{"tag":"nonbinary","articles":{"blog\/society\/nemo-the-code-as-nonbinary-anthem":{"key":"blog\/society\/nemo-the-code-as-nonbinary-anthem","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2024-04-01T12:09:47+02:00","publishedAt":"2024-04-01T12:09:47+02:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"society","slug":"nemo-the-code-as-nonbinary-anthem"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"nemo-the-code-as-nonbinary-anthem","title":"Nemo\u0027s \u201cThe Code\u201d as a Nonbinary Anthem","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/nemo-code_small.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022270\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg 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data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/nemo-code_big.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022540\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere\u0027s a song that stole my heart and has been living in my head rent-free for the last few weeks.\nBefore hearing it, the thought \u201cenbies should pick their anthem\u201d had never really occurred to me \u2013\nbut now I can\u0027t think of a better contender to that title than \u201cThe Code\u201d by Nemo.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENemo is a 24 year old nonbinary rapper, singer and musician who will be representing Switzerland in the Eurovision Song Contest 2024,\nnext to \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.pronouns.page\/blog\/nonbinary-eurovision\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E three other countries\u003C\/a\u003E represented by amazing nonbinary artists.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp class=\u0022small\u0022\u003E(Yes, I know that Israel taking part in Eurovision is a scandal, and I hate that too.\nBut this is an article about queer joy, not about them \u2013 please go be angry at Israel and EBU somewhere else.)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENemo uses \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.pronouns.page\/blog\/they\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E they\/them\u003C\/a\u003E pronouns in English, but in their native German\nthey prefer to be \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/de.pronouns.page\/:Nemo\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E referred by name, without pronouns\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022text-center my-4\u0022\u003E\u003Ciframe width=\u0022640\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/kiGDvM14Kwg\u0022 frameborder=\u00220\u0022 allowfullscreen\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201cThe Code\u201d is a song about discovering their identity as a nonbinary person;\nabout the struggles of the process itself, but more importantly about the reward that\u0027s waiting at the end of this road:\nbeing free from the cishetnormative expectations of the society, finally breaking its \u201ccode\u201d and being able to be truly oneself.\nIt\u0027s a beautiful and powerful song, definitely an earworm, definitely very challenging vocally.\nAnd \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/genius.com\/Nemo-che-the-code-lyrics\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E its lyrics\u003C\/a\u003E are speaking to my enby soul:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote class=\u0022blockquote ml-4 pl-4 border-left\u0022\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWelcome to the show, let everybody know\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI\u0027m done playin\u0027 the game, I\u0027ll break out of the chains\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u00a0\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote class=\u0022blockquote ml-4 pl-4 border-left\u0022\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI, I went to hell and back\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nTo find myself on track\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI broke the code, wo-o-oah\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u00a0\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote class=\u0022blockquote ml-4 pl-4 border-left\u0022\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESomewhere between the 0s and 1s\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThat\u0027s where I found my kingdom come\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd while I\u0027ve been in love with this song ever since I\u0027d first heard it, it was only\nwhen I watched their performance live a few days ago that I realised we\u0027re witnessing something \u003Cem\u003Ehuge\u003C\/em\u003E.\nNemo is not just fabulously nonbinary on that stage. They\u0027re \u003Cem\u003Eflawless\u003C\/em\u003E. No note is too high for them,\nno beat too fast, not a single thing is off. They\u0027re impressive as fuck!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022text-center my-4\u0022\u003E\u003Ciframe width=\u0022640\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/bfhKBAt0aLg\u0022 frameborder=\u00220\u0022 allowfullscreen\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd now they\u0027re gonna be bringing that majestic queer energy to the biggest music stage in Europe!\nIn May hundreds of millions of people around the world will see their unapologetic gender-bending beauty,\ntheir powerful message about transcending restrictive social norms, and their flawless execution. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou can see that Nemo really feels that song deep in their soul.\nIt\u0027s not a just banger produced to make money \u2013 it\u0027s personal.\nIt\u0027s a song they believe in and a song they\u0027re singing from their heart.\nHere\u0027s what Nemo had to say after the performance:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote class=\u0022blockquote ml-4 pl-4 border-left\u0022\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAll of myself is in this song and when I perform it I become one with it.\nI don\u0027t even really know what\u0027s happening the 3 minutes just rushed by.\nIt\u0027s amazing to be allowed to perform this song live and that you all are enjoying it so much is even better.\n\u003Csup\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/eurovision\/comments\/1brtwem\/comment\/kxbhvlt\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E [credits for translation]\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/sup\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENemo is one of the favourites to win the ESC \u2013 and I hope y\u0027all can see why!\n\u201cThe Code\u201d is a beautiful song, interesting musically, challenging vocally, with lyrics relatable to so many\nmarginalised people, and with a powerful message.\n\u003Cstrong\u003EWhen somebody asks me, what it feels like to be proudly nonbinary \u2013 now I can just show them Nemo\u0027s performance.\u003C\/strong\u003E\nThat\u0027s how. That\u0027s the power of rejecting patriarchy.\nI can barely imagine how many people questioning their gender will see that performance and see themselves in it,\nwill find the power to discover their identity and to proudly be themselves. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere are many amazing songs by nonbinary artists about their experience of gender \u2013\nbut \u201cThe Code\u201d is the one that stole my heart. It checks all the boxes. And in my humble opinion,\nit absolutely deserves to be called the anthem of our community.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["eurovision","song","anthem","music","nonbinary","gender","switzerland"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/nemo-code_small.jpg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/nemo-code_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/nemo-code_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022135\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere\u0027s a song that stole my heart and has been living in my head rent-free for the last few weeks.\nBefore hearing it, the thought \u201cenbies should pick their anthem\u201d had never really occurred to me \u2013\nbut now I can\u0027t think of a better contender to that title than \u201cThe Code\u201d by Nemo.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/nemo-code_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/nemo-code_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022135\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere\u0027s a song that stole my heart and has been living in my head rent-free for the last few weeks.\nBefore hearing it, the thought \u201cenbies should pick their anthem\u201d had never really occurred to me \u2013\nbut now I can\u0027t think of a better contender to that title than \u201cThe Code\u201d by Nemo.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENemo is a 24 year old nonbinary rapper, singer and musician who will be representing Switzerland in the Eurovision Song Contest 2024,\nnext to \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.pronouns.page\/blog\/nonbinary-eurovision\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E three other countries\u003C\/a\u003E represented by amazing nonbinary artists.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp class=\u0022small\u0022\u003E(Yes, I know that Israel taking part in Eurovision is a scandal, and I hate that too.\nBut this is an article about queer joy, not about them \u2013 please go be angry at Israel and EBU somewhere else.)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENemo uses \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.pronouns.page\/blog\/they\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E they\/them\u003C\/a\u003E pronouns in English, but in their native German\nthey prefer to be \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/de.pronouns.page\/:Nemo\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E referred by name, without pronouns\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022text-center my-4\u0022\u003E\u003Ciframe width=\u0022640\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/kiGDvM14Kwg\u0022 frameborder=\u00220\u0022 allowfullscreen\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201cThe Code\u201d is a song about discovering their identity as a nonbinary person;\nabout the struggles of the process itself, but more importantly about the reward that\u0027s waiting at the end of this road:\nbeing free from the cishetnormative expectations of the society, finally breaking its \u201ccode\u201d and being able to be truly oneself.\nIt\u0027s a beautiful and powerful song, definitely an earworm, definitely very challenging vocally.\nAnd \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/genius.com\/Nemo-che-the-code-lyrics\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E its lyrics\u003C\/a\u003E are speaking to my enby soul:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWelcome to the show, let everybody know\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI\u0027m done playin\u0027 the game, I\u0027ll break out of the chains\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u00a0\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI, I went to hell and back\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nTo find myself on track\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI broke the code, wo-o-oah\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u00a0\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESomewhere between the 0s and 1s\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThat\u0027s where I found my kingdom come\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd while I\u0027ve been in love with this song ever since I\u0027d first heard it, it was only\nwhen I watched their performance live a few days ago that I realised we\u0027re witnessing something \u003Cem\u003Ehuge\u003C\/em\u003E.\nNemo is not just fabulously nonbinary on that stage. They\u0027re \u003Cem\u003Eflawless\u003C\/em\u003E. No note is too high for them,\nno beat too fast, not a single thing is off. They\u0027re impressive as fuck!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022text-center my-4\u0022\u003E\u003Ciframe width=\u0022640\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/bfhKBAt0aLg\u0022 frameborder=\u00220\u0022 allowfullscreen\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd now they\u0027re gonna be bringing that majestic queer energy to the biggest music stage in Europe!\nIn May hundreds of millions of people around the world will see their unapologetic gender-bending beauty,\ntheir powerful message about transcending restrictive social norms, and their flawless execution. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou can see that Nemo really feels that song deep in their soul.\nIt\u0027s not a just banger produced to make money \u2013 it\u0027s personal.\nIt\u0027s a song they believe in and a song they\u0027re singing from their heart.\nHere\u0027s what Nemo had to say after the performance:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAll of myself is in this song and when I perform it I become one with it.\nI don\u0027t even really know what\u0027s happening the 3 minutes just rushed by.\nIt\u0027s amazing to be allowed to perform this song live and that you all are enjoying it so much is even better.\n\u003Csup\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/eurovision\/comments\/1brtwem\/comment\/kxbhvlt\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E [credits for translation]\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/sup\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENemo is one of the favourites to win the ESC \u2013 and I hope y\u0027all can see why!\n\u201cThe Code\u201d is a beautiful song, interesting musically, challenging vocally, with lyrics relatable to so many\nmarginalised people, and with a powerful message.\n\u003Cstrong\u003EWhen somebody asks me, what it feels like to be proudly nonbinary \u2013 now I can just show them Nemo\u0027s performance.\u003C\/strong\u003E\nThat\u0027s how. That\u0027s the power of rejecting patriarchy.\nI can barely imagine how many people questioning their gender will see that performance and see themselves in it,\nwill find the power to discover their identity and to proudly be themselves. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere are many amazing songs by nonbinary artists about their experience of gender \u2013\nbut \u201cThe Code\u201d is the one that stole my heart. It checks all the boxes. And in my humble opinion,\nit absolutely deserves to be called the anthem of our community.\u003C\/p\u003E","words":623,"readTime":3,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/society\/the-pronoun-police":{"key":"blog\/society\/the-pronoun-police","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2023-02-11T10:43:21+01:00","publishedAt":"2023-02-11T10:43:21+01:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"society","slug":"the-pronoun-police"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"the-pronoun-police","title":"The Pronoun Police","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Screenshot of the mentioned tweet\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022408.03953871499\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Screenshot of the mentioned tweet\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022408.03953871499\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlejandra Caraballo posted\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E a video of a powerful testimony by Lola Smith\u003C\/a\u003E,\na 12-year-old nonbinary person forced to beg for their rights in front of the Florida Medical Board.\nThis video is both terrifying and empowering. Indeed, everyone should see it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut transphobes transphobing and trans people being forced to defend their dignity is just a part of the struggle.\nAnother one is how our \u201callies\u201d are pretending to ally\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Screenshot of the mentioned tweet\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022816.07907742998\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg 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data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Screenshot of the mentioned tweet\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022816.07907742998\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\n                        \u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E\n                        twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\n                    \u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlejandra Caraballo posted\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E a video of a powerful testimony by Lola Smith\u003C\/a\u003E,\na 12-year-old nonbinary person forced to beg for their rights in front of the Florida Medical Board.\nThis video is both terrifying and empowering. Indeed, everyone should see it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut transphobes transphobing and trans people being forced to defend their dignity is just a part of the struggle.\nAnother one is how our \u201callies\u201d are pretending to ally\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u0027d think that if a nonbinary person says they\u0027re nonbinary within the first few seconds of a video,\nif they literally introduce themselves with name, age and gender,\nthen people watching the video and commenting on it would get the message that the person is nonbinary.\nAnd yet, there\u0027s comments underneath the tweet calling Lola\na \u201cbrave young lady\u201d, \u201cinspiring young woman\u201d, she\/her-ing them\u003Csup\u003E1\u003C\/sup\u003E\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust because transphobic politicians are setting the bar for treating trans people with dignity\nas terrifyingly low as letting them exist in public spaces,\nit doesn\u0027t mean that\u0027s where your allyship should stop.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EReal allyship \u003Cem\u003Estarts\u003C\/em\u003E with \u003Cem\u003Eactually\u003C\/em\u003E respecting a person\u0027s identity.\nIf you look at a person who says they\u0027re nonbinary and you see a girl\u003Csup\u003E2\u003C\/sup\u003E,\nyou\u0027re missing the entire point.\nLola is very likely to see this tweet and see the comments where \u201callies\u201d purposefully misgender them.\nHow will they feel, after having to defend themselves in front of a panel full of transphobes,\nseeing that even self-proclaimed allies don\u0027t really respect them?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYes, \u003Cstrong\u003Epurposefully\u003C\/strong\u003E misgender.\nIf you make a mistake, if something slips your mind \u2013 it\u0027s perfectly fine, we all do that;\nbut you need to take effort to correct that mistake!\nAs an analogy, say you reposted an information about a celebrity dying,\nbut it turns out it was all a hoax, they\u0027re very much alive, and you were made aware of that.\nYou would edit or remove your post, so that the fake news doesn\u0027t circulate anymore, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYet here the \u201callies\u201d in question, after getting politely corrected (and interacting with the replies),\nstill as of time of writing this post (13h after) have neither apologised nor removed their tweets.\nSo how on Earth is it not a purposeful misgendering of a child?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd apparently, according to some other user in the replies,\npolitely correcting a factual error that actively harms a trans kid\nis what makes us \u201cinsufferable\u201d, \u201csmall-minded\u201d, \u201cpedantic\u201d, \u201ccounter-productive\u201d,\nand a self-designated \u201cpronoun police\u201d \ud83e\udd26\ud83e\udd26\ud83e\udd26\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHoly fuck, that\u0027s absurd\u2026 The video we\u2019re commenting under is about Lola demanding respect for their identity,\nand the \u201cally\u201d in question not only didn\u2019t do that but keeps refusing to do that by not removing the tweet\n(well, it got 38 likes, you could see how big of a sacrifice it would be to lose those imaginary internet points!).\nHow is it \u201ccounter-productive\u201d to correct someone\u2019s mistake, especially in this context?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut most importantly\u2026 \u201cPronoun police\u201d? Seriously?!\nPolice are a tool of power, authority, and often oppression.\nCalling a minoritised group\u2019s effort to protect each other from mistreatment\nby simply pointing out that someone is hurting us\na \u201cpronoun police\u201d is misguided at best, malicious at worst\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u0027re trying to flip the reality. You\u0027re literally calling the oppresed oppressors,\nyou\u0027re comparing care for a kid\u0027s identity to state-sanctioned violence.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow \u003Cem\u003Einsufferable\u003C\/em\u003E of you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Chr \/\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Csmall\u003E\u003Csup\u003E1\u003C\/sup\u003E Lola doesn\u0027t mention their pronouns in this short video,\nit could also be some neopronouns or even indeed \u201cshe\/her\u201d \u2013\nbut outright assuming it\u0027s \u201cshe\/her\u201d just because of their AGAB is a bad assumption to make;\nEnglish has a normative pronoun used to describe people whose gender and\/or pronouns we don\u0027t know\n(eg. \u201csomeone left \u003Cem\u003Etheir\u003C\/em\u003E umbrella in the hallway\u201d), so that\u0027s what I\u0027ll be using here.\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Csmall\u003E\u003Csup\u003E2\u003C\/sup\u003E Calling them a \u201cwoman\u201d, even if preceded with \u201cyoung\u201d, is also kinda cringe\u2026\nThey\u0027re a kid. A 12-year-old who should be enjoying their childhood\nand not be put in the situation where they have to advocate for their rights\nin front of adults filled with hatered\u2026\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["nonbinary","trans","transgender","allyship","allies","acab","cops","police","pronouns"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_small.png","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Screenshot of the mentioned tweet\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022204.0197693575\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlejandra Caraballo posted\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E a video of a powerful testimony by Lola Smith\u003C\/a\u003E,\na 12-year-old nonbinary person forced to beg for their rights in front of the Florida Medical Board.\nThis video is both terrifying and empowering. Indeed, everyone should see it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut transphobes transphobing and trans people being forced to defend their dignity is just a part of the struggle.\nAnother one is how our \u201callies\u201d are pretending to ally\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lola-smith_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Screenshot of the mentioned tweet\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022204.0197693575\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Etwitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlejandra Caraballo posted\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Esqueer_\/status\/1624147323373686801\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E a video of a powerful testimony by Lola Smith\u003C\/a\u003E,\na 12-year-old nonbinary person forced to beg for their rights in front of the Florida Medical Board.\nThis video is both terrifying and empowering. Indeed, everyone should see it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut transphobes transphobing and trans people being forced to defend their dignity is just a part of the struggle.\nAnother one is how our \u201callies\u201d are pretending to ally\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u0027d think that if a nonbinary person says they\u0027re nonbinary within the first few seconds of a video,\nif they literally introduce themselves with name, age and gender,\nthen people watching the video and commenting on it would get the message that the person is nonbinary.\nAnd yet, there\u0027s comments underneath the tweet calling Lola\na \u201cbrave young lady\u201d, \u201cinspiring young woman\u201d, she\/her-ing them\u003Csup\u003E1\u003C\/sup\u003E\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust because transphobic politicians are setting the bar for treating trans people with dignity\nas terrifyingly low as letting them exist in public spaces,\nit doesn\u0027t mean that\u0027s where your allyship should stop.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EReal allyship \u003Cem\u003Estarts\u003C\/em\u003E with \u003Cem\u003Eactually\u003C\/em\u003E respecting a person\u0027s identity.\nIf you look at a person who says they\u0027re nonbinary and you see a girl\u003Csup\u003E2\u003C\/sup\u003E,\nyou\u0027re missing the entire point.\nLola is very likely to see this tweet and see the comments where \u201callies\u201d purposefully misgender them.\nHow will they feel, after having to defend themselves in front of a panel full of transphobes,\nseeing that even self-proclaimed allies don\u0027t really respect them?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYes, \u003Cstrong\u003Epurposefully\u003C\/strong\u003E misgender.\nIf you make a mistake, if something slips your mind \u2013 it\u0027s perfectly fine, we all do that;\nbut you need to take effort to correct that mistake!\nAs an analogy, say you reposted an information about a celebrity dying,\nbut it turns out it was all a hoax, they\u0027re very much alive, and you were made aware of that.\nYou would edit or remove your post, so that the fake news doesn\u0027t circulate anymore, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYet here the \u201callies\u201d in question, after getting politely corrected (and interacting with the replies),\nstill as of time of writing this post (13h after) have neither apologised nor removed their tweets.\nSo how on Earth is it not a purposeful misgendering of a child?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd apparently, according to some other user in the replies,\npolitely correcting a factual error that actively harms a trans kid\nis what makes us \u201cinsufferable\u201d, \u201csmall-minded\u201d, \u201cpedantic\u201d, \u201ccounter-productive\u201d,\nand a self-designated \u201cpronoun police\u201d \ud83e\udd26\ud83e\udd26\ud83e\udd26\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHoly fuck, that\u0027s absurd\u2026 The video we\u2019re commenting under is about Lola demanding respect for their identity,\nand the \u201cally\u201d in question not only didn\u2019t do that but keeps refusing to do that by not removing the tweet\n(well, it got 38 likes, you could see how big of a sacrifice it would be to lose those imaginary internet points!).\nHow is it \u201ccounter-productive\u201d to correct someone\u2019s mistake, especially in this context?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut most importantly\u2026 \u201cPronoun police\u201d? Seriously?!\nPolice are a tool of power, authority, and often oppression.\nCalling a minoritised group\u2019s effort to protect each other from mistreatment\nby simply pointing out that someone is hurting us\na \u201cpronoun police\u201d is misguided at best, malicious at worst\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u0027re trying to flip the reality. You\u0027re literally calling the oppresed oppressors,\nyou\u0027re comparing care for a kid\u0027s identity to state-sanctioned violence.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow \u003Cem\u003Einsufferable\u003C\/em\u003E of you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Chr \/\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Csmall\u003E\u003Csup\u003E1\u003C\/sup\u003E Lola doesn\u0027t mention their pronouns in this short video,\nit could also be some neopronouns or even indeed \u201cshe\/her\u201d \u2013\nbut outright assuming it\u0027s \u201cshe\/her\u201d just because of their AGAB is a bad assumption to make;\nEnglish has a normative pronoun used to describe people whose gender and\/or pronouns we don\u0027t know\n(eg. \u201csomeone left \u003Cem\u003Etheir\u003C\/em\u003E umbrella in the hallway\u201d), so that\u0027s what I\u0027ll be using here.\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Csmall\u003E\u003Csup\u003E2\u003C\/sup\u003E Calling them a \u201cwoman\u201d, even if preceded with \u201cyoung\u201d, is also kinda cringe\u2026\nThey\u0027re a kid. A 12-year-old who should be enjoying their childhood\nand not be put in the situation where they have to advocate for their rights\nin front of adults filled with hatered\u2026\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E","words":663,"readTime":3,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/society\/wszystkie-jeste\u015bmy-osobami":{"key":"blog\/society\/wszystkie-jeste\u015bmy-osobami","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2021-01-12T14:24:07+01:00","publishedAt":"2021-01-12T14:24:07+01:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"society","slug":"wszystkie-jeste\u015bmy-osobami"},"content":{"pl":{"slug":"wszystkie-jeste\u015bmy-osobami","title":"Wszystkie jeste\u015bmy osobami","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/osoba-hurr-durr_small.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022240\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/osoba-hurr-durr_small.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022240\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWygl\u0105da na to, \u017ce konserwatywne snowflejki maj\u0105 kolejny pow\u00f3d do strachu.\nTym razem idzie o jedn\u0105 z najokropniejszych obelg, jak\u0105 mo\u017cna kogo\u015b nazwa\u0107:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201cosoba\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETak, kurwa, \u201cosoba\u201d. Obra\u017caj\u0105 si\u0119 o \u201cosob\u0119\u201d \ud83e\udd26\u200d\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022badge badge-warning\u0022\u003ECW: homophobic slurs mentioned\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/osoba-hurr-durr_big.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022480\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/osoba-hurr-durr_big.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022480\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWygl\u0105da na to, \u017ce konserwatywne snowflejki maj\u0105 kolejny pow\u00f3d do strachu.\nTym razem idzie o jedn\u0105 z najokropniejszych obelg, jak\u0105 mo\u017cna kogo\u015b nazwa\u0107:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201cosoba\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETak, kurwa, \u201cosoba\u201d. Obra\u017caj\u0105 si\u0119 o \u201cosob\u0119\u201d \ud83e\udd26\u200d\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022badge badge-warning\u0022\u003ECW: homophobic slurs mentioned\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENawo\u0142ywania do u\u017cywania inkluzywnego i neutralnego p\u0142ciowo j\u0119zyka\ndaj\u0105 si\u0119 coraz g\u0142o\u015bniej s\u0142ysze\u0107 dooko\u0142a \u015bwiata.\nW przypadku polszczyzny du\u017co robi w tej kwestii wsp\u00f3\u0142za\u0142o\u017cony przeze mnie\nkolektyw \u201cRada J\u0119zyka Neutralnego\u201d, tworz\u0105cy m.in. projekt \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/zaimki.pl\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E zaimki.pl\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPropagujemy na przyk\u0142ad takie formy, kt\u00f3re wcze\u015bniej forsowa\u0142a \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/transfuzja.org\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E fundacja TransFuzja\u003C\/a\u003E,\na kt\u00f3re analogicznie do feminatyw\u00f3w nazwa\u0142y\u015bmy \u201cosobatywami\u201d.\nA mianowicie: zamiast m\u00f3wi\u0107 patriarchalnie \u201ccz\u0142onkowie\u201d albo binarnie \u201ccz\u0142onkowie i cz\u0142onkinie\u201d,\npropnonujemy m\u00f3wi\u0107 \u201cosoby cz\u0142onkowskie\u201d \u2013 co w\u0142\u0105cza wszystkich, niezale\u017cnie od p\u0142ci.\nZamiast \u201cstudenci i studentki\u201d mo\u017cna m\u00f3wi\u0107 \u201cosoby studiuj\u0105ce\u201d, itd.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOsobatywy to kompromis. Bo opr\u00f3cz nich w\u015br\u00f3d pomys\u0142\u00f3w na neutralne p\u0142ciowo rzeczowniki s\u0105\nzgodne gramatycznie z \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/zaimki.pl\/ono\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E rodzajem neutralnym\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/zaimki.pl\/s%C5%82owniki#neutratywy\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E neutratywy\u003C\/a\u003E\n(ten cz\u0142onek \u2013 ta cz\u0142onkini \u2013 to cz\u0142onko; ten student \u2013 ta studentka \u2013 to studencie)\noraz zgodne gramatycznie z \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/zaimki.pl\/onu\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E rodzajem podstp\u0142ciowym\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/zaimki.pl\/s%C5%82owniki#dukatywy\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E dukatywy\u003C\/a\u003E\n(ten cz\u0142onek \u2013 ta cz\u0142onkini \u2013 tenu cz\u0142onku; ten student \u2013 ta studentka \u2013 tenu studentu).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENeutratyw\u00f3w i dukatyw\u00f3w nie ma w s\u0142ownikach. S\u0105 neologizmami.\nI wielu si\u0119 o to oburza \u2013 \u017ce sobie wymy\u015blamy, \u017ce niszczymy j\u0119zyk, bla bla bla.\nStandardowe argumenty ludzi niemaj\u0105cych bladego poj\u0119cia o ewolucji j\u0119zyka.\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/zaimki.pl\/pytania#to-sie-nie-uda\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Nihil novi\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAle za to osobatywy powinny by\u0107 spoko nawet dla preskryptywist\u00f3w.\nPolonistka nie wypomni b\u0142\u0119du j\u0119zykowego uczennicy, kt\u00f3ra w wypracowaniu napisa\u0142a o \u201cosobach sprz\u0105tajacych\u201d.\nJ\u0119zyk nie zosta\u0142 zniszony, hip hip hurra!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESt\u0105d te\u017c moje ogromne zdziwienie, gdy\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=HOQazoVKf3c\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E w naszym ostatnim wywiadzie\u003C\/a\u003E\nkto\u015b z komentuj\u0105cych oburzy\u0142 si\u0119, \u017ce \u201ca mo\u017ce on nie chce, by go nazywano \u00bbosob\u0105\u00ab\u201d?\nKilka dni p\u00f3\u017aniej na Twitterze kto\u015b ni z tego ni z owego oburzy\u0142 si\u0119 na sam koncept inkluzywnego j\u0119zyka,\nbo \u201ckto by chcia\u0142, by go tytu\u0142owano per \u00bbosoba\u00ab?\u201d,\npo czym usi\u0142owa\u0142 nazwa\u0107 nas \u201cosobami\u201d w taki spos\u00f3b, by pokaza\u0107, jakie jest to obra\u017aliwe.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey just wanna be oppressed so badly.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETo biali hetero cis m\u0119\u017cczy\u017ani.\nS\u0105 grup\u0105 dominuj\u0105c\u0105, uprzywilejowan\u0105. Ale nie potrafi\u0105 zwyczajnie doceni\u0107 swojego przywileju\n(a ju\u017c tym bardziej u\u017cy\u0107 go, by pom\u00f3c mniejszo\u015bciom).\nGdy s\u0105 oskar\u017cani o queerfobi\u0119, nie odbieraj\u0105 tego jako motywacji do refleksji, pracy nad sob\u0105 i empatii.\nOdbieraj\u0105 to jako wielk\u0105 niesprawiedliwo\u015b\u0107 dziejow\u0105 \u2013 jak kto\u015b \u015bmia\u0142 mie\u0107 co\u015b do tego,\n\u017ce nazwa\u0142em go \u201cpeda\u0142em\u201d? Albo \u017ce do baby z kutasem powiedzia\u0142em \u201cper pan\u201d!?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPr\u00f3buj\u0105 umniejsza\u0107 problemom mniejszo\u015bci, udaj\u0105c \u017ce przecie\u017c ka\u017cdy ma problemy, nie ma o co si\u0119 tak mizia\u0107!\nPr\u00f3buj\u0105 tworzy\u0107 (nieistniej\u0105c\u0105) symetri\u0119 mi\u0119dzy opresorami a opresjonowanymi.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWy peda\u0142y macie swoje parady, a gdzie straight pride dla nas? Dyskryminujecie nas!\nWy \u017c\u0105dacie ochrony przed dyskryminacj\u0105, a mnie to kto obroni?\nWy nie mo\u017cecie wzi\u0105\u0107 \u015blubu \u2013 no i dobrze, szcz\u0119\u015bciarze, nic nie tracicie, ja tam ze swoj\u0105 star\u0105 to wytrzyma\u0107 nie mog\u0119.\nWy p\u0142aczecie, \u017ce kto\u015b was zmisgenderowa\u0142 \u2013 te\u017c mi co\u015b, mnie ostatnio nazwali \u201cosob\u0105\u201d!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(Normatywna) polszczyzna jest dla os\u00f3b niebinarnych bezduszna.\nZ niemal ka\u017cdym wym\u00f3wionym zdaniem zmusza nas do k\u0142amstwa.\nZmusza nas do wyboru spo\u015br\u00f3d dw\u00f3ch opcji, z kt\u00f3rych \u017cadna nas dobrze nie wyra\u017ca.\nDla os\u00f3b trans misgendering jest czym\u015b wi\u0119cej ni\u017c tylko s\u0142owami.\nBoli. Wbija szpil\u0119 z ka\u017cdym s\u0142owem. Przypomina na ka\u017cdym kroku o tym, jak bardzo nie jeste\u015bmy akceptowane.\nPog\u0142\u0119bia dysfori\u0119. Powoduje nienawi\u015b\u0107 do same_ siebie i do swojego cia\u0142a.\nJ\u0119zyk kszta\u0142tuje my\u015blenie, kszta\u0142tuje rzeczywisto\u015b\u0107\u2026 czasem doprowadza do najgorszych tragedii.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETymczasem pan Janusz ma kryzys egzystencjalny, bo kto\u015b\n(niczym zreszt\u0105 nie umniejszaj\u0105c jego m\u0119sko\u015bci) m\u00f3g\u0142by go kiedy\u015b zaliczy\u0107 do grona \u201cos\u00f3b komentuj\u0105cych\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENiestety dla niego, fakt posiadania bardzo \u003Cem\u003Echujowej osobowo\u015bci\u003C\/em\u003E nie sprawia, \u017ce pan Janusz przestaje by\u0107 osob\u0105.\nJest osob\u0105, czy mu si\u0119 to podoba, czy nie.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWszystkie osoby s\u0105 osobami.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI to nic z\u0142ego by\u0107 osob\u0105.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["j\u0119zyk","p\u0142e\u0107","inkluzywno\u015b\u0107","neutralno\u015b\u0107","osoba","snowflake","slur","obelga","niebinarno\u015b\u0107","nonbinary"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/osoba-hurr-durr_small.jpg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/osoba-hurr-durr_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/osoba-hurr-durr_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022120\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWygl\u0105da na to, \u017ce konserwatywne snowflejki maj\u0105 kolejny pow\u00f3d do strachu.\nTym razem idzie o jedn\u0105 z najokropniejszych obelg, jak\u0105 mo\u017cna kogo\u015b nazwa\u0107:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201cosoba\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETak, kurwa, \u201cosoba\u201d. Obra\u017caj\u0105 si\u0119 o \u201cosob\u0119\u201d \ud83e\udd26\u200d\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022badge badge-warning\u0022\u003ECW: homophobic slurs mentioned\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/osoba-hurr-durr_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/osoba-hurr-durr_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022120\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWygl\u0105da na to, \u017ce konserwatywne snowflejki maj\u0105 kolejny pow\u00f3d do strachu.\nTym razem idzie o jedn\u0105 z najokropniejszych obelg, jak\u0105 mo\u017cna kogo\u015b nazwa\u0107:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201cosoba\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETak, kurwa, \u201cosoba\u201d. Obra\u017caj\u0105 si\u0119 o \u201cosob\u0119\u201d \ud83e\udd26\u200d\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022badge badge-warning\u0022\u003ECW: homophobic slurs mentioned\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENawo\u0142ywania do u\u017cywania inkluzywnego i neutralnego p\u0142ciowo j\u0119zyka\ndaj\u0105 si\u0119 coraz g\u0142o\u015bniej s\u0142ysze\u0107 dooko\u0142a \u015bwiata.\nW przypadku polszczyzny du\u017co robi w tej kwestii wsp\u00f3\u0142za\u0142o\u017cony przeze mnie\nkolektyw \u201cRada J\u0119zyka Neutralnego\u201d, tworz\u0105cy m.in. projekt \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/zaimki.pl\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E zaimki.pl\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPropagujemy na przyk\u0142ad takie formy, kt\u00f3re wcze\u015bniej forsowa\u0142a \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/transfuzja.org\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E fundacja TransFuzja\u003C\/a\u003E,\na kt\u00f3re analogicznie do feminatyw\u00f3w nazwa\u0142y\u015bmy \u201cosobatywami\u201d.\nA mianowicie: zamiast m\u00f3wi\u0107 patriarchalnie \u201ccz\u0142onkowie\u201d albo binarnie \u201ccz\u0142onkowie i cz\u0142onkinie\u201d,\npropnonujemy m\u00f3wi\u0107 \u201cosoby cz\u0142onkowskie\u201d \u2013 co w\u0142\u0105cza wszystkich, niezale\u017cnie od p\u0142ci.\nZamiast \u201cstudenci i studentki\u201d mo\u017cna m\u00f3wi\u0107 \u201cosoby studiuj\u0105ce\u201d, itd.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOsobatywy to kompromis. Bo opr\u00f3cz nich w\u015br\u00f3d pomys\u0142\u00f3w na neutralne p\u0142ciowo rzeczowniki s\u0105\nzgodne gramatycznie z \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/zaimki.pl\/ono\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E rodzajem neutralnym\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/zaimki.pl\/s%C5%82owniki#neutratywy\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E neutratywy\u003C\/a\u003E\n(ten cz\u0142onek \u2013 ta cz\u0142onkini \u2013 to cz\u0142onko; ten student \u2013 ta studentka \u2013 to studencie)\noraz zgodne gramatycznie z \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/zaimki.pl\/onu\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E rodzajem podstp\u0142ciowym\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/zaimki.pl\/s%C5%82owniki#dukatywy\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E dukatywy\u003C\/a\u003E\n(ten cz\u0142onek \u2013 ta cz\u0142onkini \u2013 tenu cz\u0142onku; ten student \u2013 ta studentka \u2013 tenu studentu).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENeutratyw\u00f3w i dukatyw\u00f3w nie ma w s\u0142ownikach. S\u0105 neologizmami.\nI wielu si\u0119 o to oburza \u2013 \u017ce sobie wymy\u015blamy, \u017ce niszczymy j\u0119zyk, bla bla bla.\nStandardowe argumenty ludzi niemaj\u0105cych bladego poj\u0119cia o ewolucji j\u0119zyka.\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/zaimki.pl\/pytania#to-sie-nie-uda\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Nihil novi\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAle za to osobatywy powinny by\u0107 spoko nawet dla preskryptywist\u00f3w.\nPolonistka nie wypomni b\u0142\u0119du j\u0119zykowego uczennicy, kt\u00f3ra w wypracowaniu napisa\u0142a o \u201cosobach sprz\u0105tajacych\u201d.\nJ\u0119zyk nie zosta\u0142 zniszony, hip hip hurra!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESt\u0105d te\u017c moje ogromne zdziwienie, gdy\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=HOQazoVKf3c\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E w naszym ostatnim wywiadzie\u003C\/a\u003E\nkto\u015b z komentuj\u0105cych oburzy\u0142 si\u0119, \u017ce \u201ca mo\u017ce on nie chce, by go nazywano \u00bbosob\u0105\u00ab\u201d?\nKilka dni p\u00f3\u017aniej na Twitterze kto\u015b ni z tego ni z owego oburzy\u0142 si\u0119 na sam koncept inkluzywnego j\u0119zyka,\nbo \u201ckto by chcia\u0142, by go tytu\u0142owano per \u00bbosoba\u00ab?\u201d,\npo czym usi\u0142owa\u0142 nazwa\u0107 nas \u201cosobami\u201d w taki spos\u00f3b, by pokaza\u0107, jakie jest to obra\u017aliwe.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey just wanna be oppressed so badly.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETo biali hetero cis m\u0119\u017cczy\u017ani.\nS\u0105 grup\u0105 dominuj\u0105c\u0105, uprzywilejowan\u0105. Ale nie potrafi\u0105 zwyczajnie doceni\u0107 swojego przywileju\n(a ju\u017c tym bardziej u\u017cy\u0107 go, by pom\u00f3c mniejszo\u015bciom).\nGdy s\u0105 oskar\u017cani o queerfobi\u0119, nie odbieraj\u0105 tego jako motywacji do refleksji, pracy nad sob\u0105 i empatii.\nOdbieraj\u0105 to jako wielk\u0105 niesprawiedliwo\u015b\u0107 dziejow\u0105 \u2013 jak kto\u015b \u015bmia\u0142 mie\u0107 co\u015b do tego,\n\u017ce nazwa\u0142em go \u201cpeda\u0142em\u201d? Albo \u017ce do baby z kutasem powiedzia\u0142em \u201cper pan\u201d!?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPr\u00f3buj\u0105 umniejsza\u0107 problemom mniejszo\u015bci, udaj\u0105c \u017ce przecie\u017c ka\u017cdy ma problemy, nie ma o co si\u0119 tak mizia\u0107!\nPr\u00f3buj\u0105 tworzy\u0107 (nieistniej\u0105c\u0105) symetri\u0119 mi\u0119dzy opresorami a opresjonowanymi.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWy peda\u0142y macie swoje parady, a gdzie straight pride dla nas? Dyskryminujecie nas!\nWy \u017c\u0105dacie ochrony przed dyskryminacj\u0105, a mnie to kto obroni?\nWy nie mo\u017cecie wzi\u0105\u0107 \u015blubu \u2013 no i dobrze, szcz\u0119\u015bciarze, nic nie tracicie, ja tam ze swoj\u0105 star\u0105 to wytrzyma\u0107 nie mog\u0119.\nWy p\u0142aczecie, \u017ce kto\u015b was zmisgenderowa\u0142 \u2013 te\u017c mi co\u015b, mnie ostatnio nazwali \u201cosob\u0105\u201d!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(Normatywna) polszczyzna jest dla os\u00f3b niebinarnych bezduszna.\nZ niemal ka\u017cdym wym\u00f3wionym zdaniem zmusza nas do k\u0142amstwa.\nZmusza nas do wyboru spo\u015br\u00f3d dw\u00f3ch opcji, z kt\u00f3rych \u017cadna nas dobrze nie wyra\u017ca.\nDla os\u00f3b trans misgendering jest czym\u015b wi\u0119cej ni\u017c tylko s\u0142owami.\nBoli. Wbija szpil\u0119 z ka\u017cdym s\u0142owem. Przypomina na ka\u017cdym kroku o tym, jak bardzo nie jeste\u015bmy akceptowane.\nPog\u0142\u0119bia dysfori\u0119. Powoduje nienawi\u015b\u0107 do same_ siebie i do swojego cia\u0142a.\nJ\u0119zyk kszta\u0142tuje my\u015blenie, kszta\u0142tuje rzeczywisto\u015b\u0107\u2026 czasem doprowadza do najgorszych tragedii.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETymczasem pan Janusz ma kryzys egzystencjalny, bo kto\u015b\n(niczym zreszt\u0105 nie umniejszaj\u0105c jego m\u0119sko\u015bci) m\u00f3g\u0142by go kiedy\u015b zaliczy\u0107 do grona \u201cos\u00f3b komentuj\u0105cych\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENiestety dla niego, fakt posiadania bardzo \u003Cem\u003Echujowej osobowo\u015bci\u003C\/em\u003E nie sprawia, \u017ce pan Janusz przestaje by\u0107 osob\u0105.\nJest osob\u0105, czy mu si\u0119 to podoba, czy nie.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWszystkie osoby s\u0105 osobami.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI to nic z\u0142ego by\u0107 osob\u0105.\u003C\/p\u003E","words":719,"readTime":3,"lang":"pl"}}},"blog\/society\/why-everyone-should-have-pronouns-in-their-bio":{"key":"blog\/society\/why-everyone-should-have-pronouns-in-their-bio","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2020-07-18T11:22:03+02:00","publishedAt":"2020-07-18T11:22:03+02:00","group":"nonbinary","category":"blog","subcategory":"society","slug":"why-everyone-should-have-pronouns-in-their-bio"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"why-everyone-should-have-pronouns-in-their-bio","title":"Why all cis allies should have pronouns in their bio","intro":"\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not kidding, everyone should have pronouns in their bio, if it\u0027s safe for them to do so.\nYes, even if you\u0027re cis (= not trans). Yes, even if you\u0027re famous and everyone knows your gender already.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere\u0027s why:\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not kidding, everyone should have pronouns in their bio, if it\u0027s safe for them to do so.\nYes, even if you\u0027re cis (= not trans). Yes, even if you\u0027re famous and everyone knows your gender already.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere\u0027s why:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(\u003Cstrong\u003ENote:\u003C\/strong\u003E If you\u0027re trans and not yet ready to come out, don\u0027t feel pressured!\nThis post is for the cis allies \ud83d\ude09)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause addressing people the way they prefer is just basic decency.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou wouldn\u0027t call Ashley \u201cSamantha\u201d just because you like that name more or because \u201cshe looks like a Samantha to you\u201d.\nAnd even if it does say \u201cSamantha\u201d on her birth certificate, but she absolutely hates that name and prefers \u201cAshley\u201d,\nyou\u0027d respect that, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd it\u0027s the exact same story with pronouns \u2013 if you don\u0027t want to be rude towards someone, please address them properly.\nThe only difference is that we usually \u003Cem\u003Eknow\u003C\/em\u003E each other\u0027s names \u2013 but not pronouns.\nWe introduce ourselves with a name, but not with pronouns. Let\u0027s change that \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/there-are-no-rules-to-being-nonbinary\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-people-carry\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E gender \u2260 expression \u2260 pronouns\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere are people who look manly while being women (either cis on trans),\nthere are he\/him lesbians, there are nonbinary people using binary pronouns for different reasons, etc. etc.\nSeing a picture of someone\u0027s face doesn\u0027t automatically mean you\u0027ll be right when you assume their pronouns.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause of different languages and unisex names\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn English, \u201cCarol\u201d is a feminine name, while Polish the name \u201cKarol\u201d is given to boys.\nIn many languages \u201cAlex\u201d can be short for both \u201cAlexandra\u201d and \u201cAlexander\u201d.\nA person who doesn\u0027t speak Arabic probably won\u0027t know what gender \u201cFarrah\u201d is associated with.\nIf you introduce yourself with just a name (eg. in an email), for many people it might still not be clear how to address you,\nbecause they have no cultural knowledge about what pronouns usually go with that name.\nIt\u0027s easier to just be explicit and not expect them to guess.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause it normalises doing so.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESharing their pronouns is very important for trans, nonbinary and gender nonconforming people.\nAlas, it also exposes us and singles us out.\nBut if cis people do the same, it means the world for us. It makes us feel more confortable, safe and welcome.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause it shows support.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEven if your friends or fans know very well that you\u0027re a cis man, adding that \u201che\/him\u201d to your profile\nstill gives them a very important information \u2013 that you support the trans community.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYour support is important. Especially if you\u0027re well known and influential.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause it reduces confusion.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAre you talking to someone who looks androgynous\nand you don\u0027t know how to address them without offending them?\nNormalisation of giving pronouns and asking about pronous comes to rescue!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause it\u0027s positive and harmless.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESeriously, there are only upsides \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["gender","pronouns","trans","nonbinary","normalise"],"hasMore":true,"image":null,"introLite":"\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not kidding, everyone should have pronouns in their bio, if it\u0027s safe for them to do so.\nYes, even if you\u0027re cis (= not trans). Yes, even if you\u0027re famous and everyone knows your gender already.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere\u0027s why:\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not kidding, everyone should have pronouns in their bio, if it\u0027s safe for them to do so.\nYes, even if you\u0027re cis (= not trans). Yes, even if you\u0027re famous and everyone knows your gender already.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere\u0027s why:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(\u003Cstrong\u003ENote:\u003C\/strong\u003E If you\u0027re trans and not yet ready to come out, don\u0027t feel pressured!\nThis post is for the cis allies \ud83d\ude09)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause addressing people the way they prefer is just basic decency.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou wouldn\u0027t call Ashley \u201cSamantha\u201d just because you like that name more or because \u201cshe looks like a Samantha to you\u201d.\nAnd even if it does say \u201cSamantha\u201d on her birth certificate, but she absolutely hates that name and prefers \u201cAshley\u201d,\nyou\u0027d respect that, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd it\u0027s the exact same story with pronouns \u2013 if you don\u0027t want to be rude towards someone, please address them properly.\nThe only difference is that we usually \u003Cem\u003Eknow\u003C\/em\u003E each other\u0027s names \u2013 but not pronouns.\nWe introduce ourselves with a name, but not with pronouns. Let\u0027s change that \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/there-are-no-rules-to-being-nonbinary.lite\u0022\u003E gender \u2260 expression \u2260 pronouns\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere are people who look manly while being women (either cis on trans),\nthere are he\/him lesbians, there are nonbinary people using binary pronouns for different reasons, etc. etc.\nSeing a picture of someone\u0027s face doesn\u0027t automatically mean you\u0027ll be right when you assume their pronouns.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause of different languages and unisex names\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn English, \u201cCarol\u201d is a feminine name, while Polish the name \u201cKarol\u201d is given to boys.\nIn many languages \u201cAlex\u201d can be short for both \u201cAlexandra\u201d and \u201cAlexander\u201d.\nA person who doesn\u0027t speak Arabic probably won\u0027t know what gender \u201cFarrah\u201d is associated with.\nIf you introduce yourself with just a name (eg. in an email), for many people it might still not be clear how to address you,\nbecause they have no cultural knowledge about what pronouns usually go with that name.\nIt\u0027s easier to just be explicit and not expect them to guess.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause it normalises doing so.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESharing their pronouns is very important for trans, nonbinary and gender nonconforming people.\nAlas, it also exposes us and singles us out.\nBut if cis people do the same, it means the world for us. It makes us feel more confortable, safe and welcome.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause it shows support.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEven if your friends or fans know very well that you\u0027re a cis man, adding that \u201che\/him\u201d to your profile\nstill gives them a very important information \u2013 that you support the trans community.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYour support is important. Especially if you\u0027re well known and influential.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause it reduces confusion.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAre you talking to someone who looks androgynous\nand you don\u0027t know how to address them without offending them?\nNormalisation of giving pronouns and asking about pronous comes to rescue!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBecause it\u0027s positive and harmless.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESeriously, there are only upsides \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E","words":457,"readTime":2,"lang":"en"},"pl":{"slug":"czemu-ka\u017cdy-powinien-mie\u0107-zaimki-w-bio","title":"Czemu ka\u017cda cis osoba sojusznicza powinna mie\u0107 zaimki w bio","intro":"\u003Cp\u003ENie \u017cartuj\u0119. Ka\u017cdx, kto mo\u017ce bezpiecznie to zrobi\u0107, powininx mie\u0107 zaimki w bio.\nTak, nawet je\u015bli jeste\u015b cis (= nie trans). Tak, nawet je\u015bli jeste\u015b s\u0142awnx i ka\u017cdy ju\u017c zna twoj\u0105 p\u0142e\u0107.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOto dlaczego:\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003ENie \u017cartuj\u0119. Ka\u017cdx, kto mo\u017ce bezpiecznie to zrobi\u0107, powininx mie\u0107 zaimki w bio.\nTak, nawet je\u015bli jeste\u015b cis (= nie trans). Tak, nawet je\u015bli jeste\u015b s\u0142awnx i ka\u017cdy ju\u017c zna twoj\u0105 p\u0142e\u0107.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOto dlaczego:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(\u003Cstrong\u003EUwaga:\u003C\/strong\u003E Je\u015bli jeste\u015b osob\u0105 trans i nie jeste\u015b jeszcze gotowx na coming out, nie czuj presji.\nTen artyku\u0142 jest skierowany do cis sojusznik\u00f3w \ud83d\ude09)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c zwracanie si\u0119 do ludzi tak, jak wol\u0105, jest podstawow\u0105 uprzejmo\u015bci\u0105.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENie nazywa\u0142xby\u015b Moniki \u201cMart\u0105\u201d tylko dlatego, \u017ce bardziej ci si\u0119 podoba to imi\u0119,\nalbo dlatego, \u017ce \u201cdla ciebie ona wygl\u0105da jak Marta\u201d.\nNawet je\u015bli mia\u0142aby \u201cMarta\u201d w papierach, ale szczerze nienawidzi\u0142a tego imienia i zamiast niego wybra\u0142a sobie \u201cMonika\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EZ zaimkami jest podobnie \u2013 je\u015bli nie chcesz by\u0107 wobec kogo\u015b niegrzecznx, zwracaj si\u0119 do ludzi tak, jak sobie tego \u017cycz\u0105.\nJedyn\u0105 r\u00f3\u017cnic\u0105 jest to, \u017ce przewa\u017cnie \u003Cem\u003Eznamy\u003C\/em\u003E imi\u0119, lecz nie zaimki.\nPrzestawiamy si\u0119 iminiem, ale nie zaimkami. Czas to zmieni\u0107 \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/there-are-no-rules-to-being-nonbinary\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-people-carry\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E p\u0142e\u0107 \u2260 wygl\u0105d \u2260 zaimki\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIsniej\u0105 ludzie wygl\u0105daj\u0105cy m\u0119sko mimo bycia kobietami (czy to cis czy trans),\nistniej\u0105 he lesbians, istniej\u0105 osoby niebinarne u\u017cywaj\u0105ce binarnych zaimk\u00f3w\n(\u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/genderneutralizacja-polszczyzny\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-people-carry\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E zw\u0142aszcza w j\u0119zykach jak polski\u003C\/a\u003E), itp. itd.\nTo, \u017ce widzisz zdj\u0119cie czyjej\u015b twarzy, nie znaczy \u017ce b\u0119dzie w stanie poprawnie zgadn\u0105\u0107 ich zaimki.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c istniej\u0105 inne j\u0119zyki oraz imiona unisex\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201eKarol\u201d jest imieniem m\u0119skim, ale osoba angloj\u0119zyczna nosz\u0105ca imi\u0119 \u201eCarol\u201d najprawdopodobniej b\u0119dzie kobiet\u0105.\nW wielu j\u0119zykach imi\u0119 \u201eAlex\u201d mo\u017ce by\u0107 skr\u00f3con\u0105 form\u0105 zar\u00f3wno imienia \u201cAlexandra\u201d, jak i \u201cAlexander\u201d.\nOsoba nieznaj\u0105ca arabskiej zapewne nie b\u0119dzie wiedzia\u0142a, z kt\u00f3r\u0105 p\u0142ci\u0105 jest kojarzone imi\u0119 \u201eFarrah\u201d.\nJe\u015bli przedstawiasz si\u0119 wy\u0142\u0105cznie imieniem (np. w emailu), wiele os\u00f3b nie b\u0119dzie w stanie zgadn\u0105\u0107,\njakie zaimki przewa\u017cnie id\u0105 z tym imieniem w parze w Twoim j\u0119zyku i Twojej kulturze.\nPro\u015bciej jest po prostu przekaza\u0107 t\u0119 informacj\u0119 wprost, zamiast zmusza\u0107 rozm\u00f3wc\u00f3w do zgadywania.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c to normalizuje dzielenie si\u0119 zaimkami.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDzielenie si\u0119 swoimi zaimkami jest niezmiernie istotne dla os\u00f3b transp\u0142ciowych, niebinarnych i gender nonconforming.\nNiestety, to r\u00f3wnie\u017c nas eksponuje i wystawia na widok.\nLecz je\u015bli ludzie cis robi\u0105 to samo, jest to dla nas niezmiernie wa\u017cne.\nSprawia, \u017ce czujemy si\u0119 bardziej komfortowo i bezpiecznie.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c to pokazuje wsparcie.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENawet je\u015bli twoi znajomi i fani \u015bwietnie wiedz\u0105, \u017ce jeste\u015b cis facetem, to dodanie \u201con\/jego\u201d w profilu\ni tak daje im bardzo wa\u017cn\u0105 informacj\u0119 \u2013 \u017ce wspierasz osoby trans oraz tych, kt\u00f3rzy nie s\u0105 pewni swojej p\u0142ci.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETwoje wsparcie jest wa\u017cne. Zw\u0142aszcza, je\u015bli jeste\u015b s\u0142awnx i wp\u0142ywowx.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c to pomaga unikn\u0105\u0107 nieporozumie\u0144.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERozmawiasz z kim\u015b wygl\u0105daj\u0105cym androgynicznie i nie wiesz, jak si\u0119 do nix zwr\u00f3ci\u0107, by jex nie obrazi\u0107?\nNormalizacja podawania zaimk\u00f3w i pytania o zaimki na pewno w takich sytuacjach pomo\u017ce!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c jest to pozytywne i nieszkodliwe.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESerio, same zalety bez wad. \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["gender","p\u0142e\u0107","pronouns","zaimki","trans","nonbinary","niebinarno\u015b\u0107","normalizowanie"],"hasMore":true,"image":null,"introLite":"\u003Cp\u003ENie \u017cartuj\u0119. Ka\u017cdx, kto mo\u017ce bezpiecznie to zrobi\u0107, powininx mie\u0107 zaimki w bio.\nTak, nawet je\u015bli jeste\u015b cis (= nie trans). Tak, nawet je\u015bli jeste\u015b s\u0142awnx i ka\u017cdy ju\u017c zna twoj\u0105 p\u0142e\u0107.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOto dlaczego:\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cp\u003ENie \u017cartuj\u0119. Ka\u017cdx, kto mo\u017ce bezpiecznie to zrobi\u0107, powininx mie\u0107 zaimki w bio.\nTak, nawet je\u015bli jeste\u015b cis (= nie trans). Tak, nawet je\u015bli jeste\u015b s\u0142awnx i ka\u017cdy ju\u017c zna twoj\u0105 p\u0142e\u0107.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOto dlaczego:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(\u003Cstrong\u003EUwaga:\u003C\/strong\u003E Je\u015bli jeste\u015b osob\u0105 trans i nie jeste\u015b jeszcze gotowx na coming out, nie czuj presji.\nTen artyku\u0142 jest skierowany do cis sojusznik\u00f3w \ud83d\ude09)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c zwracanie si\u0119 do ludzi tak, jak wol\u0105, jest podstawow\u0105 uprzejmo\u015bci\u0105.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENie nazywa\u0142xby\u015b Moniki \u201cMart\u0105\u201d tylko dlatego, \u017ce bardziej ci si\u0119 podoba to imi\u0119,\nalbo dlatego, \u017ce \u201cdla ciebie ona wygl\u0105da jak Marta\u201d.\nNawet je\u015bli mia\u0142aby \u201cMarta\u201d w papierach, ale szczerze nienawidzi\u0142a tego imienia i zamiast niego wybra\u0142a sobie \u201cMonika\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EZ zaimkami jest podobnie \u2013 je\u015bli nie chcesz by\u0107 wobec kogo\u015b niegrzecznx, zwracaj si\u0119 do ludzi tak, jak sobie tego \u017cycz\u0105.\nJedyn\u0105 r\u00f3\u017cnic\u0105 jest to, \u017ce przewa\u017cnie \u003Cem\u003Eznamy\u003C\/em\u003E imi\u0119, lecz nie zaimki.\nPrzestawiamy si\u0119 iminiem, ale nie zaimkami. Czas to zmieni\u0107 \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/there-are-no-rules-to-being-nonbinary.lite\u0022\u003E p\u0142e\u0107 \u2260 wygl\u0105d \u2260 zaimki\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIsniej\u0105 ludzie wygl\u0105daj\u0105cy m\u0119sko mimo bycia kobietami (czy to cis czy trans),\nistniej\u0105 he lesbians, istniej\u0105 osoby niebinarne u\u017cywaj\u0105ce binarnych zaimk\u00f3w\n(\u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/genderneutralizacja-polszczyzny.lite\u0022\u003E zw\u0142aszcza w j\u0119zykach jak polski\u003C\/a\u003E), itp. itd.\nTo, \u017ce widzisz zdj\u0119cie czyjej\u015b twarzy, nie znaczy \u017ce b\u0119dzie w stanie poprawnie zgadn\u0105\u0107 ich zaimki.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c istniej\u0105 inne j\u0119zyki oraz imiona unisex\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201eKarol\u201d jest imieniem m\u0119skim, ale osoba angloj\u0119zyczna nosz\u0105ca imi\u0119 \u201eCarol\u201d najprawdopodobniej b\u0119dzie kobiet\u0105.\nW wielu j\u0119zykach imi\u0119 \u201eAlex\u201d mo\u017ce by\u0107 skr\u00f3con\u0105 form\u0105 zar\u00f3wno imienia \u201cAlexandra\u201d, jak i \u201cAlexander\u201d.\nOsoba nieznaj\u0105ca arabskiej zapewne nie b\u0119dzie wiedzia\u0142a, z kt\u00f3r\u0105 p\u0142ci\u0105 jest kojarzone imi\u0119 \u201eFarrah\u201d.\nJe\u015bli przedstawiasz si\u0119 wy\u0142\u0105cznie imieniem (np. w emailu), wiele os\u00f3b nie b\u0119dzie w stanie zgadn\u0105\u0107,\njakie zaimki przewa\u017cnie id\u0105 z tym imieniem w parze w Twoim j\u0119zyku i Twojej kulturze.\nPro\u015bciej jest po prostu przekaza\u0107 t\u0119 informacj\u0119 wprost, zamiast zmusza\u0107 rozm\u00f3wc\u00f3w do zgadywania.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c to normalizuje dzielenie si\u0119 zaimkami.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDzielenie si\u0119 swoimi zaimkami jest niezmiernie istotne dla os\u00f3b transp\u0142ciowych, niebinarnych i gender nonconforming.\nNiestety, to r\u00f3wnie\u017c nas eksponuje i wystawia na widok.\nLecz je\u015bli ludzie cis robi\u0105 to samo, jest to dla nas niezmiernie wa\u017cne.\nSprawia, \u017ce czujemy si\u0119 bardziej komfortowo i bezpiecznie.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c to pokazuje wsparcie.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENawet je\u015bli twoi znajomi i fani \u015bwietnie wiedz\u0105, \u017ce jeste\u015b cis facetem, to dodanie \u201con\/jego\u201d w profilu\ni tak daje im bardzo wa\u017cn\u0105 informacj\u0119 \u2013 \u017ce wspierasz osoby trans oraz tych, kt\u00f3rzy nie s\u0105 pewni swojej p\u0142ci.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETwoje wsparcie jest wa\u017cne. Zw\u0142aszcza, je\u015bli jeste\u015b s\u0142awnx i wp\u0142ywowx.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c to pomaga unikn\u0105\u0107 nieporozumie\u0144.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERozmawiasz z kim\u015b wygl\u0105daj\u0105cym androgynicznie i nie wiesz, jak si\u0119 do nix zwr\u00f3ci\u0107, by jex nie obrazi\u0107?\nNormalizacja podawania zaimk\u00f3w i pytania o zaimki na pewno w takich sytuacjach pomo\u017ce!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPoniewa\u017c jest to pozytywne i nieszkodliwe.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESerio, same zalety bez wad. \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E","words":506,"readTime":3,"lang":"pl"}}},"blog\/life\/gender-is-over":{"key":"blog\/life\/gender-is-over","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2020-03-24T21:09:31+01:00","publishedAt":"2020-04-04T16:32:00+02:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"gender-is-over"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"gender-is-over","title":"Gender is over","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n         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to culture and from time to time.\n\u201cAsian woman\u201d, \u201cWestern woman\u201d, \u201cMedieval European woman\u201d, etc. etc.\nare all made to follow different set of rules.\nPink used to be a colour associated with boys not girls (because of being close to bloody red).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.merriam-webster.com\/dictionary\/gender\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Dictionaries define gender\u003C\/a\u003E\nas \u003Cem\u003E\u201cthe behavioral, cultural, or psychological traits typically associated with one sex\u201d\u003C\/em\u003E.\nBut I would go one step further: it\u0027s not just the \u201ctraits\u201d that are \u201cassociated\u201d.\nIt\u0027s rules that are enforced.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBe it by getting physically beaten up for \u201clooking like a faggot\u201d,\nbe it by being publicly riddiculed for \u201cbeing too butch\u201d,\nor be it by simply being quietly frowned upon \u2013\nthe society has its ways to make people look and behave the way their designated box says they should.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd yes, I know, there\u0027s plenty of people being very comfortable in their box.\nAnd there\u0027s many who know they\u0027ll be happy and fitting once they transition to the other box.\nBut wouldn\u0027t it be simpler if we just \u003Cem\u003Egot rid of the boxes\u003C\/em\u003E?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust let people be people. Let us be ourselves.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEver since I put the \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/nonbinary\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-tag\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E nonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E label on my gender,\never since I started \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Gender_bender\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E gender bending\u003C\/a\u003E,\never since I started experimenting with my \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/pansexuality\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-tag\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E pansexuality\u003C\/a\u003E,\nI started realising how \u003Cem\u003Emade up\u003C\/em\u003E gender is.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe don\u0027t choose our partners based solely on the mere existence of a penis or a vagina, right?\nWe like them for their character, skills, sense of humour,\nwe\u0027re physically attracted to their body type, body hair, muscles, face, hair, makeup, etc. etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOur appearance and behaviour, our romantic and sexual attraction\n\u2013 are way more complex than just those simple binary categories: man and woman, gay, straight and bi...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESure, it\u0027s a decent approximation, and I still use them to describe myself and other people.\nAnd I\u0027m not trying to invalidate anyone\u0027s identity.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI just wanted to share how much liberty it gave me when I started to just\n\u003Cem\u003Ecare about those labels less\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not enforcing gender rules on anyone. I\u0027m not trying to follow them myself.\nIn my mind \u2013 gender is over \ud83d\udcaa\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["gender","nonbinary","agender","genderfuck","gender bender","pansexual","pansexuality","lgbtq"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lady-in-red_small.jpg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lady-in-red_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lady-in-red_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022320\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor me, gender is over.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENot in a sad, \u201cGame Over\u201d way.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn a happy, \u201cMission accomplished\u201d way.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lady-in-red_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lady-in-red_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022320\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor me, gender is over.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENot in a sad, \u201cGame Over\u201d way.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn a happy, \u201cMission accomplished\u201d way.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBecause for me gender is just a set of rules and regulations,\nbased on someone\u0027s perception of what kind of genitals you might have.\nIf people think that you have this or that in your pants,\nthey\u0027ll also expect you to get a specific type of job,\nwear a specific amount of makup, have specific amount of body hair in specific places,\nwear specific clothes, behave in a specfic manner, play with specific toys...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe know it\u0027s all made up rules,\nfor instance because it differs from culture to culture and from time to time.\n\u201cAsian woman\u201d, \u201cWestern woman\u201d, \u201cMedieval European woman\u201d, etc. etc.\nare all made to follow different set of rules.\nPink used to be a colour associated with boys not girls (because of being close to bloody red).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.merriam-webster.com\/dictionary\/gender\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Dictionaries define gender\u003C\/a\u003E\nas \u003Cem\u003E\u201cthe behavioral, cultural, or psychological traits typically associated with one sex\u201d\u003C\/em\u003E.\nBut I would go one step further: it\u0027s not just the \u201ctraits\u201d that are \u201cassociated\u201d.\nIt\u0027s rules that are enforced.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBe it by getting physically beaten up for \u201clooking like a faggot\u201d,\nbe it by being publicly riddiculed for \u201cbeing too butch\u201d,\nor be it by simply being quietly frowned upon \u2013\nthe society has its ways to make people look and behave the way their designated box says they should.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd yes, I know, there\u0027s plenty of people being very comfortable in their box.\nAnd there\u0027s many who know they\u0027ll be happy and fitting once they transition to the other box.\nBut wouldn\u0027t it be simpler if we just \u003Cem\u003Egot rid of the boxes\u003C\/em\u003E?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust let people be people. Let us be ourselves.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEver since I put the \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/nonbinary\u0022\u003E nonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E label on my gender,\never since I started \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Gender_bender\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E gender bending\u003C\/a\u003E,\never since I started experimenting with my \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/pansexuality\u0022\u003E pansexuality\u003C\/a\u003E,\nI started realising how \u003Cem\u003Emade up\u003C\/em\u003E gender is.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe don\u0027t choose our partners based solely on the mere existence of a penis or a vagina, right?\nWe like them for their character, skills, sense of humour,\nwe\u0027re physically attracted to their body type, body hair, muscles, face, hair, makeup, etc. etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOur appearance and behaviour, our romantic and sexual attraction\n\u2013 are way more complex than just those simple binary categories: man and woman, gay, straight and bi...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESure, it\u0027s a decent approximation, and I still use them to describe myself and other people.\nAnd I\u0027m not trying to invalidate anyone\u0027s identity.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI just wanted to share how much liberty it gave me when I started to just\n\u003Cem\u003Ecare about those labels less\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not enforcing gender rules on anyone. 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data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/rules-nonbinary_big.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022A picture of myself\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022696\u0022 height=\u0022696\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/IAmNonbinary\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E #IAmNonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E is trending on Twitter.\nNext to beautiful pictures and inspiring stories of nonbinary folks,\nthere\u2019s also tons of hateful replies. Apart from the usual phobic comments, there\u2019s also some idiotic requirements.\nHaters reproach people that they aren\u2019t andogynous enough, or that they aren\u2019t using \u201cthey\/them\u201d pronouns, etc, etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOh for fuck\u2019s sake. You\u2019re missing the entire point.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENonbinary isn\u2019t about creating a third box, next to \u201cmale\u201d and \u201cfemale\u201d. It\u2019s about getting out of the box.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s in the name: \u201cnonbinary\u201d = beyond the binary, beyond the two usual \u201coptions\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to get it wrong as well. I thought that this word only applies to\nthose people that you see on the street and can\u2019t help but wonder, if they\u2019re a boy or a girl.\nThat it\u2019s only for people like Jonathan Van Ness,\nwho dare to rock high heels and gender bend the hell out of their wardrobe.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s not.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s just about looking at what the society considers \u201cmale\u201d and \u201cfemale\u201d, and feeling that you\u2019re neither.\nThat\u2019s all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EToday I realised that on my \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/fuck-you-facebook\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-computer-speaker\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E inactive Facebook account\u003C\/a\u003E\nI\u2019ve put gender \u201cdoesn\u2019t matter\u201d and pronoun \u201cneutral\u201d many, many years ago.\nBut only a few months ago I\u2019ve finally \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/am-i-non-binary\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-heartbeat\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E dared to call myself \u201cnonbinary\u201d\u003C\/a\u003E.\nHow stupid of me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou can \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Potathoe44\/status\/1215722043481690112\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E be AFAB and wear makeup\u003C\/a\u003E,\nyou can \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/talcotts\/status\/1215755342006620166\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E be AMAB and have a beard\u003C\/a\u003E.\nYou \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/just_misha00\/status\/1215397522451107841\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E dont\u2019 have to be adrongynous\u003C\/a\u003E,\nyou \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/nonbinarythings\/status\/1215410195435835392\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E don\u2019t have to use them\/they pronouns\u003C\/a\u003E.\nNo worries, \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/confusedophan\/status\/1216063380072673281\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E other enbies won\u2019t think of you as any less nonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cstrong\u003EGender \u2260 expression \u2260 pronouns.\u003C\/strong\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe call people \u201cthey\u201d, even in singular, when we either don\u2019t know their gender or if it isn\u2019t important.\nThat doesn\u2019t mean we think they\u2019re nonbinary.\nWe call ships \u201cshe\u201d (well, some people do, I think it\u2019s stupid),\nwhich doesn\u2019t mean that ships are female.\nWhen a woman wears pants (unthinkable two centuries ago), she doesn\u2019t become a man.\nWhen a clergyman wears a cassock (basically a dress), he doesn\u2019t become a woman.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou know why? Yes, because gender \u2260 expression \u2260 pronouns.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo please stop telling nonbinary people how to be nonbinary. Nobody is \u201cnot nonbinary enough\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd while we\u2019re at it: stop telling women how to be women and stop telling men how to be men.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe\u2019re all valid. We\u2019re all \u003Cem\u003Eenough\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["nonbinary","non-binary","gender","norms","rules","pronouns","phobia","hate"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/rules-nonbinary_small.jpg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/rules-nonbinary_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/rules-nonbinary_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022A picture of myself\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022240\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/IAmNonbinary\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E #IAmNonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E is trending on Twitter.\nNext to beautiful pictures and inspiring stories of nonbinary folks,\nthere\u2019s also tons of hateful replies. Apart from the usual phobic comments, there\u2019s also some idiotic requirements.\nHaters reproach people that they aren\u2019t andogynous enough, or that they aren\u2019t using \u201cthey\/them\u201d pronouns, etc, etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOh for fuck\u2019s sake. You\u2019re missing the entire point.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/rules-nonbinary_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/rules-nonbinary_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022A picture of myself\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022240\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/IAmNonbinary\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E #IAmNonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E is trending on Twitter.\nNext to beautiful pictures and inspiring stories of nonbinary folks,\nthere\u2019s also tons of hateful replies. Apart from the usual phobic comments, there\u2019s also some idiotic requirements.\nHaters reproach people that they aren\u2019t andogynous enough, or that they aren\u2019t using \u201cthey\/them\u201d pronouns, etc, etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOh for fuck\u2019s sake. You\u2019re missing the entire point.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENonbinary isn\u2019t about creating a third box, next to \u201cmale\u201d and \u201cfemale\u201d. It\u2019s about getting out of the box.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s in the name: \u201cnonbinary\u201d = beyond the binary, beyond the two usual \u201coptions\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to get it wrong as well. I thought that this word only applies to\nthose people that you see on the street and can\u2019t help but wonder, if they\u2019re a boy or a girl.\nThat it\u2019s only for people like Jonathan Van Ness,\nwho dare to rock high heels and gender bend the hell out of their wardrobe.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s not.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s just about looking at what the society considers \u201cmale\u201d and \u201cfemale\u201d, and feeling that you\u2019re neither.\nThat\u2019s all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EToday I realised that on my \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/fuck-you-facebook.lite\u0022\u003E inactive Facebook account\u003C\/a\u003E\nI\u2019ve put gender \u201cdoesn\u2019t matter\u201d and pronoun \u201cneutral\u201d many, many years ago.\nBut only a few months ago I\u2019ve finally \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/am-i-non-binary.lite\u0022\u003E dared to call myself \u201cnonbinary\u201d\u003C\/a\u003E.\nHow stupid of me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou can \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/Potathoe44\/status\/1215722043481690112\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E be AFAB and wear makeup\u003C\/a\u003E,\nyou can \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/talcotts\/status\/1215755342006620166\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E be AMAB and have a beard\u003C\/a\u003E.\nYou \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/just_misha00\/status\/1215397522451107841\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E dont\u2019 have to be adrongynous\u003C\/a\u003E,\nyou \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/nonbinarythings\/status\/1215410195435835392\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E don\u2019t have to use them\/they pronouns\u003C\/a\u003E.\nNo worries, \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/confusedophan\/status\/1216063380072673281\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E other enbies won\u2019t think of you as any less nonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cstrong\u003EGender \u2260 expression \u2260 pronouns.\u003C\/strong\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe call people \u201cthey\u201d, even in singular, when we either don\u2019t know their gender or if it isn\u2019t important.\nThat doesn\u2019t mean we think they\u2019re nonbinary.\nWe call ships \u201cshe\u201d (well, some people do, I think it\u2019s stupid),\nwhich doesn\u2019t mean that ships are female.\nWhen a woman wears pants (unthinkable two centuries ago), she doesn\u2019t become a man.\nWhen a clergyman wears a cassock (basically a dress), he doesn\u2019t become a woman.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou know why? Yes, because gender \u2260 expression \u2260 pronouns.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo please stop telling nonbinary people how to be nonbinary. Nobody is \u201cnot nonbinary enough\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd while we\u2019re at it: stop telling women how to be women and stop telling men how to be men.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe\u2019re all valid. We\u2019re all \u003Cem\u003Eenough\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E","words":408,"readTime":2,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/society\/too-queer-to-represent-queers":{"key":"blog\/society\/too-queer-to-represent-queers","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2019-12-15T17:21:28+01:00","publishedAt":"2019-12-16T22:36:00+01:00","group":"nonbinary","category":"blog","subcategory":"society","slug":"too-queer-to-represent-queers"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"too-queer-to-represent-queers","title":"Too queer to represent queers?","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lgbalien_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022720\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lgbalien_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022720\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s sad, being a member of a minoritised community and seeing some of its members turn against the others. Like in case of that \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/natancombigirl\/status\/1205554427324719106\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E twitter discussion\u003C\/a\u003E on whether or not \u201cweird looking\u201d people and \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/blog\/too-queer-to-represent-queers\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E drag queens\u003C\/a\u003E should be allowed to represent us, or even mention publicly that they are queer, for fear of giving us a bad reputation.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to be that asshole who answers \u201cno\u201d to this question.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lgbalien_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022600\u0022 height=\u0022900\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lgbalien_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022600\u0022 height=\u0022900\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/natancombigirl\/status\/1205554427324719106\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\n                        \u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E\n                        twitter.com\/natancombigirl\/status\/1205554427324719106\n                    \u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s sad, being a member of a minoritised community and seeing some of its members turn against the others. Like in case of that \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/natancombigirl\/status\/1205554427324719106\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E twitter discussion\u003C\/a\u003E on whether or not \u201cweird looking\u201d people and \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/blog\/too-queer-to-represent-queers\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E drag queens\u003C\/a\u003E should be allowed to represent us, or even mention publicly that they are queer, for fear of giving us a bad reputation.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to be that asshole who answers \u201cno\u201d to this question.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to be \u003Cem\u003Ethat\u003C\/em\u003E gay guy who thought that those \u201ceffeminate\u201d of us shouldn\u2019t really talk loud about their homosexuality \u2013 cause they would only strengthen the stereotypes and make the lives of \u201cus, normal gays\u201d harder to live.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to be \u003Cem\u003Ethat\u003C\/em\u003E gay guy who enjoyed drag queen shows and who liked his queen friends personally, but who advocated against them being in drag when they represent the whole LGBTQ+ movement to the rest of the world. I didn\u2019t want the world to think that \u003Cem\u003Eall\u003C\/em\u003E of us are like this.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt was so wrong of me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBecause our strength comes from diversity. Because our fight doesn\u2019t make sense if we only fight to be safe, and not for the ability to be ourselves. Because our fight doesn\u2019t make sense if we don\u2019t fight for \u003Cem\u003Eall\u003C\/em\u003E of us.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI wasn\u2019t just restricting others \u2013 most of all, I was restricting myself. I\u2019m a nonbinary person, but I\u2019ve spent a huge chunk of my life \u003Cem\u003Epretending\u003C\/em\u003E to be a man, instead of living a fabulous life free of gender norms. All just to make some bigots more \u003Cem\u003Ecomfortable with my existence\u003C\/em\u003E. Well, fuck them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you want to make the oppressed shape themselves in a way that the oppressor wants them to, you\u2019re playing by their rules, and you\u2019ve already lost. 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Like in case of that \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/natancombigirl\/status\/1205554427324719106\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E twitter discussion\u003C\/a\u003E on whether or not \u201cweird looking\u201d people and \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/blog\/too-queer-to-represent-queers\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E drag queens\u003C\/a\u003E should be allowed to represent us, or even mention publicly that they are queer, for fear of giving us a bad reputation.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to be that asshole who answers \u201cno\u201d to this question.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lgbalien_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lgbalien_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/natancombigirl\/status\/1205554427324719106\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Etwitter.com\/natancombigirl\/status\/1205554427324719106\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s sad, being a member of a minoritised community and seeing some of its members turn against the others. Like in case of that \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/natancombigirl\/status\/1205554427324719106\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E twitter discussion\u003C\/a\u003E on whether or not \u201cweird looking\u201d people and \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/blog\/too-queer-to-represent-queers\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E drag queens\u003C\/a\u003E should be allowed to represent us, or even mention publicly that they are queer, for fear of giving us a bad reputation.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to be that asshole who answers \u201cno\u201d to this question.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to be \u003Cem\u003Ethat\u003C\/em\u003E gay guy who thought that those \u201ceffeminate\u201d of us shouldn\u2019t really talk loud about their homosexuality \u2013 cause they would only strengthen the stereotypes and make the lives of \u201cus, normal gays\u201d harder to live.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to be \u003Cem\u003Ethat\u003C\/em\u003E gay guy who enjoyed drag queen shows and who liked his queen friends personally, but who advocated against them being in drag when they represent the whole LGBTQ+ movement to the rest of the world. I didn\u2019t want the world to think that \u003Cem\u003Eall\u003C\/em\u003E of us are like this.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt was so wrong of me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBecause our strength comes from diversity. Because our fight doesn\u2019t make sense if we only fight to be safe, and not for the ability to be ourselves. Because our fight doesn\u2019t make sense if we don\u2019t fight for \u003Cem\u003Eall\u003C\/em\u003E of us.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI wasn\u2019t just restricting others \u2013 most of all, I was restricting myself. I\u2019m a nonbinary person, but I\u2019ve spent a huge chunk of my life \u003Cem\u003Epretending\u003C\/em\u003E to be a man, instead of living a fabulous life free of gender norms. All just to make some bigots more \u003Cem\u003Ecomfortable with my existence\u003C\/em\u003E. Well, fuck them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you want to make the oppressed shape themselves in a way that the oppressor wants them to, you\u2019re playing by their rules, and you\u2019ve already lost. You\u2019re working towards a \u201ccompromise\u201d between bigotry and being oneself, between hatred and happiness \u2013 a compromise that makes everyone unhappy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u2019re valid just the way you are. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u2019re really worrying so much about the \u003Cem\u003Eimage\u003C\/em\u003E of the community, show the world an image of queer people coming together hand in hand, as \u201cstrange\u201d as they might be, united in diversity \u2013 and not fighting each other who\u2019s the \u003Cem\u003Eright amount of gay\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E","words":382,"readTime":2,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/comingoutday":{"key":"blog\/life\/comingoutday","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2019-10-11T15:25:02+02:00","publishedAt":"2019-10-11T15:20:00+02:00","group":"nonbinary","category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"comingoutday"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"comingoutday","title":"#ComingOutDay","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_small.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022640\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg 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Most people still aren\u2019t.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen I first came out, it was scary, risky and dangerous. But I did it. It got worse, but then it got better. Being truly myself made it better.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u2019re scared to come out, remember:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Eyou don\u2019t have to if you\u2019re not ready \u2764\ufe0f\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Eyour global queer family will always be there for you \u2764\ufe0f\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Eyou\u2019re perfect the way you are  \u2764\ufe0f\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/volt-debate_big.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022720\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg 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Internet, with all the inclusive Netflix shows, with all the celebrities coming out... Those kids will educate their parents, teachers, friends...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u2019s why your coming out is so important. It\u2019s a snowball effect. More visibility \u21d2 more acceptance \u21d2 it\u2019s easier to come out \u21d2 more people do so \u21d2 more visibility.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EInclusive society is inevitable! \u2764\ufe0f\ud83e\udde1\ud83d\udc9b\ud83d\udc9a\ud83d\udc99\ud83d\udc9c\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHappy \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/ComingOutDay\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E #ComingOutDay\u003C\/a\u003E!\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["coming out","diversity","sexuality","visibility","nonbinary"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_small.jpeg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_big.jpeg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_mini.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022320\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/ComingOutDay\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E #ComingOutDay\u003C\/a\u003E, so I feel like I should tell you something...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere it goes...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEkhm...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019m queer af \ud83d\ude31\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI know, I know, but please try to contain your shock \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_big.jpeg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_mini.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022320\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/ComingOutDay\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E #ComingOutDay\u003C\/a\u003E, so I feel like I should tell you something...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere it goes...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEkhm...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019m queer af \ud83d\ude31\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI know, I know, but please try to contain your shock \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut in all seriousness: I\u2019m so lucky and privileged that I can just say it out in the open. Most people still aren\u2019t.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen I first came out, it was scary, risky and dangerous. But I did it. It got worse, but then it got better. Being truly myself made it better.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u2019re scared to come out, remember:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Eyou don\u2019t have to if you\u2019re not ready \u2764\ufe0f\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Eyour global queer family will always be there for you \u2764\ufe0f\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Eyou\u2019re perfect the way you are  \u2764\ufe0f\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/volt-debate_big.jpeg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/volt-debate_mini.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022180\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat hit me most at \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/events\/388058368527094\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E yesterday\u2019s debate\u003C\/a\u003E, was a story of a workshop where 12-13yo kids were totally open about their identity, but their teacher just couldn\u2019t understand \u201cthat pansexual and nonbinary nonsense\u201d \u2013 despite her being a lesbian herself.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow come kids are better educated, more open and more self-aware than their teachers?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESimple: because now they grow up with the Internet, with all the inclusive Netflix shows, with all the celebrities coming out... Those kids will educate their parents, teachers, friends...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u2019s why your coming out is so important. It\u2019s a snowball effect. More visibility \u21d2 more acceptance \u21d2 it\u2019s easier to come out \u21d2 more people do so \u21d2 more visibility.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EInclusive society is inevitable! \u2764\ufe0f\ud83e\udde1\ud83d\udc9b\ud83d\udc9a\ud83d\udc99\ud83d\udc9c\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHappy \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/ComingOutDay\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E #ComingOutDay\u003C\/a\u003E!\u003C\/p\u003E","words":241,"readTime":null,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/am-i-non-binary":{"key":"blog\/life\/am-i-non-binary","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2019-09-18T10:19:54+02:00","publishedAt":"2019-09-28T16:54:00+02:00","group":"nonbinary","category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"am-i-non-binary"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"am-i-non-binary","title":"Am I nonbinary?","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-in-rainbows_small.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022640\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-in-rainbows_small.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022640\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENo, honestly, am I? 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I wanna know \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOne thing is, in general, I don\u2019t think gender should be \u003Cem\u003Ea thing\u003C\/em\u003E. It\u2019s just some set of stupid arbitrary rules telling you what are you allowed to do and what not depending on which genitals you were born with. I don\u2019t want to follow those rules. I \u003Cem\u003Erefuse\u003C\/em\u003E to follow them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWomen used to have no right to vote. Women used to not be allowed to wear pants. But they refused to play by those rules \u2013 and now, surprise surprise, turns out having a penis is not a requirement to vote or to wear pants anymore! Who would have thought!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI went to a Pride Week showing of \u201cThe Danish Girl\u201d this Monday, followed by a panel discussion with three transgender people who told the audience about their experience of being trans in the Netherlands. What struck me is how much their lives would\u2019ve been easier if only our society didn\u2019t have those strange gender rules. No one would mock that trans guy as a child for having a \u201cboy haircut\u201d or riding a \u201cboy bike\u201d if there was no such thing as a \u201cboy haircut\u201d or \u201cboy bike\u201d. Our society has put gender labels on mundane things like toys, books, movies or haircuts and now it hates people who don\u2019t comply. That\u2019s crazy and hurtful!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESumming up, I really believe that breaking all the idiotic gender-related rules that our society has made up is a right thing to do.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut \u003Cem\u003Edo\u003C\/em\u003E I break them?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, that\u2019s why I\u2019m not sure if calling myself nonbinary would be \u003Cem\u003Eokay\u003C\/em\u003E... I just look like a guy. That\u2019s all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI mean, I have a friend that looks a different gender in each picture of their dating profile. I see Jonathan van Ness rocking their heels and long hair... And then there\u2019s me \u2013 a guy that looks like a guy. I sometimes feel that if I did call myself nonbinary, I\u2019d be all like \u003Cem\u003Ehow dare I\u003C\/em\u003E do that?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut also, I don\u2019t always look 100% like a guy. I paint my nails every once in a while when I feel like it \u2013 and I\u2019m gradually getting more and more comfortable wearing shiny pink nail polish in public. On some occasions (mostly Pride) I wear some makeup on my face as well.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_big.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022525\u0022 height=\u0022700\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_big.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022525\u0022 height=\u0022700\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOn the other hand, I don\u2019t shop in the \u201cwomen\u2019s\u201d part of stores, I don\u2019t wear heels or shirts or dresses. I \u003Cem\u003Eam\u003C\/em\u003E planning to buy some, but I probably won\u2019t dare to wear them in public for quite a while anyway.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI use the \u201cmen\u2019s\u201d locker room at the gym and the \u201cmen\u2019s\u201d restroom at work, no matter how inclusive for gender nonconforming people that restroom might be. I don\u2019t think I\u2019m ready for the confusion \/ confrontation it might possibly spark... Does it make me conforming after all?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/cic-gender_big.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022941\u0022 height=\u0022680\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/cic-gender_big.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022941\u0022 height=\u0022680\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPeople refer to me as he\/him, but I honestly wouldn\u2019t mind she\/her or they\/them. I really, really, don\u2019t care. In my native Polish, which distinguishes gender in many more ways than English, I started using artificial, gender-neutral forms or words (\u201dchcia\u0142\u2090bym\u201d instead of male \u201cchcia\u0142bym\u201d or femal \u201cchcia\u0142abym\u201d, \u201czrobi\u0142\u00e6m\u201d instead of male \u201czrobi\u0142em\u201d or female \u201czrobi\u0142am\u201d). Oh, and I also use female emojis \ud83e\udd37\ud83c\udffc\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t do that because I don\u2019t feel like a man anymore or because I feel like a woman, or even anywhere in between.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI do that because I truly hate the very distinction of \u201cfemininity\u201d and \u201cmasculinity\u201d. Skirts should be just yet another type of clothing one could wear, and not a political statement or a reason to be beaten up in the street. Makeup should be just a time-consuming way to look better \u2013 not something reserved to a particular half of the population depending on the contents of their underwear.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t care about being or not being a particular gender. I care about being \u003Cem\u003Efree\u003C\/em\u003E from caring about those stupid rules.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd you know what? Is a person not gay if they\u2019re still in the closet? Are they not gay if they are still a virgin? Of course not! Then why do I care so much if I am non-conforming \u003Cem\u003Eenough\u003C\/em\u003E to call myself so?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI am angry at the world for attempting to put us all into binary categories \u2013 and I don\u2019t wanna stay in one of them anymore.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo yes, I will be putting \u201cenby\u201d in my bio \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["dress","enby","femininity","gender","labels","makeup","masculinity","nail polish","non-binary","nonbinary","skirt","social norms"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-in-rainbows_small.jpg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-in-rainbows_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-in-rainbows_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022320\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENo, honestly, am I? I wanna know \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-in-rainbows_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-in-rainbows_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022320\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENo, honestly, am I? I wanna know \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOne thing is, in general, I don\u2019t think gender should be \u003Cem\u003Ea thing\u003C\/em\u003E. It\u2019s just some set of stupid arbitrary rules telling you what are you allowed to do and what not depending on which genitals you were born with. I don\u2019t want to follow those rules. I \u003Cem\u003Erefuse\u003C\/em\u003E to follow them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWomen used to have no right to vote. Women used to not be allowed to wear pants. But they refused to play by those rules \u2013 and now, surprise surprise, turns out having a penis is not a requirement to vote or to wear pants anymore! Who would have thought!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI went to a Pride Week showing of \u201cThe Danish Girl\u201d this Monday, followed by a panel discussion with three transgender people who told the audience about their experience of being trans in the Netherlands. What struck me is how much their lives would\u2019ve been easier if only our society didn\u2019t have those strange gender rules. No one would mock that trans guy as a child for having a \u201cboy haircut\u201d or riding a \u201cboy bike\u201d if there was no such thing as a \u201cboy haircut\u201d or \u201cboy bike\u201d. Our society has put gender labels on mundane things like toys, books, movies or haircuts and now it hates people who don\u2019t comply. That\u2019s crazy and hurtful!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESumming up, I really believe that breaking all the idiotic gender-related rules that our society has made up is a right thing to do.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut \u003Cem\u003Edo\u003C\/em\u003E I break them?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, that\u2019s why I\u2019m not sure if calling myself nonbinary would be \u003Cem\u003Eokay\u003C\/em\u003E... I just look like a guy. That\u2019s all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI mean, I have a friend that looks a different gender in each picture of their dating profile. I see Jonathan van Ness rocking their heels and long hair... And then there\u2019s me \u2013 a guy that looks like a guy. I sometimes feel that if I did call myself nonbinary, I\u2019d be all like \u003Cem\u003Ehow dare I\u003C\/em\u003E do that?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut also, I don\u2019t always look 100% like a guy. I paint my nails every once in a while when I feel like it \u2013 and I\u2019m gradually getting more and more comfortable wearing shiny pink nail polish in public. On some occasions (mostly Pride) I wear some makeup on my face as well.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_big.jpeg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_mini.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022320\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOn the other hand, I don\u2019t shop in the \u201cwomen\u2019s\u201d part of stores, I don\u2019t wear heels or shirts or dresses. I \u003Cem\u003Eam\u003C\/em\u003E planning to buy some, but I probably won\u2019t dare to wear them in public for quite a while anyway.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI use the \u201cmen\u2019s\u201d locker room at the gym and the \u201cmen\u2019s\u201d restroom at work, no matter how inclusive for gender nonconforming people that restroom might be. I don\u2019t think I\u2019m ready for the confusion \/ confrontation it might possibly spark... Does it make me conforming after all?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/cic-gender_big.jpeg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/cic-gender_mini.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022173.43251859724\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPeople refer to me as he\/him, but I honestly wouldn\u2019t mind she\/her or they\/them. I really, really, don\u2019t care. In my native Polish, which distinguishes gender in many more ways than English, I started using artificial, gender-neutral forms or words (\u201dchcia\u0142\u2090bym\u201d instead of male \u201cchcia\u0142bym\u201d or femal \u201cchcia\u0142abym\u201d, \u201czrobi\u0142\u00e6m\u201d instead of male \u201czrobi\u0142em\u201d or female \u201czrobi\u0142am\u201d). Oh, and I also use female emojis \ud83e\udd37\ud83c\udffc\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t do that because I don\u2019t feel like a man anymore or because I feel like a woman, or even anywhere in between.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI do that because I truly hate the very distinction of \u201cfemininity\u201d and \u201cmasculinity\u201d. Skirts should be just yet another type of clothing one could wear, and not a political statement or a reason to be beaten up in the street. Makeup should be just a time-consuming way to look better \u2013 not something reserved to a particular half of the population depending on the contents of their underwear.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t care about being or not being a particular gender. I care about being \u003Cem\u003Efree\u003C\/em\u003E from caring about those stupid rules.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd you know what? Is a person not gay if they\u2019re still in the closet? Are they not gay if they are still a virgin? Of course not! Then why do I care so much if I am non-conforming \u003Cem\u003Eenough\u003C\/em\u003E to call myself so?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI am angry at the world for attempting to put us all into binary categories \u2013 and I don\u2019t wanna stay in one of them anymore.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo yes, I will be putting \u201cenby\u201d in my bio \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E","words":768,"readTime":4,"lang":"en"}}}}}