{"tag":"labels","articles":{"blog\/life\/how-come-i-m-both-gay-and-pan":{"key":"blog\/life\/how-come-i-m-both-gay-and-pan","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2019-12-08T11:21:53+01:00","publishedAt":"2019-12-08T11:08:00+01:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"how-come-i-m-both-gay-and-pan"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"how-come-i-m-both-gay-and-pan","title":"How come I\u0027m both \u201cgay\u201d and \u201cpan\u201d?","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pan-is-gay_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@UrFavGay_ on Twitter: Pansexuality is gay\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022399.2\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,iVBORw0KGgoAAAANSUhEUgAAACQAAAAdCAYAAADCdc79AAAACXBIWXMAAA7EAAAOxAGVKw4bAAADTUlEQVRYhcWXO48cRRDHfzXTOzMLt+fbO58RHDICZOksCxGAhECyAEGOEBERERIBCQEhH4BPgWTxkDMiRGKBCICAwA8CBBISDwNnn3y3y94+ZqenCGZ3tmd3dm89vjWVTE13dde\/\/11V3S1JYlX3bmG\/\/QHz6kVkfZ3\/S1QVIwJcfRdz9CfceI7fHn2Pg8ND+v0+QRAQBgG39\/d5+aUXVwqm1x8QhSEm1ZTd719gv2159rDJZxc28IIQz\/NQVRTYPb+7UjAA9ShEFcTaVPd+2ufnK7\/y1Ovnae40ABARANI0xdoUY\/y8TVVXoueArt+4TnOjSRgGDOKYMAgB5e9\/9tjZeYTBYEBjbY1ut0sYRWw2mythKQd086+bxHGMtZYkSfB9P+sEfONjjMFay+Fhi62tTR47ezZf2UlKmmoGyPMEVS01WkT1vDFVRRUMKPbyNfRWh4yTpYY6tgqBYfDNJfSoWxmMd+5xog8\/QIZJot47nyM2hZGbybrFcav5X6Y70B6o0fn4fbTVzkeNbZbm0Bjq\/d8x42kFydGI620G2pQu42W4\/E4A3w3nwBhQ1pQF8iQ2XDezDMloTKZFb26gXWe6uxT1\/SIgzb8TWrTQM91XHOGfC6EfVwfkGVIXkBxDbjlDU+EtFGPrGL04fyYZoOd\/BE0XApJFehChDzcgkUIQL6NPJnK37OJVELsQ0ELxHkROrUHqOe7kGN39guI5gHLzolGefeOAl6Ku6NRyq\/IzaSuJIWdD8qAoT3q39cofMUkazw8S1\/d0vwLi88pmSZYVipnMCVhx7Eb6G1+2aQ06TDO8bCUy4tN7usDQZF\/LMq4sqGXGosz5bBjMtxsB+qL3DMriLFskNT+C9CuwQeU58LIsk2GSaP1rS7J0kZ+VUwb4KKZV\/WzFeErvk7pzdNzTVUJA3JSvMkVGiHcPKIpyQlej2dNwuoa5DuedBcBb331Kr139LPOMAG+XAJqWRfXNAXymc0D\/3351QLVRpfZEeO00\/NKtznnDwPaFbeJOdYa2nmziiWR3ave+Pn1XXtXTp+w+nr86bt85ILGWeDikub7OQatNPQoJajXaR0cIwkNntrl2ZwgCTzRqnI5OLh9mALmvjvvFUJmuCv8BJNy+IgvSlKEAAAAASUVORK5CYII=\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pan-is-gay_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@UrFavGay_ on Twitter: Pansexuality is gay\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022399.2\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy bio says I\u2019m \u201cpan\/gay\u201d, which might seem pretty self-contradictory, right? It\u2019s one or the other, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, here\u2019s why:\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pan-is-gay_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@UrFavGay_ on Twitter: Pansexuality is gay\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022600\u0022 height=\u0022499\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pan-is-gay_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@UrFavGay_ on Twitter: Pansexuality is gay\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022600\u0022 height=\u0022499\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/UrFavGay_\/status\/1232274231133720579\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\n                        \u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E\n                        twitter.com\/UrFavGay_\/status\/1232274231133720579\n                    \u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy bio says I\u2019m \u201cpan\/gay\u201d, which might seem pretty self-contradictory, right? It\u2019s one or the other, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, here\u2019s why:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFirst of all, \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Kinsey_scale\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E sexual orientation is a spectrum\u003C\/a\u003E.\nSecond of all, it\u2019s not set in stone. I don\u2019t think anyone has to just pick one label and stick to it.\nCalling myself \u201cpan\/gay\u201d is my way of saying that I\u2019m attracted to people of all genders,\nbut with a strong preference for guys. How strong? Am I a 4 or a 5 on the Kinsey scale? Dunno \ud83e\udd37\u200d\nThere\u2019s the word \u201chomoflexible\u201d... But \u003Cem\u003Eam I\u003C\/em\u003E homoflexible?\nAnd how many people know what it means without googling?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t know, and I care less and less about putting a label or a number on it.\nOne thing for sure: just \u201cpan\u201d or just \u201cgay\u201d doesn\u2019t tell the whole story.\nBut combined? They say enough and are easy to understand.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd then, there\u2019s also this thing that I\u2019m \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/am-i-non-binary\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-heartbeat\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E nonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E.\nI might look like a man at the first glance, I might own a penis, but I\u2019m not a man, I don\u2019t subscribe to the binary.\nIs it gay to be into guys, if I\u2019m not a guy? What do I call that?\nThere\u2019s this thing called \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/lgbta.wikia.org\/wiki\/Diamoric\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E diamoric orientations\u003C\/a\u003E,\nbut neither one from the list really fits me (and again, almost nobody knows them).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd finally, I\u2019ve spent a huge chunk of my life identifying as gay (\u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/coming-out-as-not-so-gay\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-heartbeat\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Coming out as... not so gay \ud83e\udd37\ud83c\udffc\u003C\/a\u003E).\nI\u2019ve become a part of the gay community, used gay apps, visited gay bars, and I still do.\nThat identity doesn\u2019t disappear overnight just because\nI finally decided to embrace other sides of my sexuality. It never will.\nMy \u201cgayness\u201d is more than just attraction to guys.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDon\u0027t forget, that in many contexts \u201cgay\u201d might actually be a synecdoche for the whole LGBTQ+ community.\nFor instance, when you advocate for \u201cgay rights\u201d, you probably don\u0027t want to exclude bi or pan folx,\nyou do demand the same rights for them as you demand for gay people, even if you don\u0027t explicitly mention them.\nOr when you use the rainbow flag to represent gays specifically, as well as queers in general.\nOr when you use \u201cgay pride\u201d and \u201cLGBTQ pride\u201d interchangably.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo, summing up: it\u2019s not self-contradictory, it\u2019s just complicated.\nBut \u201cpan\/gay\u201d is the best approximation of the truth I can fit in 7 bytes, so I\u2019ll go with that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/bryn-queerness_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@brynismyname on Twitter: My queerness has always fallen between the margins of identities and I will use whatever word I like to describe my experience. I\u2019m gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, non-binary, trans, femme, woman, domme, sub, daddy, poly. I\u2019m not erasing anyone\u2019s identity by describing my own.\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022602\u0022 height=\u0022399\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/bryn-queerness_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@brynismyname on Twitter: My queerness has always fallen between the margins of identities and I will use whatever word I like to describe my experience. I\u2019m gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, non-binary, trans, femme, woman, domme, sub, daddy, poly. I\u2019m not erasing anyone\u2019s identity by describing my own.\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022602\u0022 height=\u0022399\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/brynismyname\/status\/1233768229010579456\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\n                        \u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E\n                        twitter.com\/brynismyname\/status\/1233768229010579456\n                    \u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["homosexuality","identity","labels","lgbtq","pansexuality","sexuality","diamoric"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pan-is-gay_small.png","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pan-is-gay_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pan-is-gay_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@UrFavGay_ on Twitter: Pansexuality is gay\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022199.6\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy bio says I\u2019m \u201cpan\/gay\u201d, which might seem pretty self-contradictory, right? It\u2019s one or the other, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, here\u2019s why:\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pan-is-gay_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pan-is-gay_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@UrFavGay_ on Twitter: Pansexuality is gay\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022199.6\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/UrFavGay_\/status\/1232274231133720579\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Etwitter.com\/UrFavGay_\/status\/1232274231133720579\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy bio says I\u2019m \u201cpan\/gay\u201d, which might seem pretty self-contradictory, right? It\u2019s one or the other, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, here\u2019s why:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFirst of all, \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Kinsey_scale\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E sexual orientation is a spectrum\u003C\/a\u003E.\nSecond of all, it\u2019s not set in stone. I don\u2019t think anyone has to just pick one label and stick to it.\nCalling myself \u201cpan\/gay\u201d is my way of saying that I\u2019m attracted to people of all genders,\nbut with a strong preference for guys. How strong? Am I a 4 or a 5 on the Kinsey scale? Dunno \ud83e\udd37\u200d\nThere\u2019s the word \u201chomoflexible\u201d... But \u003Cem\u003Eam I\u003C\/em\u003E homoflexible?\nAnd how many people know what it means without googling?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t know, and I care less and less about putting a label or a number on it.\nOne thing for sure: just \u201cpan\u201d or just \u201cgay\u201d doesn\u2019t tell the whole story.\nBut combined? They say enough and are easy to understand.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd then, there\u2019s also this thing that I\u2019m \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/am-i-non-binary.lite\u0022\u003E nonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E.\nI might look like a man at the first glance, I might own a penis, but I\u2019m not a man, I don\u2019t subscribe to the binary.\nIs it gay to be into guys, if I\u2019m not a guy? What do I call that?\nThere\u2019s this thing called \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/lgbta.wikia.org\/wiki\/Diamoric\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E diamoric orientations\u003C\/a\u003E,\nbut neither one from the list really fits me (and again, almost nobody knows them).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd finally, I\u2019ve spent a huge chunk of my life identifying as gay (\u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/coming-out-as-not-so-gay.lite\u0022\u003E Coming out as... not so gay \ud83e\udd37\ud83c\udffc\u003C\/a\u003E).\nI\u2019ve become a part of the gay community, used gay apps, visited gay bars, and I still do.\nThat identity doesn\u2019t disappear overnight just because\nI finally decided to embrace other sides of my sexuality. It never will.\nMy \u201cgayness\u201d is more than just attraction to guys.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDon\u0027t forget, that in many contexts \u201cgay\u201d might actually be a synecdoche for the whole LGBTQ+ community.\nFor instance, when you advocate for \u201cgay rights\u201d, you probably don\u0027t want to exclude bi or pan folx,\nyou do demand the same rights for them as you demand for gay people, even if you don\u0027t explicitly mention them.\nOr when you use the rainbow flag to represent gays specifically, as well as queers in general.\nOr when you use \u201cgay pride\u201d and \u201cLGBTQ pride\u201d interchangably.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo, summing up: it\u2019s not self-contradictory, it\u2019s just complicated.\nBut \u201cpan\/gay\u201d is the best approximation of the truth I can fit in 7 bytes, so I\u2019ll go with that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/bryn-queerness_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/bryn-queerness_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@brynismyname on Twitter: My queerness has always fallen between the margins of identities and I will use whatever word I like to describe my experience. I\u2019m gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, non-binary, trans, femme, woman, domme, sub, daddy, poly. 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I wanna know \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOne thing is, in general, I don\u2019t think gender should be \u003Cem\u003Ea thing\u003C\/em\u003E. It\u2019s just some set of stupid arbitrary rules telling you what are you allowed to do and what not depending on which genitals you were born with. I don\u2019t want to follow those rules. I \u003Cem\u003Erefuse\u003C\/em\u003E to follow them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWomen used to have no right to vote. Women used to not be allowed to wear pants. But they refused to play by those rules \u2013 and now, surprise surprise, turns out having a penis is not a requirement to vote or to wear pants anymore! Who would have thought!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI went to a Pride Week showing of \u201cThe Danish Girl\u201d this Monday, followed by a panel discussion with three transgender people who told the audience about their experience of being trans in the Netherlands. What struck me is how much their lives would\u2019ve been easier if only our society didn\u2019t have those strange gender rules. No one would mock that trans guy as a child for having a \u201cboy haircut\u201d or riding a \u201cboy bike\u201d if there was no such thing as a \u201cboy haircut\u201d or \u201cboy bike\u201d. Our society has put gender labels on mundane things like toys, books, movies or haircuts and now it hates people who don\u2019t comply. That\u2019s crazy and hurtful!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESumming up, I really believe that breaking all the idiotic gender-related rules that our society has made up is a right thing to do.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut \u003Cem\u003Edo\u003C\/em\u003E I break them?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, that\u2019s why I\u2019m not sure if calling myself nonbinary would be \u003Cem\u003Eokay\u003C\/em\u003E... I just look like a guy. That\u2019s all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI mean, I have a friend that looks a different gender in each picture of their dating profile. I see Jonathan van Ness rocking their heels and long hair... And then there\u2019s me \u2013 a guy that looks like a guy. I sometimes feel that if I did call myself nonbinary, I\u2019d be all like \u003Cem\u003Ehow dare I\u003C\/em\u003E do that?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut also, I don\u2019t always look 100% like a guy. I paint my nails every once in a while when I feel like it \u2013 and I\u2019m gradually getting more and more comfortable wearing shiny pink nail polish in public. On some occasions (mostly Pride) I wear some makeup on my face as well.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_big.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022525\u0022 height=\u0022700\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,iVBORw0KGgoAAAANSUhEUgAAABsAAAAkCAYAAAB4+EEtAAAACXBIWXMAAA7EAAAOxAGVKw4bAAAJzElEQVRIiXWWyY9fV1bHP3d402\/+lcvlqopdjof2ECchdjpERK1OBA3dEiAGZc8CsYf\/oFeIDfveICQWLHrDsEEghk5DmqRJjOPEiadUdbVdHlLDb3rjve\/ey6LKJoC40tF7T1d6n3vOued8j\/jBH\/9hAEkIAQDnPcF7fAh45\/DeP9979pQAtAgBsVL0soRIa5SS7E9L\/vyvPmKaW0IQIBSOCCFitBAAAiEEAZAhEKQkeI+QEgGIr8NCgOARQiClIEkTpFQIAdNFzV\/87XVmhSUgQGqC0EiREFSMBok4JBJCeP4uxOEBpBAEIQ4hQCCAENSV4eHjPcqqxntLmsTc+9mE2aIlIBFSgVAImRBEAipBI+T\/gATAh0A4smcrHB0mhMD1G5\/z84ePcR6yNKGqG5zzlEWBEhqhx3jfMO4FlsZd7u\/MgRT9v3\/0zL6eK4RgNBzS7XTY3NxivZ\/x7u9+hyROuLH5iH\/79A67B1Pq2lK1FXFkeOObl9nYWOPHP7nFcJDhMeivJ\/\/rIO89ADpKuHj5EsN+j4ODA3Rd8kfv\/hpZpMkXBWdXxnzrylk+39rhg8\/u8dO720zzil6vw+vXXuWf3r\/NeNDFth4dcBDkc+AzkA+egODi+Qssr6wSvOfRozt899oVep2M0HoEAuk9L4z69L9xkmGiWRkN+JsPbvJwZ4\/3fnKL1kPTGKI4Pgwj\/08I006X5fV14ixFCE0\/jeikCU4mBK0wrsKj6CUdinlFV2vWx32+cWqdnd0pVu8jlcKFwNKgj8Z7QpD\/B+R9oNfto1VMYwNffHqdDz+6yccEnk4XNEXBL144y\/mVZZQquf1ghyQSOCFZHg1Iji2z9cQhVYqxDuc82vtACP7wFh6BnlkbPJPplHuff05VlhzsTxidPMXpWHHv\/pTrX27x\/u1N6qriYDojBEGnu8agD7nQSAWILpKKqrZIH\/x\/5+nIwlH3mB8c8GTnIWlrGJQFb79yjlc3RuxNcpxzXH5xnbfPrDGbz1hdXmLj1Cq6823mvs+0AJRGRl2UUhjrUN\/79uvfP2wK\/nl9ee9xztE0BiGAx1\/x2pkNzp48TlM7enHEyrjPr758mdAUPNyfcOrEmEVeMxh4vC9oXM3q6giJAxxCKbRzjhD8UeGK5zAhBJPZBK0UL40H2HzOxosXGWdDUuNYuXCWYS\/jk9t36cYRsRe8eGxEGaYMIk1UzVk+MSBJU9rWobVGm7oGKRBCAwJ35JXSkixN6XYiQiem2+tiUHx27z7GVNjdff7hox3+9eOb9NOItaUh506e4v7TPX7+5Al9ETDGEWjodDokaYYWweOtx3mDF9D6QBQleOdYHo9QSvK4KjmzeoK9J7v86JObyCQGDw9398h9y2JWkt+6zZN5QZJmVEVFmw3RQdDp9jB1A61FaynxgMdjnSN4T6QFVW2JIon3Aecl2\/OctbjD7\/\/2O3z2xRZ2v6W3MGhVsDlfcH+6QKcZq8vHibKMA3+SsXMIZ3nj6iV++Z230IdScdhBdAiEo++DWcFg0IMg6XYzhiEizQI3t57w5utX2L7zJZ4R23tPWR8NWYk0vW6HSS2ZyfPEWcbFsym\/9RvfYW3tOFpKtJQS791zSVFS0raeMxtrSCFBKDrdLvNUs97t8ObL5\/nPm3c4sTzi0rUB0Sjho7vb3H60R5UXnHhhnc6ww+\/85pu8+solYikRQiIPYQIQhMChh1Kg04QsTSgrw\/HjSwz6GaND7eHBo12uXDrPbD7F+cDLF89xevUYNzYf8HRa89ZrLzA+f4WNX3gJcSTKUh5qpn6mskeyiA+BqqwZdDqsL485v5wxVp5+r4slpvVDPr67yekTx1jqp4jgyRtHV8ecWc3Y2nlE2VjGp04xXFl\/HjEhBFKpQxelFGgp6cYRV04e41vnV\/juS+usdSJAEKUZwTuqouSXrl7hxIkVHIqybMhrg85SnPcY27J3sM\/m9Q+fK\/6zpeM4wjnJKBO8OMpY6WWkWYZOYha5YVHUJFlClKbEDhyBL3\/2kLWVZYbDITe2dziYF3gJQgoSrcE7tr\/4nLt3vuTS1WtcuPZN+qMldC9LubSc0fOGsqqZTuf0giBqA1VjSdKMJNK4AG3wBOc4OJghhKQuEmpjUGmCNw2R0nghcK3FNA1Fs+DWe\/\/M3Z\/+O6++\/Svoc0spY+14upszWeSY1tN4wQsbG2QypqlKbFNT1gZkhG0dDx8\/5Ucf\/AdvXX2FvDHoWCO0QkQROihC8HQ6KWkSUZQVzlR8+i9\/j3r7tTPfV7ZlURQUVUNZG+rGEGUZIk6xTlA1lkeP93Ctp6prth48pmpa7m5tk2Yp4\/GIOE1QSh6VjyCNIwbdFKXA+UCvk6Ij7yjrEtu21HVN1bTY1rGYTnAOfFB4J5AqosgPdWvQ6yKEwA67ONPw+OEjol6XNI7oZjFZmtCJNXEk0JEijkumiwa9OszIi5LGthjbUpQVWRqo8wJvAyLuIGUEARZlxd7BFJQi0opOmhBrRetaMgIxEqUiBqMhwbUIBd04JssyavMVuiwbyspQVDWLymBti6ChrCpaL2hLSxQlGNuSFzU+gBaC5fGASCoIoJUgSSKSNKPb7zM4NsK1BkFLLCVN07C24tGTRcVskVOUFcY4vA+0vmUyW9DrCYyTKNUQPNTGorUm1ppukgDQGEMaJ0RxRKQE3VSTCEF6bJlIOGxTkyQJSkr0\/mTO\/nTBoqwQCBIdEWLISwOyJggNosW1njYInHPEkcRaezjcek9jW4QUpLGG0KK8oZzPGSyNiDNJqGqiOEXneckir3iwPyXRmqV+F60VrQ80tiWKFLa1OC\/wzmOcwywcXetQUqCVpA0ercD7CNPU7DY107yhO8u5cPY0USLRKkG3raP1gb1ZSTeOEICONFGcIIxFHo5I2LbFOk\/ZGJq2pWgaep2MTpoQCYELgao2FFXF\/ixn89Ee93f2+IPfe5fL506DckgfAnGa8uvfewfrAoui4mCyoGoalJQIAVpKfPCUxrAoa+Z5TW0tbQggDluYMZb9yYz72ztcv3WP92\/c5uO72\/zJD\/6S3cmc2jpkCIJZ1fLGay9x7PgxTOvIq5rZojyaJQPetxhrqeqa2SJnUZYY45F4vHMIH6jqhv3JlAc7X7H54AmP9+fkZcO9rR3+9M9+SNUYpHWwm1cM+z1ev3oFqSKsbVnkJZPpAmNbjHXgHFVdU9c1AHGk6CQJeI+1LbO85GC+4On+hGleUBmLtS11Y\/jxh5\/ww797D1nalv3CECnF6fUTLC+P8QQaY5jnBbWxlE1NYw1tY3GtQ4RAlsUIKVCRIq8r8rqmrBtsa\/HB05gW5zzGOox1\/PU\/fsh\/AW+pxiS9BxAoAAAAAElFTkSuQmCC\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_big.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022525\u0022 height=\u0022700\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOn the other hand, I don\u2019t shop in the \u201cwomen\u2019s\u201d part of stores, I don\u2019t wear heels or shirts or dresses. I \u003Cem\u003Eam\u003C\/em\u003E planning to buy some, but I probably won\u2019t dare to wear them in public for quite a while anyway.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI use the \u201cmen\u2019s\u201d locker room at the gym and the \u201cmen\u2019s\u201d restroom at work, no matter how inclusive for gender nonconforming people that restroom might be. I don\u2019t think I\u2019m ready for the confusion \/ confrontation it might possibly spark... Does it make me conforming after all?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/cic-gender_big.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022941\u0022 height=\u0022680\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/cic-gender_big.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022941\u0022 height=\u0022680\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPeople refer to me as he\/him, but I honestly wouldn\u2019t mind she\/her or they\/them. I really, really, don\u2019t care. In my native Polish, which distinguishes gender in many more ways than English, I started using artificial, gender-neutral forms or words (\u201dchcia\u0142\u2090bym\u201d instead of male \u201cchcia\u0142bym\u201d or femal \u201cchcia\u0142abym\u201d, \u201czrobi\u0142\u00e6m\u201d instead of male \u201czrobi\u0142em\u201d or female \u201czrobi\u0142am\u201d). Oh, and I also use female emojis \ud83e\udd37\ud83c\udffc\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t do that because I don\u2019t feel like a man anymore or because I feel like a woman, or even anywhere in between.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI do that because I truly hate the very distinction of \u201cfemininity\u201d and \u201cmasculinity\u201d. Skirts should be just yet another type of clothing one could wear, and not a political statement or a reason to be beaten up in the street. Makeup should be just a time-consuming way to look better \u2013 not something reserved to a particular half of the population depending on the contents of their underwear.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t care about being or not being a particular gender. I care about being \u003Cem\u003Efree\u003C\/em\u003E from caring about those stupid rules.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd you know what? Is a person not gay if they\u2019re still in the closet? Are they not gay if they are still a virgin? Of course not! Then why do I care so much if I am non-conforming \u003Cem\u003Eenough\u003C\/em\u003E to call myself so?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI am angry at the world for attempting to put us all into binary categories \u2013 and I don\u2019t wanna stay in one of them anymore.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo yes, I will be putting \u201cenby\u201d in my bio \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["dress","enby","femininity","gender","labels","makeup","masculinity","nail polish","non-binary","nonbinary","skirt","social norms"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-in-rainbows_small.jpg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-in-rainbows_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-in-rainbows_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022320\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENo, honestly, am I? I wanna know \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-in-rainbows_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-in-rainbows_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022320\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENo, honestly, am I? I wanna know \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOne thing is, in general, I don\u2019t think gender should be \u003Cem\u003Ea thing\u003C\/em\u003E. It\u2019s just some set of stupid arbitrary rules telling you what are you allowed to do and what not depending on which genitals you were born with. I don\u2019t want to follow those rules. I \u003Cem\u003Erefuse\u003C\/em\u003E to follow them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWomen used to have no right to vote. Women used to not be allowed to wear pants. But they refused to play by those rules \u2013 and now, surprise surprise, turns out having a penis is not a requirement to vote or to wear pants anymore! Who would have thought!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI went to a Pride Week showing of \u201cThe Danish Girl\u201d this Monday, followed by a panel discussion with three transgender people who told the audience about their experience of being trans in the Netherlands. What struck me is how much their lives would\u2019ve been easier if only our society didn\u2019t have those strange gender rules. No one would mock that trans guy as a child for having a \u201cboy haircut\u201d or riding a \u201cboy bike\u201d if there was no such thing as a \u201cboy haircut\u201d or \u201cboy bike\u201d. Our society has put gender labels on mundane things like toys, books, movies or haircuts and now it hates people who don\u2019t comply. That\u2019s crazy and hurtful!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESumming up, I really believe that breaking all the idiotic gender-related rules that our society has made up is a right thing to do.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut \u003Cem\u003Edo\u003C\/em\u003E I break them?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, that\u2019s why I\u2019m not sure if calling myself nonbinary would be \u003Cem\u003Eokay\u003C\/em\u003E... I just look like a guy. That\u2019s all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI mean, I have a friend that looks a different gender in each picture of their dating profile. I see Jonathan van Ness rocking their heels and long hair... And then there\u2019s me \u2013 a guy that looks like a guy. I sometimes feel that if I did call myself nonbinary, I\u2019d be all like \u003Cem\u003Ehow dare I\u003C\/em\u003E do that?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut also, I don\u2019t always look 100% like a guy. I paint my nails every once in a while when I feel like it \u2013 and I\u2019m gradually getting more and more comfortable wearing shiny pink nail polish in public. On some occasions (mostly Pride) I wear some makeup on my face as well.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_big.jpeg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_mini.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022320\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOn the other hand, I don\u2019t shop in the \u201cwomen\u2019s\u201d part of stores, I don\u2019t wear heels or shirts or dresses. I \u003Cem\u003Eam\u003C\/em\u003E planning to buy some, but I probably won\u2019t dare to wear them in public for quite a while anyway.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI use the \u201cmen\u2019s\u201d locker room at the gym and the \u201cmen\u2019s\u201d restroom at work, no matter how inclusive for gender nonconforming people that restroom might be. I don\u2019t think I\u2019m ready for the confusion \/ confrontation it might possibly spark... Does it make me conforming after all?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/cic-gender_big.jpeg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/cic-gender_mini.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022173.43251859724\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPeople refer to me as he\/him, but I honestly wouldn\u2019t mind she\/her or they\/them. I really, really, don\u2019t care. In my native Polish, which distinguishes gender in many more ways than English, I started using artificial, gender-neutral forms or words (\u201dchcia\u0142\u2090bym\u201d instead of male \u201cchcia\u0142bym\u201d or femal \u201cchcia\u0142abym\u201d, \u201czrobi\u0142\u00e6m\u201d instead of male \u201czrobi\u0142em\u201d or female \u201czrobi\u0142am\u201d). Oh, and I also use female emojis \ud83e\udd37\ud83c\udffc\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t do that because I don\u2019t feel like a man anymore or because I feel like a woman, or even anywhere in between.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI do that because I truly hate the very distinction of \u201cfemininity\u201d and \u201cmasculinity\u201d. Skirts should be just yet another type of clothing one could wear, and not a political statement or a reason to be beaten up in the street. Makeup should be just a time-consuming way to look better \u2013 not something reserved to a particular half of the population depending on the contents of their underwear.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t care about being or not being a particular gender. I care about being \u003Cem\u003Efree\u003C\/em\u003E from caring about those stupid rules.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd you know what? Is a person not gay if they\u2019re still in the closet? Are they not gay if they are still a virgin? Of course not! Then why do I care so much if I am non-conforming \u003Cem\u003Eenough\u003C\/em\u003E to call myself so?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI am angry at the world for attempting to put us all into binary categories \u2013 and I don\u2019t wanna stay in one of them anymore.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo yes, I will be putting \u201cenby\u201d in my bio \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E","words":768,"readTime":4,"lang":"en"}}}}}