{"tag":"principals","articles":{"blog\/society\/cheating":{"key":"blog\/society\/cheating","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2018-08-21T17:35:54+02:00","publishedAt":"2018-08-21T17:26:00+02:00","group":"polyamory","category":"blog","subcategory":"society","slug":"cheating"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"cheating","title":"Cheating","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/distracted-boyfriend_small.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Distracted boyfriend meme\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022240\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/distracted-boyfriend_small.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Distracted boyfriend meme\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022240\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere is a song by Faun (\u201cTanz mit mir\u201d) in which a girl agrees to dance with a guy and then spend the night with him, but only if he is \u201cfaithful\u201d and \u201cdoesn\u2019t kiss any other girl\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt got me thinking... From a perspective of a non-monogramist that sounds like an extremely \u003Cem\u003Elow bar\u003C\/em\u003E for cheating. Really, a kiss is too much already? Maybe he can\u2019t even check out a girl? Oh, right, he probably can\u2019t.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf we counted how many kisses or hugs me and my husband have given out to other guys, we\u2019d have to get divorced repeatedly... Does it mean people in open relationships have no \u003Cem\u003Ebar\u003C\/em\u003E whatsoever? Hell no! We can feel cheated too!\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/distracted-boyfriend_big.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Distracted boyfriend meme\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022680\u0022 height=\u0022340\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/distracted-boyfriend_big.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Distracted boyfriend meme\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022680\u0022 height=\u0022340\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/knowyourmeme.com\/memes\/distracted-boyfriend\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\n                        \u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E\n                        knowyourmeme.com\/memes\/distracted-boyfriend\n                    \u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere is a song by Faun (\u201cTanz mit mir\u201d) in which a girl agrees to dance with a guy and then spend the night with him, but only if he is \u201cfaithful\u201d and \u201cdoesn\u2019t kiss any other girl\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt got me thinking... From a perspective of a non-monogramist that sounds like an extremely \u003Cem\u003Elow bar\u003C\/em\u003E for cheating. Really, a kiss is too much already? Maybe he can\u2019t even check out a girl? Oh, right, he probably can\u2019t.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf we counted how many kisses or hugs me and my husband have given out to other guys, we\u2019d have to get divorced repeatedly... Does it mean people in open relationships have no \u003Cem\u003Ebar\u003C\/em\u003E whatsoever? Hell no! We can feel cheated too!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe thing is: my husband is the most important person in the world to me \u2013 and I can expect the same from him.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo when I really need him, when I\u2019m going through some trouble, when I\u2019m feeling down or whatever, I can always count on him being there for me. If he weren\u2019t, even though he could, I would feel betrayed...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENo matter if it was because of a crazy sex party or just a beer with his friends... The important part is not the sex, but the fact that some petty thing was more important than me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo there it is: a totally different outlook on the issue of cheating. Based not on physical pleasures, but on trust, love and showing the other person that they\u2019re the most important one.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Chr \/\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022text-center my-4\u0022\u003E\u003Ciframe width=\u0022640\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/CK5MdsewTjM\u0022 frameborder=\u00220\u0022 allowfullscreen\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote class=\u0022blockquote ml-4 pl-4 border-left\u0022\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDoch nur wenn du heut\u2019 keine andre k\u00fcsst,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nKeine andere k\u00fcsst, wenn du treu mir bist\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nDoch nur wenn du heut\u2019 keine andere k\u00fcsst,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nSonst schl\u00e4fst du wohl allein\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["adultery","cheating","faithfulness","love","non-monogamy","open relationship","polyamory","principals","relationship","trust","values"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/distracted-boyfriend_small.jpg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/distracted-boyfriend_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/distracted-boyfriend_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Distracted boyfriend meme\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022120\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere is a song by Faun (\u201cTanz mit mir\u201d) in which a girl agrees to dance with a guy and then spend the night with him, but only if he is \u201cfaithful\u201d and \u201cdoesn\u2019t kiss any other girl\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt got me thinking... From a perspective of a non-monogramist that sounds like an extremely \u003Cem\u003Elow bar\u003C\/em\u003E for cheating. Really, a kiss is too much already? Maybe he can\u2019t even check out a girl? Oh, right, he probably can\u2019t.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf we counted how many kisses or hugs me and my husband have given out to other guys, we\u2019d have to get divorced repeatedly... Does it mean people in open relationships have no \u003Cem\u003Ebar\u003C\/em\u003E whatsoever? Hell no! We can feel cheated too!\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/distracted-boyfriend_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/distracted-boyfriend_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Distracted boyfriend meme\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022120\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/knowyourmeme.com\/memes\/distracted-boyfriend\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Eknowyourmeme.com\/memes\/distracted-boyfriend\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere is a song by Faun (\u201cTanz mit mir\u201d) in which a girl agrees to dance with a guy and then spend the night with him, but only if he is \u201cfaithful\u201d and \u201cdoesn\u2019t kiss any other girl\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt got me thinking... From a perspective of a non-monogramist that sounds like an extremely \u003Cem\u003Elow bar\u003C\/em\u003E for cheating. Really, a kiss is too much already? Maybe he can\u2019t even check out a girl? Oh, right, he probably can\u2019t.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf we counted how many kisses or hugs me and my husband have given out to other guys, we\u2019d have to get divorced repeatedly... Does it mean people in open relationships have no \u003Cem\u003Ebar\u003C\/em\u003E whatsoever? Hell no! We can feel cheated too!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe thing is: my husband is the most important person in the world to me \u2013 and I can expect the same from him.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo when I really need him, when I\u2019m going through some trouble, when I\u2019m feeling down or whatever, I can always count on him being there for me. If he weren\u2019t, even though he could, I would feel betrayed...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENo matter if it was because of a crazy sex party or just a beer with his friends... The important part is not the sex, but the fact that some petty thing was more important than me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo there it is: a totally different outlook on the issue of cheating. Based not on physical pleasures, but on trust, love and showing the other person that they\u2019re the most important one.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Chr \/\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022text-center my-4\u0022\u003E\u003Ciframe width=\u0022640\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/CK5MdsewTjM\u0022 frameborder=\u00220\u0022 allowfullscreen\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDoch nur wenn du heut\u2019 keine andre k\u00fcsst,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nKeine andere k\u00fcsst, wenn du treu mir bist\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nDoch nur wenn du heut\u2019 keine andere k\u00fcsst,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nSonst schl\u00e4fst du wohl allein\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E","words":296,"readTime":2,"lang":"en"}}}}}