{"tag":"friends","articles":{"blog\/life\/a-short-story-about-polyamory-and-cheating":{"key":"blog\/life\/a-short-story-about-polyamory-and-cheating","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2021-03-27T19:57:56+01:00","publishedAt":"2021-03-27T19:57:56+01:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"a-short-story-about-polyamory-and-cheating"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"a-short-story-about-polyamory-and-cheating","title":"A short story about polyamory and cheating","intro":"\u003Cp\u003EI have a short story to tell. And it\u0027s a real one.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003EI have a short story to tell. And it\u0027s a real one.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy husband (and I) had a friend, and she had a boyfriend.\nWhen they broke up, she started fucking around (not saying that as a bad thing; I\u0027m a slut myself, after all)\nand sharing stories with us.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut you see, the thing was \u2013 they never actually broke up. She just lied.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlong with this one, we found out about a lot of other lies.\nAnd her visiting us in a multicultural country also exposed her racism\nthat we hadn\u0027t gotten a chance to see earlier.\nOverall, a huge shock and disappointment.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe were angry as fuck, and feeling sorry for the boyfriend.\nSo we told him everything we\u0027d found out\n(and shared all the screenshots he might be insterested in).\nHe was thankful. Broke up with her and kicked her out.\nOverall, not the happiest ending for her.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFast forward to last week. The guy\u2026 comes out as bisexual and \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/polyamory\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-tag\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E polyamorous\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd my first thought was: \u003Cem\u003Edaaaamn, girl, you fucked up!\u003C\/em\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EImagine she had been honest him. Not necessarily with a straight-forward \u201cI wanna fuck other people\u201d,\nbut she could have dropped a hint or two, cracked a joke, asked him how he feels about it,\nlearned to communicate better in the relationship, and in general, you know, treated him as a partner\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey could have explored the world of ethical non-monogamy together.\nThey could have had the most amazing group sex they wanted.\nThey could have had an amazing, loving polycule.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut you can\u0027t build amazing relationships without the foundation of \u003Cstrong\u003Etrust, honesty and communication\u003C\/strong\u003E.\nPolyamory isn\u0027t about \u003Cem\u003Epromiscuous people getting together for some reason\u003C\/em\u003E.\nAn open relationship isn\u0027t \u003Cem\u003Eless\u003C\/em\u003E of an relationship \u2013 if anything, it\u0027s kinda \u003Cem\u003Emore\u003C\/em\u003E!\nBecause you need to really know your partner well, trust them and be honest with them,\nif you don\u0027t want to be constantly paranoid about what they do with other people.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you actually get interested in your partner\u0027s needs, it might just turn out they align perfectly with yours.\nBut if you lie and cheat and make up an entire fake reality to cover up your infidelities,\ntrust me, no good relationship will come out of that \u2013\neven if the other person just happens to crave other relations as much as you do.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["polyamory","monogamy","cheating","trust","honesty","communication","story","friends","relationship"],"hasMore":true,"image":null,"introLite":"\u003Cp\u003EI have a short story to tell. And it\u0027s a real one.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cp\u003EI have a short story to tell. And it\u0027s a real one.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy husband (and I) had a friend, and she had a boyfriend.\nWhen they broke up, she started fucking around (not saying that as a bad thing; I\u0027m a slut myself, after all)\nand sharing stories with us.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut you see, the thing was \u2013 they never actually broke up. She just lied.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlong with this one, we found out about a lot of other lies.\nAnd her visiting us in a multicultural country also exposed her racism\nthat we hadn\u0027t gotten a chance to see earlier.\nOverall, a huge shock and disappointment.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe were angry as fuck, and feeling sorry for the boyfriend.\nSo we told him everything we\u0027d found out\n(and shared all the screenshots he might be insterested in).\nHe was thankful. Broke up with her and kicked her out.\nOverall, not the happiest ending for her.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFast forward to last week. The guy\u2026 comes out as bisexual and \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/polyamory\u0022\u003E polyamorous\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd my first thought was: \u003Cem\u003Edaaaamn, girl, you fucked up!\u003C\/em\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EImagine she had been honest him. Not necessarily with a straight-forward \u201cI wanna fuck other people\u201d,\nbut she could have dropped a hint or two, cracked a joke, asked him how he feels about it,\nlearned to communicate better in the relationship, and in general, you know, treated him as a partner\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey could have explored the world of ethical non-monogamy together.\nThey could have had the most amazing group sex they wanted.\nThey could have had an amazing, loving polycule.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut you can\u0027t build amazing relationships without the foundation of \u003Cstrong\u003Etrust, honesty and communication\u003C\/strong\u003E.\nPolyamory isn\u0027t about \u003Cem\u003Epromiscuous people getting together for some reason\u003C\/em\u003E.\nAn open relationship isn\u0027t \u003Cem\u003Eless\u003C\/em\u003E of an relationship \u2013 if anything, it\u0027s kinda \u003Cem\u003Emore\u003C\/em\u003E!\nBecause you need to really know your partner well, trust them and be honest with them,\nif you don\u0027t want to be constantly paranoid about what they do with other people.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you actually get interested in your partner\u0027s needs, it might just turn out they align perfectly with yours.\nBut if you lie and cheat and make up an entire fake reality to cover up your infidelities,\ntrust me, no good relationship will come out of that \u2013\neven if the other person just happens to crave other relations as much as you do.\u003C\/p\u003E","words":386,"readTime":2,"lang":"en"}}}}}