{"tag":"rules","articles":{"blog\/society\/there-are-no-rules-to-being-nonbinary":{"key":"blog\/society\/there-are-no-rules-to-being-nonbinary","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2020-01-11T20:14:40+01:00","publishedAt":"2020-01-11T20:14:40+01:00","group":"nonbinary","category":"blog","subcategory":"society","slug":"there-are-no-rules-to-being-nonbinary"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"there-are-no-rules-to-being-nonbinary","title":"There are no rules to being nonbinary","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/rules-nonbinary_small.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022A picture of myself\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022480\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg 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Apart from the usual phobic comments, there\u2019s also some idiotic requirements.\nHaters reproach people that they aren\u2019t andogynous enough, or that they aren\u2019t using \u201cthey\/them\u201d pronouns, etc, etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOh for fuck\u2019s sake. 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data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/rules-nonbinary_big.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022A picture of myself\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022696\u0022 height=\u0022696\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/IAmNonbinary\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E #IAmNonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E is trending on Twitter.\nNext to beautiful pictures and inspiring stories of nonbinary folks,\nthere\u2019s also tons of hateful replies. Apart from the usual phobic comments, there\u2019s also some idiotic requirements.\nHaters reproach people that they aren\u2019t andogynous enough, or that they aren\u2019t using \u201cthey\/them\u201d pronouns, etc, etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOh for fuck\u2019s sake. You\u2019re missing the entire point.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENonbinary isn\u2019t about creating a third box, next to \u201cmale\u201d and \u201cfemale\u201d. It\u2019s about getting out of the box.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s in the name: \u201cnonbinary\u201d = beyond the binary, beyond the two usual \u201coptions\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to get it wrong as well. I thought that this word only applies to\nthose people that you see on the street and can\u2019t help but wonder, if they\u2019re a boy or a girl.\nThat it\u2019s only for people like Jonathan Van Ness,\nwho dare to rock high heels and gender bend the hell out of their wardrobe.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s not.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s just about looking at what the society considers \u201cmale\u201d and \u201cfemale\u201d, and feeling that you\u2019re neither.\nThat\u2019s all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EToday I realised that on my \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/fuck-you-facebook\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-computer-speaker\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E inactive Facebook account\u003C\/a\u003E\nI\u2019ve put gender \u201cdoesn\u2019t matter\u201d and pronoun \u201cneutral\u201d many, many years ago.\nBut only a few months ago I\u2019ve finally \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/am-i-non-binary\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-heartbeat\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E dared to call myself \u201cnonbinary\u201d\u003C\/a\u003E.\nHow stupid of me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou can \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Potathoe44\/status\/1215722043481690112\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E be AFAB and wear makeup\u003C\/a\u003E,\nyou can \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/talcotts\/status\/1215755342006620166\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E be AMAB and have a beard\u003C\/a\u003E.\nYou \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/just_misha00\/status\/1215397522451107841\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E dont\u2019 have to be adrongynous\u003C\/a\u003E,\nyou \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/nonbinarythings\/status\/1215410195435835392\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E don\u2019t have to use them\/they pronouns\u003C\/a\u003E.\nNo worries, \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/confusedophan\/status\/1216063380072673281\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E other enbies won\u2019t think of you as any less nonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cstrong\u003EGender \u2260 expression \u2260 pronouns.\u003C\/strong\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe call people \u201cthey\u201d, even in singular, when we either don\u2019t know their gender or if it isn\u2019t important.\nThat doesn\u2019t mean we think they\u2019re nonbinary.\nWe call ships \u201cshe\u201d (well, some people do, I think it\u2019s stupid),\nwhich doesn\u2019t mean that ships are female.\nWhen a woman wears pants (unthinkable two centuries ago), she doesn\u2019t become a man.\nWhen a clergyman wears a cassock (basically a dress), he doesn\u2019t become a woman.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou know why? Yes, because gender \u2260 expression \u2260 pronouns.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo please stop telling nonbinary people how to be nonbinary. Nobody is \u201cnot nonbinary enough\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd while we\u2019re at it: stop telling women how to be women and stop telling men how to be men.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe\u2019re all valid. We\u2019re all \u003Cem\u003Eenough\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["nonbinary","non-binary","gender","norms","rules","pronouns","phobia","hate"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/rules-nonbinary_small.jpg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/rules-nonbinary_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/rules-nonbinary_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022A picture of myself\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022240\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/IAmNonbinary\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E #IAmNonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E is trending on Twitter.\nNext to beautiful pictures and inspiring stories of nonbinary folks,\nthere\u2019s also tons of hateful replies. Apart from the usual phobic comments, there\u2019s also some idiotic requirements.\nHaters reproach people that they aren\u2019t andogynous enough, or that they aren\u2019t using \u201cthey\/them\u201d pronouns, etc, etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOh for fuck\u2019s sake. You\u2019re missing the entire point.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/rules-nonbinary_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/rules-nonbinary_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022A picture of myself\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022240\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/IAmNonbinary\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E #IAmNonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E is trending on Twitter.\nNext to beautiful pictures and inspiring stories of nonbinary folks,\nthere\u2019s also tons of hateful replies. Apart from the usual phobic comments, there\u2019s also some idiotic requirements.\nHaters reproach people that they aren\u2019t andogynous enough, or that they aren\u2019t using \u201cthey\/them\u201d pronouns, etc, etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOh for fuck\u2019s sake. You\u2019re missing the entire point.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENonbinary isn\u2019t about creating a third box, next to \u201cmale\u201d and \u201cfemale\u201d. It\u2019s about getting out of the box.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s in the name: \u201cnonbinary\u201d = beyond the binary, beyond the two usual \u201coptions\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to get it wrong as well. I thought that this word only applies to\nthose people that you see on the street and can\u2019t help but wonder, if they\u2019re a boy or a girl.\nThat it\u2019s only for people like Jonathan Van Ness,\nwho dare to rock high heels and gender bend the hell out of their wardrobe.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s not.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s just about looking at what the society considers \u201cmale\u201d and \u201cfemale\u201d, and feeling that you\u2019re neither.\nThat\u2019s all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EToday I realised that on my \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/fuck-you-facebook.lite\u0022\u003E inactive Facebook account\u003C\/a\u003E\nI\u2019ve put gender \u201cdoesn\u2019t matter\u201d and pronoun \u201cneutral\u201d many, many years ago.\nBut only a few months ago I\u2019ve finally \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/am-i-non-binary.lite\u0022\u003E dared to call myself \u201cnonbinary\u201d\u003C\/a\u003E.\nHow stupid of me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou can \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Potathoe44\/status\/1215722043481690112\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E be AFAB and wear makeup\u003C\/a\u003E,\nyou can \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/talcotts\/status\/1215755342006620166\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E be AMAB and have a beard\u003C\/a\u003E.\nYou \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/just_misha00\/status\/1215397522451107841\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E dont\u2019 have to be adrongynous\u003C\/a\u003E,\nyou \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/nonbinarythings\/status\/1215410195435835392\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E don\u2019t have to use them\/they pronouns\u003C\/a\u003E.\nNo worries, \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/confusedophan\/status\/1216063380072673281\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E other enbies won\u2019t think of you as any less nonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cstrong\u003EGender \u2260 expression \u2260 pronouns.\u003C\/strong\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe call people \u201cthey\u201d, even in singular, when we either don\u2019t know their gender or if it isn\u2019t important.\nThat doesn\u2019t mean we think they\u2019re nonbinary.\nWe call ships \u201cshe\u201d (well, some people do, I think it\u2019s stupid),\nwhich doesn\u2019t mean that ships are female.\nWhen a woman wears pants (unthinkable two centuries ago), she doesn\u2019t become a man.\nWhen a clergyman wears a cassock (basically a dress), he doesn\u2019t become a woman.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou know why? Yes, because gender \u2260 expression \u2260 pronouns.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo please stop telling nonbinary people how to be nonbinary. Nobody is \u201cnot nonbinary enough\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd while we\u2019re at it: stop telling women how to be women and stop telling men how to be men.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe\u2019re all valid. We\u2019re all \u003Cem\u003Eenough\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E","words":408,"readTime":2,"lang":"en"}}}}}