{"tag":"pansexual","articles":{"blog\/life\/gender-is-over":{"key":"blog\/life\/gender-is-over","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2020-03-24T21:09:31+01:00","publishedAt":"2020-04-04T16:32:00+02:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"gender-is-over"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"gender-is-over","title":"Gender is over","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lady-in-red_small.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022640\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg 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to culture and from time to time.\n\u201cAsian woman\u201d, \u201cWestern woman\u201d, \u201cMedieval European woman\u201d, etc. etc.\nare all made to follow different set of rules.\nPink used to be a colour associated with boys not girls (because of being close to bloody red).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.merriam-webster.com\/dictionary\/gender\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Dictionaries define gender\u003C\/a\u003E\nas \u003Cem\u003E\u201cthe behavioral, cultural, or psychological traits typically associated with one sex\u201d\u003C\/em\u003E.\nBut I would go one step further: it\u0027s not just the \u201ctraits\u201d that are \u201cassociated\u201d.\nIt\u0027s rules that are enforced.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBe it by getting physically beaten up for \u201clooking like a faggot\u201d,\nbe it by being publicly riddiculed for \u201cbeing too butch\u201d,\nor be it by simply being quietly frowned upon \u2013\nthe society has its ways to make people look and behave the way their designated box says they should.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd yes, I know, there\u0027s plenty of people being very comfortable in their box.\nAnd there\u0027s many who know they\u0027ll be happy and fitting once they transition to the other box.\nBut wouldn\u0027t it be simpler if we just \u003Cem\u003Egot rid of the boxes\u003C\/em\u003E?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust let people be people. Let us be ourselves.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEver since I put the \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/nonbinary\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-tag\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E nonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E label on my gender,\never since I started \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Gender_bender\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E gender bending\u003C\/a\u003E,\never since I started experimenting with my \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/pansexuality\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-tag\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E pansexuality\u003C\/a\u003E,\nI started realising how \u003Cem\u003Emade up\u003C\/em\u003E gender is.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe don\u0027t choose our partners based solely on the mere existence of a penis or a vagina, right?\nWe like them for their character, skills, sense of humour,\nwe\u0027re physically attracted to their body type, body hair, muscles, face, hair, makeup, etc. etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOur appearance and behaviour, our romantic and sexual attraction\n\u2013 are way more complex than just those simple binary categories: man and woman, gay, straight and bi...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESure, it\u0027s a decent approximation, and I still use them to describe myself and other people.\nAnd I\u0027m not trying to invalidate anyone\u0027s identity.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI just wanted to share how much liberty it gave me when I started to just\n\u003Cem\u003Ecare about those labels less\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not enforcing gender rules on anyone. I\u0027m not trying to follow them myself.\nIn my mind \u2013 gender is over \ud83d\udcaa\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["gender","nonbinary","agender","genderfuck","gender bender","pansexual","pansexuality","lgbtq"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lady-in-red_small.jpg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lady-in-red_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lady-in-red_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022320\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor me, gender is over.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENot in a sad, \u201cGame Over\u201d way.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn a happy, \u201cMission accomplished\u201d way.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lady-in-red_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lady-in-red_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022320\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor me, gender is over.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENot in a sad, \u201cGame Over\u201d way.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn a happy, \u201cMission accomplished\u201d way.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBecause for me gender is just a set of rules and regulations,\nbased on someone\u0027s perception of what kind of genitals you might have.\nIf people think that you have this or that in your pants,\nthey\u0027ll also expect you to get a specific type of job,\nwear a specific amount of makup, have specific amount of body hair in specific places,\nwear specific clothes, behave in a specfic manner, play with specific toys...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe know it\u0027s all made up rules,\nfor instance because it differs from culture to culture and from time to time.\n\u201cAsian woman\u201d, \u201cWestern woman\u201d, \u201cMedieval European woman\u201d, etc. etc.\nare all made to follow different set of rules.\nPink used to be a colour associated with boys not girls (because of being close to bloody red).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.merriam-webster.com\/dictionary\/gender\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Dictionaries define gender\u003C\/a\u003E\nas \u003Cem\u003E\u201cthe behavioral, cultural, or psychological traits typically associated with one sex\u201d\u003C\/em\u003E.\nBut I would go one step further: it\u0027s not just the \u201ctraits\u201d that are \u201cassociated\u201d.\nIt\u0027s rules that are enforced.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBe it by getting physically beaten up for \u201clooking like a faggot\u201d,\nbe it by being publicly riddiculed for \u201cbeing too butch\u201d,\nor be it by simply being quietly frowned upon \u2013\nthe society has its ways to make people look and behave the way their designated box says they should.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd yes, I know, there\u0027s plenty of people being very comfortable in their box.\nAnd there\u0027s many who know they\u0027ll be happy and fitting once they transition to the other box.\nBut wouldn\u0027t it be simpler if we just \u003Cem\u003Egot rid of the boxes\u003C\/em\u003E?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust let people be people. Let us be ourselves.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEver since I put the \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/nonbinary\u0022\u003E nonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E label on my gender,\never since I started \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Gender_bender\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E gender bending\u003C\/a\u003E,\never since I started experimenting with my \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/pansexuality\u0022\u003E pansexuality\u003C\/a\u003E,\nI started realising how \u003Cem\u003Emade up\u003C\/em\u003E gender is.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe don\u0027t choose our partners based solely on the mere existence of a penis or a vagina, right?\nWe like them for their character, skills, sense of humour,\nwe\u0027re physically attracted to their body type, body hair, muscles, face, hair, makeup, etc. etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOur appearance and behaviour, our romantic and sexual attraction\n\u2013 are way more complex than just those simple binary categories: man and woman, gay, straight and bi...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESure, it\u0027s a decent approximation, and I still use them to describe myself and other people.\nAnd I\u0027m not trying to invalidate anyone\u0027s identity.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI just wanted to share how much liberty it gave me when I started to just\n\u003Cem\u003Ecare about those labels less\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not enforcing gender rules on anyone. I\u0027m not trying to follow them myself.\nIn my mind \u2013 gender is over \ud83d\udcaa\u003C\/p\u003E","words":453,"readTime":2,"lang":"en"}}}}}