\u003Epurposefully\u003C\/strong\u003E misgender.\nIf you make a mistake, if something slips your mind \u2013 it\u0027s perfectly fine, we all do that;\nbut you need to take effort to correct that mistake!\nAs an analogy, say you reposted an information about a celebrity dying,\nbut it turns out it was all a hoax, they\u0027re very much alive, and you were made aware of that.\nYou would edit or remove your post, so that the fake news doesn\u0027t circulate anymore, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYet here the \u201callies\u201d in question, after getting politely corrected (and interacting with the replies),\nstill as of time of writing this post (13h after) have neither apologised nor removed their tweets.\nSo how on Earth is it not a purposeful misgendering of a child?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd apparently, according to some other user in the replies,\npolitely correcting a factual error that actively harms a trans kid\nis what makes us \u201cinsufferable\u201d, \u201csmall-minded\u201d, \u201cpedantic\u201d, \u201ccounter-productive\u201d,\nand a self-designated \u201cpronoun police\u201d \ud83e\udd26\ud83e\udd26\ud83e\udd26\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHoly fuck, that\u0027s absurd\u2026 The video we\u2019re commenting under is about Lola demanding respect for their identity,\nand the \u201cally\u201d in question not only didn\u2019t do that but keeps refusing to do that by not removing the tweet\n(well, it got 38 likes, you could see how big of a sacrifice it would be to lose those imaginary internet points!).\nHow is it \u201ccounter-productive\u201d to correct someone\u2019s mistake, especially in this context?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut most importantly\u2026 \u201cPronoun police\u201d? Seriously?!\nPolice are a tool of power, authority, and often oppression.\nCalling a minoritised group\u2019s effort to protect each other from mistreatment\nby simply pointing out that someone is hurting us\na \u201cpronoun police\u201d is misguided at best, malicious at worst\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u0027re trying to flip the reality. You\u0027re literally calling the oppresed oppressors,\nyou\u0027re comparing care for a kid\u0027s identity to state-sanctioned violence.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow \u003Cem\u003Einsufferable\u003C\/em\u003E of you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Chr \/\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Csmall\u003E\u003Csup\u003E1\u003C\/sup\u003E Lola doesn\u0027t mention their pronouns in this short video,\nit could also be some neopronouns or even indeed \u201cshe\/her\u201d \u2013\nbut outright assuming it\u0027s \u201cshe\/her\u201d just because of their AGAB is a bad assumption to make;\nEnglish has a normative pronoun used to describe people whose gender and\/or pronouns we don\u0027t know\n(eg. \u201csomeone left \u003Cem\u003Etheir\u003C\/em\u003E umbrella in the hallway\u201d), so that\u0027s what I\u0027ll be using here.\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Csmall\u003E\u003Csup\u003E2\u003C\/sup\u003E Calling them a \u201cwoman\u201d, even if preceded with \u201cyoung\u201d, is also kinda cringe\u2026\nThey\u0027re a kid. A 12-year-old who should be enjoying their childhood\nand not be put in the situation where they have to advocate for their rights\nin front of adults filled with hatered\u2026\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E","words":663,"readTime":3,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/society\/open-letter-dutch-trans-id-bill":{"key":"blog\/society\/open-letter-dutch-trans-id-bill","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2023-01-27T18:41:03+01:00","publishedAt":"2023-01-27T18:41:03+01:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"society","slug":"open-letter-dutch-trans-id-bill"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"open-letter-dutch-trans-id-bill","title":"Open letter: Dutch trans ID bill","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/open-letter-trans_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022A hand holding an envelope in the colours of trans flag\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 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data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/open-letter-trans_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022A hand holding an envelope in the colours of trans flag\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022256\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CnM3w07IT4T\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E DWH Delft organised a letter writing campaign\u003C\/a\u003E\nto advocate for the passage of the trans ID bill in the Netherlands.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs much as I\u0027d personally prefer to remove gender markers from official documents entirely,\nI believe that if it has to be there, it should at least be reasonably easy for trans people to make it reflect their real gender.\nSo here\u0027s my 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data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/open-letter-trans_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022A hand holding an envelope in the colours of trans flag\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022512\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/G_lwAp0TF38\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\n                        \u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E\n                        unsplash.com\/photos\/G_lwAp0TF38\n                    \u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CnM3w07IT4T\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E DWH Delft organised a letter writing campaign\u003C\/a\u003E\nto advocate for the passage of the trans ID bill in the Netherlands.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs much as I\u0027d personally prefer to remove gender markers from official documents entirely,\nI believe that if it has to be there, it should at least be reasonably easy for trans people to make it reflect their real gender.\nSo here\u0027s my letter:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Chr \/\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDear representative,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen most people think about trans folks, they focus only on the gender incongruence of our bodies \u2013\nthe aspect in which we do indeed require and appreciate the expertise of medical professionals.\nThere are, however, so many other aspects of life where all that\u2019s needed for our happiness and wellbeing\nis just \u003Cstrong\u003Eunderstanding and acceptance\u003C\/strong\u003E. Human gender is not defined by our bodies \u2013\nwe all express it through things like clothes, makeup, language, name, etc.;\nwe all care how other people see us; we care if our official documents properly describe facts about us.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cstrong\u003EBeing trans is not \u003Cem\u003Ejust\u003C\/em\u003E a medical issue\u003C\/strong\u003E. For many of us the social and legal aspects of transition\nmight actually be more important than the medical side.\nWhat we need first and foremost is \u003Cstrong\u003Erespect for our identity\u003C\/strong\u003E.\nThat\u2019s why \u003Cstrong\u003EI\u2019m voicing my support for the proposed self-ID bill\u003C\/strong\u003E (\u003Cem\u003Ewijziging vermelding geslacht in geborteakte\u003C\/em\u003E).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cstrong\u003EEach person knows best what gender they are\u003C\/strong\u003E, it\u2019s as simple as that.\nThe very same way that you know which gender you are, trans people do too.\nIt might take a while to figure out, gender is a complex concept after all,\nbut eventually we arrive at a conclusion that\u2019s as obvious to us as the air we breathe.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut there\u2019s an important difference between the transgender and cisgender experience:\nnobody requires a doctor\u2019s opinion to confirm that a cis person is really the gender they say they are.\nOur society and our government just take it for granted that if someone\u2019s declared gender\nmatches the genitals they were observed to have at birth, then they must be telling the truth.\n\u003Cstrong\u003EAll the trans community is asking for is for the same respect and trust to be extended to us\u003C\/strong\u003E.\nWe know who we are \u2013 and we need the government to acknowledge that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s been confirmed by multiple studies that gender affirmation \u003Cstrong\u003Eimproves mental health\u003C\/strong\u003E and \u003Cstrong\u003Esaves lives\u003C\/strong\u003E.\nThe government has the moral responsibility to listen to the voice of science.\nRequiring expert assessments not only is an \u003Cstrong\u003Eunnecessary hurdle\u003C\/strong\u003E for trans people,\nbut also \u003Cstrong\u003Eisn\u2019t supported by the experts themselves\u003C\/strong\u003E.\nSimplifying the procedure of changing the gender marker on the birth certificate\nis going to make it \u003Cstrong\u003Eeasier for trans people to participate in public life\u003C\/strong\u003E and government services.\nIt \u003Cstrong\u003Ecosts nothing\u003C\/strong\u003E to respect someone\u2019s identity, and it costs next to nothing to make one\u2019s official documents reflect that reality.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAllowing an \u201cX\u201d marker would be an amazing step towards affirming people like myself,\nwhose gender doesn\u2019t fit neatly in the categories of \u201cman\u201d and \u201cwoman\u201d.\nMaking the public life \u003Cstrong\u003Einclusive for intersex and nonbinary people\u003C\/strong\u003E is an important part\nof the Netherlands staying a progressive and diverse country \u2013\nwhich are some of the most important qualities that made me fall in love with this place and call it my new home.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOpponents of this bill make a lot of arguments that aren\u2019t reflected in the reality\nof what the actual effects of such self-ID legislation would be.\nThey claim that fairness in sports would be negatively affected,\neven though most associations already have their own rules and don\u2019t rely on a gender marker in documents.\nThey claim that bathrooms would become less safe, even though there\u2019s no evidence\nthat being trans inclusive had increased sexual violence in bathrooms anywhere in the world,\nand even though this legislation doesn\u2019t even affect the rules regarding access to gendered bathrooms \u2013\nit\u2019s still just as legal to enter a bathroom regardless of one\u2019s gender,\nand it\u2019s still just as illegal to harass and rape people.\nPainting the entire community of trans people as potential rapists is just despicable,\nand arguing that the only thing stopping \u003Cem\u003Eactual\u003C\/em\u003E rapists from harassing people in bathrooms\nis somehow the gender marker in their documents, that\u2019s simply ridiculous.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere\u2019s no evidence of potential systemic abuse of a self-ID system,\nand the bill has safeguards in place to ensure that people don\u2019t change their marker on a whim.\nIt also addresses the rare situations of detransition.\nEssentially \u2013 there\u2019s no reason to believe that simplifying the way that trans people\ncan adjust their gender marker to better reflect reality would in any way be a systemic issue\nor otherwise harmful to the society. What is harmful, though,\nis all the disinformation and unethical attacks targeting minoritised groups, such as trans people.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe just want to live our lives in peace, being true to ourselves.\nWe just want our identity respected and the reality reflected in our documents.\nWe just want the government to simply believe us that \u003Cstrong\u003Ewe know who we are\u003C\/strong\u003E.\nBecause no one knows our identity better than we do ourselves.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u2014 Andrea Vos\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["netherlands","politics","bill","self-ID","transgender","trans"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/open-letter-trans_small.png","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/open-letter-trans_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/open-letter-trans_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022A hand holding an envelope in the colours of trans flag\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022128\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CnM3w07IT4T\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E DWH Delft organised a letter writing campaign\u003C\/a\u003E\nto advocate for the passage of the trans ID bill in the Netherlands.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs much as I\u0027d personally prefer to remove gender markers from official documents entirely,\nI believe that if it has to be there, it should at least be reasonably easy for trans people to make it reflect their real gender.\nSo here\u0027s my letter:\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/open-letter-trans_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/open-letter-trans_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022A hand holding an envelope in the colours of trans flag\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022128\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/G_lwAp0TF38\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Eunsplash.com\/photos\/G_lwAp0TF38\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CnM3w07IT4T\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E DWH Delft organised a letter writing campaign\u003C\/a\u003E\nto advocate for the passage of the trans ID bill in the Netherlands.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs much as I\u0027d personally prefer to remove gender markers from official documents entirely,\nI believe that if it has to be there, it should at least be reasonably easy for trans people to make it reflect their real gender.\nSo here\u0027s my letter:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Chr \/\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDear representative,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen most people think about trans folks, they focus only on the gender incongruence of our bodies \u2013\nthe aspect in which we do indeed require and appreciate the expertise of medical professionals.\nThere are, however, so many other aspects of life where all that\u2019s needed for our happiness and wellbeing\nis just \u003Cstrong\u003Eunderstanding and acceptance\u003C\/strong\u003E. Human gender is not defined by our bodies \u2013\nwe all express it through things like clothes, makeup, language, name, etc.;\nwe all care how other people see us; we care if our official documents properly describe facts about us.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cstrong\u003EBeing trans is not \u003Cem\u003Ejust\u003C\/em\u003E a medical issue\u003C\/strong\u003E. For many of us the social and legal aspects of transition\nmight actually be more important than the medical side.\nWhat we need first and foremost is \u003Cstrong\u003Erespect for our identity\u003C\/strong\u003E.\nThat\u2019s why \u003Cstrong\u003EI\u2019m voicing my support for the proposed self-ID bill\u003C\/strong\u003E (\u003Cem\u003Ewijziging vermelding geslacht in geborteakte\u003C\/em\u003E).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cstrong\u003EEach person knows best what gender they are\u003C\/strong\u003E, it\u2019s as simple as that.\nThe very same way that you know which gender you are, trans people do too.\nIt might take a while to figure out, gender is a complex concept after all,\nbut eventually we arrive at a conclusion that\u2019s as obvious to us as the air we breathe.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut there\u2019s an important difference between the transgender and cisgender experience:\nnobody requires a doctor\u2019s opinion to confirm that a cis person is really the gender they say they are.\nOur society and our government just take it for granted that if someone\u2019s declared gender\nmatches the genitals they were observed to have at birth, then they must be telling the truth.\n\u003Cstrong\u003EAll the trans community is asking for is for the same respect and trust to be extended to us\u003C\/strong\u003E.\nWe know who we are \u2013 and we need the government to acknowledge that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s been confirmed by multiple studies that gender affirmation \u003Cstrong\u003Eimproves mental health\u003C\/strong\u003E and \u003Cstrong\u003Esaves lives\u003C\/strong\u003E.\nThe government has the moral responsibility to listen to the voice of science.\nRequiring expert assessments not only is an \u003Cstrong\u003Eunnecessary hurdle\u003C\/strong\u003E for trans people,\nbut also \u003Cstrong\u003Eisn\u2019t supported by the experts themselves\u003C\/strong\u003E.\nSimplifying the procedure of changing the gender marker on the birth certificate\nis going to make it \u003Cstrong\u003Eeasier for trans people to participate in public life\u003C\/strong\u003E and government services.\nIt \u003Cstrong\u003Ecosts nothing\u003C\/strong\u003E to respect someone\u2019s identity, and it costs next to nothing to make one\u2019s official documents reflect that reality.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAllowing an \u201cX\u201d marker would be an amazing step towards affirming people like myself,\nwhose gender doesn\u2019t fit neatly in the categories of \u201cman\u201d and \u201cwoman\u201d.\nMaking the public life \u003Cstrong\u003Einclusive for intersex and nonbinary people\u003C\/strong\u003E is an important part\nof the Netherlands staying a progressive and diverse country \u2013\nwhich are some of the most important qualities that made me fall in love with this place and call it my new home.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOpponents of this bill make a lot of arguments that aren\u2019t reflected in the reality\nof what the actual effects of such self-ID legislation would be.\nThey claim that fairness in sports would be negatively affected,\neven though most associations already have their own rules and don\u2019t rely on a gender marker in documents.\nThey claim that bathrooms would become less safe, even though there\u2019s no evidence\nthat being trans inclusive had increased sexual violence in bathrooms anywhere in the world,\nand even though this legislation doesn\u2019t even affect the rules regarding access to gendered bathrooms \u2013\nit\u2019s still just as legal to enter a bathroom regardless of one\u2019s gender,\nand it\u2019s still just as illegal to harass and rape people.\nPainting the entire community of trans people as potential rapists is just despicable,\nand arguing that the only thing stopping \u003Cem\u003Eactual\u003C\/em\u003E rapists from harassing people in bathrooms\nis somehow the gender marker in their documents, that\u2019s simply ridiculous.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere\u2019s no evidence of potential systemic abuse of a self-ID system,\nand the bill has safeguards in place to ensure that people don\u2019t change their marker on a whim.\nIt also addresses the rare situations of detransition.\nEssentially \u2013 there\u2019s no reason to believe that simplifying the way that trans people\ncan adjust their gender marker to better reflect reality would in any way be a systemic issue\nor otherwise harmful to the society. What is harmful, though,\nis all the disinformation and unethical attacks targeting minoritised groups, such as trans people.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe just want to live our lives in peace, being true to ourselves.\nWe just want our identity respected and the reality reflected in our documents.\nWe just want the government to simply believe us that \u003Cstrong\u003Ewe know who we are\u003C\/strong\u003E.\nBecause no one knows our identity better than we do ourselves.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u2014 Andrea Vos\u003C\/p\u003E","words":871,"readTime":4,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/my-name":{"key":"blog\/life\/my-name","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2022-07-01T13:51:02+02:00","publishedAt":"2022-07-01T13:51:02+02:00","group":"names","category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"my-name"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"my-name","title":"My name","intro":"\u003Cp\u003EHello. My name is Andrea Vos.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut arriving at that name was quite a journey, so I figured I might write the story down.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003EHello. My name is Andrea Vos.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut arriving at that name was quite a journey, so I figured I might write the story down.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ELegal name\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETrans people use the word \u201cdeadname\u201d for what they used to be called before they transitioned socially.\nIt\u0027s a basic sign of respect not to call them that anymore and not to mention it to anyone.\nUsing someone\u0027s deadname might cause gender dysphoria,\nand in some cases it might even lead to dangerous situations when a trans person is outed.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut personally I\u0027m not bothered much with someone knowing my deadname or by having to use it in official situations.\nSo I usually refer to it as my \u201clegal name\u201d, at least until I\u0027ll legally change it. But that\u0027s just me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EFirst name\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo my parents named me \u201cAndrzej\u201d. It comes from Ancient Greek \u003Cem\u003E\u1f00\u03bd\u03b4\u03c1\u03cc\u03c2\u003C\/em\u003E, which ironically means \u201ca man\u201d, \u201cmanly\u201d.\nThat I am not.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s pronounced \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/forvo.com\/search\/Andrzej\/pl\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E \/\u02c8\u00e3n\u1e0d\u0292\u025bj\/\u003C\/a\u003E \u2013 which is obvious for people\nwho speak Polish, but turned out to be quite problematic as soon as I moved to Berlin.\nForeigners have no idea how to write \/\u0292\/ in Polish or how to pronounce the \u201crz\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo I decided to simplify it into \u201cAndre\u201d. It\u0027s nice, short and unambiguous. Cool!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut when I discovered that I\u0027m nonbinary, it started bothering me, how gendered it is.\nEven ethymology aside, it\u0027s a very masculine name.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI speak some Italian and I\u0027ve always really liked how my name sounds in this language: Andrea.\nIt has an added enby bonus as well: in Italy it\u0027s considered masculine, but basically everywhere else\nit\u0027s a feminine name. Just check out \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Andrea\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E this Wikipedia list\u003C\/a\u003E\nfull of people of all genders with that name or\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/zaimki.pl\/blog\/imiona-unisex-pesel\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E my analysis of most \u201cunisex\u201d names in Poland\u0027s database\u003C\/a\u003E.\nThat\u0027s the level of genderfuck I really enjoy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAndrea it is.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EMiddle name\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI had one, but literally never really used it. I don\u0027t see a point in me having a middle name anymore.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ELast name\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThis one I really, really hated. First of all, it\u0027s a family name and I\u0027m\u2026 well, not on the best terms with other people who use it.\nThere\u0027s tons of childhood trauma coming up whenever I need to use that name.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd second of all, it\u0027s terribly gendered. It\u0027s one of those that are technically adjectives in Polish grammar\nand they need to end with -ski for men, -ska for women, -scy for plural\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI want to have the same surname as my husband. He\u0027s my family so having a common family name would be\u2026 appropriate.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen we got married in Germany either one of us could take another\u0027s name or we could use both names with a hyphen.\nThe problem is, though, that Poland does not recognise that marriage.\nPoland claims we\u0027re both still bachelors and it wouldn\u0027t just officially change our names because of some foreign marriage.\nWe\u0027re not German citizens, so Germany wouldn\u0027t issue us new documents either.\nA friend of ours was in a similar situation and decided to take his husband\u0027s name \u2013 and now he needs to carry around\nboth his Polish ID and his German marriage certificate just to prove his surname.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo we kept our names and started thinking of a brand new one we could use.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe made a list of hundreds of last names we liked, turned it into a shortlist of a few dozen.\nDiscussed them all, disagreed and vetoed a lot of the proposals, voted on them in a few different ways \u2013\nnot because we had such vastly different tastes, but cause so many names were too cool to just dismiss.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEventually we landed on one: Vos.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s a common Dutch name, so we can honour the country we\u0027ve decided to build our live in,\nbut it\u0027s not too in\u2013your\u2013face Dutch (no \u201evan der\u201d or \u201eGogh\u201d etc.).\nIt means \u201cfox\u201d, which has some nice connotations in culture (cleverness, good luck, charm, curiosity, mischief).\nIt\u0027s short, simple, has a very obvious pronunciation.\nI\u0027m so glad with that choice.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ELegal change?\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027d very much love to have all my documents reflect my chosen name.\nBut it\u0027s a bureaucratic hassle. We could do it after we get a Dutch citizenship,\nbut it\u0027s quite a costly and long procedure, and our justification for a change might not be enough.\nWe could do it before, using the Polish system which actually allows changing one\u0027s name to \u201cthe acutally used name\u201d\n\u2013 and I have more than enough evidence of having used it for a while.\nBut it would still depend on a good will of a random official \u2013 and we\u0027d have to get new IDs, passports and driver\u0027s licences\njust to exchange them for Dutch ones next year (if all goes well with the naturalisation).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA bit anxious about this step and unsure which way to go. But I\u0027ll figure it out \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["name","trans","deadname","legal name","first name","last name","spelling","pronunciation"],"hasMore":true,"image":null,"introLite":"\u003Cp\u003EHello. My name is Andrea Vos.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut arriving at that name was quite a journey, so I figured I might write the story down.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cp\u003EHello. My name is Andrea Vos.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut arriving at that name was quite a journey, so I figured I might write the story down.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ELegal name\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETrans people use the word \u201cdeadname\u201d for what they used to be called before they transitioned socially.\nIt\u0027s a basic sign of respect not to call them that anymore and not to mention it to anyone.\nUsing someone\u0027s deadname might cause gender dysphoria,\nand in some cases it might even lead to dangerous situations when a trans person is outed.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut personally I\u0027m not bothered much with someone knowing my deadname or by having to use it in official situations.\nSo I usually refer to it as my \u201clegal name\u201d, at least until I\u0027ll legally change it. But that\u0027s just me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EFirst name\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo my parents named me \u201cAndrzej\u201d. It comes from Ancient Greek \u003Cem\u003E\u1f00\u03bd\u03b4\u03c1\u03cc\u03c2\u003C\/em\u003E, which ironically means \u201ca man\u201d, \u201cmanly\u201d.\nThat I am not.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s pronounced \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/forvo.com\/search\/Andrzej\/pl\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E \/\u02c8\u00e3n\u1e0d\u0292\u025bj\/\u003C\/a\u003E \u2013 which is obvious for people\nwho speak Polish, but turned out to be quite problematic as soon as I moved to Berlin.\nForeigners have no idea how to write \/\u0292\/ in Polish or how to pronounce the \u201crz\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo I decided to simplify it into \u201cAndre\u201d. It\u0027s nice, short and unambiguous. Cool!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut when I discovered that I\u0027m nonbinary, it started bothering me, how gendered it is.\nEven ethymology aside, it\u0027s a very masculine name.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI speak some Italian and I\u0027ve always really liked how my name sounds in this language: Andrea.\nIt has an added enby bonus as well: in Italy it\u0027s considered masculine, but basically everywhere else\nit\u0027s a feminine name. Just check out \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Andrea\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E this Wikipedia list\u003C\/a\u003E\nfull of people of all genders with that name or\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/zaimki.pl\/blog\/imiona-unisex-pesel\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E my analysis of most \u201cunisex\u201d names in Poland\u0027s database\u003C\/a\u003E.\nThat\u0027s the level of genderfuck I really enjoy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAndrea it is.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EMiddle name\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI had one, but literally never really used it. I don\u0027t see a point in me having a middle name anymore.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ELast name\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThis one I really, really hated. First of all, it\u0027s a family name and I\u0027m\u2026 well, not on the best terms with other people who use it.\nThere\u0027s tons of childhood trauma coming up whenever I need to use that name.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd second of all, it\u0027s terribly gendered. It\u0027s one of those that are technically adjectives in Polish grammar\nand they need to end with -ski for men, -ska for women, -scy for plural\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI want to have the same surname as my husband. He\u0027s my family so having a common family name would be\u2026 appropriate.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen we got married in Germany either one of us could take another\u0027s name or we could use both names with a hyphen.\nThe problem is, though, that Poland does not recognise that marriage.\nPoland claims we\u0027re both still bachelors and it wouldn\u0027t just officially change our names because of some foreign marriage.\nWe\u0027re not German citizens, so Germany wouldn\u0027t issue us new documents either.\nA friend of ours was in a similar situation and decided to take his husband\u0027s name \u2013 and now he needs to carry around\nboth his Polish ID and his German marriage certificate just to prove his surname.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo we kept our names and started thinking of a brand new one we could use.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe made a list of hundreds of last names we liked, turned it into a shortlist of a few dozen.\nDiscussed them all, disagreed and vetoed a lot of the proposals, voted on them in a few different ways \u2013\nnot because we had such vastly different tastes, but cause so many names were too cool to just dismiss.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEventually we landed on one: Vos.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s a common Dutch name, so we can honour the country we\u0027ve decided to build our live in,\nbut it\u0027s not too in\u2013your\u2013face Dutch (no \u201evan der\u201d or \u201eGogh\u201d etc.).\nIt means \u201cfox\u201d, which has some nice connotations in culture (cleverness, good luck, charm, curiosity, mischief).\nIt\u0027s short, simple, has a very obvious pronunciation.\nI\u0027m so glad with that choice.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ELegal change?\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027d very much love to have all my documents reflect my chosen name.\nBut it\u0027s a bureaucratic hassle. We could do it after we get a Dutch citizenship,\nbut it\u0027s quite a costly and long procedure, and our justification for a change might not be enough.\nWe could do it before, using the Polish system which actually allows changing one\u0027s name to \u201cthe acutally used name\u201d\n\u2013 and I have more than enough evidence of having used it for a while.\nBut it would still depend on a good will of a random official \u2013 and we\u0027d have to get new IDs, passports and driver\u0027s licences\njust to exchange them for Dutch ones next year (if all goes well with the naturalisation).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA bit anxious about this step and unsure which way to go. But I\u0027ll figure it out \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E","words":806,"readTime":4,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/society\/slurs":{"key":"blog\/society\/slurs","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2021-06-08T10:14:54+02:00","publishedAt":"2021-06-08T10:14:54+02:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"society","slug":"slurs"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"slurs","title":"Slurs","intro":"\u003Cp\u003ESlurs are derogatory terms weaponised by the oppressor to attack the oppressed.\nNot the other way around.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003ESlurs are derogatory terms weaponised by the oppressor to attack the oppressed.\nNot the other way around.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESlurs are verbal violence against people\u0027s identity and immutable characteristics.\nThey\u0027re not just \u201cmean words\u201d. Not every word you don\u0027t like is automatically a slur.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESlurs attack a \u003Cem\u003Eperson\u003C\/em\u003E. That mean word you\u0027re crying about on twitter\nmerely (and rightly so) attacked your \u003Cem\u003Eviews\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA minoritised community calling you racist, homophobic, terf or whatever\nisn\u0027t \u201coppressing you\u201d. They\u0027re \u003Cem\u003Ecalling you out\u003C\/em\u003E.\nThey aren\u0027t \u201chating you\u201d, they\u0027re \u003Cem\u003Eshaming\u003C\/em\u003E you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EShaming you into changing your hateful views. Cause you can do that.\nYou can simply stop being an asshole towards trans people, queer people, people of colour,\nor whichever other minoritised group you\u0027ve decided to bash today.\nNothing bad is gonna happen to you if you just start being a decent human being.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo no, TERF is not a slur. It\u0027s an accurate description of your disgusting, hurtful, hateful views.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EStop \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Victim_playing\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E playing a victim\u003C\/a\u003E, you bigoted asshole.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["discrimination","oppression","minoritised","queer","trans","terf","racist","slur","victim playing","self-victimization"],"hasMore":true,"image":null,"introLite":"\u003Cp\u003ESlurs are derogatory terms weaponised by the oppressor to attack the oppressed.\nNot the other way around.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cp\u003ESlurs are derogatory terms weaponised by the oppressor to attack the oppressed.\nNot the other way around.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESlurs are verbal violence against people\u0027s identity and immutable characteristics.\nThey\u0027re not just \u201cmean words\u201d. Not every word you don\u0027t like is automatically a slur.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESlurs attack a \u003Cem\u003Eperson\u003C\/em\u003E. That mean word you\u0027re crying about on twitter\nmerely (and rightly so) attacked your \u003Cem\u003Eviews\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA minoritised community calling you racist, homophobic, terf or whatever\nisn\u0027t \u201coppressing you\u201d. They\u0027re \u003Cem\u003Ecalling you out\u003C\/em\u003E.\nThey aren\u0027t \u201chating you\u201d, they\u0027re \u003Cem\u003Eshaming\u003C\/em\u003E you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EShaming you into changing your hateful views. Cause you can do that.\nYou can simply stop being an asshole towards trans people, queer people, people of colour,\nor whichever other minoritised group you\u0027ve decided to bash today.\nNothing bad is gonna happen to you if you just start being a decent human being.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo no, TERF is not a slur. It\u0027s an accurate description of your disgusting, hurtful, hateful views.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EStop \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Victim_playing\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E playing a victim\u003C\/a\u003E, you bigoted asshole.\u003C\/p\u003E","words":162,"readTime":null,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/society\/why-everyone-should-have-pronouns-in-their-bio":{"key":"blog\/society\/why-everyone-should-have-pronouns-in-their-bio","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2020-07-18T11:22:03+02:00","publishedAt":"2020-07-18T11:22:03+02:00","group":"nonbinary","category":"blog","subcategory":"society","slug":"why-everyone-should-have-pronouns-in-their-bio"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"why-everyone-should-have-pronouns-in-their-bio","title":"Why all cis allies should have pronouns in their bio","intro":"\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not kidding, everyone should have pronouns in their bio, if it\u0027s safe for them to do so.\nYes, even if you\u0027re cis (= not trans). Yes, even if you\u0027re famous and everyone knows your gender already.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere\u0027s why:\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not kidding, everyone should have pronouns in their bio, if it\u0027s safe for them to do so.\nYes, even if you\u0027re cis (= not trans). Yes, even if you\u0027re famous and everyone knows your gender already.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere\u0027s why:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(\u003Cstrong\u003ENote:\u003C\/strong\u003E If you\u0027re trans and not yet ready to come out, don\u0027t feel pressured!\nThis post is for the cis allies \ud83d\ude09)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause addressing people the way they prefer is just basic decency.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou wouldn\u0027t call Ashley \u201cSamantha\u201d just because you like that name more or because \u201cshe looks like a Samantha to you\u201d.\nAnd even if it does say \u201cSamantha\u201d on her birth certificate, but she absolutely hates that name and prefers \u201cAshley\u201d,\nyou\u0027d respect that, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd it\u0027s the exact same story with pronouns \u2013 if you don\u0027t want to be rude towards someone, please address them properly.\nThe only difference is that we usually \u003Cem\u003Eknow\u003C\/em\u003E each other\u0027s names \u2013 but not pronouns.\nWe introduce ourselves with a name, but not with pronouns. Let\u0027s change that \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/there-are-no-rules-to-being-nonbinary\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-people-carry\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E gender \u2260 expression \u2260 pronouns\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere are people who look manly while being women (either cis on trans),\nthere are he\/him lesbians, there are nonbinary people using binary pronouns for different reasons, etc. etc.\nSeing a picture of someone\u0027s face doesn\u0027t automatically mean you\u0027ll be right when you assume their pronouns.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause of different languages and unisex names\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn English, \u201cCarol\u201d is a feminine name, while Polish the name \u201cKarol\u201d is given to boys.\nIn many languages \u201cAlex\u201d can be short for both \u201cAlexandra\u201d and \u201cAlexander\u201d.\nA person who doesn\u0027t speak Arabic probably won\u0027t know what gender \u201cFarrah\u201d is associated with.\nIf you introduce yourself with just a name (eg. in an email), for many people it might still not be clear how to address you,\nbecause they have no cultural knowledge about what pronouns usually go with that name.\nIt\u0027s easier to just be explicit and not expect them to guess.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause it normalises doing so.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESharing their pronouns is very important for trans, nonbinary and gender nonconforming people.\nAlas, it also exposes us and singles us out.\nBut if cis people do the same, it means the world for us. It makes us feel more confortable, safe and welcome.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause it shows support.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEven if your friends or fans know very well that you\u0027re a cis man, adding that \u201che\/him\u201d to your profile\nstill gives them a very important information \u2013 that you support the trans community.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYour support is important. Especially if you\u0027re well known and influential.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause it reduces confusion.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAre you talking to someone who looks androgynous\nand you don\u0027t know how to address them without offending them?\nNormalisation of giving pronouns and asking about pronous comes to rescue!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause it\u0027s positive and harmless.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESeriously, there are only upsides \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["gender","pronouns","trans","nonbinary","normalise"],"hasMore":true,"image":null,"introLite":"\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not kidding, everyone should have pronouns in their bio, if it\u0027s safe for them to do so.\nYes, even if you\u0027re cis (= not trans). Yes, even if you\u0027re famous and everyone knows your gender already.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere\u0027s why:\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not kidding, everyone should have pronouns in their bio, if it\u0027s safe for them to do so.\nYes, even if you\u0027re cis (= not trans). Yes, even if you\u0027re famous and everyone knows your gender already.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere\u0027s why:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(\u003Cstrong\u003ENote:\u003C\/strong\u003E If you\u0027re trans and not yet ready to come out, don\u0027t feel pressured!\nThis post is for the cis allies \ud83d\ude09)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause addressing people the way they prefer is just basic decency.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou wouldn\u0027t call Ashley \u201cSamantha\u201d just because you like that name more or because \u201cshe looks like a Samantha to you\u201d.\nAnd even if it does say \u201cSamantha\u201d on her birth certificate, but she absolutely hates that name and prefers \u201cAshley\u201d,\nyou\u0027d respect that, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd it\u0027s the exact same story with pronouns \u2013 if you don\u0027t want to be rude towards someone, please address them properly.\nThe only difference is that we usually \u003Cem\u003Eknow\u003C\/em\u003E each other\u0027s names \u2013 but not pronouns.\nWe introduce ourselves with a name, but not with pronouns. Let\u0027s change that \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/there-are-no-rules-to-being-nonbinary.lite\u0022\u003E gender \u2260 expression \u2260 pronouns\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere are people who look manly while being women (either cis on trans),\nthere are he\/him lesbians, there are nonbinary people using binary pronouns for different reasons, etc. etc.\nSeing a picture of someone\u0027s face doesn\u0027t automatically mean you\u0027ll be right when you assume their pronouns.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause of different languages and unisex names\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn English, \u201cCarol\u201d is a feminine name, while Polish the name \u201cKarol\u201d is given to boys.\nIn many languages \u201cAlex\u201d can be short for both \u201cAlexandra\u201d and \u201cAlexander\u201d.\nA person who doesn\u0027t speak Arabic probably won\u0027t know what gender \u201cFarrah\u201d is associated with.\nIf you introduce yourself with just a name (eg. in an email), for many people it might still not be clear how to address you,\nbecause they have no cultural knowledge about what pronouns usually go with that name.\nIt\u0027s easier to just be explicit and not expect them to guess.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause it normalises doing so.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESharing their pronouns is very important for trans, nonbinary and gender nonconforming people.\nAlas, it also exposes us and singles us out.\nBut if cis people do the same, it means the world for us. It makes us feel more confortable, safe and welcome.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause it shows support.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEven if your friends or fans know very well that you\u0027re a cis man, adding that \u201che\/him\u201d to your profile\nstill gives them a very important information \u2013 that you support the trans community.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYour support is important. Especially if you\u0027re well known and influential.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause it reduces confusion.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAre you talking to someone who looks androgynous\nand you don\u0027t know how to address them without offending them?\nNormalisation of giving pronouns and asking about pronous comes to rescue!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause it\u0027s positive and harmless.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESeriously, there are only upsides \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E","words":457,"readTime":2,"lang":"en"},"pl":{"slug":"czemu-ka\u017cdy-powinien-mie\u0107-zaimki-w-bio","title":"Czemu ka\u017cda cis osoba sojusznicza powinna mie\u0107 zaimki w bio","intro":"\u003Cp\u003ENie \u017cartuj\u0119. Ka\u017cdx, kto mo\u017ce bezpiecznie to zrobi\u0107, powininx mie\u0107 zaimki w bio.\nTak, nawet je\u015bli jeste\u015b cis (= nie trans). Tak, nawet je\u015bli jeste\u015b s\u0142awnx i ka\u017cdy ju\u017c zna twoj\u0105 p\u0142e\u0107.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOto dlaczego:\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003ENie \u017cartuj\u0119. Ka\u017cdx, kto mo\u017ce bezpiecznie to zrobi\u0107, powininx mie\u0107 zaimki w bio.\nTak, nawet je\u015bli jeste\u015b cis (= nie trans). Tak, nawet je\u015bli jeste\u015b s\u0142awnx i ka\u017cdy ju\u017c zna twoj\u0105 p\u0142e\u0107.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOto dlaczego:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(\u003Cstrong\u003EUwaga:\u003C\/strong\u003E Je\u015bli jeste\u015b osob\u0105 trans i nie jeste\u015b jeszcze gotowx na coming out, nie czuj presji.\nTen artyku\u0142 jest skierowany do cis sojusznik\u00f3w \ud83d\ude09)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c zwracanie si\u0119 do ludzi tak, jak wol\u0105, jest podstawow\u0105 uprzejmo\u015bci\u0105.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENie nazywa\u0142xby\u015b Moniki \u201cMart\u0105\u201d tylko dlatego, \u017ce bardziej ci si\u0119 podoba to imi\u0119,\nalbo dlatego, \u017ce \u201cdla ciebie ona wygl\u0105da jak Marta\u201d.\nNawet je\u015bli mia\u0142aby \u201cMarta\u201d w papierach, ale szczerze nienawidzi\u0142a tego imienia i zamiast niego wybra\u0142a sobie \u201cMonika\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EZ zaimkami jest podobnie \u2013 je\u015bli nie chcesz by\u0107 wobec kogo\u015b niegrzecznx, zwracaj si\u0119 do ludzi tak, jak sobie tego \u017cycz\u0105.\nJedyn\u0105 r\u00f3\u017cnic\u0105 jest to, \u017ce przewa\u017cnie \u003Cem\u003Eznamy\u003C\/em\u003E imi\u0119, lecz nie zaimki.\nPrzestawiamy si\u0119 iminiem, ale nie zaimkami. Czas to zmieni\u0107 \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/there-are-no-rules-to-being-nonbinary\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-people-carry\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E p\u0142e\u0107 \u2260 wygl\u0105d \u2260 zaimki\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIsniej\u0105 ludzie wygl\u0105daj\u0105cy m\u0119sko mimo bycia kobietami (czy to cis czy trans),\nistniej\u0105 he lesbians, istniej\u0105 osoby niebinarne u\u017cywaj\u0105ce binarnych zaimk\u00f3w\n(\u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/genderneutralizacja-polszczyzny\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-people-carry\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E zw\u0142aszcza w j\u0119zykach jak polski\u003C\/a\u003E), itp. itd.\nTo, \u017ce widzisz zdj\u0119cie czyjej\u015b twarzy, nie znaczy \u017ce b\u0119dzie w stanie poprawnie zgadn\u0105\u0107 ich zaimki.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c istniej\u0105 inne j\u0119zyki oraz imiona unisex\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201eKarol\u201d jest imieniem m\u0119skim, ale osoba angloj\u0119zyczna nosz\u0105ca imi\u0119 \u201eCarol\u201d najprawdopodobniej b\u0119dzie kobiet\u0105.\nW wielu j\u0119zykach imi\u0119 \u201eAlex\u201d mo\u017ce by\u0107 skr\u00f3con\u0105 form\u0105 zar\u00f3wno imienia \u201cAlexandra\u201d, jak i \u201cAlexander\u201d.\nOsoba nieznaj\u0105ca arabskiej zapewne nie b\u0119dzie wiedzia\u0142a, z kt\u00f3r\u0105 p\u0142ci\u0105 jest kojarzone imi\u0119 \u201eFarrah\u201d.\nJe\u015bli przedstawiasz si\u0119 wy\u0142\u0105cznie imieniem (np. w emailu), wiele os\u00f3b nie b\u0119dzie w stanie zgadn\u0105\u0107,\njakie zaimki przewa\u017cnie id\u0105 z tym imieniem w parze w Twoim j\u0119zyku i Twojej kulturze.\nPro\u015bciej jest po prostu przekaza\u0107 t\u0119 informacj\u0119 wprost, zamiast zmusza\u0107 rozm\u00f3wc\u00f3w do zgadywania.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c to normalizuje dzielenie si\u0119 zaimkami.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDzielenie si\u0119 swoimi zaimkami jest niezmiernie istotne dla os\u00f3b transp\u0142ciowych, niebinarnych i gender nonconforming.\nNiestety, to r\u00f3wnie\u017c nas eksponuje i wystawia na widok.\nLecz je\u015bli ludzie cis robi\u0105 to samo, jest to dla nas niezmiernie wa\u017cne.\nSprawia, \u017ce czujemy si\u0119 bardziej komfortowo i bezpiecznie.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c to pokazuje wsparcie.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENawet je\u015bli twoi znajomi i fani \u015bwietnie wiedz\u0105, \u017ce jeste\u015b cis facetem, to dodanie \u201con\/jego\u201d w profilu\ni tak daje im bardzo wa\u017cn\u0105 informacj\u0119 \u2013 \u017ce wspierasz osoby trans oraz tych, kt\u00f3rzy nie s\u0105 pewni swojej p\u0142ci.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETwoje wsparcie jest wa\u017cne. Zw\u0142aszcza, je\u015bli jeste\u015b s\u0142awnx i wp\u0142ywowx.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c to pomaga unikn\u0105\u0107 nieporozumie\u0144.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERozmawiasz z kim\u015b wygl\u0105daj\u0105cym androgynicznie i nie wiesz, jak si\u0119 do nix zwr\u00f3ci\u0107, by jex nie obrazi\u0107?\nNormalizacja podawania zaimk\u00f3w i pytania o zaimki na pewno w takich sytuacjach pomo\u017ce!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c jest to pozytywne i nieszkodliwe.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESerio, same zalety bez wad. \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["gender","p\u0142e\u0107","pronouns","zaimki","trans","nonbinary","niebinarno\u015b\u0107","normalizowanie"],"hasMore":true,"image":null,"introLite":"\u003Cp\u003ENie \u017cartuj\u0119. Ka\u017cdx, kto mo\u017ce bezpiecznie to zrobi\u0107, powininx mie\u0107 zaimki w bio.\nTak, nawet je\u015bli jeste\u015b cis (= nie trans). Tak, nawet je\u015bli jeste\u015b s\u0142awnx i ka\u017cdy ju\u017c zna twoj\u0105 p\u0142e\u0107.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOto dlaczego:\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cp\u003ENie \u017cartuj\u0119. Ka\u017cdx, kto mo\u017ce bezpiecznie to zrobi\u0107, powininx mie\u0107 zaimki w bio.\nTak, nawet je\u015bli jeste\u015b cis (= nie trans). Tak, nawet je\u015bli jeste\u015b s\u0142awnx i ka\u017cdy ju\u017c zna twoj\u0105 p\u0142e\u0107.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOto dlaczego:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(\u003Cstrong\u003EUwaga:\u003C\/strong\u003E Je\u015bli jeste\u015b osob\u0105 trans i nie jeste\u015b jeszcze gotowx na coming out, nie czuj presji.\nTen artyku\u0142 jest skierowany do cis sojusznik\u00f3w \ud83d\ude09)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c zwracanie si\u0119 do ludzi tak, jak wol\u0105, jest podstawow\u0105 uprzejmo\u015bci\u0105.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENie nazywa\u0142xby\u015b Moniki \u201cMart\u0105\u201d tylko dlatego, \u017ce bardziej ci si\u0119 podoba to imi\u0119,\nalbo dlatego, \u017ce \u201cdla ciebie ona wygl\u0105da jak Marta\u201d.\nNawet je\u015bli mia\u0142aby \u201cMarta\u201d w papierach, ale szczerze nienawidzi\u0142a tego imienia i zamiast niego wybra\u0142a sobie \u201cMonika\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EZ zaimkami jest podobnie \u2013 je\u015bli nie chcesz by\u0107 wobec kogo\u015b niegrzecznx, zwracaj si\u0119 do ludzi tak, jak sobie tego \u017cycz\u0105.\nJedyn\u0105 r\u00f3\u017cnic\u0105 jest to, \u017ce przewa\u017cnie \u003Cem\u003Eznamy\u003C\/em\u003E imi\u0119, lecz nie zaimki.\nPrzestawiamy si\u0119 iminiem, ale nie zaimkami. Czas to zmieni\u0107 \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/there-are-no-rules-to-being-nonbinary.lite\u0022\u003E p\u0142e\u0107 \u2260 wygl\u0105d \u2260 zaimki\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIsniej\u0105 ludzie wygl\u0105daj\u0105cy m\u0119sko mimo bycia kobietami (czy to cis czy trans),\nistniej\u0105 he lesbians, istniej\u0105 osoby niebinarne u\u017cywaj\u0105ce binarnych zaimk\u00f3w\n(\u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/genderneutralizacja-polszczyzny.lite\u0022\u003E zw\u0142aszcza w j\u0119zykach jak polski\u003C\/a\u003E), itp. itd.\nTo, \u017ce widzisz zdj\u0119cie czyjej\u015b twarzy, nie znaczy \u017ce b\u0119dzie w stanie poprawnie zgadn\u0105\u0107 ich zaimki.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c istniej\u0105 inne j\u0119zyki oraz imiona unisex\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201eKarol\u201d jest imieniem m\u0119skim, ale osoba angloj\u0119zyczna nosz\u0105ca imi\u0119 \u201eCarol\u201d najprawdopodobniej b\u0119dzie kobiet\u0105.\nW wielu j\u0119zykach imi\u0119 \u201eAlex\u201d mo\u017ce by\u0107 skr\u00f3con\u0105 form\u0105 zar\u00f3wno imienia \u201cAlexandra\u201d, jak i \u201cAlexander\u201d.\nOsoba nieznaj\u0105ca arabskiej zapewne nie b\u0119dzie wiedzia\u0142a, z kt\u00f3r\u0105 p\u0142ci\u0105 jest kojarzone imi\u0119 \u201eFarrah\u201d.\nJe\u015bli przedstawiasz si\u0119 wy\u0142\u0105cznie imieniem (np. w emailu), wiele os\u00f3b nie b\u0119dzie w stanie zgadn\u0105\u0107,\njakie zaimki przewa\u017cnie id\u0105 z tym imieniem w parze w Twoim j\u0119zyku i Twojej kulturze.\nPro\u015bciej jest po prostu przekaza\u0107 t\u0119 informacj\u0119 wprost, zamiast zmusza\u0107 rozm\u00f3wc\u00f3w do zgadywania.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c to normalizuje dzielenie si\u0119 zaimkami.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDzielenie si\u0119 swoimi zaimkami jest niezmiernie istotne dla os\u00f3b transp\u0142ciowych, niebinarnych i gender nonconforming.\nNiestety, to r\u00f3wnie\u017c nas eksponuje i wystawia na widok.\nLecz je\u015bli ludzie cis robi\u0105 to samo, jest to dla nas niezmiernie wa\u017cne.\nSprawia, \u017ce czujemy si\u0119 bardziej komfortowo i bezpiecznie.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c to pokazuje wsparcie.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENawet je\u015bli twoi znajomi i fani \u015bwietnie wiedz\u0105, \u017ce jeste\u015b cis facetem, to dodanie \u201con\/jego\u201d w profilu\ni tak daje im bardzo wa\u017cn\u0105 informacj\u0119 \u2013 \u017ce wspierasz osoby trans oraz tych, kt\u00f3rzy nie s\u0105 pewni swojej p\u0142ci.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETwoje wsparcie jest wa\u017cne. Zw\u0142aszcza, je\u015bli jeste\u015b s\u0142awnx i wp\u0142ywowx.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c to pomaga unikn\u0105\u0107 nieporozumie\u0144.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERozmawiasz z kim\u015b wygl\u0105daj\u0105cym androgynicznie i nie wiesz, jak si\u0119 do nix zwr\u00f3ci\u0107, by jex nie obrazi\u0107?\nNormalizacja podawania zaimk\u00f3w i pytania o zaimki na pewno w takich sytuacjach pomo\u017ce!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c jest to pozytywne i nieszkodliwe.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESerio, same zalety bez wad. \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E","words":506,"readTime":3,"lang":"pl"}}},"blog\/society\/lgb-always-with-t":{"key":"blog\/society\/lgb-always-with-t","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2020-03-01T18:11:38+01:00","publishedAt":"2020-03-01T18:11:38+01:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"society","slug":"lgb-always-with-t"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"lgb-always-with-t","title":"LGB always with T!","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/terf-gay_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@JackChristy93 on Twitter: Something I probably shouldn\u0027t say as a gay man: I don\u0027t think LGBT works. Sexuality (LGB) and gender identity (T) are nothing like eachother. To be honest the way Gay \u0026 Lesbian issues have been slapped aside for gender identity theory pisses me off.\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022292.8\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/terf-gay_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@JackChristy93 on Twitter: Something I probably shouldn\u0027t say as a gay man: I don\u0027t think LGBT works. Sexuality (LGB) and gender identity (T) are nothing like eachother. To be honest the way Gay \u0026 Lesbian issues have been slapped aside for gender identity theory pisses me off.\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022292.8\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELGBTQ+ \u003Cem\u003Edoes\u003C\/em\u003E work. We go together, hand in hand. We fight for each other\u0027s rights. It\u0027s the \u201cT\u201d who threw the first bricks in Stonewall.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBlabbing about \u201cseparate issues\u201d is just you trying to mask that you\u0027re EMBARRASSED to be associated with trans people.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/transphobia\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-tag\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E transphobia\u003C\/a\u003E \ud83d\ude44\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/terf-gay_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@JackChristy93 on Twitter: Something I probably shouldn\u0027t say as a gay man: I don\u0027t think LGBT works. Sexuality (LGB) and gender identity (T) are nothing like eachother. To be honest the way Gay \u0026 Lesbian issues have been slapped aside for gender identity theory pisses me off.\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022600\u0022 height=\u0022366\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/terf-gay_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@JackChristy93 on Twitter: Something I probably shouldn\u0027t say as a gay man: I don\u0027t think LGBT works. Sexuality (LGB) and gender identity (T) are nothing like eachother. To be honest the way Gay \u0026 Lesbian issues have been slapped aside for gender identity theory pisses me off.\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022600\u0022 height=\u0022366\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/JackChristy93\/status\/1233497726400258050\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\n                        \u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E\n                        twitter.com\/JackChristy93\/status\/1233497726400258050\n                    \u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELGBTQ+ \u003Cem\u003Edoes\u003C\/em\u003E work. We go together, hand in hand. We fight for each other\u0027s rights. It\u0027s the \u201cT\u201d who threw the first bricks in Stonewall.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBlabbing about \u201cseparate issues\u201d is just you trying to mask that you\u0027re EMBARRASSED to be associated with trans people.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/transphobia\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-tag\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E transphobia\u003C\/a\u003E \ud83d\ude44\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAll letters in LGBTQ+ are about gender. About who society thinks you\u0027re allowed to be, to do, to wear, whom to love \u2013 all depending on the gender of people involved.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESome people get discriminated against because of the gender of their partners, but some \u2013 because of their own.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s all about human rights. It\u0027s all about the same principles and values. It\u0027s all about letting people live the life they want, need and deserve. It\u0027s all about being a decent human being to each other.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["transphobia","terf","stonewall","privilege","trans","human rights"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/terf-gay_small.png","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/terf-gay_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/terf-gay_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@JackChristy93 on Twitter: Something I probably shouldn\u0027t say as a gay man: I don\u0027t think LGBT works. Sexuality (LGB) and gender identity (T) are nothing like eachother. To be honest the way Gay \u0026 Lesbian issues have been slapped aside for gender identity theory pisses me off.\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022146.4\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELGBTQ+ \u003Cem\u003Edoes\u003C\/em\u003E work. We go together, hand in hand. We fight for each other\u0027s rights. 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It\u0027s the \u201cT\u201d who threw the first bricks in Stonewall.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBlabbing about \u201cseparate issues\u201d is just you trying to mask that you\u0027re EMBARRASSED to be associated with trans people.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/transphobia\u0022\u003E transphobia\u003C\/a\u003E \ud83d\ude44\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAll letters in LGBTQ+ are about gender. About who society thinks you\u0027re allowed to be, to do, to wear, whom to love \u2013 all depending on the gender of people involved.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESome people get discriminated against because of the gender of their partners, but some \u2013 because of their own.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s all about human rights. It\u0027s all about the same principles and values. It\u0027s all about letting people live the life they want, need and deserve. 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