{"tag":"gay","articles":{"projects\/sexuality-spectrum":{"key":"projects\/sexuality-spectrum","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2020-01-16T23:48:41+01:00","publishedAt":"2020-01-16T23:48:41+01:00","group":"gender-apps","links":[{"icon":"globe-europe","colour":"primary","url":"https:\/\/spectrum.avris.it","displayUrl":null}],"category":"projects","subcategory":null,"slug":"sexuality-spectrum"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"sexuality-spectrum","title":"Sexuality Spectrum","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/spectrum_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022234.07874015748\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,iVBORw0KGgoAAAANSUhEUgAAACQAAAARCAYAAAC1tw6GAAAACXBIWXMAAA7EAAAOxAGVKw4bAAACVElEQVRIic2VTW8TQQyGH8\/MfiQhacKBGxKovfD\/fwdXoAcE3FAhqZRkk+5mPOaQhOZjU22BA+\/JI2vmtf3aHqm+zGzqlyQzvPcMBgP6vT7PQUzGerUkz3I8kWgOLLGJCScB8YaEnNQ84H3As6FJDu8csVpDkSEiOOeQ+XxuKaVnBXAKe1AwAxGk9H\/8joggZmZdLyRVPt3eMhqNiDES44Zer89qtSLPc2LcEGMCjLIsqeua6+sbvHfsaUTkSVtSSp0Cmk6nADjnmEwmFzPsSvzXATWf7\/Eqrb7FZg0Cw9A785kZ6qG4aU\/iFEGkneQMrweEomh1lesS7wMhz858KSViXdOVJ5hZp5LOv\/2EZFgyRlcjNIMeOQDbMCOJ2EpSeMHKbpIFgMO+vmQXg5IUE71eScgyotaY22ZdVUtSSgyHo+PqqLKsKnwWGNJe3VN0nrLZbIaqYmaMJxPy7Fyef4FwybGXco\/yTgnmcM7B\/fJIHNWEaiTPtxLep4or18exva\/OyHdN\/e+mrGnIsqy1Oc0MTYngH5fiIZlqxPvQKaDOU7b48J34sGEyHhPCuVwO2O\/7yjf0U47sUpXMIW+GR8Fesi9Kdori+iVXZYn351\/DYrGg3+\/\/9hWbDRICIkJVLQHjxUELHFZlf74o2WEZDzGdTrHdB\/xfbOrq4x1Ohfxk+akqdV1TluW24Xls6qZusJSQ3DN496oLTfexV1UQwe9I9zAzVBXv\/VnD79eEiLRK3YbOm\/rH+69Yo9tLIWMyGR+Ttzy+8DVDLbDMYW9HT76\/t38BvPqThYnDi\/QAAAAASUVORK5CYII=\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/spectrum_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022234.07874015748\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhere are you on the Sexuality Spectrum?\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/spectrum_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022468.15748031496\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/spectrum_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022468.15748031496\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhere are you on the Sexuality Spectrum?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/spectrum.avris.it\/mz0v\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E (mine here)\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cstrong\u003EDisclaimer:\u003C\/strong\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not the author of the original concept of those axes.\nThey were circulating online in form of a picture without a watermark\n\u2013 making it practically impossible to find the author.\nI just made an interactive version of it, with a few adjustments.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m aware that this representation of gender \u0026amp; sexuality is not perfect \u2013 but none is!\nHumans are more complex than just a few axes!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYes, us nonbinary folx aren\u0027t necessarily in between \u201cmale\u201d and \u201cfemale\u201d,\nyes, lumping bisexuality and pansexuality together is not ideal, etc. etc. etc.\nBut it\u0027s an approximation. 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How was your weekend?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u2013 Morning! Well, we went do Poland to visit my boyfriend\u2019s family and we...\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u2013 Oh, so you have a boyfriend? That\u2019s ok. You know, I have gay friends.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u2013 Erm... OK... So what? I have gay friends too. And straight friends... 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How was your weekend?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u2013 Morning! Well, we went do Poland to visit my boyfriend\u2019s family and we...\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u2013 Oh, so you have a boyfriend? That\u2019s ok. You know, I have gay friends.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u2013 Erm... OK... So what? I have gay friends too. And straight friends... What\u2019s your point?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESaying \u201cI have gay friends\u201d might seem like a good way to show someone that you\u2019re okay with them being gay. In reality, it mostly just shows that you\u2019re desperately trying to \u003Cstrong\u003Eshow off your tolerance\u003C\/strong\u003E. It shows that you treat homosexuality as something \u003Cem\u003Estrange, but tolerable\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut you know what kind of support do LGBTQ people \u003Cem\u003Ereally\u003C\/em\u003E need? We just want \u003Cstrong\u003Eto be treated like everyone else\u003C\/strong\u003E \u2013 that\u2019s it. 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We\u2019ll just say we are in love and that will be all that matters \u2013 \u003Cem\u003EEllen Degeneres\u003C\/em\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAfter my wedding, I\u2019m proud to say, I realised I\u2019d finally reached the point where \u003Cstrong\u003Ecoming out is not an issue\u003C\/strong\u003E anymore. I won\u2019t ever come out again. Not that I ever did that movie-style \u201cI need to tell you something... [long pause] I\u2019m gay... [gasp]\u201d. As a matter of fact, in the last time I actually had simply talked about my boyfriend the way straight guys talk about their girlfriends \u2013 but it still felt like I\u2019m confessing some kind of a secret. Even after years of living outside of my homophobic homeland of Poland, the fear of being ridiculed, unaccepted, discriminated against or beaten up was still there.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut getting married was the final milestone on the way to leaving all of that behind. 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You know, I have gay friends.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u2013 Erm... OK... So what? I have gay friends too. And straight friends... What\u2019s your point?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESaying \u201cI have gay friends\u201d might seem like a good way to show someone that you\u2019re okay with them being gay. In reality, it mostly just shows that you\u2019re desperately trying to \u003Cstrong\u003Eshow off your tolerance\u003C\/strong\u003E. It shows that you treat homosexuality as something \u003Cem\u003Estrange, but tolerable\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut you know what kind of support do LGBTQ people \u003Cem\u003Ereally\u003C\/em\u003E need? We just want \u003Cstrong\u003Eto be treated like everyone else\u003C\/strong\u003E \u2013 that\u2019s it. Try replacing \u201cboyfriend\u201d with \u201cgirlfriend\u201d in the dialogue above. You might be surprised (\u201dOh, I thought you were single!\u201d), you might get interested in the other person\u2019s relationship (\u201dHow did you two meet?\u201d), you might just talk abobut the actual subject of the conversation (\u201dCool, did you have fun on your trip?\u201d) \u2013 but you wouldn\u2019t comment on the other person\u2019s heterosexuality, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s that simple \u2013 \u003Cstrong\u003Ewe\u2019re just people\u003C\/strong\u003E, with similar passions, similar problems, similar relationships and the same need for love.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOne day we won\u2019t have to \u201ccome out of the closet\u201d. We\u2019ll just say we are in love and that will be all that matters \u2013 \u003Cem\u003EEllen Degeneres\u003C\/em\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAfter my wedding, I\u2019m proud to say, I realised I\u2019d finally reached the point where \u003Cstrong\u003Ecoming out is not an issue\u003C\/strong\u003E anymore. I won\u2019t ever come out again. Not that I ever did that movie-style \u201cI need to tell you something... [long pause] I\u2019m gay... [gasp]\u201d. As a matter of fact, in the last time I actually had simply talked about my boyfriend the way straight guys talk about their girlfriends \u2013 but it still felt like I\u2019m confessing some kind of a secret. Even after years of living outside of my homophobic homeland of Poland, the fear of being ridiculed, unaccepted, discriminated against or beaten up was still there.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut getting married was the final milestone on the way to leaving all of that behind. It made me feel that I actually do have \u003Cstrong\u003Eall the same rights\u003C\/strong\u003E and duties as any straight person does. It\u2019s not just \u201cok\u201d to be gay \u2013 it\u2019s perfectly normal. Even the registrar was openly mocking Poland\u2019s backwardness.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI didn\u2019t hesitate for a second to share the good news with anyone. My husband is so wonderful, our love so beautiful, our relationship so strong. I\u2019m proud of him and I\u2019m proud of us.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd all we got was a positive, loving, touching response. Not a single person reacted differently than they would react to any other wedding \u2013 not even call it a \u201cgay marriage\u201d or anything. We didn\u2019t get \u201cgay married\u201d, we just got married.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd that\u2019s the kind of society I want to live in. \ud83d\ude0c\u003C\/p\u003E","words":507,"readTime":3,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/society\/confession-is-harmful-if-it-s-obligatory":{"key":"blog\/society\/confession-is-harmful-if-it-s-obligatory","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2017-11-22T13:16:20+01:00","publishedAt":"2017-11-22T13:00:00+01:00","group":"zdrowie-seksualne","category":"blog","subcategory":"society","slug":"confession-is-harmful-if-it-s-obligatory"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"confession-is-harmful-if-it-s-obligatory","title":"Confession is harmful if it\u0027s obligatory","intro":"\u003Cp\u003EToday I found out that in some laboratories, when you want to get your blood tested for HIV\/HCV\/syphilis\/etc. (for free and anonymously), you do \u003Cem\u003Enot\u003C\/em\u003E have to go to confession about your sexual life. It was a great surprise for me, because whenever I did such tests, I always got to fill out a questionnaire about what, when, how many times, and with how many guys I did it. And then I had to further elaborate in a face-to-face conversation with some stranger.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003EToday I found out that in some laboratories, when you want to get your blood tested for HIV\/HCV\/syphilis\/etc. (for free and anonymously), you do \u003Cem\u003Enot\u003C\/em\u003E have to go to confession about your sexual life. It was a great surprise for me, because whenever I did such tests, I always got to fill out a questionnaire about what, when, how many times, and with how many guys I did it. And then I had to further elaborate in a face-to-face conversation with some stranger.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor me it may not be a big problem. For most Berliners probably neither. Here it\u2019s not a shame to tell someone you\u2019re gay, and not that big of a shame to admit how promiscuous you are.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut when you are a catholic gay boy who is afraid of what would people say, who still believes (or has only just stopped believing) that sex with a guy is a serious sin (and even if not, it is still very awkward discuss your sex life with anyone) \u2013 then the problem starts to get more problematic.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou should get tested regularly every three months. But if you don\u2019t have any symptoms, if nothing is wrong with you, if there is nothing urgent about it, however doing the test involves going through emotional tortures \u2013 will you decide to go there at all?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt is good that organizations fighting HIV want to have as many anonymous statistics on human sexual behavior as they can \u2013 but the main goal should be to have the least number of infections in the first place. It is good that the doctor wants to know as much as possible about the patient in order to best advise him \u2013 but he should rather not advise at all than to have the patient not come.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf we started a laboratory visit with an information that the survey \/ interview is completely voluntary, and we asked for a consent to participate in it, how many more people would choose to come?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI would prefer it if 20 people voluntarily filled in the questionnaire, and 80 did not, rather than if 40 people filled it in out of coercion, but the other 60 decided not to come at all...\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["gay","health","hiv","homosexuality","sex","sexual health","test"],"hasMore":true,"image":null,"introLite":"\u003Cp\u003EToday I found out that in some laboratories, when you want to get your blood tested for HIV\/HCV\/syphilis\/etc. (for free and anonymously), you do \u003Cem\u003Enot\u003C\/em\u003E have to go to confession about your sexual life. It was a great surprise for me, because whenever I did such tests, I always got to fill out a questionnaire about what, when, how many times, and with how many guys I did it. And then I had to further elaborate in a face-to-face conversation with some stranger.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cp\u003EToday I found out that in some laboratories, when you want to get your blood tested for HIV\/HCV\/syphilis\/etc. (for free and anonymously), you do \u003Cem\u003Enot\u003C\/em\u003E have to go to confession about your sexual life. It was a great surprise for me, because whenever I did such tests, I always got to fill out a questionnaire about what, when, how many times, and with how many guys I did it. And then I had to further elaborate in a face-to-face conversation with some stranger.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor me it may not be a big problem. For most Berliners probably neither. Here it\u2019s not a shame to tell someone you\u2019re gay, and not that big of a shame to admit how promiscuous you are.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut when you are a catholic gay boy who is afraid of what would people say, who still believes (or has only just stopped believing) that sex with a guy is a serious sin (and even if not, it is still very awkward discuss your sex life with anyone) \u2013 then the problem starts to get more problematic.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou should get tested regularly every three months. But if you don\u2019t have any symptoms, if nothing is wrong with you, if there is nothing urgent about it, however doing the test involves going through emotional tortures \u2013 will you decide to go there at all?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt is good that organizations fighting HIV want to have as many anonymous statistics on human sexual behavior as they can \u2013 but the main goal should be to have the least number of infections in the first place. 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Fajnie, \u017ce lekarz chce wiedzie\u0107 jak najwi\u0119cej o pacjencie, aby mu jak najlepiej doradzi\u0107 \u2013 ale pewnie wola\u0142by nie doradzi\u0107 wcale ni\u017c \u017ceby ten pacjent w og\u00f3le nie przyszed\u0142.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJe\u015bli zaczniemy wizyt\u0119 w laboratorium od informacji, \u017ce ankieta\/rozmowa jest ca\u0142kowicie dobrowolna, i spytamy o ch\u0119\u0107 wzi\u0119cia w nich udzia\u0142u, ile wi\u0119cej os\u00f3b zdecyduje si\u0119 w og\u00f3le przyj\u015b\u0107?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWola\u0142bym \u017ceby 20 os\u00f3b dobrowolnie wype\u0142ni\u0142o ankiet\u0119, a 80 nie, ni\u017c \u017ceby 40 os\u00f3b wype\u0142ni\u0142o j\u0105 z przymusu, ale pozosta\u0142e 60 nie przysz\u0142o 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Sie haben sogar \u003Ca href=\u0022 http:\/\/www.rtl2.de\/sendung\/naked-attraction-dating-hautnah\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E eine Dating-Show\u003C\/a\u003E, wo man ein Date nur darauf basierend ausw\u00e4hlt, wie es nackt aussieht \u2013 und es gibt fast keine Kontroverse deswegen. Sie haben die Nacktheit sogar zum eine Art der Kultur gebracht \u2013 es nennt sich zwar FKK, Freik\u00f6rperkultur.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIch habe es immer genossen, nackt zu sein, sei es mit anderen Leuten oder nicht. Und von dem, was ich geh\u00f6rt habe, f\u00fcr einem FKKler gibt es nur wenige (oder keine) besseren L\u00e4nder zu leben als Deutschland. 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Sie haben sogar \u003Ca href=\u0022 http:\/\/www.rtl2.de\/sendung\/naked-attraction-dating-hautnah\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E eine Dating-Show\u003C\/a\u003E, wo man ein Date nur darauf basierend ausw\u00e4hlt, wie es nackt aussieht \u2013 und es gibt fast keine Kontroverse deswegen. Sie haben die Nacktheit sogar zum eine Art der Kultur gebracht \u2013 es nennt sich zwar FKK, Freik\u00f6rperkultur.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIch habe es immer genossen, nackt zu sein, sei es mit anderen Leuten oder nicht. Und von dem, was ich geh\u00f6rt habe, f\u00fcr einem FKKler gibt es nur wenige (oder keine) besseren L\u00e4nder zu leben als Deutschland. Aber trotzdem gibt es einige Dinge, die ich nicht mag...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EGentrifizierung\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EManche Leute lehnen die Idee ab, einen FKK-Strand zu besuchen, weil \u003Cem\u003Ees wahrscheinlich nur sehr wenige hei\u00dfe M\u00e4dchen da gibt und ziemlich viele alte, h\u00e4ssliche Gro\u00dfv\u00e4ter\u003C\/em\u003E. Alter, das ist gar nicht, worum es in den nackten Str\u00e4nden geht. Wenn \u201chei\u00dfe M\u00e4dchen\u201d sind der Grund, warum du gerne kommen willst - komm besser nicht. Es sind die Hauptregeln: nicht anstarren, keine Bilder von anderen Menschen ohne Zustimmung machen, und versuchen, keinen Boner zu bekommen. Es ist nur Sonnenbaden ohne Kleider \u2013 kein Porno, keine Orgie.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIch muss aber zustimmen, dass es zu viele \u00e4ltere Menschen in den Naturismus gibt. Nein, ich habe nichts gegen \u00e4ltere Leute \u003Cem\u003Eper se\u003C\/em\u003E, am nackten Str\u00e4nden oder im Allgemeinen. Ganz im Gegenteil: Ich bewundere ihren jungen Geist, ihr Selbstbewusstsein und (manchmal) eine wirklich gute Form. Ich liebe, wie es ihnen egal ist, wie es f\u00fcr sie ganz normal ist, dass sie nackt sonnen. Man kann wirklich Freiheit und Sorglosigkeit auf ihren Gesichtern sehen.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAber wenn man sie mit der Zahl der j\u00fcngeren Menschen vergleicht, kann man besorgt werden. Ich m\u00f6chte nicht, dass die deutsche FKK in den folgenden Jahrzehnten langsam ausstirbt. Und ich f\u00fchle mich ein wenig unangenehm und unruhig, wenn ich meistens von \u00e4lteren Menschen umstellt bin...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESommer-Zentrismus\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWenn es drau\u00dfen warm ist, gibt es viel, nackt mit anderen Leuten, zu tun. In Berlin k\u00f6nntest du einen \u00f6ffentlichen Park zuf\u00e4llig ausw\u00e4hlen und es wird eine ziemlich gro\u00dfe Chance geben, dass er einen offiziellen oder inoffiziellen FKK-Bereich hat.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDas Foto oben habe ich heute auf einer Wiese neben Halensee genommen. Da kannst du so gekleidet oder so nackt sein, wie du willst. Du kannst schwimmen, du kannst sonnenbaden, du kannst Bier trinken, reden, Gitarre spielen, Frisbee spielen, was du willst.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDie Menschen organisieren nackte Wanderungen im Wald und andere Aktivit\u00e4ten... Der deutsche Sommer ist sehr aktiv und nackt. Aber dann kommen die k\u00e4lteren Jahreszeiten...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EUnd nicht viel ist \u00fcbrig. Saunen, soweit ich wei\u00df, sind in Deutschland immer nackt (und ja sie sollten \u2013 das Tragen von Kleidern in solchen Umgebungen ist ungesund f\u00fcr deine Haut!), aber ich war noch nie in einem, seitdem ich nach Deutschland gezogen bin, ich bin einfach nicht der gr\u00f6\u00dfte Fan. Ich bin aber ein Fan vom Schwimmen. Vor allem ohne Badehose \u2013 es f\u00fchlt sich so befreiend an! Ich habe schon so oft nackt geschwommen, dass ein Gedanke, etwas im Wasser zu tragen, kling mir komisch \u2013 nicht umgekehrt.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEs scheint aber, dass in Berlin, eine Stadt mit 4 Millionen Einwohner, gibt es nur einen Platz wo man das machen kann \u2013 \u003Ca href=\u0022 https: \/\/www.berlinerbaeder.de\/baeder\/stadtbad-neukoelln\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Stadtbad Neuk\u00f6lln\u003C\/a\u003E. Nun, es sei denn, du bist ein Mitglied eines Vereins \u2013 aber meine soziale Ungeschicklichkeit geht nicht wirklich damit zusammen. Also einmal w\u00f6chentlich (oder sogar zweimal, seit vor kurzem \ud83d\ude0a) verbringe ich 2x30 Minuten in der U-Bahn, anstatt nur zu einem Schwimmbad in der N\u00e4he zu gehen \u2013 um keine Hosen tragen zu m\u00fcssen.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESexualisierung\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAbgesehen von geringer Verf\u00fcgbarkeit und lange Pendeln, gibt es noch eine Sache, die mich in Stadtbad Neuk\u00f6lln \u00e4rgert \u2013 es ist voll von geilen Schwulen. Ich mag nat\u00fcrlich geilen Schwulen, (ich k\u00f6nnte die H\u00e4lfte von ihnen gerne ficken!), aber du wei\u00dft... alles hat eine richtige Zeit und einen richtigen Platz. Wenn ich einen Hookup finden m\u00f6chte, w\u00fcrde ich \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.grindr.com\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Grindr\u003C\/a\u003E installieren oder die \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.boiler-berlin.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E boiler-berlin.de\u003C\/a\u003EBoiler Sauna{\/Verkn\u00fcpfung}  besuchen.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAber da dr\u00fcben komme ich, _um zu schwimmen. Es ist gruselig, wenn du \u201cversehentlich\u201d deine Hand gegen meinen Hodensack ber\u00fchrst, wenn wir uns im Wasser vorbeigehen. Es ist verdammt \u00e4rgerlich, wenn alle Duschen besetzt sind, weil du mehr Zeit dort verbringst als tats\u00e4chlich schwimmend. Es ist komisch, wenn man einen verdammten Cockring in einem Schwimmbad tr\u00e4gt. Und es ist eine verdammte sexuelle Bel\u00e4stigung, wenn du meinen Arsch packst, ohne dass ich sogar ein kleines Interesse an dir gezeigt habe.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EGrundursache\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIch bin fast sicher, dass alle diese Probleme aus einer einzigen Ursache stammen: \u003Cstrong\u003EMischen von Nudismus und Sex\u003C\/strong\u003E. Offensichtlich kann Nacktheit sexuell sein \u2013 aber muss sie nicht! Sie ist sch\u00f6n, erfreulich und befreit von sich selbst.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAber viele Leute mischen die beiden: das ist der Grund, warum sie an nackte Str\u00e4nde nur in Bezug auf ihre \u003Cem\u003EHotness\u003C\/em\u003E denken, das ist der Grund, warum f\u00fchlen sich einige Jungs berechtigt, sexuelle Fortschritte zu anderen zu machen, nur weil sie nackt sind, und ich denke es ich ach der Grund, warum Berlins Schwimmb\u00e4der nicht zu eifrig sind, die Zeit f\u00fcr FKK in ihren Zeitpl\u00e4nen zu geben \u2013 aus der Angst, ein Sex-Jagdgebiet zu werden ...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJungs, komm schon. Ich wei\u00df, dass Sex genial ist, aber so ist auch die Nachtheit aus anderen Gr\u00fcnden \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["alt","alter","deutschland","fkk","freiheit","homo","homosexualit\u00e4t","nackt","nacktheit","naturismus","schwimmbad","schwul","sex"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/halensee_small.jpg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/halensee_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/halensee_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Me at Halensee\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022180\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIch liebe, wie die Deutschen nicht pr\u00fcde sind, wenn es um Nacktheit geht. Sie haben sogar \u003Ca href=\u0022 http:\/\/www.rtl2.de\/sendung\/naked-attraction-dating-hautnah\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E eine Dating-Show\u003C\/a\u003E, wo man ein Date nur darauf basierend ausw\u00e4hlt, wie es nackt aussieht \u2013 und es gibt fast keine Kontroverse deswegen. Sie haben die Nacktheit sogar zum eine Art der Kultur gebracht \u2013 es nennt sich zwar FKK, Freik\u00f6rperkultur.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIch habe es immer genossen, nackt zu sein, sei es mit anderen Leuten oder nicht. Und von dem, was ich geh\u00f6rt habe, f\u00fcr einem FKKler gibt es nur wenige (oder keine) besseren L\u00e4nder zu leben als Deutschland. Aber trotzdem gibt es einige Dinge, die ich nicht mag...\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/halensee_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/halensee_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Me at Halensee\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022180\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIch liebe, wie die Deutschen nicht pr\u00fcde sind, wenn es um Nacktheit geht. Sie haben sogar \u003Ca href=\u0022 http:\/\/www.rtl2.de\/sendung\/naked-attraction-dating-hautnah\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E eine Dating-Show\u003C\/a\u003E, wo man ein Date nur darauf basierend ausw\u00e4hlt, wie es nackt aussieht \u2013 und es gibt fast keine Kontroverse deswegen. Sie haben die Nacktheit sogar zum eine Art der Kultur gebracht \u2013 es nennt sich zwar FKK, Freik\u00f6rperkultur.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIch habe es immer genossen, nackt zu sein, sei es mit anderen Leuten oder nicht. Und von dem, was ich geh\u00f6rt habe, f\u00fcr einem FKKler gibt es nur wenige (oder keine) besseren L\u00e4nder zu leben als Deutschland. Aber trotzdem gibt es einige Dinge, die ich nicht mag...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EGentrifizierung\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EManche Leute lehnen die Idee ab, einen FKK-Strand zu besuchen, weil \u003Cem\u003Ees wahrscheinlich nur sehr wenige hei\u00dfe M\u00e4dchen da gibt und ziemlich viele alte, h\u00e4ssliche Gro\u00dfv\u00e4ter\u003C\/em\u003E. Alter, das ist gar nicht, worum es in den nackten Str\u00e4nden geht. Wenn \u201chei\u00dfe M\u00e4dchen\u201d sind der Grund, warum du gerne kommen willst - komm besser nicht. Es sind die Hauptregeln: nicht anstarren, keine Bilder von anderen Menschen ohne Zustimmung machen, und versuchen, keinen Boner zu bekommen. Es ist nur Sonnenbaden ohne Kleider \u2013 kein Porno, keine Orgie.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIch muss aber zustimmen, dass es zu viele \u00e4ltere Menschen in den Naturismus gibt. Nein, ich habe nichts gegen \u00e4ltere Leute \u003Cem\u003Eper se\u003C\/em\u003E, am nackten Str\u00e4nden oder im Allgemeinen. Ganz im Gegenteil: Ich bewundere ihren jungen Geist, ihr Selbstbewusstsein und (manchmal) eine wirklich gute Form. Ich liebe, wie es ihnen egal ist, wie es f\u00fcr sie ganz normal ist, dass sie nackt sonnen. Man kann wirklich Freiheit und Sorglosigkeit auf ihren Gesichtern sehen.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAber wenn man sie mit der Zahl der j\u00fcngeren Menschen vergleicht, kann man besorgt werden. Ich m\u00f6chte nicht, dass die deutsche FKK in den folgenden Jahrzehnten langsam ausstirbt. Und ich f\u00fchle mich ein wenig unangenehm und unruhig, wenn ich meistens von \u00e4lteren Menschen umstellt bin...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESommer-Zentrismus\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWenn es drau\u00dfen warm ist, gibt es viel, nackt mit anderen Leuten, zu tun. In Berlin k\u00f6nntest du einen \u00f6ffentlichen Park zuf\u00e4llig ausw\u00e4hlen und es wird eine ziemlich gro\u00dfe Chance geben, dass er einen offiziellen oder inoffiziellen FKK-Bereich hat.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDas Foto oben habe ich heute auf einer Wiese neben Halensee genommen. Da kannst du so gekleidet oder so nackt sein, wie du willst. Du kannst schwimmen, du kannst sonnenbaden, du kannst Bier trinken, reden, Gitarre spielen, Frisbee spielen, was du willst.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDie Menschen organisieren nackte Wanderungen im Wald und andere Aktivit\u00e4ten... Der deutsche Sommer ist sehr aktiv und nackt. Aber dann kommen die k\u00e4lteren Jahreszeiten...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EUnd nicht viel ist \u00fcbrig. Saunen, soweit ich wei\u00df, sind in Deutschland immer nackt (und ja sie sollten \u2013 das Tragen von Kleidern in solchen Umgebungen ist ungesund f\u00fcr deine Haut!), aber ich war noch nie in einem, seitdem ich nach Deutschland gezogen bin, ich bin einfach nicht der gr\u00f6\u00dfte Fan. Ich bin aber ein Fan vom Schwimmen. Vor allem ohne Badehose \u2013 es f\u00fchlt sich so befreiend an! Ich habe schon so oft nackt geschwommen, dass ein Gedanke, etwas im Wasser zu tragen, kling mir komisch \u2013 nicht umgekehrt.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEs scheint aber, dass in Berlin, eine Stadt mit 4 Millionen Einwohner, gibt es nur einen Platz wo man das machen kann \u2013 \u003Ca href=\u0022 https: \/\/www.berlinerbaeder.de\/baeder\/stadtbad-neukoelln\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Stadtbad Neuk\u00f6lln\u003C\/a\u003E. Nun, es sei denn, du bist ein Mitglied eines Vereins \u2013 aber meine soziale Ungeschicklichkeit geht nicht wirklich damit zusammen. Also einmal w\u00f6chentlich (oder sogar zweimal, seit vor kurzem \ud83d\ude0a) verbringe ich 2x30 Minuten in der U-Bahn, anstatt nur zu einem Schwimmbad in der N\u00e4he zu gehen \u2013 um keine Hosen tragen zu m\u00fcssen.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESexualisierung\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAbgesehen von geringer Verf\u00fcgbarkeit und lange Pendeln, gibt es noch eine Sache, die mich in Stadtbad Neuk\u00f6lln \u00e4rgert \u2013 es ist voll von geilen Schwulen. Ich mag nat\u00fcrlich geilen Schwulen, (ich k\u00f6nnte die H\u00e4lfte von ihnen gerne ficken!), aber du wei\u00dft... alles hat eine richtige Zeit und einen richtigen Platz. Wenn ich einen Hookup finden m\u00f6chte, w\u00fcrde ich \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.grindr.com\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Grindr\u003C\/a\u003E installieren oder die \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.boiler-berlin.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E boiler-berlin.de\u003C\/a\u003EBoiler Sauna{\/Verkn\u00fcpfung}  besuchen.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAber da dr\u00fcben komme ich, _um zu schwimmen. Es ist gruselig, wenn du \u201cversehentlich\u201d deine Hand gegen meinen Hodensack ber\u00fchrst, wenn wir uns im Wasser vorbeigehen. Es ist verdammt \u00e4rgerlich, wenn alle Duschen besetzt sind, weil du mehr Zeit dort verbringst als tats\u00e4chlich schwimmend. Es ist komisch, wenn man einen verdammten Cockring in einem Schwimmbad tr\u00e4gt. Und es ist eine verdammte sexuelle Bel\u00e4stigung, wenn du meinen Arsch packst, ohne dass ich sogar ein kleines Interesse an dir gezeigt habe.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EGrundursache\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIch bin fast sicher, dass alle diese Probleme aus einer einzigen Ursache stammen: \u003Cstrong\u003EMischen von Nudismus und Sex\u003C\/strong\u003E. Offensichtlich kann Nacktheit sexuell sein \u2013 aber muss sie nicht! Sie ist sch\u00f6n, erfreulich und befreit von sich selbst.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAber viele Leute mischen die beiden: das ist der Grund, warum sie an nackte Str\u00e4nde nur in Bezug auf ihre \u003Cem\u003EHotness\u003C\/em\u003E denken, das ist der Grund, warum f\u00fchlen sich einige Jungs berechtigt, sexuelle Fortschritte zu anderen zu machen, nur weil sie nackt sind, und ich denke es ich ach der Grund, warum Berlins Schwimmb\u00e4der nicht zu eifrig sind, die Zeit f\u00fcr FKK in ihren Zeitpl\u00e4nen zu geben \u2013 aus der Angst, ein Sex-Jagdgebiet zu werden ...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJungs, komm schon. Ich wei\u00df, dass Sex genial ist, aber so ist auch die Nachtheit aus anderen Gr\u00fcnden \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E","words":899,"readTime":4,"lang":"de"},"en":{"slug":"problems-with-german-naturism","title":"Problems with German naturism","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/halensee_small.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Me at Halensee\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/halensee_small.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Me at Halensee\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI love how the Germans are non-prudish when it comes to nudity. They even have \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.rtl2.de\/sendung\/naked-attraction-dating-hautnah\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E a dating show\u003C\/a\u003E, where people choose their dates solely based on how they look naked \u2013 and it sparks next to no controversy at all. They\u2019ve even created a kind of culture around being naked \u2013 that\u2019s actually how they call it in German: FKK, Freik\u00f6rperkultur, Free Body Culture.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019ve always enjoyed being naked, be it with other people or not. And from what I\u2019ve heard,  for a nudist there are very few (or no) better countries to live than Germany. 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They even have \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.rtl2.de\/sendung\/naked-attraction-dating-hautnah\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E a dating show\u003C\/a\u003E, where people choose their dates solely based on how they look naked \u2013 and it sparks next to no controversy at all. They\u2019ve even created a kind of culture around being naked \u2013 that\u2019s actually how they call it in German: FKK, Freik\u00f6rperkultur, Free Body Culture.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019ve always enjoyed being naked, be it with other people or not. And from what I\u2019ve heard,  for a nudist there are very few (or no) better countries to live than Germany. But still, there are some things that annoy me about it...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EGentrification\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESome people reject the idea of visiting a nude beach because \u003Cem\u003Ethere will probably be very few hot girls there and quite a lot of old, ugly grandpas\u003C\/em\u003E. Dude, that\u2019s not what nude beaches are about. If \u201cwatching hot girls\u201d is the reason you\u2019d like to come over \u2013 just don\u2019t. It\u2019s the main rules: no staring, no taking pictures of other people without consent, try not to get a boner. It\u2019s just sunbathing without clothes \u2013 not a porn, not an orgy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut I have to agree that there\u2019s way too many older people into naturism here. No, I don\u2019t have anything against older people \u003Cem\u003Eper se\u003C\/em\u003E, on nude beaches or in general. Quite the opposite: I admire their young spirit, their confidence and (sometimes) a really good shape. I love how they just don\u2019t care, how it\u2019s perfectly normal for them to sunbathe naked. You can literally see freedom and don\u2019t-give-a-fuck-ism on their faces.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut their numbers relative to the number of younger people is a bit concerning. I don\u2019t want the German nudism culture to slowly die out in the following decades. And I feel a little awkward and uneasy when I\u2019m surrounded mostly by older people...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESummer-centrism\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen it\u2019s warm outside, there\u2019s plenty to do naked with other people. In Berlin you could choose a public park by random and there will be quite a high chance that it has an officially or unofficially nudist area.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe photo above I\u2019ve taken today on a meadow next to Halensee. You can be as clothed or as naked as you want there. You can swim, you can sunbathe, you can drink beer, talk, play guitar, play frisbee, you name it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPeople are organising naked hikes in the woods and other activities... German summer is active and naked. But then the colder seasons come...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd you\u2019re not left with much. Saunas, as far as I know, are always naked in Germany (and hell yeah they should be \u2013 wearing any clothes in such environments is unhealthy for your skin!), but I\u2019ve never been in one since I moved to Germany, I\u2019m just not the biggest fan. I am, however, a fan of swimming. Especially without trunks \u2013 it feels so liberating! I\u2019ve already swam naked so many times, that a thought of wearing something in the water feels awkward to me \u2013 not the other way around.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut it seems there\u2019s only one place in the whole 4 million population city of Berlin where you can do it \u2013 \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.berlinerbaeder.de\/baeder\/stadtbad-neukoelln\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Stadtbad Neuk\u00f6lln\u003C\/a\u003E. Well, unless you\u2019re a member of some club (Verein), but my social awkwardness doesn\u2019t really go along with that. So once a week (or even twice, since recently! \ud83d\ude0a) I\u2019m taking 2\u00d730 minutes on U-Bahn, instead of just walking to a pool nearby, just in order not to be made to wear trunks.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESexualisation\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EApart from low availability and long commute, there\u2019s one more thing that annoys me in Stadtbad Neuk\u00f6lln \u2013 it\u2019s full of horny gays. I obviously do like horny gays, (hell I could fuck half of them!), but you know... everything has a right time and a right place. If I wanted find a hookup, I would install \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.grindr.com\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Grindr\u003C\/a\u003E or visit the \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.boiler-berlin.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Boiler Sauna\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut over there I come to \u003Cem\u003Eswim\u003C\/em\u003E. It\u2019s creepy when you \u201caccidentally\u201d brush your hand against my crotch when we pass each other in the water. It\u2019s fucking annoying, when all the showers are occupied because you spend more time there than actually swimming. It\u2019s weird if you wear a damn cock ring in a swimming pool. And it\u2019s a fucking sexual harassment if you grab my ass without me even showing a tiniest interest in you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ERoot cause\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019m almost certain all those problems stem from a single cause: \u003Cstrong\u003Emixing up nudism and sex\u003C\/strong\u003E. Obviously, nudity can be sexual \u2013 but it doesn\u2019t have to! It\u2019s beautiful, pleasing and liberating by itself.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut many people mix those two up: that\u2019s why they think about nude beaches only in terms of their \u003Cem\u003Ehotness\u003C\/em\u003E, that\u2019s why some guys feel entitled to make sexual advances to others just because they\u2019re naked, and I guess that\u2019s why Berlin\u2019s swimming pools aren\u2019t too eager to plan some FKK time in their timetables, for fear of becoming a sex-hunting area...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGuys, come on. I know sex is awesome, but so is being naked for other reasons \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["age","beach","fkk","freedom","gay","gentrification","germany","naturism","nudism","nudity","old","pool","sex","swimming"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/halensee_small.jpg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/halensee_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/halensee_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Me at Halensee\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022180\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI love how the Germans are non-prudish when it comes to nudity. They even have \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.rtl2.de\/sendung\/naked-attraction-dating-hautnah\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E a dating show\u003C\/a\u003E, where people choose their dates solely based on how they look naked \u2013 and it sparks next to no controversy at all. They\u2019ve even created a kind of culture around being naked \u2013 that\u2019s actually how they call it in German: FKK, Freik\u00f6rperkultur, Free Body Culture.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019ve always enjoyed being naked, be it with other people or not. And from what I\u2019ve heard,  for a nudist there are very few (or no) better countries to live than Germany. But still, there are some things that annoy me about it...\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/halensee_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/halensee_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Me at Halensee\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022180\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI love how the Germans are non-prudish when it comes to nudity. They even have \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.rtl2.de\/sendung\/naked-attraction-dating-hautnah\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E a dating show\u003C\/a\u003E, where people choose their dates solely based on how they look naked \u2013 and it sparks next to no controversy at all. They\u2019ve even created a kind of culture around being naked \u2013 that\u2019s actually how they call it in German: FKK, Freik\u00f6rperkultur, Free Body Culture.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019ve always enjoyed being naked, be it with other people or not. And from what I\u2019ve heard,  for a nudist there are very few (or no) better countries to live than Germany. But still, there are some things that annoy me about it...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EGentrification\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESome people reject the idea of visiting a nude beach because \u003Cem\u003Ethere will probably be very few hot girls there and quite a lot of old, ugly grandpas\u003C\/em\u003E. Dude, that\u2019s not what nude beaches are about. If \u201cwatching hot girls\u201d is the reason you\u2019d like to come over \u2013 just don\u2019t. It\u2019s the main rules: no staring, no taking pictures of other people without consent, try not to get a boner. It\u2019s just sunbathing without clothes \u2013 not a porn, not an orgy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut I have to agree that there\u2019s way too many older people into naturism here. No, I don\u2019t have anything against older people \u003Cem\u003Eper se\u003C\/em\u003E, on nude beaches or in general. Quite the opposite: I admire their young spirit, their confidence and (sometimes) a really good shape. I love how they just don\u2019t care, how it\u2019s perfectly normal for them to sunbathe naked. You can literally see freedom and don\u2019t-give-a-fuck-ism on their faces.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut their numbers relative to the number of younger people is a bit concerning. I don\u2019t want the German nudism culture to slowly die out in the following decades. And I feel a little awkward and uneasy when I\u2019m surrounded mostly by older people...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESummer-centrism\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen it\u2019s warm outside, there\u2019s plenty to do naked with other people. In Berlin you could choose a public park by random and there will be quite a high chance that it has an officially or unofficially nudist area.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe photo above I\u2019ve taken today on a meadow next to Halensee. You can be as clothed or as naked as you want there. You can swim, you can sunbathe, you can drink beer, talk, play guitar, play frisbee, you name it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPeople are organising naked hikes in the woods and other activities... German summer is active and naked. But then the colder seasons come...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd you\u2019re not left with much. Saunas, as far as I know, are always naked in Germany (and hell yeah they should be \u2013 wearing any clothes in such environments is unhealthy for your skin!), but I\u2019ve never been in one since I moved to Germany, I\u2019m just not the biggest fan. I am, however, a fan of swimming. Especially without trunks \u2013 it feels so liberating! I\u2019ve already swam naked so many times, that a thought of wearing something in the water feels awkward to me \u2013 not the other way around.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut it seems there\u2019s only one place in the whole 4 million population city of Berlin where you can do it \u2013 \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.berlinerbaeder.de\/baeder\/stadtbad-neukoelln\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Stadtbad Neuk\u00f6lln\u003C\/a\u003E. Well, unless you\u2019re a member of some club (Verein), but my social awkwardness doesn\u2019t really go along with that. So once a week (or even twice, since recently! \ud83d\ude0a) I\u2019m taking 2\u00d730 minutes on U-Bahn, instead of just walking to a pool nearby, just in order not to be made to wear trunks.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESexualisation\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EApart from low availability and long commute, there\u2019s one more thing that annoys me in Stadtbad Neuk\u00f6lln \u2013 it\u2019s full of horny gays. I obviously do like horny gays, (hell I could fuck half of them!), but you know... everything has a right time and a right place. If I wanted find a hookup, I would install \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.grindr.com\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Grindr\u003C\/a\u003E or visit the \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.boiler-berlin.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Boiler Sauna\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut over there I come to \u003Cem\u003Eswim\u003C\/em\u003E. It\u2019s creepy when you \u201caccidentally\u201d brush your hand against my crotch when we pass each other in the water. It\u2019s fucking annoying, when all the showers are occupied because you spend more time there than actually swimming. It\u2019s weird if you wear a damn cock ring in a swimming pool. And it\u2019s a fucking sexual harassment if you grab my ass without me even showing a tiniest interest in you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ERoot cause\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019m almost certain all those problems stem from a single cause: \u003Cstrong\u003Emixing up nudism and sex\u003C\/strong\u003E. Obviously, nudity can be sexual \u2013 but it doesn\u2019t have to! It\u2019s beautiful, pleasing and liberating by itself.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut many people mix those two up: that\u2019s why they think about nude beaches only in terms of their \u003Cem\u003Ehotness\u003C\/em\u003E, that\u2019s why some guys feel entitled to make sexual advances to others just because they\u2019re naked, and I guess that\u2019s why Berlin\u2019s swimming pools aren\u2019t too eager to plan some FKK time in their timetables, for fear of becoming a sex-hunting area...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGuys, come on. I know sex is awesome, but so is being naked for other reasons \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E","words":870,"readTime":4,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/i-love-being-gay":{"key":"blog\/life\/i-love-being-gay","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2017-05-10T17:54:09+02:00","publishedAt":"2017-05-12T10:00:00+02:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"i-love-being-gay"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"i-love-being-gay","title":"I love being gay!","intro":"\u003Cp\u003EBeing gay is not easy. Depending on where you live, it might mean different things to you. Best case scenario \u2013 some minor inconveniences. Worst case \u2013 even danger of death. \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/lgbtq\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-tag\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E LGBTQ\u003C\/a\u003E youth has a higher suicide rate than their straight \u0026amp; cis friends, they fear getting disowned by their families, thrown out of their homes, in some countries being sentenced to prison or lashes... We don\u2019t have equal rights, we can\u2019t always show affection in public. Being gay can be scary, lonely and awful.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut there is also a good side to that. The side of being gay that I really really love!\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003EBeing gay is not easy. Depending on where you live, it might mean different things to you. Best case scenario \u2013 some minor inconveniences. Worst case \u2013 even danger of death. \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/lgbtq\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-tag\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E LGBTQ\u003C\/a\u003E youth has a higher suicide rate than their straight \u0026amp; cis friends, they fear getting disowned by their families, thrown out of their homes, in some countries being sentenced to prison or lashes... We don\u2019t have equal rights, we can\u2019t always show affection in public. Being gay can be scary, lonely and awful.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut there is also a good side to that. The side of being gay that I really really love!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EEquality and freedom to be yourself\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen I see a straight couple on a date, most of the time the guy seems nervous: he plans the whole thing, he tries to impress the girl, he bares responsibility for the date to work out well. She, on the other hand, is more passive, just enjoying his efforts.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen I hear about family problems of straight couples, they often concern the division of household chores or generally the traditional gender roles. The wife is expected to sacrifice her career for the children and the household, while the husband is expected to heroically protect the family from every danger.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd almost nobody seems to be happy with that. Girls, who try to impress a guy or want to ask him out, often feel strange, inappropriate. And some guys might be shy and prefer to be approached by a girl, or might not like the burden of organising their dates. Girls might want to focus on their careers, guys might need the privilege of being cowardly...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGays, on the other hand, can be so \u003Cstrong\u003Eflexible\u003C\/strong\u003E in all of that! Who reels up the the other? Well, whoever\u2019s brave enough. Who organises the dates? Whoever feels like it, or whoever has a nice idea, or we just do it together. Who does the chores? We just split it, so that everybody does, what they do best. If both of you are the man or the woman, then you don\u2019t have to \u201cbe the man in this relationship\u201d or wonder \u201cwhat should I do as a woman?\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019m not saying straight couples cannot have such \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/equality\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-tag\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E equality\u003C\/a\u003E and \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/freedom\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-tag\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E freedom\u003C\/a\u003E to be yourself, as same-sex couples do. That would be \u003Cstrong\u003Estereotypical, plain stupid and simply not true\u003C\/strong\u003E. They obviously can, and I know many that do. But you\u2019ve got to admit, the overall trend of equality in a relationship and the general expectations from the society in that matter look way better for same-sex couples, don\u2019t they?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EViews\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA girl meets a boy: he\u2019s nice, interesting, handsome and strong. She falls in love with him. Well, at least until they talk about politics for the first time. Then it turns out that her prince charming is actually a nationalistic fucktard, he\u2019s hateful towards other nations and skin colours, he wants to let the refugees die in the war zone...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EObviously, \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/how-come-you-don-t-like-a-gay-jew\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-people-carry\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E gays also can be right-wing extremists\u003C\/a\u003E, but statistically I would expect much lower percentage of such people among the LGBTQ community. Why? We can sympathise with \u003Cstrong\u003Eminorities\u003C\/strong\u003E, because we are a minority ourselves. We\u2019ve been hurt by inequality, so we have a lot of determination to fight against it. Our common suffering unites us and makes us stronger.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ECommunity\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhich brings me to the awesomeness of the LGBTQ community in general. My first time in a gay bar was an amazing, unforgettable experience, even though nothing special actually happened. But it was just \u003Cstrong\u003Eso open\u003C\/strong\u003E!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EObviously, that\u2019s a huge generalisation, but you know... In a gay bar, during a pride parade or in some LGBTQ association, as long as you share the same values, you can \u003Cstrong\u003Efeel welcome\u003C\/strong\u003E, you can \u003Cstrong\u003Ebe yourself\u003C\/strong\u003E and not be judged for that, you can \u003Cstrong\u003Efeel safe\u003C\/strong\u003E and wanted. It\u2019s just so warm and friendly! You can be on first name terms with everybody by default (even in Poland or Germany, where \u201cDu\u201d and \u201cSie\u201d thingy is quite a big deal).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe Community is like a huge, worldwide family for me. I cried after the massacre in \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/orlando\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-tag\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Orlando\u003C\/a\u003E as if I\u2019d lost really close friends \u2013 even though I didn\u2019t know those people. After my biological family rejected me, it\u2019s the misfits of the LGBTQ community that made me feel at home again.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EOnline dating\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor a shy guy like me online dating is quite a big deal. Remember all the jokes in the sitcoms about couples being ashamed that they\u2019ve met online and coming up with some fake \u201chow we met\u201d stories? This shows a stigma around the topic. As if it was a \u003Cem\u003Eworse\u003C\/em\u003E way to meet someone. If anything, it\u2019s better in many ways. Like being able to get to know someone\u2019s interests and character (and not just their looks) from their profile before even talking to them \u2013 you can\u2019t see any of that when you\u2019re saying hello to a stranger in a bar.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESure, now in the age of Tinder\u2019s popularity, that stigma is getting smaller and smaller. But nevertheless: I\u2019m happy to be part of a community, where meeting your boyfriend or your hookup on the Internet is not a big deal, but practically a default.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESex\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEver wondered, why sex-related jokes about gays are almost always about us doing anal (\u201dhaha, they fuck in the shithole!\u201d) or about straight guys\u2019 irrational fears that we would rape them (\u201dI\u2019ll sleep on this side, otherwise you\u2019d fuck me, faggot, hehe...\u201d)? Well, yeah, we do anal, and it\u2019s awesome, what\u2019s your point? And no, gay \u2260 rapist, and if you\u2019d joke about that, it probably means that\u2019s the way you\u2019d treat a woman in a similar situation...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMeanwhile, in sit-coms, standups etc. I keep hearing jokes about guys constantly underperforming in bed, finishing after 3 minutes, refusing to go down on a girl while demanding a blowjob for themselves, being generally boring and self-absorbed in bed... I might think they\u2019re just jokes, but then I keep hearing complaints about precisely that from my straight female friends about their boyfriends.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESeems like many straight guys don\u2019t experiment with their bodies, as if their cock was their only sex organ and a woman was basically just a toy for their wank. Getting your nipples stimulated, your armpits or asshole licked, etc. etc., that feels so amazing! Your G-spot is your prostate, and if you don\u2019t play with it for fear that \u201cit\u2019s gay\u201d, you\u2019re just missing out. Licking other people\u2019s bodies can be so hot as well...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFrom what I hear, many straight people divide sex into foreplay and penetration. Penetration is what a guy really wants, while foreplay is what he is willing to do, reluctantly, to be allowed to get to the penetration. And gays? Seriously, I don\u2019t remember the last time I even used the word \u201cforeplay\u201d. It\u2019s all just sex. It\u2019s all awesome. Did you know that most of the time we don\u2019t even fuck in the ass during sex? Anal requires preparation, douching, status talk, condoms, lube, etc., meanwhile everything else is almost just as good, so why bother that much every time?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201cSeducing a straight guy\u201d is quite a common theme in gay porn. But I don\u2019t really get that phantasy. If the majority of straight guys is really the way standuppers, sitcoms, jokes and their own partners say they are in bed, well... I\u2019m just glad that there are only gay\/bi guys in my bed.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EAnd so much more...\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t have to worry about getting someone \u003Cstrong\u003Epregnant\u003C\/strong\u003E. Or about my country trying to restrict access to \u003Cstrong\u003Econtraception and abortion\u003C\/strong\u003E (although \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/schwarzermontag\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-people-carry\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E I am fighting\u003C\/a\u003E for others\u2019 right to use them). I won\u2019t end up in a marriage where we don\u2019t actually want to be together, but we just ended up with an unwanted pregnancy and decided it\u2019s best for the baby... If I share my clothes and underwear with my boyfriend, my wardrobe becomes twice as big. There are so many things I don\u2019t really think about every day, but when they do come up, I can\u2019t help but think \u201cthank goddess I\u2019m gay!\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo if I were born straight, I guess I\u2019d be trying to be as \u201cgay\u201d as possible anyway. Looking for a girlfriend that would treat be like a partner, not as a patriarch. Visiting gay bars, because why not. Using online dating sites and not caring what others think...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere\u2019s naturally \u003Cstrong\u003Enothing wrong with being straight\u003C\/strong\u003E, or with being gay, or lesbian, or bisexual, or pansexual. But hell yeah I\u2019m happy I happened to be born just the way I have!\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["chores","community","dating","equality","expression","family","freedom","gay","gender","lesbian","lgbtq","online dating","porn","relationship","sex"],"hasMore":true,"image":null,"introLite":"\u003Cp\u003EBeing gay is not easy. Depending on where you live, it might mean different things to you. Best case scenario \u2013 some minor inconveniences. Worst case \u2013 even danger of death. \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/lgbtq\u0022\u003E LGBTQ\u003C\/a\u003E youth has a higher suicide rate than their straight \u0026amp; cis friends, they fear getting disowned by their families, thrown out of their homes, in some countries being sentenced to prison or lashes... We don\u2019t have equal rights, we can\u2019t always show affection in public. Being gay can be scary, lonely and awful.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut there is also a good side to that. The side of being gay that I really really love!\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cp\u003EBeing gay is not easy. Depending on where you live, it might mean different things to you. Best case scenario \u2013 some minor inconveniences. Worst case \u2013 even danger of death. \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/lgbtq\u0022\u003E LGBTQ\u003C\/a\u003E youth has a higher suicide rate than their straight \u0026amp; cis friends, they fear getting disowned by their families, thrown out of their homes, in some countries being sentenced to prison or lashes... We don\u2019t have equal rights, we can\u2019t always show affection in public. Being gay can be scary, lonely and awful.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut there is also a good side to that. The side of being gay that I really really love!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EEquality and freedom to be yourself\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen I see a straight couple on a date, most of the time the guy seems nervous: he plans the whole thing, he tries to impress the girl, he bares responsibility for the date to work out well. She, on the other hand, is more passive, just enjoying his efforts.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen I hear about family problems of straight couples, they often concern the division of household chores or generally the traditional gender roles. The wife is expected to sacrifice her career for the children and the household, while the husband is expected to heroically protect the family from every danger.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd almost nobody seems to be happy with that. Girls, who try to impress a guy or want to ask him out, often feel strange, inappropriate. And some guys might be shy and prefer to be approached by a girl, or might not like the burden of organising their dates. Girls might want to focus on their careers, guys might need the privilege of being cowardly...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGays, on the other hand, can be so \u003Cstrong\u003Eflexible\u003C\/strong\u003E in all of that! Who reels up the the other? Well, whoever\u2019s brave enough. Who organises the dates? Whoever feels like it, or whoever has a nice idea, or we just do it together. Who does the chores? We just split it, so that everybody does, what they do best. If both of you are the man or the woman, then you don\u2019t have to \u201cbe the man in this relationship\u201d or wonder \u201cwhat should I do as a woman?\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019m not saying straight couples cannot have such \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/equality\u0022\u003E equality\u003C\/a\u003E and \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/freedom\u0022\u003E freedom\u003C\/a\u003E to be yourself, as same-sex couples do. That would be \u003Cstrong\u003Estereotypical, plain stupid and simply not true\u003C\/strong\u003E. They obviously can, and I know many that do. But you\u2019ve got to admit, the overall trend of equality in a relationship and the general expectations from the society in that matter look way better for same-sex couples, don\u2019t they?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EViews\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA girl meets a boy: he\u2019s nice, interesting, handsome and strong. She falls in love with him. Well, at least until they talk about politics for the first time. Then it turns out that her prince charming is actually a nationalistic fucktard, he\u2019s hateful towards other nations and skin colours, he wants to let the refugees die in the war zone...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EObviously, \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/how-come-you-don-t-like-a-gay-jew.lite\u0022\u003E gays also can be right-wing extremists\u003C\/a\u003E, but statistically I would expect much lower percentage of such people among the LGBTQ community. Why? We can sympathise with \u003Cstrong\u003Eminorities\u003C\/strong\u003E, because we are a minority ourselves. We\u2019ve been hurt by inequality, so we have a lot of determination to fight against it. Our common suffering unites us and makes us stronger.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ECommunity\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhich brings me to the awesomeness of the LGBTQ community in general. My first time in a gay bar was an amazing, unforgettable experience, even though nothing special actually happened. But it was just \u003Cstrong\u003Eso open\u003C\/strong\u003E!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EObviously, that\u2019s a huge generalisation, but you know... In a gay bar, during a pride parade or in some LGBTQ association, as long as you share the same values, you can \u003Cstrong\u003Efeel welcome\u003C\/strong\u003E, you can \u003Cstrong\u003Ebe yourself\u003C\/strong\u003E and not be judged for that, you can \u003Cstrong\u003Efeel safe\u003C\/strong\u003E and wanted. It\u2019s just so warm and friendly! You can be on first name terms with everybody by default (even in Poland or Germany, where \u201cDu\u201d and \u201cSie\u201d thingy is quite a big deal).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe Community is like a huge, worldwide family for me. I cried after the massacre in \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/orlando\u0022\u003E Orlando\u003C\/a\u003E as if I\u2019d lost really close friends \u2013 even though I didn\u2019t know those people. After my biological family rejected me, it\u2019s the misfits of the LGBTQ community that made me feel at home again.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EOnline dating\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor a shy guy like me online dating is quite a big deal. Remember all the jokes in the sitcoms about couples being ashamed that they\u2019ve met online and coming up with some fake \u201chow we met\u201d stories? This shows a stigma around the topic. As if it was a \u003Cem\u003Eworse\u003C\/em\u003E way to meet someone. If anything, it\u2019s better in many ways. Like being able to get to know someone\u2019s interests and character (and not just their looks) from their profile before even talking to them \u2013 you can\u2019t see any of that when you\u2019re saying hello to a stranger in a bar.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESure, now in the age of Tinder\u2019s popularity, that stigma is getting smaller and smaller. But nevertheless: I\u2019m happy to be part of a community, where meeting your boyfriend or your hookup on the Internet is not a big deal, but practically a default.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESex\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEver wondered, why sex-related jokes about gays are almost always about us doing anal (\u201dhaha, they fuck in the shithole!\u201d) or about straight guys\u2019 irrational fears that we would rape them (\u201dI\u2019ll sleep on this side, otherwise you\u2019d fuck me, faggot, hehe...\u201d)? Well, yeah, we do anal, and it\u2019s awesome, what\u2019s your point? And no, gay \u2260 rapist, and if you\u2019d joke about that, it probably means that\u2019s the way you\u2019d treat a woman in a similar situation...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMeanwhile, in sit-coms, standups etc. I keep hearing jokes about guys constantly underperforming in bed, finishing after 3 minutes, refusing to go down on a girl while demanding a blowjob for themselves, being generally boring and self-absorbed in bed... I might think they\u2019re just jokes, but then I keep hearing complaints about precisely that from my straight female friends about their boyfriends.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESeems like many straight guys don\u2019t experiment with their bodies, as if their cock was their only sex organ and a woman was basically just a toy for their wank. Getting your nipples stimulated, your armpits or asshole licked, etc. etc., that feels so amazing! Your G-spot is your prostate, and if you don\u2019t play with it for fear that \u201cit\u2019s gay\u201d, you\u2019re just missing out. Licking other people\u2019s bodies can be so hot as well...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFrom what I hear, many straight people divide sex into foreplay and penetration. Penetration is what a guy really wants, while foreplay is what he is willing to do, reluctantly, to be allowed to get to the penetration. And gays? Seriously, I don\u2019t remember the last time I even used the word \u201cforeplay\u201d. It\u2019s all just sex. It\u2019s all awesome. Did you know that most of the time we don\u2019t even fuck in the ass during sex? Anal requires preparation, douching, status talk, condoms, lube, etc., meanwhile everything else is almost just as good, so why bother that much every time?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201cSeducing a straight guy\u201d is quite a common theme in gay porn. But I don\u2019t really get that phantasy. If the majority of straight guys is really the way standuppers, sitcoms, jokes and their own partners say they are in bed, well... I\u2019m just glad that there are only gay\/bi guys in my bed.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EAnd so much more...\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t have to worry about getting someone \u003Cstrong\u003Epregnant\u003C\/strong\u003E. Or about my country trying to restrict access to \u003Cstrong\u003Econtraception and abortion\u003C\/strong\u003E (although \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/schwarzermontag.lite\u0022\u003E I am fighting\u003C\/a\u003E for others\u2019 right to use them). I won\u2019t end up in a marriage where we don\u2019t actually want to be together, but we just ended up with an unwanted pregnancy and decided it\u2019s best for the baby... If I share my clothes and underwear with my boyfriend, my wardrobe becomes twice as big. There are so many things I don\u2019t really think about every day, but when they do come up, I can\u2019t help but think \u201cthank goddess I\u2019m gay!\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo if I were born straight, I guess I\u2019d be trying to be as \u201cgay\u201d as possible anyway. Looking for a girlfriend that would treat be like a partner, not as a patriarch. Visiting gay bars, because why not. Using online dating sites and not caring what others think...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere\u2019s naturally \u003Cstrong\u003Enothing wrong with being straight\u003C\/strong\u003E, or with being gay, or lesbian, or bisexual, or pansexual. But hell yeah I\u2019m happy I happened to be born just the way I have!\u003C\/p\u003E","words":1481,"readTime":6,"lang":"en"}}}}}