{"tag":"representation","articles":{"blog\/society\/too-queer-to-represent-queers":{"key":"blog\/society\/too-queer-to-represent-queers","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2019-12-15T17:21:28+01:00","publishedAt":"2019-12-16T22:36:00+01:00","group":"nonbinary","category":"blog","subcategory":"society","slug":"too-queer-to-represent-queers"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"too-queer-to-represent-queers","title":"Too queer to represent queers?","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lgbalien_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022720\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lgbalien_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022720\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s sad, being a member of a minoritised community and seeing some of its members turn against the others. Like in case of that \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/natancombigirl\/status\/1205554427324719106\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E twitter discussion\u003C\/a\u003E on whether or not \u201cweird looking\u201d people and \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/blog\/too-queer-to-represent-queers\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E drag queens\u003C\/a\u003E should be allowed to represent us, or even mention publicly that they are queer, for fear of giving us a bad reputation.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to be that asshole who answers \u201cno\u201d to this question.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lgbalien_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022600\u0022 height=\u0022900\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lgbalien_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022600\u0022 height=\u0022900\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/natancombigirl\/status\/1205554427324719106\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\n                        \u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E\n                        twitter.com\/natancombigirl\/status\/1205554427324719106\n                    \u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s sad, being a member of a minoritised community and seeing some of its members turn against the others. Like in case of that \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/natancombigirl\/status\/1205554427324719106\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E twitter discussion\u003C\/a\u003E on whether or not \u201cweird looking\u201d people and \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/blog\/too-queer-to-represent-queers\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E drag queens\u003C\/a\u003E should be allowed to represent us, or even mention publicly that they are queer, for fear of giving us a bad reputation.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to be that asshole who answers \u201cno\u201d to this question.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to be \u003Cem\u003Ethat\u003C\/em\u003E gay guy who thought that those \u201ceffeminate\u201d of us shouldn\u2019t really talk loud about their homosexuality \u2013 cause they would only strengthen the stereotypes and make the lives of \u201cus, normal gays\u201d harder to live.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to be \u003Cem\u003Ethat\u003C\/em\u003E gay guy who enjoyed drag queen shows and who liked his queen friends personally, but who advocated against them being in drag when they represent the whole LGBTQ+ movement to the rest of the world. I didn\u2019t want the world to think that \u003Cem\u003Eall\u003C\/em\u003E of us are like this.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt was so wrong of me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBecause our strength comes from diversity. Because our fight doesn\u2019t make sense if we only fight to be safe, and not for the ability to be ourselves. Because our fight doesn\u2019t make sense if we don\u2019t fight for \u003Cem\u003Eall\u003C\/em\u003E of us.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI wasn\u2019t just restricting others \u2013 most of all, I was restricting myself. I\u2019m a nonbinary person, but I\u2019ve spent a huge chunk of my life \u003Cem\u003Epretending\u003C\/em\u003E to be a man, instead of living a fabulous life free of gender norms. All just to make some bigots more \u003Cem\u003Ecomfortable with my existence\u003C\/em\u003E. Well, fuck them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you want to make the oppressed shape themselves in a way that the oppressor wants them to, you\u2019re playing by their rules, and you\u2019ve already lost. 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Like in case of that \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/natancombigirl\/status\/1205554427324719106\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E twitter discussion\u003C\/a\u003E on whether or not \u201cweird looking\u201d people and \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/blog\/too-queer-to-represent-queers\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E drag queens\u003C\/a\u003E should be allowed to represent us, or even mention publicly that they are queer, for fear of giving us a bad reputation.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to be that asshole who answers \u201cno\u201d to this question.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lgbalien_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lgbalien_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/natancombigirl\/status\/1205554427324719106\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Etwitter.com\/natancombigirl\/status\/1205554427324719106\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s sad, being a member of a minoritised community and seeing some of its members turn against the others. Like in case of that \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/natancombigirl\/status\/1205554427324719106\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E twitter discussion\u003C\/a\u003E on whether or not \u201cweird looking\u201d people and \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/blog\/too-queer-to-represent-queers\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E drag queens\u003C\/a\u003E should be allowed to represent us, or even mention publicly that they are queer, for fear of giving us a bad reputation.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to be that asshole who answers \u201cno\u201d to this question.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to be \u003Cem\u003Ethat\u003C\/em\u003E gay guy who thought that those \u201ceffeminate\u201d of us shouldn\u2019t really talk loud about their homosexuality \u2013 cause they would only strengthen the stereotypes and make the lives of \u201cus, normal gays\u201d harder to live.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to be \u003Cem\u003Ethat\u003C\/em\u003E gay guy who enjoyed drag queen shows and who liked his queen friends personally, but who advocated against them being in drag when they represent the whole LGBTQ+ movement to the rest of the world. I didn\u2019t want the world to think that \u003Cem\u003Eall\u003C\/em\u003E of us are like this.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt was so wrong of me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBecause our strength comes from diversity. Because our fight doesn\u2019t make sense if we only fight to be safe, and not for the ability to be ourselves. Because our fight doesn\u2019t make sense if we don\u2019t fight for \u003Cem\u003Eall\u003C\/em\u003E of us.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI wasn\u2019t just restricting others \u2013 most of all, I was restricting myself. I\u2019m a nonbinary person, but I\u2019ve spent a huge chunk of my life \u003Cem\u003Epretending\u003C\/em\u003E to be a man, instead of living a fabulous life free of gender norms. All just to make some bigots more \u003Cem\u003Ecomfortable with my existence\u003C\/em\u003E. Well, fuck them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you want to make the oppressed shape themselves in a way that the oppressor wants them to, you\u2019re playing by their rules, and you\u2019ve already lost. You\u2019re working towards a \u201ccompromise\u201d between bigotry and being oneself, between hatred and happiness \u2013 a compromise that makes everyone unhappy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u2019re valid just the way you are. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u2019re really worrying so much about the \u003Cem\u003Eimage\u003C\/em\u003E of the community, show the world an image of queer people coming together hand in hand, as \u201cstrange\u201d as they might be, united in diversity \u2013 and not fighting each other who\u2019s the \u003Cem\u003Eright amount of gay\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E","words":382,"readTime":2,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/society\/hey-porn-show-us-a-real-dick-for-once":{"key":"blog\/society\/hey-porn-show-us-a-real-dick-for-once","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2019-11-12T19:43:21+01:00","publishedAt":"2019-11-13T18:30:00+01:00","group":"cock-size","category":"blog","subcategory":"society","slug":"hey-porn-show-us-a-real-dick-for-once"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"hey-porn-show-us-a-real-dick-for-once","title":"Hey, porn! Show us a real dick, for once!","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/porn-cock-size-emoji_small.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022269.1654465593\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/porn-cock-size-emoji_small.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022269.1654465593\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDid you know the dicks you see in porn are \u003Cem\u003Enot real\u003C\/em\u003E? Per se, sure, but if you look at them as a group? That\u2019s not what what real cocks look like!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI know. I checked.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/porn-cock-size-emoji_big.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022683\u0022 height=\u0022383\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/porn-cock-size-emoji_big.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022683\u0022 height=\u0022383\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDid you know the dicks you see in porn are \u003Cem\u003Enot real\u003C\/em\u003E? Per se, sure, but if you look at them as a group? That\u2019s not what what real cocks look like!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI know. I checked.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI wrote a simple script that scrapes the member area of \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/members.nextdoorstudios.com\/en\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E NextDoorStudios\u003C\/a\u003E\u2019s list of models.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOut of 213 models that have put their cock size in their profile, the smallest one is 15 cm, the biggest one \u2013 28 cm, and the average is a stunning \u003Cstrong\u003E18.8 cm\u003C\/strong\u003E with a median of 17.8 cm!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow does that relate to the real world?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt does not. At all. At fucking all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDepending on \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Human_penis_size#Erect\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E which study you look at\u003C\/a\u003E, the average size of an erect cock is 12-14 cm and median is about \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.vox.com\/2015\/3\/4\/8143585\/penis-size-average\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E 13\u003C\/a\u003E-\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/mraverage.com\/stats.htm\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E 15\u003C\/a\u003E cm.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELet me do some complex math now...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ccenter\u003E\u003Ciframe src=\u0022https:\/\/giphy.com\/embed\/BmmfETghGOPrW\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022206\u0022 frameBorder=\u00220\u0022 class=\u0022giphy-embed\u0022 allowFullScreen\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E\u003C\/center\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOh damn! If my calculations are correct, not only is 18.8 cm waaay longer than the global average, but even the absolute smallest of the NextDoorStudio\u2019s dicks is also above average!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI checked out only NextDoor, because that\u2019s what I have access to, but I don\u2019t think I have to convince anyone that casting almost exclusively big-dicked models in porn movies is not something that only this single studio does. This practice is omnipresent. It\u2019s the rule.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cstrong\u003EUpdate:\u003C\/strong\u003E I checked BelAmiOnline as well: it\u0027s \u003Cstrong\u003E18 cm average\u003C\/strong\u003E, 18 cm median, 15.5 cm min and 25 cm max.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn regards to the cock size alone, more than half (!) of the entire male population is not represented in porn.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd we wonder where do all those insecurities come from? Why do teenagers obsess so much about what\u2019s in their pants? Why are they scared to get naked in the shower after a gym class? Why are they afraid to have sex for the first time? Why are women disappointed when they see an \u003Cem\u003Eactual\u003C\/em\u003E dick for the first time?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere\u2019s a scary thought: straight guys usually never or very rarely see a non-porn erect penis that is not their own. They usually have no concept of what an erect penis can look like. Can you even imagine the horror of thinking that everyone else except for you is super well-endowed?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd it\u2019s not just dicks being misrepresented in porn. It\u2019s entire bodies.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s not just guys being misrepresented \u2013 women probably even more!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENot everybody looks like this. Not everyone is super slim or super muscular. Not everyone has huge, shapely tits. Not everyone has a bubble butt.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs a matter of fact, very few people do.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey are what our wildest fantasies look like \u2013 but not how the vast majority of sex looks like.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf we take an even wider look, both cock sizes in particular and bodies in general are still only a part of a way bigger misrepresentation problem.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBecause you know what, porn? That\u2019s not a position that any woman is comfortable in, let alone takes pleasure from. And pounding a hole for 30 minutes with breaks only to switch positions is not a fun thing to do, for neither side of the pounding. Condoms don\u2019t magically appear on penises. People use lube. People communicate. People take breaks.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou don\u2019t show any of it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI wish there was a \u003Cstrong\u003E\u201dnormie porn\u201d\u003C\/strong\u003E studio. One that would make professional movies, in terms of lighting, video quality, etc., but \u201camateur\u201d in terms of showing \u201creal\u201d people having \u201creal\u201d sex.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["average","body","body acceptance","body shaming","cock","dick","fake","insecurities","penis","porn","representation","size","statistics"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/porn-cock-size-emoji_small.jpeg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/porn-cock-size-emoji_big.jpeg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/porn-cock-size-emoji_mini.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022134.58272327965\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDid you know the dicks you see in porn are \u003Cem\u003Enot real\u003C\/em\u003E? Per se, sure, but if you look at them as a group? That\u2019s not what what real cocks look like!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI know. I checked.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/porn-cock-size-emoji_big.jpeg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/porn-cock-size-emoji_mini.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022134.58272327965\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDid you know the dicks you see in porn are \u003Cem\u003Enot real\u003C\/em\u003E? Per se, sure, but if you look at them as a group? That\u2019s not what what real cocks look like!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI know. I checked.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI wrote a simple script that scrapes the member area of \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/members.nextdoorstudios.com\/en\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E NextDoorStudios\u003C\/a\u003E\u2019s list of models.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOut of 213 models that have put their cock size in their profile, the smallest one is 15 cm, the biggest one \u2013 28 cm, and the average is a stunning \u003Cstrong\u003E18.8 cm\u003C\/strong\u003E with a median of 17.8 cm!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow does that relate to the real world?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt does not. At all. At fucking all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDepending on \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Human_penis_size#Erect\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E which study you look at\u003C\/a\u003E, the average size of an erect cock is 12-14 cm and median is about \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.vox.com\/2015\/3\/4\/8143585\/penis-size-average\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E 13\u003C\/a\u003E-\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/mraverage.com\/stats.htm\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E 15\u003C\/a\u003E cm.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELet me do some complex math now...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ccenter\u003E\u003Ciframe src=\u0022https:\/\/giphy.com\/embed\/BmmfETghGOPrW\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022206\u0022 frameBorder=\u00220\u0022 class=\u0022giphy-embed\u0022 allowFullScreen\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E\u003C\/center\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOh damn! If my calculations are correct, not only is 18.8 cm waaay longer than the global average, but even the absolute smallest of the NextDoorStudio\u2019s dicks is also above average!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI checked out only NextDoor, because that\u2019s what I have access to, but I don\u2019t think I have to convince anyone that casting almost exclusively big-dicked models in porn movies is not something that only this single studio does. This practice is omnipresent. It\u2019s the rule.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cstrong\u003EUpdate:\u003C\/strong\u003E I checked BelAmiOnline as well: it\u0027s \u003Cstrong\u003E18 cm average\u003C\/strong\u003E, 18 cm median, 15.5 cm min and 25 cm max.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn regards to the cock size alone, more than half (!) of the entire male population is not represented in porn.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd we wonder where do all those insecurities come from? Why do teenagers obsess so much about what\u2019s in their pants? Why are they scared to get naked in the shower after a gym class? Why are they afraid to have sex for the first time? Why are women disappointed when they see an \u003Cem\u003Eactual\u003C\/em\u003E dick for the first time?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere\u2019s a scary thought: straight guys usually never or very rarely see a non-porn erect penis that is not their own. They usually have no concept of what an erect penis can look like. Can you even imagine the horror of thinking that everyone else except for you is super well-endowed?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd it\u2019s not just dicks being misrepresented in porn. It\u2019s entire bodies.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s not just guys being misrepresented \u2013 women probably even more!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENot everybody looks like this. Not everyone is super slim or super muscular. Not everyone has huge, shapely tits. Not everyone has a bubble butt.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs a matter of fact, very few people do.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey are what our wildest fantasies look like \u2013 but not how the vast majority of sex looks like.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf we take an even wider look, both cock sizes in particular and bodies in general are still only a part of a way bigger misrepresentation problem.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBecause you know what, porn? That\u2019s not a position that any woman is comfortable in, let alone takes pleasure from. And pounding a hole for 30 minutes with breaks only to switch positions is not a fun thing to do, for neither side of the pounding. Condoms don\u2019t magically appear on penises. People use lube. People communicate. People take breaks.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou don\u2019t show any of it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI wish there was a \u003Cstrong\u003E\u201dnormie porn\u201d\u003C\/strong\u003E studio. One that would make professional movies, in terms of lighting, video quality, etc., but \u201camateur\u201d in terms of showing \u201creal\u201d people having \u201creal\u201d sex.\u003C\/p\u003E","words":565,"readTime":3,"lang":"en"}}}}}