{"tag":"police","articles":{"blog\/society\/the-pronoun-police":{"key":"blog\/society\/the-pronoun-police","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2023-02-11T10:43:21+01:00","publishedAt":"2023-02-11T10:43:21+01:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"society","slug":"the-pronoun-police"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"the-pronoun-police","title":"The Pronoun Police","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Screenshot of the mentioned tweet\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022408.03953871499\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Screenshot of the mentioned tweet\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022408.03953871499\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlejandra Caraballo posted\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E a video of a powerful testimony by Lola Smith\u003C\/a\u003E,\na 12-year-old nonbinary person forced to beg for their rights in front of the Florida Medical Board.\nThis video is both terrifying and empowering. Indeed, everyone should see it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut transphobes transphobing and trans people being forced to defend their dignity is just a part of the struggle.\nAnother one is how our \u201callies\u201d are pretending to ally\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Screenshot of the mentioned tweet\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022816.07907742998\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg 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data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Screenshot of the mentioned tweet\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022816.07907742998\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\n                        \u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E\n                        twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\n                    \u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlejandra Caraballo posted\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E a video of a powerful testimony by Lola Smith\u003C\/a\u003E,\na 12-year-old nonbinary person forced to beg for their rights in front of the Florida Medical Board.\nThis video is both terrifying and empowering. Indeed, everyone should see it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut transphobes transphobing and trans people being forced to defend their dignity is just a part of the struggle.\nAnother one is how our \u201callies\u201d are pretending to ally\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u0027d think that if a nonbinary person says they\u0027re nonbinary within the first few seconds of a video,\nif they literally introduce themselves with name, age and gender,\nthen people watching the video and commenting on it would get the message that the person is nonbinary.\nAnd yet, there\u0027s comments underneath the tweet calling Lola\na \u201cbrave young lady\u201d, \u201cinspiring young woman\u201d, she\/her-ing them\u003Csup\u003E1\u003C\/sup\u003E\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust because transphobic politicians are setting the bar for treating trans people with dignity\nas terrifyingly low as letting them exist in public spaces,\nit doesn\u0027t mean that\u0027s where your allyship should stop.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EReal allyship \u003Cem\u003Estarts\u003C\/em\u003E with \u003Cem\u003Eactually\u003C\/em\u003E respecting a person\u0027s identity.\nIf you look at a person who says they\u0027re nonbinary and you see a girl\u003Csup\u003E2\u003C\/sup\u003E,\nyou\u0027re missing the entire point.\nLola is very likely to see this tweet and see the comments where \u201callies\u201d purposefully misgender them.\nHow will they feel, after having to defend themselves in front of a panel full of transphobes,\nseeing that even self-proclaimed allies don\u0027t really respect them?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYes, \u003Cstrong\u003Epurposefully\u003C\/strong\u003E misgender.\nIf you make a mistake, if something slips your mind \u2013 it\u0027s perfectly fine, we all do that;\nbut you need to take effort to correct that mistake!\nAs an analogy, say you reposted an information about a celebrity dying,\nbut it turns out it was all a hoax, they\u0027re very much alive, and you were made aware of that.\nYou would edit or remove your post, so that the fake news doesn\u0027t circulate anymore, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYet here the \u201callies\u201d in question, after getting politely corrected (and interacting with the replies),\nstill as of time of writing this post (13h after) have neither apologised nor removed their tweets.\nSo how on Earth is it not a purposeful misgendering of a child?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd apparently, according to some other user in the replies,\npolitely correcting a factual error that actively harms a trans kid\nis what makes us \u201cinsufferable\u201d, \u201csmall-minded\u201d, \u201cpedantic\u201d, \u201ccounter-productive\u201d,\nand a self-designated \u201cpronoun police\u201d \ud83e\udd26\ud83e\udd26\ud83e\udd26\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHoly fuck, that\u0027s absurd\u2026 The video we\u2019re commenting under is about Lola demanding respect for their identity,\nand the \u201cally\u201d in question not only didn\u2019t do that but keeps refusing to do that by not removing the tweet\n(well, it got 38 likes, you could see how big of a sacrifice it would be to lose those imaginary internet points!).\nHow is it \u201ccounter-productive\u201d to correct someone\u2019s mistake, especially in this context?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut most importantly\u2026 \u201cPronoun police\u201d? Seriously?!\nPolice are a tool of power, authority, and often oppression.\nCalling a minoritised group\u2019s effort to protect each other from mistreatment\nby simply pointing out that someone is hurting us\na \u201cpronoun police\u201d is misguided at best, malicious at worst\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u0027re trying to flip the reality. You\u0027re literally calling the oppresed oppressors,\nyou\u0027re comparing care for a kid\u0027s identity to state-sanctioned violence.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow \u003Cem\u003Einsufferable\u003C\/em\u003E of you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Chr \/\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Csmall\u003E\u003Csup\u003E1\u003C\/sup\u003E Lola doesn\u0027t mention their pronouns in this short video,\nit could also be some neopronouns or even indeed \u201cshe\/her\u201d \u2013\nbut outright assuming it\u0027s \u201cshe\/her\u201d just because of their AGAB is a bad assumption to make;\nEnglish has a normative pronoun used to describe people whose gender and\/or pronouns we don\u0027t know\n(eg. \u201csomeone left \u003Cem\u003Etheir\u003C\/em\u003E umbrella in the hallway\u201d), so that\u0027s what I\u0027ll be using here.\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Csmall\u003E\u003Csup\u003E2\u003C\/sup\u003E Calling them a \u201cwoman\u201d, even if preceded with \u201cyoung\u201d, is also kinda cringe\u2026\nThey\u0027re a kid. A 12-year-old who should be enjoying their childhood\nand not be put in the situation where they have to advocate for their rights\nin front of adults filled with hatered\u2026\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["nonbinary","trans","transgender","allyship","allies","acab","cops","police","pronouns"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_small.png","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Screenshot of the mentioned tweet\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022204.0197693575\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlejandra Caraballo posted\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E a video of a powerful testimony by Lola Smith\u003C\/a\u003E,\na 12-year-old nonbinary person forced to beg for their rights in front of the Florida Medical Board.\nThis video is both terrifying and empowering. Indeed, everyone should see it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut transphobes transphobing and trans people being forced to defend their dignity is just a part of the struggle.\nAnother one is how our \u201callies\u201d are pretending to ally\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Screenshot of the mentioned tweet\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022204.0197693575\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Etwitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlejandra Caraballo posted\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E a video of a powerful testimony by Lola Smith\u003C\/a\u003E,\na 12-year-old nonbinary person forced to beg for their rights in front of the Florida Medical Board.\nThis video is both terrifying and empowering. Indeed, everyone should see it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut transphobes transphobing and trans people being forced to defend their dignity is just a part of the struggle.\nAnother one is how our \u201callies\u201d are pretending to ally\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u0027d think that if a nonbinary person says they\u0027re nonbinary within the first few seconds of a video,\nif they literally introduce themselves with name, age and gender,\nthen people watching the video and commenting on it would get the message that the person is nonbinary.\nAnd yet, there\u0027s comments underneath the tweet calling Lola\na \u201cbrave young lady\u201d, \u201cinspiring young woman\u201d, she\/her-ing them\u003Csup\u003E1\u003C\/sup\u003E\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust because transphobic politicians are setting the bar for treating trans people with dignity\nas terrifyingly low as letting them exist in public spaces,\nit doesn\u0027t mean that\u0027s where your allyship should stop.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EReal allyship \u003Cem\u003Estarts\u003C\/em\u003E with \u003Cem\u003Eactually\u003C\/em\u003E respecting a person\u0027s identity.\nIf you look at a person who says they\u0027re nonbinary and you see a girl\u003Csup\u003E2\u003C\/sup\u003E,\nyou\u0027re missing the entire point.\nLola is very likely to see this tweet and see the comments where \u201callies\u201d purposefully misgender them.\nHow will they feel, after having to defend themselves in front of a panel full of transphobes,\nseeing that even self-proclaimed allies don\u0027t really respect them?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYes, \u003Cstrong\u003Epurposefully\u003C\/strong\u003E misgender.\nIf you make a mistake, if something slips your mind \u2013 it\u0027s perfectly fine, we all do that;\nbut you need to take effort to correct that mistake!\nAs an analogy, say you reposted an information about a celebrity dying,\nbut it turns out it was all a hoax, they\u0027re very much alive, and you were made aware of that.\nYou would edit or remove your post, so that the fake news doesn\u0027t circulate anymore, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYet here the \u201callies\u201d in question, after getting politely corrected (and interacting with the replies),\nstill as of time of writing this post (13h after) have neither apologised nor removed their tweets.\nSo how on Earth is it not a purposeful misgendering of a child?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd apparently, according to some other user in the replies,\npolitely correcting a factual error that actively harms a trans kid\nis what makes us \u201cinsufferable\u201d, \u201csmall-minded\u201d, \u201cpedantic\u201d, \u201ccounter-productive\u201d,\nand a self-designated \u201cpronoun police\u201d \ud83e\udd26\ud83e\udd26\ud83e\udd26\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHoly fuck, that\u0027s absurd\u2026 The video we\u2019re commenting under is about Lola demanding respect for their identity,\nand the \u201cally\u201d in question not only didn\u2019t do that but keeps refusing to do that by not removing the tweet\n(well, it got 38 likes, you could see how big of a sacrifice it would be to lose those imaginary internet points!).\nHow is it \u201ccounter-productive\u201d to correct someone\u2019s mistake, especially in this context?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut most importantly\u2026 \u201cPronoun police\u201d? Seriously?!\nPolice are a tool of power, authority, and often oppression.\nCalling a minoritised group\u2019s effort to protect each other from mistreatment\nby simply pointing out that someone is hurting us\na \u201cpronoun police\u201d is misguided at best, malicious at worst\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u0027re trying to flip the reality. You\u0027re literally calling the oppresed oppressors,\nyou\u0027re comparing care for a kid\u0027s identity to state-sanctioned violence.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow \u003Cem\u003Einsufferable\u003C\/em\u003E of you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Chr \/\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Csmall\u003E\u003Csup\u003E1\u003C\/sup\u003E Lola doesn\u0027t mention their pronouns in this short video,\nit could also be some neopronouns or even indeed \u201cshe\/her\u201d \u2013\nbut outright assuming it\u0027s \u201cshe\/her\u201d just because of their AGAB is a bad assumption to make;\nEnglish has a normative pronoun used to describe people whose gender and\/or pronouns we don\u0027t know\n(eg. \u201csomeone left \u003Cem\u003Etheir\u003C\/em\u003E umbrella in the hallway\u201d), so that\u0027s what I\u0027ll be using here.\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Csmall\u003E\u003Csup\u003E2\u003C\/sup\u003E Calling them a \u201cwoman\u201d, even if preceded with \u201cyoung\u201d, is also kinda cringe\u2026\nThey\u0027re a kid. A 12-year-old who should be enjoying their childhood\nand not be put in the situation where they have to advocate for their rights\nin front of adults filled with hatered\u2026\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E","words":663,"readTime":3,"lang":"en"}}}}}