{"tag":"rape culture","articles":{"blog\/society\/slutshaming-toxic-masculinity-rape-culture":{"key":"blog\/society\/slutshaming-toxic-masculinity-rape-culture","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2020-02-05T09:40:30+01:00","publishedAt":"2020-02-05T09:40:30+01:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"society","slug":"slutshaming-toxic-masculinity-rape-culture"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"slutshaming-toxic-masculinity-rape-culture","title":"Slutshaming + toxic masculinity = rape culture","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/woman-hiding-bedsheet_small.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Woman covering her face under a bedsheet\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022480\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg 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At most, I\u0027m culture-shaming our culture.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWith that said: other than chasing the perpetrators,\nthere\u0027s also a big cultural change we need to make, if we want to reduce the number of rapes...\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/woman-hiding-bedsheet_big.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Woman covering her face under a bedsheet\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022800\u0022 height=\u0022800\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg 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At most, I\u0027m culture-shaming our culture.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWith that said: other than chasing the perpetrators,\nthere\u0027s also a big cultural change we need to make, if we want to reduce the number of rapes...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe, as the society, treat people vastly differently depending on their gender. That\u0027s just a fact.\nAnd it\u0027s not just about the wage gap, retirement age, or representation in governments.\nIt\u0027s also about how we approach their sexuality.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe teach boys that they are conquerors. Men are judged by their peers based on how much they get laid.\nThe more the better. If you don\u0027t fuck \u2013 you\u0027re a loser.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe also teach girls to be iron virgins. If they are even just a tiny bit too promiscuous for someone\u0027s standards,\nwe tell them that they\u0027re being \u201cdisrespectful to their bodies\u201c.\n\u201cAbstinence only\u201d \u201csex educators\u201d are telling them that if they have sex with more than one man in their lifetime,\nthey\u0027re gonna be like a half-eaten apple, an old shoe, or a chewing gum someone else has chewed already.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201cDisrespectful to their bodies\u201c? What does that even \u003Cem\u003Emean\u003C\/em\u003E?\nI\u0027m respecting my body when I\u0027m eating healthy, abstaining from smoking and drugs, exercising regularly...\nHaving consensual, protected sex does \u003Cem\u003Enot\u003C\/em\u003E harm my body, it has \u003Cem\u003Enothing\u003C\/em\u003E to do with (dis)respecting it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWith such a huge disparity between what society puts in the minds of men an women, we\u0027re bound to have problems.\nMen \u003Cem\u003Ehave to\u003C\/em\u003E have sex. Women \u003Cem\u003Eshouldn\u0027t\u003C\/em\u003E have sex. What an explosive mix!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd how about we care about our own genitals without judging others for how they chose to use theirs?\nHow about we agree that it\u0027s okay to have any number of sexual partners one choses to have?\nWhether it\u0027s none, or just one, or hundreds, whether you\u0027re a man, a woman, or neither \u2013 it\u0027s \u003Cem\u003Efine\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u0027re valid.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["slutshaming","rape","rape culture","toxic masculinity","promiscuous","body","sex"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/woman-hiding-bedsheet_small.jpg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/woman-hiding-bedsheet_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/woman-hiding-bedsheet_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Woman covering her face under a bedsheet\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022240\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYes, of course the only person responible for a rape is the rapist \u2013 they\u0027re a criminal and should be severely punished.\nI\u0027m in no way defending them, nor am I victim-shaming the victims. At most, I\u0027m culture-shaming our culture.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWith that said: other than chasing the perpetrators,\nthere\u0027s also a big cultural change we need to make, if we want to reduce the number of rapes...\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/woman-hiding-bedsheet_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/woman-hiding-bedsheet_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Woman covering her face under a bedsheet\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022240\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/smuS_jUZa9I\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Eunsplash.com\/photos\/smuS_jUZa9I\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYes, of course the only person responible for a rape is the rapist \u2013 they\u0027re a criminal and should be severely punished.\nI\u0027m in no way defending them, nor am I victim-shaming the victims. At most, I\u0027m culture-shaming our culture.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWith that said: other than chasing the perpetrators,\nthere\u0027s also a big cultural change we need to make, if we want to reduce the number of rapes...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe, as the society, treat people vastly differently depending on their gender. That\u0027s just a fact.\nAnd it\u0027s not just about the wage gap, retirement age, or representation in governments.\nIt\u0027s also about how we approach their sexuality.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe teach boys that they are conquerors. Men are judged by their peers based on how much they get laid.\nThe more the better. If you don\u0027t fuck \u2013 you\u0027re a loser.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe also teach girls to be iron virgins. If they are even just a tiny bit too promiscuous for someone\u0027s standards,\nwe tell them that they\u0027re being \u201cdisrespectful to their bodies\u201c.\n\u201cAbstinence only\u201d \u201csex educators\u201d are telling them that if they have sex with more than one man in their lifetime,\nthey\u0027re gonna be like a half-eaten apple, an old shoe, or a chewing gum someone else has chewed already.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201cDisrespectful to their bodies\u201c? What does that even \u003Cem\u003Emean\u003C\/em\u003E?\nI\u0027m respecting my body when I\u0027m eating healthy, abstaining from smoking and drugs, exercising regularly...\nHaving consensual, protected sex does \u003Cem\u003Enot\u003C\/em\u003E harm my body, it has \u003Cem\u003Enothing\u003C\/em\u003E to do with (dis)respecting it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWith such a huge disparity between what society puts in the minds of men an women, we\u0027re bound to have problems.\nMen \u003Cem\u003Ehave to\u003C\/em\u003E have sex. Women \u003Cem\u003Eshouldn\u0027t\u003C\/em\u003E have sex. What an explosive mix!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd how about we care about our own genitals without judging others for how they chose to use theirs?\nHow about we agree that it\u0027s okay to have any number of sexual partners one choses to have?\nWhether it\u0027s none, or just one, or hundreds, whether you\u0027re a man, a woman, or neither \u2013 it\u0027s \u003Cem\u003Efine\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u0027re valid.\u003C\/p\u003E","words":344,"readTime":2,"lang":"en"}}}}}