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data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/album-garda_big.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\ud83c\uddee\ud83c\uddf9 Sunrise at Lago di Garda\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022540\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ei took this picture exactly 12 years ago, early in the morning, at lake garda in italy.\nit\u0027s a very special photo for me \u2013 it marks a day i now consider the first day of my new life \u263a\ufe0f\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Eas a teen i used to partake in language courses in padova, italy.\nthey were organized by an order of catholic monks whose main mission is to\u2026 pray for more priests.\ni\u0027m really grateful to have had this experience. i was able to go on a vacation to a beautiful country\npractically for free \u2013 not something that my former family could afford otherwise,\nor at least not for like 6 years in a row. i\u0027ve learned a language there, spent amazing time with friends,\nhad plenty of valuable new experiences, got crazy, learned to be a bit of bad boy too.\ni\u0027ve learned so much about myself over there\u2026 padova trips have always been time for reflection and self-discovery,\na break from reality, with a mysthical atmosphere (at least in my head), perfect for prayer and soul-searching.\ni\u0027ve spent hours upon hours in the chapel or on a windowsill in a quiet part of the building,\ncontemplating my life, ethical dilemmas,\ntrying to reconcile my sexuality with my faith, my faith with my reason\u2026\nlearning how to be a person.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ebut those trips weren\u0027t being organised purely out of the priests\u0027 good hearts, of course.\nconsidering that their main mission is to get god to send them more priests,\nan implicit goal of those courses was to recruit us to join a seminary. oh well, mission failed successfully\n\u2013 i really did find my true calling there, but it wasn\u0027t what they\u0027d like \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ethe last year i was there felt different than all the rest. least of all because it was happening in a different city, desenzano de garda.\nmy life had already gotten so much different at that point. i was 19, finally legally an adult.\ni have passed my high school exams (which are, nomen omen, called \u201cmatura\u201d in polish \u2013 \u201cthe maturity exam\u201d), started uni,\ni was seriously doubting my faith and openly questioning it during catechism classes at school (yes, it\u0027s a thing in poland)\nand in conversations with priests etc. i came out to myself as queer; then to a few closest friends.\ni started dating. i gained my first sexual experience (i refuse to call it \u201closing my virginity\u201d \ud83e\udd2e).\nall of that a span of last year or so.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ejust a few weeks before desenzano i also went to regional catholic youth days \u2013 not just as a participant,\nbut also as a \u201ccamp counselor\u201d \/ \u201cguardian\u201d for a bunch of teens from my parish.\ni remember taking advantage of the perks and freedom that came with it, by cutting myself some slack in my ongoing cosplay as a christian \u2013\ni was skipping most church services, and instead was hanging out with my friends \/ wards, and playing guitar together\u2026\nmy gay friend lived in a village near where the youth days were taking place \u2013 so one day he came to meet me,\nand we were openly cuddling in front of a park full of nuns and catholic teens.\nthis was one of my first, relatively subtle coming outs, as well as acts of rebellion against the church,\nthe homophobic society and the patriarchy.\ni remember it feeling so freeing, so empowering.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ei remember wearing very faggy, green skinny jeans over there. i was just starting to develop my style\u2026\nnah, not just that, but i started to even \u003Cem\u003Ecare\u003C\/em\u003E how i look and what i wear in the first place.\nwhen i look back my old photos, ugh\u2026 no wonder i was so unfuckable in high school,\ni wouldn\u0027t invite that old me to a party either \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Eanyways\u2026 back to desenzano. it was different than the previous years in padova. after years of personal arguments\nbetween organisers, us teenagers behaving terribly, and a bunch of other drama, we weren\u0027t welcome in padova anymore.\nbut in desenzano i didn\u0027t \u003Cem\u003Efeel\u003C\/em\u003E welcome either. or at least i didn\u0027t feel like i belonged.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ei barely even remember that trip to be honest. a few random memories. only one of them in the local chapel.\ni remember that even though i was there for the services, i didn\u0027t pray anymore\u2026 like, i recited prayers, sure, but that\u0027s different.\nit\u0027s my first clear memory of not believing, just performing faith.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ei definitely have been doing that for a while at that point \u2013 but that the first moment i can pinpoint in time and space.\nit\u0027s the first moment when i could not only say that i\u0027m gay and an atheist, but also that i \u003Cem\u003Eknow\u003C\/em\u003E that,\nthat i\u0027m \u003Cem\u003Esure\u003C\/em\u003E of that. i knew i was already a different person by then, i knew that the thing i was doing right now\nwas something that i\u0027m leaving behind.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ei think there was talk that the course wouldn\u0027t continue next year, i\u0027m not sure.\nbut i definitely knew that it was a goodbye for me. from the trips, from italy, from the church,\nfrom my community and from my former family.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ealthough there are so many things about them all that i\u0027m gonna miss terribly, on that day i wasn\u0027t feeling sad.\ni don\u0027t remember anymore what kind of stupid interpersonal drama was playing out there,\nbut even though i was a queer heretic coming back to live with their fundamentalist parents,\ni was feeling kinda happy to leave that place. bittersweet. mostly, i was relieved.\ni didn\u0027t fit in with that community anymore, and i was at peace with that and the decision to leave it behind over time.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Eover the next year and a bit i would come out to my parents, get outed by them to the rest of the family,\nfinally stopped going to church, met my future husband, moved out, and started my life as an independent adult.\nit\u0027s been a long and painful process.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ebut also a beautiful one \u2013 because it was the process of\u2026 becoming me.\ni realised \u003Cem\u003Ei don\u0027t have to\u003C\/em\u003E be a miserable, unhappy clone of my parents.\nthere is a \u201cme\u201d out there that i \u003Cem\u003Ewant to\u003C\/em\u003E and \u003Cem\u003Ecan\u003C\/em\u003E be.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Eso if i am to celebrate that process somehow, i can think of no better moment to mark the occasion\nthan in that beautiful sunset, over that beautiful lake, early on that refreshingly warm morning.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["faith","atheism","coming out","queer","new life","rebirth","celebration"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/album-garda_small.jpg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/album-garda_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/album-garda_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\ud83c\uddee\ud83c\uddf9 Sunrise at Lago di Garda\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022135\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ei took this picture exactly 12 years ago, early in the morning, at lake garda in italy.\nit\u0027s a very special photo for me \u2013 it marks a day i now consider the first day of my new life \u263a\ufe0f\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/album-garda_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/album-garda_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\ud83c\uddee\ud83c\uddf9 Sunrise at Lago di Garda\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022135\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ei took this picture exactly 12 years ago, early in the morning, at lake garda in italy.\nit\u0027s a very special photo for me \u2013 it marks a day i now consider the first day of my new life \u263a\ufe0f\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Eas a teen i used to partake in language courses in padova, italy.\nthey were organized by an order of catholic monks whose main mission is to\u2026 pray for more priests.\ni\u0027m really grateful to have had this experience. i was able to go on a vacation to a beautiful country\npractically for free \u2013 not something that my former family could afford otherwise,\nor at least not for like 6 years in a row. i\u0027ve learned a language there, spent amazing time with friends,\nhad plenty of valuable new experiences, got crazy, learned to be a bit of bad boy too.\ni\u0027ve learned so much about myself over there\u2026 padova trips have always been time for reflection and self-discovery,\na break from reality, with a mysthical atmosphere (at least in my head), perfect for prayer and soul-searching.\ni\u0027ve spent hours upon hours in the chapel or on a windowsill in a quiet part of the building,\ncontemplating my life, ethical dilemmas,\ntrying to reconcile my sexuality with my faith, my faith with my reason\u2026\nlearning how to be a person.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ebut those trips weren\u0027t being organised purely out of the priests\u0027 good hearts, of course.\nconsidering that their main mission is to get god to send them more priests,\nan implicit goal of those courses was to recruit us to join a seminary. oh well, mission failed successfully\n\u2013 i really did find my true calling there, but it wasn\u0027t what they\u0027d like \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ethe last year i was there felt different than all the rest. least of all because it was happening in a different city, desenzano de garda.\nmy life had already gotten so much different at that point. i was 19, finally legally an adult.\ni have passed my high school exams (which are, nomen omen, called \u201cmatura\u201d in polish \u2013 \u201cthe maturity exam\u201d), started uni,\ni was seriously doubting my faith and openly questioning it during catechism classes at school (yes, it\u0027s a thing in poland)\nand in conversations with priests etc. i came out to myself as queer; then to a few closest friends.\ni started dating. i gained my first sexual experience (i refuse to call it \u201closing my virginity\u201d \ud83e\udd2e).\nall of that a span of last year or so.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ejust a few weeks before desenzano i also went to regional catholic youth days \u2013 not just as a participant,\nbut also as a \u201ccamp counselor\u201d \/ \u201cguardian\u201d for a bunch of teens from my parish.\ni remember taking advantage of the perks and freedom that came with it, by cutting myself some slack in my ongoing cosplay as a christian \u2013\ni was skipping most church services, and instead was hanging out with my friends \/ wards, and playing guitar together\u2026\nmy gay friend lived in a village near where the youth days were taking place \u2013 so one day he came to meet me,\nand we were openly cuddling in front of a park full of nuns and catholic teens.\nthis was one of my first, relatively subtle coming outs, as well as acts of rebellion against the church,\nthe homophobic society and the patriarchy.\ni remember it feeling so freeing, so empowering.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ei remember wearing very faggy, green skinny jeans over there. i was just starting to develop my style\u2026\nnah, not just that, but i started to even \u003Cem\u003Ecare\u003C\/em\u003E how i look and what i wear in the first place.\nwhen i look back my old photos, ugh\u2026 no wonder i was so unfuckable in high school,\ni wouldn\u0027t invite that old me to a party either \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Eanyways\u2026 back to desenzano. it was different than the previous years in padova. after years of personal arguments\nbetween organisers, us teenagers behaving terribly, and a bunch of other drama, we weren\u0027t welcome in padova anymore.\nbut in desenzano i didn\u0027t \u003Cem\u003Efeel\u003C\/em\u003E welcome either. or at least i didn\u0027t feel like i belonged.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ei barely even remember that trip to be honest. a few random memories. only one of them in the local chapel.\ni remember that even though i was there for the services, i didn\u0027t pray anymore\u2026 like, i recited prayers, sure, but that\u0027s different.\nit\u0027s my first clear memory of not believing, just performing faith.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ei definitely have been doing that for a while at that point \u2013 but that the first moment i can pinpoint in time and space.\nit\u0027s the first moment when i could not only say that i\u0027m gay and an atheist, but also that i \u003Cem\u003Eknow\u003C\/em\u003E that,\nthat i\u0027m \u003Cem\u003Esure\u003C\/em\u003E of that. i knew i was already a different person by then, i knew that the thing i was doing right now\nwas something that i\u0027m leaving behind.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ei think there was talk that the course wouldn\u0027t continue next year, i\u0027m not sure.\nbut i definitely knew that it was a goodbye for me. from the trips, from italy, from the church,\nfrom my community and from my former family.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ealthough there are so many things about them all that i\u0027m gonna miss terribly, on that day i wasn\u0027t feeling sad.\ni don\u0027t remember anymore what kind of stupid interpersonal drama was playing out there,\nbut even though i was a queer heretic coming back to live with their fundamentalist parents,\ni was feeling kinda happy to leave that place. bittersweet. mostly, i was relieved.\ni didn\u0027t fit in with that community anymore, and i was at peace with that and the decision to leave it behind over time.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Eover the next year and a bit i would come out to my parents, get outed by them to the rest of the family,\nfinally stopped going to church, met my future husband, moved out, and started my life as an independent adult.\nit\u0027s been a long and painful process.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ebut also a beautiful one \u2013 because it was the process of\u2026 becoming me.\ni realised \u003Cem\u003Ei don\u0027t have to\u003C\/em\u003E be a miserable, unhappy clone of my parents.\nthere is a \u201cme\u201d out 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My name is Andrea Vos.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut arriving at that name was quite a journey, so I figured I might write the story down.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003EHello. My name is Andrea Vos.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut arriving at that name was quite a journey, so I figured I might write the story down.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ELegal name\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETrans people use the word \u201cdeadname\u201d for what they used to be called before they transitioned socially.\nIt\u0027s a basic sign of respect not to call them that anymore and not to mention it to anyone.\nUsing someone\u0027s deadname might cause gender dysphoria,\nand in some cases it might even lead to dangerous situations when a trans person is outed.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut personally I\u0027m not bothered much with someone knowing my deadname or by having to use it in official situations.\nSo I usually refer to it as my \u201clegal name\u201d, at least until I\u0027ll legally change it. But that\u0027s just me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EFirst name\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo my parents named me \u201cAndrzej\u201d. It comes from Ancient Greek \u003Cem\u003E\u1f00\u03bd\u03b4\u03c1\u03cc\u03c2\u003C\/em\u003E, which ironically means \u201ca man\u201d, \u201cmanly\u201d.\nThat I am not.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s pronounced \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/forvo.com\/search\/Andrzej\/pl\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E \/\u02c8\u00e3n\u1e0d\u0292\u025bj\/\u003C\/a\u003E \u2013 which is obvious for people\nwho speak Polish, but turned out to be quite problematic as soon as I moved to Berlin.\nForeigners have no idea how to write \/\u0292\/ in Polish or how to pronounce the \u201crz\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo I decided to simplify it into \u201cAndre\u201d. It\u0027s nice, short and unambiguous. Cool!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut when I discovered that I\u0027m nonbinary, it started bothering me, how gendered it is.\nEven ethymology aside, it\u0027s a very masculine name.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI speak some Italian and I\u0027ve always really liked how my name sounds in this language: Andrea.\nIt has an added enby bonus as well: in Italy it\u0027s considered masculine, but basically everywhere else\nit\u0027s a feminine name. Just check out \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Andrea\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E this Wikipedia list\u003C\/a\u003E\nfull of people of all genders with that name or\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/zaimki.pl\/blog\/imiona-unisex-pesel\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E my analysis of most \u201cunisex\u201d names in Poland\u0027s database\u003C\/a\u003E.\nThat\u0027s the level of genderfuck I really enjoy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAndrea it is.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EMiddle name\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI had one, but literally never really used it. I don\u0027t see a point in me having a middle name anymore.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ELast name\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThis one I really, really hated. First of all, it\u0027s a family name and I\u0027m\u2026 well, not on the best terms with other people who use it.\nThere\u0027s tons of childhood trauma coming up whenever I need to use that name.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd second of all, it\u0027s terribly gendered. It\u0027s one of those that are technically adjectives in Polish grammar\nand they need to end with -ski for men, -ska for women, -scy for plural\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI want to have the same surname as my husband. He\u0027s my family so having a common family name would be\u2026 appropriate.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen we got married in Germany either one of us could take another\u0027s name or we could use both names with a hyphen.\nThe problem is, though, that Poland does not recognise that marriage.\nPoland claims we\u0027re both still bachelors and it wouldn\u0027t just officially change our names because of some foreign marriage.\nWe\u0027re not German citizens, so Germany wouldn\u0027t issue us new documents either.\nA friend of ours was in a similar situation and decided to take his husband\u0027s name \u2013 and now he needs to carry around\nboth his Polish ID and his German marriage certificate just to prove his surname.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo we kept our names and started thinking of a brand new one we could use.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe made a list of hundreds of last names we liked, turned it into a shortlist of a few dozen.\nDiscussed them all, disagreed and vetoed a lot of the proposals, voted on them in a few different ways \u2013\nnot because we had such vastly different tastes, but cause so many names were too cool to just dismiss.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEventually we landed on one: Vos.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s a common Dutch name, so we can honour the country we\u0027ve decided to build our live in,\nbut it\u0027s not too in\u2013your\u2013face Dutch (no \u201evan der\u201d or \u201eGogh\u201d etc.).\nIt means \u201cfox\u201d, which has some nice connotations in culture (cleverness, good luck, charm, curiosity, mischief).\nIt\u0027s short, simple, has a very obvious pronunciation.\nI\u0027m so glad with that choice.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ELegal change?\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027d very much love to have all my documents reflect my chosen name.\nBut it\u0027s a bureaucratic hassle. We could do it after we get a Dutch citizenship,\nbut it\u0027s quite a costly and long procedure, and our justification for a change might not be enough.\nWe could do it before, using the Polish system which actually allows changing one\u0027s name to \u201cthe acutally used name\u201d\n\u2013 and I have more than enough evidence of having used it for a while.\nBut it would still depend on a good will of a random official \u2013 and we\u0027d have to get new IDs, passports and driver\u0027s licences\njust to exchange them for Dutch ones next year (if all goes well with the naturalisation).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA bit anxious about this step and unsure which way to go. But I\u0027ll figure it out \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["name","trans","deadname","legal name","first name","last name","spelling","pronunciation"],"hasMore":true,"image":null,"introLite":"\u003Cp\u003EHello. My name is Andrea Vos.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut arriving at that name was quite a journey, so I figured I might write the story down.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cp\u003EHello. My name is Andrea Vos.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut arriving at that name was quite a journey, so I figured I might write the story down.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ELegal name\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETrans people use the word \u201cdeadname\u201d for what they used to be called before they transitioned socially.\nIt\u0027s a basic sign of respect not to call them that anymore and not to mention it to anyone.\nUsing someone\u0027s deadname might cause gender dysphoria,\nand in some cases it might even lead to dangerous situations when a trans person is outed.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut personally I\u0027m not bothered much with someone knowing my deadname or by having to use it in official situations.\nSo I usually refer to it as my \u201clegal name\u201d, at least until I\u0027ll legally change it. But that\u0027s just me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EFirst name\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo my parents named me \u201cAndrzej\u201d. It comes from Ancient Greek \u003Cem\u003E\u1f00\u03bd\u03b4\u03c1\u03cc\u03c2\u003C\/em\u003E, which ironically means \u201ca man\u201d, \u201cmanly\u201d.\nThat I am not.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s pronounced \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/forvo.com\/search\/Andrzej\/pl\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E \/\u02c8\u00e3n\u1e0d\u0292\u025bj\/\u003C\/a\u003E \u2013 which is obvious for people\nwho speak Polish, but turned out to be quite problematic as soon as I moved to Berlin.\nForeigners have no idea how to write \/\u0292\/ in Polish or how to pronounce the \u201crz\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo I decided to simplify it into \u201cAndre\u201d. It\u0027s nice, short and unambiguous. Cool!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut when I discovered that I\u0027m nonbinary, it started bothering me, how gendered it is.\nEven ethymology aside, it\u0027s a very masculine name.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI speak some Italian and I\u0027ve always really liked how my name sounds in this language: Andrea.\nIt has an added enby bonus as well: in Italy it\u0027s considered masculine, but basically everywhere else\nit\u0027s a feminine name. Just check out \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Andrea\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E this Wikipedia list\u003C\/a\u003E\nfull of people of all genders with that name or\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/zaimki.pl\/blog\/imiona-unisex-pesel\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E my analysis of most \u201cunisex\u201d names in Poland\u0027s database\u003C\/a\u003E.\nThat\u0027s the level of genderfuck I really enjoy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAndrea it is.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EMiddle name\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI had one, but literally never really used it. I don\u0027t see a point in me having a middle name anymore.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ELast name\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThis one I really, really hated. First of all, it\u0027s a family name and I\u0027m\u2026 well, not on the best terms with other people who use it.\nThere\u0027s tons of childhood trauma coming up whenever I need to use that name.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd second of all, it\u0027s terribly gendered. It\u0027s one of those that are technically adjectives in Polish grammar\nand they need to end with -ski for men, -ska for women, -scy for plural\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI want to have the same surname as my husband. He\u0027s my family so having a common family name would be\u2026 appropriate.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen we got married in Germany either one of us could take another\u0027s name or we could use both names with a hyphen.\nThe problem is, though, that Poland does not recognise that marriage.\nPoland claims we\u0027re both still bachelors and it wouldn\u0027t just officially change our names because of some foreign marriage.\nWe\u0027re not German citizens, so Germany wouldn\u0027t issue us new documents either.\nA friend of ours was in a similar situation and decided to take his husband\u0027s name \u2013 and now he needs to carry around\nboth his Polish ID and his German marriage certificate just to prove his surname.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo we kept our names and started thinking of a brand new one we could use.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe made a list of hundreds of last names we liked, turned it into a shortlist of a few dozen.\nDiscussed them all, disagreed and vetoed a lot of the proposals, voted on them in a few different ways \u2013\nnot because we had such vastly different tastes, but cause so many names were too cool to just dismiss.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEventually we landed on one: Vos.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s a common Dutch name, so we can honour the country we\u0027ve decided to build our live in,\nbut it\u0027s not too in\u2013your\u2013face Dutch (no \u201evan der\u201d or \u201eGogh\u201d etc.).\nIt means \u201cfox\u201d, which has some nice connotations in culture (cleverness, good luck, charm, curiosity, mischief).\nIt\u0027s short, simple, has a very obvious pronunciation.\nI\u0027m so glad with that choice.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ELegal change?\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027d very much love to have all my documents reflect my chosen name.\nBut it\u0027s a bureaucratic hassle. We could do it after we get a Dutch citizenship,\nbut it\u0027s quite a costly and long procedure, and our justification for a change might not be enough.\nWe could do it before, using the Polish system which actually allows changing one\u0027s name to \u201cthe acutally used name\u201d\n\u2013 and I have more than enough evidence of having used it for a while.\nBut it would still depend on a good will of a random official \u2013 and we\u0027d have to get new IDs, passports and driver\u0027s licences\njust to exchange them for Dutch ones next year (if all goes well with the naturalisation).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA bit anxious about this step and unsure which way to go. But I\u0027ll figure it out \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E","words":806,"readTime":4,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/dealing-with-chronic-mouth-sores":{"key":"blog\/life\/dealing-with-chronic-mouth-sores","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2022-07-01T12:19:11+02:00","publishedAt":"2022-07-01T12:19:11+02:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"dealing-with-chronic-mouth-sores"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"dealing-with-chronic-mouth-sores","title":"Dealing with chronic mouth sores","intro":"\u003Cp\u003EA bit my my cheek recenlty \u2013 and then it healed.\nSome time later I cut my lip while playing with Luna \u2013 and for the following week I was \u003Cem\u003Eslightly annoyed\u003C\/em\u003E by the wound.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat might sound awfully dull, but for me that\u0027s a huge reason to celebrate.\nCause for years whenever I got even a tiniest wound in my oral cavity,\nchances were that I\u0027d spend that week barely talking, barely eating,\nI couldn\u0027t kiss or have sex, or sometimes the pain would get so awful I wouldn\u0027t even be able to think.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003EA bit my my cheek recenlty \u2013 and then it healed.\nSome time later I cut my lip while playing with Luna \u2013 and for the following week I was \u003Cem\u003Eslightly annoyed\u003C\/em\u003E by the wound.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat might sound awfully dull, but for me that\u0027s a huge reason to celebrate.\nCause for years whenever I got even a tiniest wound in my oral cavity,\nchances were that I\u0027d spend that week barely talking, barely eating,\nI couldn\u0027t kiss or have sex, or sometimes the pain would get so awful I wouldn\u0027t even be able to think.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI have (had?) \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Aphthous_stomatitis\u0022\u003Erecurrent aphthous stomatitis\u003C\/a\u003E.\nIt\u0027s benign and not contagious, but for it\u0027s a real pain in the\u2026 well, mouth.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut it did get better over the years, so I\u0027ve decided it would be good to share my story\nand possibly help others that might struggle with similar issues.\nBut a quick disclaimer first:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Ethis is not a medical advice \u2013 I\u0027m just a person sharing their own experience,\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Ethis is not an ad of some pseudoscientific magical remedy \u2013 I\u0027m not trying to sell you anything.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EWhy is it so hard to fix?`\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETo quote Wikipedia:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote class=\u0022blockquote ml-4 pl-4 border-left\u0022\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe cause is not entirely clear, but is thought to be multifactorial.\nIt has been suggested that aphthous stomatitis is not a single entity,\nbut rather a group of conditions with different causes.\nMultiple research studies have attempted to identify a causative organism,\nbut aphthous stomatitis appears to be non-contagious, non-infectious, and not sexually transmissible.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027ve seen multiple GPs, dentists, laryngologists in three different countries about my problem.\nNeither was able to fix my problems.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EThings that weren\u0027t \u003Cem\u003Ereally\u003C\/em\u003E helping\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELots of advice I tried implementing didn\u0027t really help at all.\nAvoiding spicy food, avoiding lemons, rinsing with baking soda, things like that.\nMaybe it\u0027ll work for you. But for me it didn\u0027t.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPain management\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI was recommended a thing called \u003Cem\u003ESolcoseryl\u003C\/em\u003E in one pharmacy \u2013 and it\u0027s honestly the best thing I\u0027ve ever tried for pain management.\nIt numbs the spot almost immediately and its paste texture makes it stay in place for a long time and prevent further irritation.\nMarvellous! The next best thing to not having ulcers at all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EUnfortunately, it was available in Poland and Germany, but it\u0027s not a thing in the Netherlands.\nWhen I moved here I had to switch to a thing called \u003Cem\u003EEvisense Pro Aften Gel\u003C\/em\u003E, which does a\u2026 decent job. Not perfect, but decent.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOh, and I drink tea from chamomile and echinacea. Helps a lot!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESodium lauryl sulfate\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI learned that there\u0027s a compound called \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Sodium_dodecyl_sulfate\u0022\u003Esodium lauryl sulfate\u003C\/a\u003E,\nwhich can cause irritation and might lead to canker sores.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote class=\u0022blockquote ml-4 pl-4 border-left\u0022\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA safety concern has been raised on the basis of several studies regarding the effect of toothpaste SDS\non aphthous ulcers, commonly referred to as canker or white sores.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe thing is, this compound is present in almost every toothpaste on the market. Yup\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo I switched to those few toothpastes that don\u0027t contain it\n(or fluoride, just in case, cause apparently it might have a similar effect on some people).\nAnd although it was in no way a rigorous scientific study on my part,\nI can tell you, annectodally, that it helped massively.\nThe sores didn\u0027t disappear entirely, but they got quite a bit less frequent in general,\nand there was about a half fewer of those that turned excruciatingly painful.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBrushing my teeth. A lot.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOf course I had been brushing my teeth regularly. I\u0027m not a person who\u0027d give zero shits about their oral hygiene\nonly to complain that they have some magical, unexplained problems.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI switched to an electric toothbrush, I kept picking the softest brushes available.\nThat was helping, but not solving the problem.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut one day I had a thought: if they recommend avoiding citruses cause they make mouth more acidic,\nand baking soda is supposed to help because it\u0027s making the enviromnent more basic,\nmaybe I should minimise the time my oral cavity is exposed to any weird pH fluctuations and bits of food left over.\nThere\u0027s always gonna be minor wounds and bites happening, but maybe in the proper environment,\nthey\u0027d simply heal properly instead of turning into an ulcer?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to brush my teeth twice a day for two minutes, as recommended, plus whenever I felt I needed to.\nBut then I made it a habit to brush as soon as I\u0027ve eaten something. Anything. Even a tiniest snack.\nAnything that could leave bits in between teeth, anything that could change the pH.\nJust leave as little time possible for the potential sores to develop in less than ideal conditions.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd you know what? It\u0027s been a game changer.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027d still get \u003Cem\u003Esome\u003C\/em\u003E sores, but nowhere near what I had had before.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EFlossing. Finally.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDentists keep recommending flossing. A lot. And for good reasons, it\u0027s obviously super important and beneficial.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe thing is, though, for me it was a torture. The amount of pain and bleeding it caused was terrible.\nWhich speaks volumes of how bad my gums went because of the sores. Or how bad my sores went because of my gums.\nHonestly, it\u0027s a vicious cycle \u2013 but I finally found a way to break it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EObviously, the steps described above helped with flossing pain as well. But it still wasn\u0027t nice.\nThen I tried those water flossing machines, one with a \u201csensitive\u201d setting.\nAnd I also found out there\u0027s a sensitive floss in Kruidvat\n(although only bought it a few times and then it disappeared from the shelves?),\nwhich is more like a cotton thread than a fly line.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey all worked wonders. After a few months of daily flossing with them,\nmy gums got healthy again and I was able to switch to regular floss.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESumming up\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECanker sores were ruining my life for years, ever since I can remember.\nThe solution in my case was surprisingly simple, even though it took me ages to discover it:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Eavoid toothpastes with sodium lauryl sulfate and fluoride,\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Ebrush after every meal or snack, as soon as possible,\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Efind a floss for sensitive gums and use it a lot,\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Efind the best available pain management gel and always keep it on you, just in case.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["aphtosis","mouth sore","oral cavity","pain","brushing teeth","gums","flossing"],"hasMore":true,"image":null,"introLite":"\u003Cp\u003EA bit my my cheek recenlty \u2013 and then it healed.\nSome time later I cut my lip while playing with Luna \u2013 and for the following week I was \u003Cem\u003Eslightly annoyed\u003C\/em\u003E by the wound.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat might sound awfully dull, but for me that\u0027s a huge reason to celebrate.\nCause for years whenever I got even a tiniest wound in my oral cavity,\nchances were that I\u0027d spend that week barely talking, barely eating,\nI couldn\u0027t kiss or have sex, or sometimes the pain would get so awful I wouldn\u0027t even be able to think.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cp\u003EA bit my my cheek recenlty \u2013 and then it healed.\nSome time later I cut my lip while playing with Luna \u2013 and for the following week I was \u003Cem\u003Eslightly annoyed\u003C\/em\u003E by the wound.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat might sound awfully dull, but for me that\u0027s a huge reason to celebrate.\nCause for years whenever I got even a tiniest wound in my oral cavity,\nchances were that I\u0027d spend that week barely talking, barely eating,\nI couldn\u0027t kiss or have sex, or sometimes the pain would get so awful I wouldn\u0027t even be able to think.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI have (had?) \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Aphthous_stomatitis\u0022\u003Erecurrent aphthous stomatitis\u003C\/a\u003E.\nIt\u0027s benign and not contagious, but for it\u0027s a real pain in the\u2026 well, mouth.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut it did get better over the years, so I\u0027ve decided it would be good to share my story\nand possibly help others that might struggle with similar issues.\nBut a quick disclaimer first:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Ethis is not a medical advice \u2013 I\u0027m just a person sharing their own experience,\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Ethis is not an ad of some pseudoscientific magical remedy \u2013 I\u0027m not trying to sell you anything.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EWhy is it so hard to fix?`\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETo quote Wikipedia:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe cause is not entirely clear, but is thought to be multifactorial.\nIt has been suggested that aphthous stomatitis is not a single entity,\nbut rather a group of conditions with different causes.\nMultiple research studies have attempted to identify a causative organism,\nbut aphthous stomatitis appears to be non-contagious, non-infectious, and not sexually transmissible.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027ve seen multiple GPs, dentists, laryngologists in three different countries about my problem.\nNeither was able to fix my problems.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EThings that weren\u0027t \u003Cem\u003Ereally\u003C\/em\u003E helping\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELots of advice I tried implementing didn\u0027t really help at all.\nAvoiding spicy food, avoiding lemons, rinsing with baking soda, things like that.\nMaybe it\u0027ll work for you. But for me it didn\u0027t.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPain management\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI was recommended a thing called \u003Cem\u003ESolcoseryl\u003C\/em\u003E in one pharmacy \u2013 and it\u0027s honestly the best thing I\u0027ve ever tried for pain management.\nIt numbs the spot almost immediately and its paste texture makes it stay in place for a long time and prevent further irritation.\nMarvellous! The next best thing to not having ulcers at all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EUnfortunately, it was available in Poland and Germany, but it\u0027s not a thing in the Netherlands.\nWhen I moved here I had to switch to a thing called \u003Cem\u003EEvisense Pro Aften Gel\u003C\/em\u003E, which does a\u2026 decent job. Not perfect, but decent.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOh, and I drink tea from chamomile and echinacea. Helps a lot!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESodium lauryl sulfate\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI learned that there\u0027s a compound called \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Sodium_dodecyl_sulfate\u0022\u003Esodium lauryl sulfate\u003C\/a\u003E,\nwhich can cause irritation and might lead to canker sores.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA safety concern has been raised on the basis of several studies regarding the effect of toothpaste SDS\non aphthous ulcers, commonly referred to as canker or white sores.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe thing is, this compound is present in almost every toothpaste on the market. Yup\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo I switched to those few toothpastes that don\u0027t contain it\n(or fluoride, just in case, cause apparently it might have a similar effect on some people).\nAnd although it was in no way a rigorous scientific study on my part,\nI can tell you, annectodally, that it helped massively.\nThe sores didn\u0027t disappear entirely, but they got quite a bit less frequent in general,\nand there was about a half fewer of those that turned excruciatingly painful.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EBrushing my teeth. A lot.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOf course I had been brushing my teeth regularly. I\u0027m not a person who\u0027d give zero shits about their oral hygiene\nonly to complain that they have some magical, unexplained problems.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI switched to an electric toothbrush, I kept picking the softest brushes available.\nThat was helping, but not solving the problem.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut one day I had a thought: if they recommend avoiding citruses cause they make mouth more acidic,\nand baking soda is supposed to help because it\u0027s making the enviromnent more basic,\nmaybe I should minimise the time my oral cavity is exposed to any weird pH fluctuations and bits of food left over.\nThere\u0027s always gonna be minor wounds and bites happening, but maybe in the proper environment,\nthey\u0027d simply heal properly instead of turning into an ulcer?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to brush my teeth twice a day for two minutes, as recommended, plus whenever I felt I needed to.\nBut then I made it a habit to brush as soon as I\u0027ve eaten something. Anything. Even a tiniest snack.\nAnything that could leave bits in between teeth, anything that could change the pH.\nJust leave as little time possible for the potential sores to develop in less than ideal conditions.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd you know what? It\u0027s been a game changer.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027d still get \u003Cem\u003Esome\u003C\/em\u003E sores, but nowhere near what I had had before.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EFlossing. Finally.\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDentists keep recommending flossing. A lot. And for good reasons, it\u0027s obviously super important and beneficial.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe thing is, though, for me it was a torture. The amount of pain and bleeding it caused was terrible.\nWhich speaks volumes of how bad my gums went because of the sores. Or how bad my sores went because of my gums.\nHonestly, it\u0027s a vicious cycle \u2013 but I finally found a way to break it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EObviously, the steps described above helped with flossing pain as well. But it still wasn\u0027t nice.\nThen I tried those water flossing machines, one with a \u201csensitive\u201d setting.\nAnd I also found out there\u0027s a sensitive floss in Kruidvat\n(although only bought it a few times and then it disappeared from the shelves?),\nwhich is more like a cotton thread than a fly line.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey all worked wonders. 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And it\u0027s a real one.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003EI have a short story to tell. And it\u0027s a real one.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy husband (and I) had a friend, and she had a boyfriend.\nWhen they broke up, she started fucking around (not saying that as a bad thing; I\u0027m a slut myself, after all)\nand sharing stories with us.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut you see, the thing was \u2013 they never actually broke up. She just lied.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlong with this one, we found out about a lot of other lies.\nAnd her visiting us in a multicultural country also exposed her racism\nthat we hadn\u0027t gotten a chance to see earlier.\nOverall, a huge shock and disappointment.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe were angry as fuck, and feeling sorry for the boyfriend.\nSo we told him everything we\u0027d found out\n(and shared all the screenshots he might be insterested in).\nHe was thankful. Broke up with her and kicked her out.\nOverall, not the happiest ending for her.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFast forward to last week. 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Broke up with her and kicked her out.\nOverall, not the happiest ending for her.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFast forward to last week. The guy\u2026 comes out as bisexual and \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/polyamory\u0022\u003E polyamorous\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd my first thought was: \u003Cem\u003Edaaaamn, girl, you fucked up!\u003C\/em\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EImagine she had been honest him. Not necessarily with a straight-forward \u201cI wanna fuck other people\u201d,\nbut she could have dropped a hint or two, cracked a joke, asked him how he feels about it,\nlearned to communicate better in the relationship, and in general, you know, treated him as a partner\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey could have explored the world of ethical non-monogamy together.\nThey could have had the most amazing group sex they wanted.\nThey could have had an amazing, loving polycule.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut you can\u0027t build amazing relationships without the foundation of \u003Cstrong\u003Etrust, honesty and communication\u003C\/strong\u003E.\nPolyamory isn\u0027t about \u003Cem\u003Epromiscuous people getting together for some reason\u003C\/em\u003E.\nAn open relationship isn\u0027t \u003Cem\u003Eless\u003C\/em\u003E of an relationship \u2013 if anything, it\u0027s kinda \u003Cem\u003Emore\u003C\/em\u003E!\nBecause you need to really know your partner well, trust them and 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Mind: blown \ud83e\udd2f\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy ex mother would iron almost everything. She\u0027d spend hours on it sometimes.\nI thought ironing is just a sad, inevitable fact of life.\nBut then, on one of my first dates, the guy was talking about living on his own,\nand he mentioned that he just doesn\u0027t iron at all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201cLike, I didn\u0027t iron any of the clothes I\u0027m wearing right now. Can you even tell?\u201d \u2013 I couldn\u0027t.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPretty much all of the modern washing machines have some anti-wrinkle techniques.\nMe and my husband used to own an iron and an ironing board at first, but we soon forgot they even existed.\nBoom, tons of time saved \u2013 by simply \u003Cem\u003Enot doing\u003C\/em\u003E a chore I used to think is necessary.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EDrying\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen we moved to a fully furnished apartment in Rotterdam,\nit was equipped with an electric dryer on top of the washing machine.\nHave heard of those, but never really used one.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJesus Christ on a cracker, what a time saver it is!\nI\u0027ve never seriously thought of those before.\nCause why even spend hundreds of euros on a fancy machine,\nwhen you can just meticulously hang your wet clothes one by one on ropes, and then wait and wait, right?\nBut since it\u0027s already there, let\u0027s try it out, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETrust me, it\u0027s worth the investment. If you can afford one, get one.\n(Just not a combined washer-dryer, those seem to be doing a meh job while being super power inefficient).\nNot only does it save you plenty of time, but also space\n(if you put it on top of your washing machine).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAll you need to do is just put the wet things in, press some buttons, wait, and take them out.\n(And every once in a while empty the condensation container, I guess\n\u2013 but after moving again and getting a dryer of our own,\nwe found out that you can just use a drain pipe instead of a container,\nso you don\u0027t even have to empty it.)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESorting\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThis thing I wanted to do for a while now, but didn\u0027t have enough space until moving to a new place.\nNamely: get a laundry basket that is simply\u2026 split in parts. That\u0027s all. Simple as that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow I just have to pick the correct hole (blacks, colours, whites) whenever I put dirty piece of clothing in it.\nA fraction of a second of chosing for each item at the time,\nas opposed to going through a big pile of stinky stuff at once before each laundry.\nMarvellous!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EHanging\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat one requires a bit more space in the closet, but speeds up the work massively.\nI used to neatly fold every top before putting it on a shelf.\nBut then we started hanging them on hangers.\nMuch faster, and prevents creases too.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat might be obvious for many, but it just \u003Cem\u003Ewasn\u0027t a thing\u003C\/em\u003E in my ex family,\nso I didn\u0027t even think for a second about any alternatives.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESumming up\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to hate laundry.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow I just undress, put the clothes in their proper basket,\nwhenever one colour gets full, I put its contents in one machine,\nthen another, and then hang it in the closet.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt seems so simple and obvious now, yet somehow it took me eight years so get there \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["chore","housework","laundry","washing machine","dryer","protip","lifehack"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/washing-machine_small.png","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/washing-machine_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/washing-machine_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022426.66666666667\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s not the kind of post I usually write, but you know,\nI\u0027ve been a full blown adult for a while now,\nso why wouldn\u0027t I start ranting about some boring chores, huh? \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENo, seriously, my laundry went from an exhausting and time consuming housework\nto something I just casually spend a few minutes a week on\n\u2013 and I\u0027m so excited about that that I need to share.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/washing-machine_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/washing-machine_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022426.66666666667\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s not the kind of post I usually write, but you know,\nI\u0027ve been a full blown adult for a while now,\nso why wouldn\u0027t I start ranting about some boring chores, huh? \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENo, seriously, my laundry went from an exhausting and time consuming housework\nto something I just casually spend a few minutes a week on\n\u2013 and I\u0027m so excited about that that I need to share.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EIroning\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy first big laundry realisation was that\u2026 you don\u0027t \u003Cem\u003Ehave to\u003C\/em\u003E iron your clothes.\nI know. Mind: blown \ud83e\udd2f\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy ex mother would iron almost everything. She\u0027d spend hours on it sometimes.\nI thought ironing is just a sad, inevitable fact of life.\nBut then, on one of my first dates, the guy was talking about living on his own,\nand he mentioned that he just doesn\u0027t iron at all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201cLike, I didn\u0027t iron any of the clothes I\u0027m wearing right now. Can you even tell?\u201d \u2013 I couldn\u0027t.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPretty much all of the modern washing machines have some anti-wrinkle techniques.\nMe and my husband used to own an iron and an ironing board at first, but we soon forgot they even existed.\nBoom, tons of time saved \u2013 by simply \u003Cem\u003Enot doing\u003C\/em\u003E a chore I used to think is necessary.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EDrying\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen we moved to a fully furnished apartment in Rotterdam,\nit was equipped with an electric dryer on top of the washing machine.\nHave heard of those, but never really used one.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJesus Christ on a cracker, what a time saver it is!\nI\u0027ve never seriously thought of those before.\nCause why even spend hundreds of euros on a fancy machine,\nwhen you can just meticulously hang your wet clothes one by one on ropes, and then wait and wait, right?\nBut since it\u0027s already there, let\u0027s try it out, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETrust me, it\u0027s worth the investment. If you can afford one, get one.\n(Just not a combined washer-dryer, those seem to be doing a meh job while being super power inefficient).\nNot only does it save you plenty of time, but also space\n(if you put it on top of your washing machine).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAll you need to do is just put the wet things in, press some buttons, wait, and take them out.\n(And every once in a while empty the condensation container, I guess\n\u2013 but after moving again and getting a dryer of our own,\nwe found out that you can just use a drain pipe instead of a container,\nso you don\u0027t even have to empty it.)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESorting\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThis thing I wanted to do for a while now, but didn\u0027t have enough space until moving to a new place.\nNamely: get a laundry basket that is simply\u2026 split in parts. That\u0027s all. Simple as that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow I just have to pick the correct hole (blacks, colours, whites) whenever I put dirty piece of clothing in it.\nA fraction of a second of chosing for each item at the time,\nas opposed to going through a big pile of stinky stuff at once before each laundry.\nMarvellous!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EHanging\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat one requires a bit more space in the closet, but speeds up the work massively.\nI used to neatly fold every top before putting it on a shelf.\nBut then we started hanging them on hangers.\nMuch faster, and prevents creases too.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat might be obvious for many, but it just \u003Cem\u003Ewasn\u0027t a thing\u003C\/em\u003E in my ex family,\nso I didn\u0027t even think for a second about any alternatives.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESumming up\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to hate laundry.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow I just undress, put the clothes in their proper basket,\nwhenever one colour gets full, I put its contents in one machine,\nthen another, and then hang it in the closet.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt seems so simple and obvious now, yet somehow it took me eight years so get there \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E","words":634,"readTime":3,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/how-did-i-not-know-i-m-pansexual-panromantic":{"key":"blog\/life\/how-did-i-not-know-i-m-pansexual-panromantic","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2021-01-17T12:51:29+01:00","publishedAt":"2021-01-17T12:51:29+01:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"how-did-i-not-know-i-m-pansexual-panromantic"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"how-did-i-not-know-i-m-pan","title":"How did I not know I\u0027m pansexual \u0026 panromantic?","intro":"\u003Cp\u003ESometimes it takes people a long time to figure out their gender and sexuality (and it\u0027s perfectly okay!)\nI was 27 when \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/coming-out-as-not-so-gay\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-heartbeat\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E I came out as pansexual\u003C\/a\u003E, and honestly it\u0027s not even that late.\nStill, it makes me feel sad about all time \u201cwasted\u201d not knowing who I am and being confused AF.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo today I\u0027d like to take a moment to rant about three of the awful things that contributed to that.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003ESometimes it takes people a long time to figure out their gender and sexuality (and it\u0027s perfectly okay!)\nI was 27 when \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/coming-out-as-not-so-gay\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-heartbeat\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E I came out as pansexual\u003C\/a\u003E, and honestly it\u0027s not even that late.\nStill, it makes me feel sad about all time \u201cwasted\u201d not knowing who I am and being confused AF.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo today I\u0027d like to take a moment to rant about three of the awful things that contributed to that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPatriarchy and heteronormativity\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn pretty much every movie, book or TV series the heteronormative relationships look the same.\nThe girls is supposed to be submissive, delicate, while the guy is dominant and strong.\nHe\u0027s supposed to fight for her, impress her, ask her out, pay for her.\nShe\u0027s supposed to play hard to get, innocent\u2026\nHe makes money, she\u0027s a hausfrau.\nRoles are clearly defined and very asymmetrical.\nMost love stories don\u0027t look like love, but rather a conquest.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESeeing same-sex relationships was so fucking refreshing for me!\nNo stupid schemas, expectations, rectum-derived rules!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u0027s why straight people keep asking gays the iditoic question\n\u201cwho\u0027s the man and who\u0027s the woman in your relationship?\u201d.\nThey get that a guy might like men instead of women, but still cannot comprehend\nany other model of the relationship than what popular culture taught them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd I did the opposite \u2013 I knew I don\u0027t want a patriarchal relationship,\nI just didn\u0027t realise I \u003Cem\u003Ecan\u003C\/em\u003E have that with a woman.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EMainstream porn\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003C!--\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/reality-kings_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022A screenshot of a porn scene from \u201cReality Kings\u201d studio\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022720\u0022 height=\u0022404\u0022\u003E                \n                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data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/reality-kings_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022A screenshot of a porn scene from \u201cReality Kings\u201d studio\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022720\u0022 height=\u0022404\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/JFilmsxxx\/status\/1300307152783974400\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\n                        \u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E\n                        twitter.com\/JFilmsxxx\/status\/1300307152783974400\n                    \u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\n            \u003C\/figure\u003E--\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs hard as it might be to believe,\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/JFilmsxxx\/status\/1300307152783974400\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E this outrageously unrealistic porn scene\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\u0022badge badge-warning\u0022\u003ECW: porn\u003C\/span\u003E\nhas been released by a studio called \u201cReality Kings\u201d. How ironic!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThose boobs are fake. Those lips are fake. This voice is fake.\nThe plot is unrealistic. Getting a blowjob while still hanging from a basketball loop\nis probably not comfortable enough for people to actually do in real life.\nAnd don\u0027t even get me started on his dick springing out rock hard right away\nwith no mental or physical stimulation whatsoever.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd that\u0027s not an exception, the fakeness pretty much a common theme.\nThe strong makeup that\u0027s supposed to start dripping with her tears when she gets face-fucked by a colossal dick.\nThe almost absolute lack of interest in the girl\u0027s pleasure\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf that\u0027s what straight sex is like, I don\u0027t want it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EExcept porn lied to me! Sex isn\u0027t like that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EMonogamy\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, not monogamy \u003Cem\u003Eper se\u003C\/em\u003E, but forcing it as the default, or even the only, option.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen everyone in your life tells you you\u0027re supposed to find \u201cthe one and only\u201d and \u201ctill death tears us apart\u201d,\nit\u0027s easy to fall into the trap of feeling forced to choose.\nNot just the \u003Cem\u003Eperson\u003C\/em\u003E to spend your whole life with, but the entire \u003Cem\u003Egender\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFinding out that it\u0027s possible (and awesome!) to love more than one person at the same time\nhas also opened my eyes to endless other possibilities.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESumming up\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere\u0027s way more, but those three things in particular I\u0027m very angry about.\nThe world keeps lying to us about how to be happy. It shows us just one possible way:\na patriarchal, monogamous relationship. Or, yeah, whatever those gays are doing.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut turns out that queerness is vastly more colourful than any of that!\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["sexuality","gender","sexual orientation","romantic orientation","patriarchy","porn","monogamy","polyamory","queer"],"hasMore":true,"image":null,"introLite":"\u003Cp\u003ESometimes it takes people a long time to figure out their gender and sexuality (and it\u0027s perfectly okay!)\nI was 27 when \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/coming-out-as-not-so-gay.lite\u0022\u003E I came out as pansexual\u003C\/a\u003E, and honestly it\u0027s not even that late.\nStill, it makes me feel sad about all time \u201cwasted\u201d not knowing who I am and being confused AF.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo today I\u0027d like to take a moment to rant about three of the awful things that contributed to that.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cp\u003ESometimes it takes people a long time to figure out their gender and sexuality (and it\u0027s perfectly okay!)\nI was 27 when \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/coming-out-as-not-so-gay.lite\u0022\u003E I came out as pansexual\u003C\/a\u003E, and honestly it\u0027s not even that late.\nStill, it makes me feel sad about all time \u201cwasted\u201d not knowing who I am and being confused AF.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo today I\u0027d like to take a moment to rant about three of the awful things that contributed to that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPatriarchy and heteronormativity\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn pretty much every movie, book or TV series the heteronormative relationships look the same.\nThe girls is supposed to be submissive, delicate, while the guy is dominant and strong.\nHe\u0027s supposed to fight for her, impress her, ask her out, pay for her.\nShe\u0027s supposed to play hard to get, innocent\u2026\nHe makes money, she\u0027s a hausfrau.\nRoles are clearly defined and very asymmetrical.\nMost love stories don\u0027t look like love, but rather a conquest.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESeeing same-sex relationships was so fucking refreshing for me!\nNo stupid schemas, expectations, rectum-derived rules!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u0027s why straight people keep asking gays the iditoic question\n\u201cwho\u0027s the man and who\u0027s the woman in your relationship?\u201d.\nThey get that a guy might like men instead of women, but still cannot comprehend\nany other model of the relationship than what popular culture taught them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd I did the opposite \u2013 I knew I don\u0027t want a patriarchal relationship,\nI just didn\u0027t realise I \u003Cem\u003Ecan\u003C\/em\u003E have that with a woman.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EMainstream porn\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003C!--\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/reality-kings_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/reality-kings_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022A screenshot of a porn scene from \u201cReality Kings\u201d studio\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022134.66666666667\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/JFilmsxxx\/status\/1300307152783974400\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Etwitter.com\/JFilmsxxx\/status\/1300307152783974400\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E--\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs hard as it might be to believe,\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/JFilmsxxx\/status\/1300307152783974400\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E this outrageously unrealistic porn scene\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\u0022badge badge-warning\u0022\u003ECW: porn\u003C\/span\u003E\nhas been released by a studio called \u201cReality Kings\u201d. How ironic!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThose boobs are fake. Those lips are fake. This voice is fake.\nThe plot is unrealistic. Getting a blowjob while still hanging from a basketball loop\nis probably not comfortable enough for people to actually do in real life.\nAnd don\u0027t even get me started on his dick springing out rock hard right away\nwith no mental or physical stimulation whatsoever.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd that\u0027s not an exception, the fakeness pretty much a common theme.\nThe strong makeup that\u0027s supposed to start dripping with her tears when she gets face-fucked by a colossal dick.\nThe almost absolute lack of interest in the girl\u0027s pleasure\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf that\u0027s what straight sex is like, I don\u0027t want it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EExcept porn lied to me! Sex isn\u0027t like that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EMonogamy\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, not monogamy \u003Cem\u003Eper se\u003C\/em\u003E, but forcing it as the default, or even the only, option.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen everyone in your life tells you you\u0027re supposed to find \u201cthe one and only\u201d and \u201ctill death tears us apart\u201d,\nit\u0027s easy to fall into the trap of feeling forced to choose.\nNot just the \u003Cem\u003Eperson\u003C\/em\u003E to spend your whole life with, but the entire \u003Cem\u003Egender\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFinding out that it\u0027s possible (and awesome!) to love more than one person at the same time\nhas also opened my eyes to endless other possibilities.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESumming up\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere\u0027s way more, but those three things in particular I\u0027m very angry about.\nThe world keeps lying to us about how to be happy. It shows us just one possible way:\na patriarchal, monogamous relationship. Or, yeah, whatever those gays are doing.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut turns out that queerness is vastly more colourful than any of that!\u003C\/p\u003E","words":534,"readTime":3,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/no-comment":{"key":"blog\/life\/no-comment","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2020-08-06T09:58:00+02:00","publishedAt":"2020-08-06T09:58:00+02:00","group":"bans","category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"no-comment"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"no-comment","title":"No comment","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/online-experts_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@AvrisIT on Twitter:\n\nthe world would be so beautiful if the \u201ci\u0027m not an expert, but\u2026\u201d folks just shut up and let the experts talk.\n\njust this week i saw: a translator schooled about the language, a programmer about software engineering, and the gay community about discrimination.\n\njust.\nshut.\nup.\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022339.92565055762\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/online-experts_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@AvrisIT on Twitter:\n\nthe world would be so beautiful if the \u201ci\u0027m not an expert, but\u2026\u201d folks just shut up and let the experts talk.\n\njust this week i saw: a translator schooled about the language, a programmer about software engineering, and the gay community about discrimination.\n\njust.\nshut.\nup.\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022339.92565055762\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to think that the biggest advantage of the Internet compared to the old-fashioned media\nis that the communication doesn\u0027t just go one way.\nIt\u0027s not just a few people broadcasting to everyone, but instead it\u0027s everyone having an \u003Cem\u003Eequal voice\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut having spent years on the Internet has taught me something more:\nmost of those \u201cequal voices\u201d are stupid and spiteful.\nAnd that\u0027s I \u003Cem\u003Edon\u0027t have to\u003C\/em\u003E listen to all of them.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/online-experts_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@AvrisIT on Twitter:\n\nthe world would be so beautiful if the \u201ci\u0027m not an expert, but\u2026\u201d folks just shut up and let the experts talk.\n\njust this week i saw: a translator schooled about the language, a programmer about software engineering, and the gay community about discrimination.\n\njust.\nshut.\nup.\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022679.85130111524\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/online-experts_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@AvrisIT on Twitter:\n\nthe world would be so beautiful if the \u201ci\u0027m not an expert, but\u2026\u201d folks just shut up and let the experts talk.\n\njust this week i saw: a translator schooled about the language, a programmer about software engineering, and the gay community about discrimination.\n\njust.\nshut.\nup.\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022679.85130111524\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/AvrisIT\/status\/1288763911114825729\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\n                        \u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E\n                        twitter.com\/AvrisIT\/status\/1288763911114825729\n                    \u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to think that the biggest advantage of the Internet compared to the old-fashioned media\nis that the communication doesn\u0027t just go one way.\nIt\u0027s not just a few people broadcasting to everyone, but instead it\u0027s everyone having an \u003Cem\u003Eequal voice\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut having spent years on the Internet has taught me something more:\nmost of those \u201cequal voices\u201d are stupid and spiteful.\nAnd that\u0027s I \u003Cem\u003Edon\u0027t have to\u003C\/em\u003E listen to all of them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI have a bad habit that I\u0027m trying really hard to get rid of:\nand it\u0027s the need to always be right, to always have the last word.\nI was basically this person:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/duty_calls_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022xckd commic strip:\n\u2013 Are you coming to bed?\n\u2013 I can\u0027t. This is important.\n\u2013 What?\n\u2013 Somebody is WRONG on the internet.\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022300\u0022 height=\u0022330\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/duty_calls_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022xckd commic strip:\n\u2013 Are you coming to bed?\n\u2013 I can\u0027t. This is important.\n\u2013 What?\n\u2013 Somebody is WRONG on the internet.\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022300\u0022 height=\u0022330\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/xkcd.com\/386\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\n                        \u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E\n                        xkcd.com\/386\n                    \u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not saying that I\u0027m always right, of course, because I\u0027m not.\nBut I usually decide to only voice my opinions on issues that I know a lot about.\nI \u003Cem\u003Ecan\u0027t\u003C\/em\u003E be wrong about Kardashians for example, because I simply \u003Cem\u003Edon\u0027t talk\u003C\/em\u003E about Kardashians.\nBut when we\u0027re talking about web development, the stuggles of the LGBTQ+ community, linguistics, etc.,\nI\u0027m speaking up and backing up my views with data, knowledge and experience.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe problem is \u2013 not a lot of people seem to share that approach. Just last week, after having created\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/zaimki.pl\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E zaimki.pl\u003C\/a\u003E and being featured in a\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/queer.pl\/artykul\/204685\/zaimkipl-strona-jezyk-polski-niebinarnosc\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Queer.pl interview\u003C\/a\u003E,\nI went through the comments underneath and wept for humanity.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPeople would start their comment with \u201cI\u0027m not an expert, but\u2026\u201d and end with\n\u201c\u2026creating neopronouns \/ neologisms is absolutely impermissible in linguistics!\u201d.\nPeople would \u003Cdel\u003Eread\u003C\/del\u003E see an article mentioning that one of the creators of the website is a professional\nEnglish-Polish translator, and then accuse the creators of not even knowing\nhow Polish and English are different or even that they belong to different groups of languages.\nSeriously.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd that\u0027s the kind of comments that bring absolutely no value.\nThey are a thing because of this stupid notion, that everyone\u0027s opinion is valid.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd it\u0027s not. If your knowledge of linguistics comes down to speaking your native tongue\nand having heard in school once about the existence of Slavic languages and Germanic languages\n\u2013 your opinion about language evolution will probably not be useful to\na professional translator or a finalist of a national linguistic competition, will it?\nIf you\u0027re a white, able-bodied straight cis man, your opinion on how minorities should behave\nand how we should fight for our human rights will probably not be too useful in the discussion, now will it?\nIf you haven\u0027t read and understood the original post, your comment below that post will probably suck, won\u0027t it?\nAnd so on, and so forth\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut I was taught toxic habits, so I kept answering those comments.\nI kept answering the guy who transparently was trying to destroy my project for a personal vendetta.\nI kept educating priviledged people that they don\u0027t have a say in the minorities\u0027 fight for equal rights.\nI kept re-writing points from the post for the people who clearly have not read it.\nI kept answering the guy who \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/%C5%BCegnam-x\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-heartbeat\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E used the online comments to bully me in real life\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EReading what haters and know-better-than-the-experts have to say is hard emotional labour.\nAnswering them is even harder. It requires a lot of time and effort, and leaves you with ragged nerves.\nSome people clearly come to my mentions not to have a valid discussion or to share their point of view\n\u2013 they come specifically to waste my time. And I\u0027m so stupid to let them play their game\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyways\u2026 a few years back I was really into making sure that everything I create has a comment section,\nthat I don\u0027t \u201ccensor\u201d any voices, don\u0027t ban any abusers, don\u0027t hide any homophobic slurs\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut now I don\u0027t care about that anymore. I simply create things that I like, I share them with anyone\nwho wants to listen to my words or to use my projects \u2013 and if anyone has found a factual error in my post,\na bug on a website, if they have any useful input or suggestion, or if they want to cooperate\n\u2013 there\u0027s still \u003Cem\u003Eplenty\u003C\/em\u003E of ways to contact me about it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere is simply no need for a space, where everyone can \u003Cem\u003Eanonymously\u003C\/em\u003E put their queerphobic views on \u003Cem\u003Emy\u003C\/em\u003E website.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETechnically speaking, creating a comment section is complicated \u2013 with the need for a database,\npossibly user authentication, moderation, rich text editor, etc.\nWhen I was creating a \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/brand-new-blog\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-computer-speaker\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E new version of this blog\u003C\/a\u003E, I kept it simple\n(and \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/new-year-new-digital-me\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-computer-speaker\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E then again I went even simpler\u003C\/a\u003E).\nThe current version doesn\u0027t even have a database \u2013 it generates static HTML from \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/gitlab.com\/Avris\/SUML\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E SUML files\u003C\/a\u003E.\nSo a comment section would be more complex than the blog itself \ud83d\ude44\nThat\u0027s why I had decided to outsource that logic to \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/disqus.com\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Disqus\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETechnically, Disqus works like a charm.\nBut for the sake of my mental health and hours of needlessly wasted time\n\u2013 it\u0027s time to go one step further.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI simply removed the comment section. Poof.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd I\u0027m not the only one to do that. Many major newspapers get rid of their comment section nowadays,\nor at least limit the write access to paying subscribers.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELife\u0027s too short for trolls.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPS Before you accuse me of \u201csilencing criticism\u201d, \u201chiding in my bubble\u201d, \u201cnot being open to discussion\u201d,\n\u201cnot being open to change my mind\u201d, etc., please let me tell you that I used to be\na devout catholic, conservative, right-wing\u2026 Now I\u0027m a pansexual, polyamorous enby,\nintersectional feminist and human rights advocate. I \u003Cem\u003Eam\u003C\/em\u003E able to change my mind, because I \u003Cem\u003Ealready have\u003C\/em\u003E\nmade a 180\u00b0 turn (and multiple smaller ones). I \u003Cem\u003Eam\u003C\/em\u003E constantly exposed to people disagreeing with me\nand calling me queerphobic slurs every day. Don\u0027t worry about my openness to opposing ideas.\nI\u0027ll be fine without this one extra place to anonymously bash me, thank you very much.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["comments","internet","trolls","trolling","hate","haters","disqus","experts","bullying"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/online-experts_small.png","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/online-experts_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/online-experts_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@AvrisIT on Twitter:\n\nthe world would be so beautiful if the \u201ci\u0027m not an expert, but\u2026\u201d folks just shut up and let the experts talk.\n\njust this week i saw: a translator schooled about the language, a programmer about software engineering, and the gay community about discrimination.\n\njust.\nshut.\nup.\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022169.96282527881\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to think that the biggest advantage of the Internet compared to the old-fashioned media\nis that the communication doesn\u0027t just go one way.\nIt\u0027s not just a few people broadcasting to everyone, but instead it\u0027s everyone having an \u003Cem\u003Eequal voice\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut having spent years on the Internet has taught me something more:\nmost of those \u201cequal voices\u201d are stupid and spiteful.\nAnd that\u0027s I \u003Cem\u003Edon\u0027t have to\u003C\/em\u003E listen to all of them.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/online-experts_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/online-experts_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@AvrisIT on Twitter:\n\nthe world would be so beautiful if the \u201ci\u0027m not an expert, but\u2026\u201d folks just shut up and let the experts talk.\n\njust this week i saw: a translator schooled about the language, a programmer about software engineering, and the gay community about discrimination.\n\njust.\nshut.\nup.\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022169.96282527881\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/AvrisIT\/status\/1288763911114825729\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Etwitter.com\/AvrisIT\/status\/1288763911114825729\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to think that the biggest advantage of the Internet compared to the old-fashioned media\nis that the communication doesn\u0027t just go one way.\nIt\u0027s not just a few people broadcasting to everyone, but instead it\u0027s everyone having an \u003Cem\u003Eequal voice\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut having spent years on the Internet has taught me something more:\nmost of those \u201cequal voices\u201d are stupid and spiteful.\nAnd that\u0027s I \u003Cem\u003Edon\u0027t have to\u003C\/em\u003E listen to all of them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI have a bad habit that I\u0027m trying really hard to get rid of:\nand it\u0027s the need to always be right, to always have the last word.\nI was basically this person:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/duty_calls_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/duty_calls_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022xckd commic strip:\n\u2013 Are you coming to bed?\n\u2013 I can\u0027t. This is important.\n\u2013 What?\n\u2013 Somebody is WRONG on the internet.\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022264\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/xkcd.com\/386\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Exkcd.com\/386\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not saying that I\u0027m always right, of course, because I\u0027m not.\nBut I usually decide to only voice my opinions on issues that I know a lot about.\nI \u003Cem\u003Ecan\u0027t\u003C\/em\u003E be wrong about Kardashians for example, because I simply \u003Cem\u003Edon\u0027t talk\u003C\/em\u003E about Kardashians.\nBut when we\u0027re talking about web development, the stuggles of the LGBTQ+ community, linguistics, etc.,\nI\u0027m speaking up and backing up my views with data, knowledge and experience.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe problem is \u2013 not a lot of people seem to share that approach. Just last week, after having created\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/zaimki.pl\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E zaimki.pl\u003C\/a\u003E and being featured in a\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/queer.pl\/artykul\/204685\/zaimkipl-strona-jezyk-polski-niebinarnosc\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Queer.pl interview\u003C\/a\u003E,\nI went through the comments underneath and wept for humanity.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPeople would start their comment with \u201cI\u0027m not an expert, but\u2026\u201d and end with\n\u201c\u2026creating neopronouns \/ neologisms is absolutely impermissible in linguistics!\u201d.\nPeople would \u003Cdel\u003Eread\u003C\/del\u003E see an article mentioning that one of the creators of the website is a professional\nEnglish-Polish translator, and then accuse the creators of not even knowing\nhow Polish and English are different or even that they belong to different groups of languages.\nSeriously.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd that\u0027s the kind of comments that bring absolutely no value.\nThey are a thing because of this stupid notion, that everyone\u0027s opinion is valid.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd it\u0027s not. If your knowledge of linguistics comes down to speaking your native tongue\nand having heard in school once about the existence of Slavic languages and Germanic languages\n\u2013 your opinion about language evolution will probably not be useful to\na professional translator or a finalist of a national linguistic competition, will it?\nIf you\u0027re a white, able-bodied straight cis man, your opinion on how minorities should behave\nand how we should fight for our human rights will probably not be too useful in the discussion, now will it?\nIf you haven\u0027t read and understood the original post, your comment below that post will probably suck, won\u0027t it?\nAnd so on, and so forth\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut I was taught toxic habits, so I kept answering those comments.\nI kept answering the guy who transparently was trying to destroy my project for a personal vendetta.\nI kept educating priviledged people that they don\u0027t have a say in the minorities\u0027 fight for equal rights.\nI kept re-writing points from the post for the people who clearly have not read it.\nI kept answering the guy who \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/%C5%BCegnam-x.lite\u0022\u003E used the online comments to bully me in real life\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EReading what haters and know-better-than-the-experts have to say is hard emotional labour.\nAnswering them is even harder. It requires a lot of time and effort, and leaves you with ragged nerves.\nSome people clearly come to my mentions not to have a valid discussion or to share their point of view\n\u2013 they come specifically to waste my time. And I\u0027m so stupid to let them play their game\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyways\u2026 a few years back I was really into making sure that everything I create has a comment section,\nthat I don\u0027t \u201ccensor\u201d any voices, don\u0027t ban any abusers, don\u0027t hide any homophobic slurs\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut now I don\u0027t care about that anymore. I simply create things that I like, I share them with anyone\nwho wants to listen to my words or to use my projects \u2013 and if anyone has found a factual error in my post,\na bug on a website, if they have any useful input or suggestion, or if they want to cooperate\n\u2013 there\u0027s still \u003Cem\u003Eplenty\u003C\/em\u003E of ways to contact me about it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere is simply no need for a space, where everyone can \u003Cem\u003Eanonymously\u003C\/em\u003E put their queerphobic views on \u003Cem\u003Emy\u003C\/em\u003E website.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETechnically speaking, creating a comment section is complicated \u2013 with the need for a database,\npossibly user authentication, moderation, rich text editor, etc.\nWhen I was creating a \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/brand-new-blog.lite\u0022\u003E new version of this blog\u003C\/a\u003E, I kept it simple\n(and \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/new-year-new-digital-me.lite\u0022\u003E then again I went even simpler\u003C\/a\u003E).\nThe current version doesn\u0027t even have a database \u2013 it generates static HTML from \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/gitlab.com\/Avris\/SUML\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E SUML files\u003C\/a\u003E.\nSo a comment section would be more complex than the blog itself \ud83d\ude44\nThat\u0027s why I had decided to outsource that logic to \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/disqus.com\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Disqus\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETechnically, Disqus works like a charm.\nBut for the sake of my mental health and hours of needlessly wasted time\n\u2013 it\u0027s time to go one step further.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI simply removed the comment section. Poof.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd I\u0027m not the only one to do that. Many major newspapers get rid of their comment section nowadays,\nor at least limit the write access to paying subscribers.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELife\u0027s too short for trolls.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPS Before you accuse me of \u201csilencing criticism\u201d, \u201chiding in my bubble\u201d, \u201cnot being open to discussion\u201d,\n\u201cnot being open to change my mind\u201d, etc., please let me tell you that I used to be\na devout catholic, conservative, right-wing\u2026 Now I\u0027m a pansexual, polyamorous enby,\nintersectional feminist and human rights advocate. I \u003Cem\u003Eam\u003C\/em\u003E able to change my mind, because I \u003Cem\u003Ealready have\u003C\/em\u003E\nmade a 180\u00b0 turn (and multiple smaller ones). I \u003Cem\u003Eam\u003C\/em\u003E constantly exposed to people disagreeing with me\nand calling me queerphobic slurs every day. Don\u0027t worry about my openness to opposing ideas.\nI\u0027ll be fine without this one extra place to anonymously bash me, thank you very much.\u003C\/p\u003E","words":963,"readTime":4,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/treating-children-like-people":{"key":"blog\/life\/treating-children-like-people","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2020-05-23T11:49:32+02:00","publishedAt":"2020-05-23T11:49:32+02:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"treating-children-like-people"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"treating-children-like-people","title":"Treating children like people","intro":"\u003Cp\u003EThere\u0027s plenty of reasons to love Da\u00f0i Freyr\u0027s song\n(and my personal favourite for the 2020 Eurovision win)\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=VFZNvj-HfBU\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E \u201dThink About Things\u201d\u003C\/a\u003E.\nBut the most important reason is this:\nDa\u00f0i is singing about \u003Cem\u003Etreating his child like a human being\u003C\/em\u003E.\nAnd that\u0027s why the song brings me to tears.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003EThere\u0027s plenty of reasons to love Da\u00f0i Freyr\u0027s song\n(and my personal favourite for the 2020 Eurovision win)\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=VFZNvj-HfBU\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E \u201dThink About Things\u201d\u003C\/a\u003E.\nBut the most important reason is this:\nDa\u00f0i is singing about \u003Cem\u003Etreating his child like a human being\u003C\/em\u003E.\nAnd that\u0027s why the song brings me to tears.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote class=\u0022blockquote ml-4 pl-4 border-left\u0022\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBaby, I can\u0027t wait to know\u003Cbr\/\u003E\nWhat do you think about things\u003Cbr\/\u003E\nBelieve me, I will always be there, so\u003Cbr\/\u003E\nYou can tell me anything and I\u0027ll listen\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou see: my parents were never eager to learn what I think about things. They already knew what I \u003Cem\u003Ehave to\u003C\/em\u003E think.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey knew I\u0027m gonna be a nice catholic boy that will grow up to love Jesus and marry a woman that they would approve of.\nThey had my whole life planned out for me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EExcept, they didn\u0027t take into account that it\u0027s \u003Cem\u003Emy\u003C\/em\u003E life, not theirs.\nThey ended up with a nonbinary, atheist child who married a man.\nAnd it would\u0027ve been waaaaay easier, both for me and them,\nif they had just accepted the possibility that I won\u0027t grow up to be \u003Cem\u003Ea clone of theirs\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlmost every bigger problem, every stressful situation, every abusive behaviour of theirs\ncan be traced back to this stupid idea that their goal is not to bring up a person,\nbut to\u2026 well, \u003Cem\u003Eproduce\u003C\/em\u003E more of themselves.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECan you imagine how hard it was to come out as queer to someone who treats it\nas a \u003Cem\u003Epersonal failure\u003C\/em\u003E (and a personal attack) that they didn\u0027t manage to \u003Cem\u003Emake you\u003C\/em\u003E\nexeactly the same orientation as they are?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOtherwise, they weren\u0027t \u201dactively\u201d homophobic.\nThey weren\u0027t saying ugly shit about gay couples on TV or pro-gay politicians, they just didn\u0027t care at all.\nWhen it came to their own child, though?\nRight after coming out I\u0027ve heard that \u201dthose fags should get their balls cut off\u201d from my own father.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey shamed me for having the second highest grade average in the best high school in the city\n(\u201dwhy not the highest?\u201d), for not having exactly the same skills and interests as they do,\nfor not liking the exact same types of food they do\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAll of that could\u0027ve been avoided, if they just considered me my own person.\nIf I were a stranger, they wouldn\u0027t tell me whom to marry or what to believe in.\nBut, since they gave birth to me, I\u0027m somehow \u003Cem\u003Esupposed to\u003C\/em\u003E be what they want me to.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe thing is, though: I won\u0027t be. I\u0027ll be my own self, sooner or later, whether you like it or not.\nThe only thing you can do about it, is make it harder for all of us.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnother fragment of the song that really moves me is this one:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote class=\u0022blockquote ml-4 pl-4 border-left\u0022\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThough I know I\u2005love\u2005you\u003Cbr\/\u003E\nI find it\u2005hard to see how you feel\u2005about me\u003Cbr\/\u003E\n\u0027Cause I don\u0027t understand you\u003Cbr\/\u003E\nOh, you are yet to learn how to speak\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDa\u00f0i doesn\u0027t assume that his child loves him.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELove and respect are not a given. You have to build a relationship with someone and earn their respect.\nFew things in the world angry me more than people forcing each other to like other people \u201dbecause it\u0027s family\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYeah, no. Blood ties don\u0027t mean shit on their own.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m way closer to some people unrelated to me than I ever was with anyone of my family. And I\u0027m happy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat\u0027s very important: it seems like my experience is not an exception, but a rule.\nThink about all those parents who \u003Cem\u003Ehave to\u003C\/em\u003E have a child that becomes a doctor or a lawyer.\nThink about all those fathers who hate their daughters because they \u003Cem\u003Ereally wanted\u003C\/em\u003E a son.\nThing about all those mothers who send their offspring to extracarriculars that they just hate.\nAnd so on, and so forth.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENot even that! Think about all those people who switch to a bizzarly awful \u201dbaby talk\u201d whenever they see a child.\nWhy the hell do they do that? How do they expect the child to learn to speak like a human,\nif they keep exposing them to a caricature of speach?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThink about parents who hate it when their kids call them by name.\nEvery other person close to them just calls them by their name.\nBut if their \u003Cem\u003Echild\u003C\/em\u003E says something other than mom\/mommy\/dad\/daddy\/whatever, they take great offense.\nAs if the kids were inferior to them.\nNot allowed to call them the way that every other human being calls people close to them.\nIsn\u0027t it strange?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cem\u003EYour child is a human being. Treat them as one.\u003C\/em\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOh well, anyways\u2026 Enjoy the song \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022text-center my-4\u0022\u003E\u003Ciframe width=\u0022640\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/VFZNvj-HfBU\u0022 frameborder=\u00220\u0022 allowfullscreen\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["child","minor","parenting","abuse","parents","childhood","queer"],"hasMore":true,"image":null,"introLite":"\u003Cp\u003EThere\u0027s plenty of reasons to love Da\u00f0i Freyr\u0027s song\n(and my personal favourite for the 2020 Eurovision win)\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=VFZNvj-HfBU\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E \u201dThink About Things\u201d\u003C\/a\u003E.\nBut the most important reason is this:\nDa\u00f0i is singing about \u003Cem\u003Etreating his child like a human being\u003C\/em\u003E.\nAnd that\u0027s why the song brings me to tears.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cp\u003EThere\u0027s plenty of reasons to love Da\u00f0i Freyr\u0027s song\n(and my personal favourite for the 2020 Eurovision win)\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=VFZNvj-HfBU\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E \u201dThink About Things\u201d\u003C\/a\u003E.\nBut the most important reason is this:\nDa\u00f0i is singing about \u003Cem\u003Etreating his child like a human being\u003C\/em\u003E.\nAnd that\u0027s why the song brings me to tears.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBaby, I can\u0027t wait to know\u003Cbr\/\u003E\nWhat do you think about things\u003Cbr\/\u003E\nBelieve me, I will always be there, so\u003Cbr\/\u003E\nYou can tell me anything and I\u0027ll listen\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou see: my parents were never eager to learn what I think about things. They already knew what I \u003Cem\u003Ehave to\u003C\/em\u003E think.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey knew I\u0027m gonna be a nice catholic boy that will grow up to love Jesus and marry a woman that they would approve of.\nThey had my whole life planned out for me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EExcept, they didn\u0027t take into account that it\u0027s \u003Cem\u003Emy\u003C\/em\u003E life, not theirs.\nThey ended up with a nonbinary, atheist child who married a man.\nAnd it would\u0027ve been waaaaay easier, both for me and them,\nif they had just accepted the possibility that I won\u0027t grow up to be \u003Cem\u003Ea clone of theirs\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlmost every bigger problem, every stressful situation, every abusive behaviour of theirs\ncan be traced back to this stupid idea that their goal is not to bring up a person,\nbut to\u2026 well, \u003Cem\u003Eproduce\u003C\/em\u003E more of themselves.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECan you imagine how hard it was to come out as queer to someone who treats it\nas a \u003Cem\u003Epersonal failure\u003C\/em\u003E (and a personal attack) that they didn\u0027t manage to \u003Cem\u003Emake you\u003C\/em\u003E\nexeactly the same orientation as they are?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOtherwise, they weren\u0027t \u201dactively\u201d homophobic.\nThey weren\u0027t saying ugly shit about gay couples on TV or pro-gay politicians, they just didn\u0027t care at all.\nWhen it came to their own child, though?\nRight after coming out I\u0027ve heard that \u201dthose fags should get their balls cut off\u201d from my own father.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey shamed me for having the second highest grade average in the best high school in the city\n(\u201dwhy not the highest?\u201d), for not having exactly the same skills and interests as they do,\nfor not liking the exact same types of food they do\u2026\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAll of that could\u0027ve been avoided, if they just considered me my own person.\nIf I were a stranger, they wouldn\u0027t tell me whom to marry or what to believe in.\nBut, since they gave birth to me, I\u0027m somehow \u003Cem\u003Esupposed to\u003C\/em\u003E be what they want me to.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe thing is, though: I won\u0027t be. I\u0027ll be my own self, sooner or later, whether you like it or not.\nThe only thing you can do about it, is make it harder for all of us.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnother fragment of the song that really moves me is this one:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThough I know I\u2005love\u2005you\u003Cbr\/\u003E\nI find it\u2005hard to see how you feel\u2005about me\u003Cbr\/\u003E\n\u0027Cause I don\u0027t understand you\u003Cbr\/\u003E\nOh, you are yet to learn how to speak\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDa\u00f0i doesn\u0027t assume that his child loves him.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELove and respect are not a given. You have to build a relationship with someone and earn their respect.\nFew things in the world angry me more than people forcing each other to like other people \u201dbecause it\u0027s family\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYeah, no. Blood ties don\u0027t mean shit on their own.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m way closer to some people unrelated to me than I ever was with anyone of my family. And I\u0027m happy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat\u0027s very important: it seems like my experience is not an exception, but a rule.\nThink about all those parents who \u003Cem\u003Ehave to\u003C\/em\u003E have a child that becomes a doctor or a lawyer.\nThink about all those fathers who hate their daughters because they \u003Cem\u003Ereally wanted\u003C\/em\u003E a son.\nThing about all those mothers who send their offspring to extracarriculars that they just hate.\nAnd so on, and so forth.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENot even that! Think about all those people who switch to a bizzarly awful \u201dbaby talk\u201d whenever they see a child.\nWhy the hell do they do that? How do they expect the child to learn to speak like a human,\nif they keep exposing them to a caricature of speach?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThink about parents who hate it when their kids call them by name.\nEvery other person close to them just calls them by their name.\nBut if their \u003Cem\u003Echild\u003C\/em\u003E says something other than mom\/mommy\/dad\/daddy\/whatever, they take great offense.\nAs if the kids were inferior to them.\nNot allowed to call them the way that every other human being calls people close to them.\nIsn\u0027t it strange?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cem\u003EYour child is a human being. Treat them as one.\u003C\/em\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOh well, anyways\u2026 Enjoy the song \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022text-center my-4\u0022\u003E\u003Ciframe width=\u0022640\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/VFZNvj-HfBU\u0022 frameborder=\u00220\u0022 allowfullscreen\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E","words":771,"readTime":4,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/quirks-of-polish-names":{"key":"blog\/life\/quirks-of-polish-names","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2017-06-26T10:04:27+02:00","publishedAt":"2020-04-18T13:47:00+02:00","group":"names","category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"quirks-of-polish-names"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"quirks-of-polish-names","title":"Quirks of Polish names","intro":"\u003Cp\u003EHaving lived in three different countries and interacted with people from all around the world\nmade me realise that Polish names have some pretty unique quirks \u2013 to which, as a native speaker,\nI didn\u0027t give too much thought, while foreigners find them quite strange.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003EHaving lived in three different countries and interacted with people from all around the world\nmade me realise that Polish names have some pretty unique quirks \u2013 to which, as a native speaker,\nI didn\u0027t give too much thought, while foreigners find them quite strange.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe most obviously tricky part is the pronunciation.\nMy name, \u201cAndrzej\u201d, is pronunced \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/forvo.com\/search\/andrzej\/pl\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E like this\u003C\/a\u003E, with the \u201crz\u201d as \/\u0290\/.\nBut hardly anyone outside of Poland knows that and has no problems pronouncing it and writing it down.\nThat\u0027s why I usually go by \u201cAndre\u201d, as a simplification. And recently also as \u201cAndrea\u201d, to make it gender-neutral.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut dificult pronunciation is almost a given when talking about other languages. What\u0027s quite specific to Polish then?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003E(Doubly) diminutive-able first names\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMany languages have \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Diminutive\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E diminutives\u003C\/a\u003E.\nMany use them also for names (eg. English: Tim \u2192 Timmy, Richard \u2192 Dick, ...).\nSome languages even have a concept of double diminutive (Italian: casa \u2192 casetta \u2192 casettina).\nBut Polish just \u003Cem\u003Eloooves\u003C\/em\u003E its diminutives!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAccording to \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/ksiega-imion.pl\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E ksiega-imion.pl\u003C\/a\u003E, my first name, Andrzej, can be tuned into:\nAndruszko, Andrzejek, J\u0119drek, J\u0119dru\u015b, J\u0119drzejek, Ondrzejek, Ondraszek, or Ondrysz.\nDiminutives of Katarzyna are: Kacha, Kachna, Kasia, Kasie\u0144ka, Kasiunia, Ka\u015bka, Katarzynka, Katka.\nOf Jan: Janek, Janosik, Jasiek, Jasio, Ja\u015b, Ja\u015bko. And so on, and so forth...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd the thing is: which one to use can depend on so many things... Most are regional forms.\nSome you can use more like a joke or a nickname rather than a diminutive of a name.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027ve noticed that many follow a three-level pattern. For instance:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EPiotr \u2192 Piotrek \u2192 Piotru\u015b\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EGrzegorz \u2192 Grzesiek \u2192 Grzesiu\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EMa\u0142gorzata \u2192 Go\u015bka \u2192 Gosia\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EWojciech \u2192 Wojtek \u2192 Wojtu\u015b\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EJan \u2192 Janek \u2192 Ja\u015b\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E...\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe first one is \u003Cem\u003Every\u003C\/em\u003E formal. That\u0027s what\u0027s in your documents. That\u0027s what you probably hardly ever use\noutside of formal situations \u2013 at least I wouldn\u0027t, if I had one of those names.\nI\u0027ve had friends and family members who would always go by \u201cWojtek\u201d and never \u201cWojciech\u201d, always \u201cGosia\u201d and never \u201cMa\u0142gorzata\u201d, etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt sounds so formal that my sister Ma\u0142ogrzata, upon moving to the UK,\nwouldn\u0027t go by the English version of her name \u2013 Margaret -\nbut by an artificial anglicisation of the Polish diminutive \u201cGosia\u201d: so she\u0027s now known as \u201cGosha\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe second one is usually what you use informally, what friends call you, what the extended family calls you.\nThe third one is pretty intimate and quite infantile. You might call your romantic partners that, you might call children that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EUsually. It all differs from name to name, it differs from person to person.\nSometimes it can get quite tricky to decide which form of one\u0027s name to use,\nin order not to sound too formal, or too familiar, or too childish...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u0027s why I\u0027m very glad that my name is not one of those \u201cthree-level\u201d names.\n\u201cAndrzej\u201d just doesn\u0027t sound \u003Cem\u003Eso formal\u003C\/em\u003E that it would be weird to call your friend that.\nOne can form a diminutive of it, if one wants, but \u201cAndrzej\u201d itself is pretty neutral.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd they did, btw. My parish priest, for example,\njokingly called be \u201cJ\u0119drek\u201d, because he\u0027s from the mountains where this form is popular.\nAnd my mother called me \u201cAdu\u015b\u201d, completely ignoring the fact that it\u0027s not in the slightest a diminutive of \u201cAndrzej\u201d.\nIt is a male-ified version of a diminutive of a female name \u201cAda\u201d.\nBut she also called my brother \u201cMaciu\u015b\u201d, even though it\u0027s a diminutive of \u201cMaciej\u201d, not \u201cMarcin\u201d,\nand she called his daughter \u201cMagda\u201d even though her name is \u201cWiktoria\u201d, so what does she know \ud83e\udd37\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESumming up: the Poles can get pretty inventive with their names, and chosing a proper form can get tricky sometimes.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EDeclinable surnames\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd then there\u0027s surnames. Most are quite straight-forward, but there\u0027s one category that behaves a bit unexpectedly.\nThose surnames, ending in -ski and -cki, are basically adjectives, which means they get declined.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPolish, as a \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/genderneutralizacja-polszczyzny\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-people-carry\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E stronly genderised\u003C\/a\u003E language,\ndistinguishes between male and female way more often than necessary.\nSo for example, my surname is Prusinow\u003Cstrong\u003Eski\u003C\/strong\u003E, but my sister\u0027s is Prusinow\u003Cstrong\u003Eska\u003C\/strong\u003E.\nThe family name is Prusinow\u003Cstrong\u003Escy\u003C\/strong\u003E, but a subset of two or more women would be called Prusinow\u003Cstrong\u003Eskie\u003C\/strong\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELet\u0027s look at \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/The_Wachowskis\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Lana \u0026amp; Lilly Wachowski\u003C\/a\u003E,\ncollectively known as \u201cThe Wachowskis\u201d or \u201cThe Wachowski sisters\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf they lived and transitioned in Poland (or treated their Polish heritage more to the letter),\nthey would probably change not only their first names, but also surnames.\nIt would be \u201cLana Wachowska\u201d and \u201cLilly Wachowska\u201d, and collectively \u201csiostry Wachowskie\u201d.\nAlso, the \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/forvo.com\/search\/Wachowski\/pl\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E pronunciation\u003C\/a\u003E\nwould be vastly different from the \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/forvo.com\/search\/Wachowski\/en\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E anglicised version\u003C\/a\u003E, just saying...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EName day\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd finally, something more loosely related to names:\npeople in Poland celebrate \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Name_day\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E name days\u003C\/a\u003E.\nIt\u0027s also popular in some other Roman Catholic and Eastern Orthodox countries,\nbut not as universal as birthdays, so worth mentioning, I guess...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBasically, if a person died and became a saint, there would be a \u201cmemory\u201d day put in the liturgical calendar,\nusually on the day of their death. That way the priest will know to read a short note about their life\nbefore the mass. Eventually, those names ended up in regular calendars,\nand people bearing those names started celebrating the feast day of their patron saint.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo in Poland you usually have two celebrations of your person every year \u2013\na birthday, usually celebrated with family,\nand a name day, usually celebrated by getting super drunk with your friends.\nUnless you\u0027re a child, then you only get a birthday, sorry.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["name","first name","last name","surname","declension","declination","gender","language","linguistics","poland","polish"],"hasMore":true,"image":null,"introLite":"\u003Cp\u003EHaving lived in three different countries and interacted with people from all around the world\nmade me realise that Polish names have some pretty unique quirks \u2013 to which, as a native speaker,\nI didn\u0027t give too much thought, while foreigners find them quite strange.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cp\u003EHaving lived in three different countries and interacted with people from all around the world\nmade me realise that Polish names have some pretty unique quirks \u2013 to which, as a native speaker,\nI didn\u0027t give too much thought, while foreigners find them quite strange.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe most obviously tricky part is the pronunciation.\nMy name, \u201cAndrzej\u201d, is pronunced \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/forvo.com\/search\/andrzej\/pl\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E like this\u003C\/a\u003E, with the \u201crz\u201d as \/\u0290\/.\nBut hardly anyone outside of Poland knows that and has no problems pronouncing it and writing it down.\nThat\u0027s why I usually go by \u201cAndre\u201d, as a simplification. And recently also as \u201cAndrea\u201d, to make it gender-neutral.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut dificult pronunciation is almost a given when talking about other languages. What\u0027s quite specific to Polish then?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003E(Doubly) diminutive-able first names\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMany languages have \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Diminutive\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E diminutives\u003C\/a\u003E.\nMany use them also for names (eg. English: Tim \u2192 Timmy, Richard \u2192 Dick, ...).\nSome languages even have a concept of double diminutive (Italian: casa \u2192 casetta \u2192 casettina).\nBut Polish just \u003Cem\u003Eloooves\u003C\/em\u003E its diminutives!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAccording to \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/ksiega-imion.pl\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E ksiega-imion.pl\u003C\/a\u003E, my first name, Andrzej, can be tuned into:\nAndruszko, Andrzejek, J\u0119drek, J\u0119dru\u015b, J\u0119drzejek, Ondrzejek, Ondraszek, or Ondrysz.\nDiminutives of Katarzyna are: Kacha, Kachna, Kasia, Kasie\u0144ka, Kasiunia, Ka\u015bka, Katarzynka, Katka.\nOf Jan: Janek, Janosik, Jasiek, Jasio, Ja\u015b, Ja\u015bko. And so on, and so forth...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd the thing is: which one to use can depend on so many things... Most are regional forms.\nSome you can use more like a joke or a nickname rather than a diminutive of a name.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027ve noticed that many follow a three-level pattern. For instance:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EPiotr \u2192 Piotrek \u2192 Piotru\u015b\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EGrzegorz \u2192 Grzesiek \u2192 Grzesiu\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EMa\u0142gorzata \u2192 Go\u015bka \u2192 Gosia\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EWojciech \u2192 Wojtek \u2192 Wojtu\u015b\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EJan \u2192 Janek \u2192 Ja\u015b\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E...\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe first one is \u003Cem\u003Every\u003C\/em\u003E formal. That\u0027s what\u0027s in your documents. That\u0027s what you probably hardly ever use\noutside of formal situations \u2013 at least I wouldn\u0027t, if I had one of those names.\nI\u0027ve had friends and family members who would always go by \u201cWojtek\u201d and never \u201cWojciech\u201d, always \u201cGosia\u201d and never \u201cMa\u0142gorzata\u201d, etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt sounds so formal that my sister Ma\u0142ogrzata, upon moving to the UK,\nwouldn\u0027t go by the English version of her name \u2013 Margaret -\nbut by an artificial anglicisation of the Polish diminutive \u201cGosia\u201d: so she\u0027s now known as \u201cGosha\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe second one is usually what you use informally, what friends call you, what the extended family calls you.\nThe third one is pretty intimate and quite infantile. You might call your romantic partners that, you might call children that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EUsually. It all differs from name to name, it differs from person to person.\nSometimes it can get quite tricky to decide which form of one\u0027s name to use,\nin order not to sound too formal, or too familiar, or too childish...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u0027s why I\u0027m very glad that my name is not one of those \u201cthree-level\u201d names.\n\u201cAndrzej\u201d just doesn\u0027t sound \u003Cem\u003Eso formal\u003C\/em\u003E that it would be weird to call your friend that.\nOne can form a diminutive of it, if one wants, but \u201cAndrzej\u201d itself is pretty neutral.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd they did, btw. My parish priest, for example,\njokingly called be \u201cJ\u0119drek\u201d, because he\u0027s from the mountains where this form is popular.\nAnd my mother called me \u201cAdu\u015b\u201d, completely ignoring the fact that it\u0027s not in the slightest a diminutive of \u201cAndrzej\u201d.\nIt is a male-ified version of a diminutive of a female name \u201cAda\u201d.\nBut she also called my brother \u201cMaciu\u015b\u201d, even though it\u0027s a diminutive of \u201cMaciej\u201d, not \u201cMarcin\u201d,\nand she called his daughter \u201cMagda\u201d even though her name is \u201cWiktoria\u201d, so what does she know \ud83e\udd37\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESumming up: the Poles can get pretty inventive with their names, and chosing a proper form can get tricky sometimes.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EDeclinable surnames\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd then there\u0027s surnames. Most are quite straight-forward, but there\u0027s one category that behaves a bit unexpectedly.\nThose surnames, ending in -ski and -cki, are basically adjectives, which means they get declined.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPolish, as a \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/genderneutralizacja-polszczyzny.lite\u0022\u003E stronly genderised\u003C\/a\u003E language,\ndistinguishes between male and female way more often than necessary.\nSo for example, my surname is Prusinow\u003Cstrong\u003Eski\u003C\/strong\u003E, but my sister\u0027s is Prusinow\u003Cstrong\u003Eska\u003C\/strong\u003E.\nThe family name is Prusinow\u003Cstrong\u003Escy\u003C\/strong\u003E, but a subset of two or more women would be called Prusinow\u003Cstrong\u003Eskie\u003C\/strong\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELet\u0027s look at \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/The_Wachowskis\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Lana \u0026amp; Lilly Wachowski\u003C\/a\u003E,\ncollectively known as \u201cThe Wachowskis\u201d or \u201cThe Wachowski sisters\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf they lived and transitioned in Poland (or treated their Polish heritage more to the letter),\nthey would probably change not only their first names, but also surnames.\nIt would be \u201cLana Wachowska\u201d and \u201cLilly Wachowska\u201d, and collectively \u201csiostry Wachowskie\u201d.\nAlso, the \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/forvo.com\/search\/Wachowski\/pl\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E pronunciation\u003C\/a\u003E\nwould be vastly different from the \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/forvo.com\/search\/Wachowski\/en\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E anglicised version\u003C\/a\u003E, just saying...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EName day\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd finally, something more loosely related to names:\npeople in Poland celebrate \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Name_day\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E name days\u003C\/a\u003E.\nIt\u0027s also popular in some other Roman Catholic and Eastern Orthodox countries,\nbut not as universal as birthdays, so worth mentioning, I guess...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBasically, if a person died and became a saint, there would be a \u201cmemory\u201d day put in the liturgical calendar,\nusually on the day of their death. That way the priest will know to read a short note about their life\nbefore the mass. Eventually, those names ended up in regular calendars,\nand people bearing those names started celebrating the feast day of their patron saint.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo in Poland you usually have two celebrations of your person every year \u2013\na birthday, usually celebrated with family,\nand a name day, usually celebrated by getting super drunk with your friends.\nUnless you\u0027re a child, then you only get a birthday, sorry.\u003C\/p\u003E","words":904,"readTime":4,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/gender-is-over":{"key":"blog\/life\/gender-is-over","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2020-03-24T21:09:31+01:00","publishedAt":"2020-04-04T16:32:00+02:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"gender-is-over"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"gender-is-over","title":"Gender is over","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lady-in-red_small.jpg\u0022 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to culture and from time to time.\n\u201cAsian woman\u201d, \u201cWestern woman\u201d, \u201cMedieval European woman\u201d, etc. etc.\nare all made to follow different set of rules.\nPink used to be a colour associated with boys not girls (because of being close to bloody red).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.merriam-webster.com\/dictionary\/gender\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Dictionaries define gender\u003C\/a\u003E\nas \u003Cem\u003E\u201cthe behavioral, cultural, or psychological traits typically associated with one sex\u201d\u003C\/em\u003E.\nBut I would go one step further: it\u0027s not just the \u201ctraits\u201d that are \u201cassociated\u201d.\nIt\u0027s rules that are enforced.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBe it by getting physically beaten up for \u201clooking like a faggot\u201d,\nbe it by being publicly riddiculed for \u201cbeing too butch\u201d,\nor be it by simply being quietly frowned upon \u2013\nthe society has its ways to make people look and behave the way their designated box says they should.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd yes, I know, there\u0027s plenty of people being very comfortable in their box.\nAnd there\u0027s many who know they\u0027ll be happy and fitting once they transition to the other box.\nBut wouldn\u0027t it be simpler if we just \u003Cem\u003Egot rid of the boxes\u003C\/em\u003E?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust let people be people. Let us be ourselves.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEver since I put the \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/nonbinary\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-tag\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E nonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E label on my gender,\never since I started \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Gender_bender\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E gender bending\u003C\/a\u003E,\never since I started experimenting with my \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/pansexuality\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-tag\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E pansexuality\u003C\/a\u003E,\nI started realising how \u003Cem\u003Emade up\u003C\/em\u003E gender is.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe don\u0027t choose our partners based solely on the mere existence of a penis or a vagina, right?\nWe like them for their character, skills, sense of humour,\nwe\u0027re physically attracted to their body type, body hair, muscles, face, hair, makeup, etc. etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOur appearance and behaviour, our romantic and sexual attraction\n\u2013 are way more complex than just those simple binary categories: man and woman, gay, straight and bi...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESure, it\u0027s a decent approximation, and I still use them to describe myself and other people.\nAnd I\u0027m not trying to invalidate anyone\u0027s identity.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI just wanted to share how much liberty it gave me when I started to just\n\u003Cem\u003Ecare about those labels less\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not enforcing gender rules on anyone. I\u0027m not trying to follow them myself.\nIn my mind \u2013 gender is over \ud83d\udcaa\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["gender","nonbinary","agender","genderfuck","gender bender","pansexual","pansexuality","lgbtq"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lady-in-red_small.jpg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lady-in-red_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lady-in-red_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022320\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor me, gender is over.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENot in a sad, \u201cGame Over\u201d way.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn a happy, \u201cMission accomplished\u201d way.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lady-in-red_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/lady-in-red_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022320\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor me, gender is over.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENot in a sad, \u201cGame Over\u201d way.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn a happy, \u201cMission accomplished\u201d way.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBecause for me gender is just a set of rules and regulations,\nbased on someone\u0027s perception of what kind of genitals you might have.\nIf people think that you have this or that in your pants,\nthey\u0027ll also expect you to get a specific type of job,\nwear a specific amount of makup, have specific amount of body hair in specific places,\nwear specific clothes, behave in a specfic manner, play with specific toys...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe know it\u0027s all made up rules,\nfor instance because it differs from culture to culture and from time to time.\n\u201cAsian woman\u201d, \u201cWestern woman\u201d, \u201cMedieval European woman\u201d, etc. etc.\nare all made to follow different set of rules.\nPink used to be a colour associated with boys not girls (because of being close to bloody red).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.merriam-webster.com\/dictionary\/gender\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Dictionaries define gender\u003C\/a\u003E\nas \u003Cem\u003E\u201cthe behavioral, cultural, or psychological traits typically associated with one sex\u201d\u003C\/em\u003E.\nBut I would go one step further: it\u0027s not just the \u201ctraits\u201d that are \u201cassociated\u201d.\nIt\u0027s rules that are enforced.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBe it by getting physically beaten up for \u201clooking like a faggot\u201d,\nbe it by being publicly riddiculed for \u201cbeing too butch\u201d,\nor be it by simply being quietly frowned upon \u2013\nthe society has its ways to make people look and behave the way their designated box says they should.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd yes, I know, there\u0027s plenty of people being very comfortable in their box.\nAnd there\u0027s many who know they\u0027ll be happy and fitting once they transition to the other box.\nBut wouldn\u0027t it be simpler if we just \u003Cem\u003Egot rid of the boxes\u003C\/em\u003E?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust let people be people. Let us be ourselves.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEver since I put the \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/nonbinary\u0022\u003E nonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E label on my gender,\never since I started \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Gender_bender\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E gender bending\u003C\/a\u003E,\never since I started experimenting with my \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/pansexuality\u0022\u003E pansexuality\u003C\/a\u003E,\nI started realising how \u003Cem\u003Emade up\u003C\/em\u003E gender is.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe don\u0027t choose our partners based solely on the mere existence of a penis or a vagina, right?\nWe like them for their character, skills, sense of humour,\nwe\u0027re physically attracted to their body type, body hair, muscles, face, hair, makeup, etc. etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOur appearance and behaviour, our romantic and sexual attraction\n\u2013 are way more complex than just those simple binary categories: man and woman, gay, straight and bi...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESure, it\u0027s a decent approximation, and I still use them to describe myself and other people.\nAnd I\u0027m not trying to invalidate anyone\u0027s identity.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI just wanted to share how much liberty it gave me when I started to just\n\u003Cem\u003Ecare about those labels less\u003C\/em\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not enforcing gender rules on anyone. I\u0027m not trying to follow them myself.\nIn my mind \u2013 gender is over \ud83d\udcaa\u003C\/p\u003E","words":453,"readTime":2,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/let-s-love-our-brains":{"key":"blog\/life\/let-s-love-our-brains","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2020-03-12T20:01:15+01:00","publishedAt":"2020-03-15T14:44:44+01:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"let-s-love-our-brains"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"let-s-love-our-brains","title":"Let\u0027s love our brains!","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/brain_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022A picture of a brain\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022316.70103092784\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg 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people?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust take a look at how often we don\u0027t treat intellectual work like a \u003Cem\u003Ereal\u003C\/em\u003E work.\nThinking that one \u003Cem\u003Ecan\u0027t possibly\u003C\/em\u003E be so tired after eight hours \u003Cem\u003Ejust sitting\u003C\/em\u003E at a desk.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust take a look how many of us still believe in a \u201csoul\u201d,\nwithout giving enough credit to their brains.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut here\u0027s the news: \u003Cstrong\u003Eyour brain \u003Cem\u003Eis\u003C\/em\u003E you\u003C\/strong\u003E. The rest just keeps your brain alive.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou can lose a finger or a leg. You can replace a heart with a transplant.\nBut you can\u0027t lose or replace your brain, can you?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s you, treat yourself with respect.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMental illness is just a type of illness.\nMental work is also work.\nConsciousness is a function of brain, not a magic astral mystery.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["brain","mind","soul","work","mental","psychology","psychiatrist"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/brain_small.png","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/brain_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/brain_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022A picture of a brain\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022158.35051546392\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHave you ever noticed how unfairly we treat our brains?\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/brain_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/brain_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022A picture of a brain\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022158.35051546392\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/tEVGmMaPFXk\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Eunsplash.com\/photos\/tEVGmMaPFXk\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHave you ever noticed how unfairly we treat our brains?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust take a look at the stigma surrounding mental issues.\nHow mentally ill are being treated as dangerous weirdos, instead of... just sick people?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust take a look at how often we don\u0027t treat intellectual work like a \u003Cem\u003Ereal\u003C\/em\u003E work.\nThinking that one \u003Cem\u003Ecan\u0027t possibly\u003C\/em\u003E be so tired after eight hours \u003Cem\u003Ejust sitting\u003C\/em\u003E at a desk.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust take a look how many of us still believe in a \u201csoul\u201d,\nwithout giving enough credit to their brains.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut here\u0027s the news: \u003Cstrong\u003Eyour brain \u003Cem\u003Eis\u003C\/em\u003E you\u003C\/strong\u003E. The rest just keeps your brain alive.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou can lose a finger or a leg. You can replace a heart with a transplant.\nBut you can\u0027t lose or replace your brain, can you?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s you, treat yourself with respect.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMental illness is just a type of illness.\nMental work is also work.\nConsciousness is a function of brain, not a magic astral mystery.\u003C\/p\u003E","words":161,"readTime":null,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/jojo-rabbit-the-saddest-commedy-ever":{"key":"blog\/life\/jojo-rabbit-the-saddest-commedy-ever","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2020-01-04T22:16:19+01:00","publishedAt":"2020-01-04T22:16:19+01:00","group":"movie-review","category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"jojo-rabbit-the-saddest-commedy-ever"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"jojo-rabbit-the-saddest-comedy-ever","title":"Jojo Rabbit \u2013 the saddest comedy ever","intro":"\u003Cp\u003Ejust saw Jojo Rabbit\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Eit\u2019s the saddest fucking comedy ever\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Edon\u2019t trust the trailer, bring tissues\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(oh, and also, it\u2019s great!)\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003Ejust saw Jojo Rabbit\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Eit\u2019s the saddest fucking comedy ever\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Edon\u2019t trust the trailer, bring tissues\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(oh, and also, it\u2019s great!)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022text-center my-4\u0022\u003E\u003Ciframe width=\u0022640\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/ZkKaDXapi1o\u0022 frameborder=\u00220\u0022 allowfullscreen\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["comedy","drama","dramedy","hitler","hitlerjugend","imaginary friend","review","movie"],"hasMore":true,"image":null,"introLite":"\u003Cp\u003Ejust saw Jojo Rabbit\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Eit\u2019s the saddest fucking comedy ever\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Edon\u2019t trust the trailer, bring tissues\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(oh, and also, it\u2019s great!)\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cp\u003Ejust saw Jojo Rabbit\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Eit\u2019s the saddest fucking comedy ever\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Edon\u2019t trust the trailer, bring tissues\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(oh, and also, it\u2019s great!)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022text-center my-4\u0022\u003E\u003Ciframe width=\u0022640\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/ZkKaDXapi1o\u0022 frameborder=\u00220\u0022 allowfullscreen\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E","words":24,"readTime":null,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/the-greatest-song-on-earth":{"key":"blog\/life\/the-greatest-song-on-earth","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2019-05-25T22:33:02+02:00","publishedAt":"2019-12-08T13:05:00+01:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"the-greatest-song-on-earth"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"the-greatest-song-on-earth","title":"The Greatest Song on Earth","intro":"\u003Cp\u003EIf I had to chose only one song that I would be allowed to listen to for the rest of my life, I would be brokenhearted about all the wonderful music I would lose, but I wouldn\u2019t hesitate for a second about \u003Cem\u003Ewhich\u003C\/em\u003E track I\u2019d choose.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003EIf I had to chose only one song that I would be allowed to listen to for the rest of my life, I would be brokenhearted about all the wonderful music I would lose, but I wouldn\u2019t hesitate for a second about \u003Cem\u003Ewhich\u003C\/em\u003E track I\u2019d choose.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENightwish is the musical love of my life. Their power metal gave me power to get through the darkest moments of my life. Their symphonic metal managed to combine into single songs my passion for both classical music and heavier sounds. Seeing them perform live was no doubt the most eargasmic experience of my life.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd their Tuomas Holopainen is IMO the greatest modern composer. Absolutely no doubt about it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhich brings me to the song that is the absolute peak of their work, combining plentitude of talent, years of experience developing their style, the refined technique, and a beautiful, powerful message.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201cThe Greatest Show on Earth\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELet\u2019s start with the message. It can\u2019t get more solemn than the story of the universe, of life and everything. Than asking the big questions, who are we and where are we going. Than contemplating life and death, creation and destruction. It\u2019s all there.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe whole album is inspired by one of the most brilliant and important theories in the history of science: Charles Darwin\u2019s evolutionary theory. The album\u2019s name actually comes from Darwin\u2019s \u201cOrigin of Species\u201d. And the name of the song itself comes from the title of Richard Dawkins\u2019s \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/The_Greatest_Show_on_Earth:_The_Evidence_for_Evolution\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E book\u003C\/a\u003E about evolution.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESpeaking of which, the album features Dawkins himself as a guest. He reads excerpts from both Darwin and himself, including this powerful quote from \u201cUnweaving the Rainbow\u201d that provides a wonderful solace for the fear of death without there being an afterlife:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote class=\u0022blockquote ml-4 pl-4 border-left\u0022\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe are going to die, and that makes us the lucky ones. Most people are never going to die because they are never going to be born. The potential people who could have been here in my place but who will in fact never see the light of day outnumber the sand grains of Sahara. [...] In the teeth of these stupefying odds it is you and I, in our ordinariness, that are here. We privileged few, who won the lottery of birth against all odds, \u003Cstrong\u003Ehow dare we whine\u003C\/strong\u003E at our inevitable return to that prior state from which the vast majority have never stirred?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMusically, the song is actually a mix of genres, even being a bit tribal or a bit pop in some places. As it tells the story of the entire universe, it consists of multiple vastly different parts, yet all of them fitting so well together. It\u2019s a whole conceptual album in one song.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd it\u2019s being sung by Floor Jansen \u2013 immensely talented woman with a beautiful voice, and probably the most versatile one that I\u2019ve ever heard \u2013 together with Marco Hietala, who manages to both contrast and complement Floor\u2019s voice. Simply wonderful!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd on top of that, they manage to take this already top-notch song and create a live show that elevates it even further \u2013 with a great stage design, sometimes even fireworks, or in case of the concert that I attended \u2013 weaving in my second-favourite song from Nightwish, \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=JYjIlHWBAVo\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Ghost Love Score\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EConsidering all that \u2013 could I make any other choice than going for The Greatest Song on Earth?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022text-center my-4\u0022\u003E\u003Ciframe width=\u0022640\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/uki-Ls_2qBk\u0022 frameborder=\u00220\u0022 allowfullscreen\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["darwin","dawkins","eargasm","evolution","music","nightwish"],"hasMore":true,"image":null,"introLite":"\u003Cp\u003EIf I had to chose only one song that I would be allowed to listen to for the rest of my life, I would be brokenhearted about all the wonderful music I would lose, but I wouldn\u2019t hesitate for a second about \u003Cem\u003Ewhich\u003C\/em\u003E track I\u2019d choose.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cp\u003EIf I had to chose only one song that I would be allowed to listen to for the rest of my life, I would be brokenhearted about all the wonderful music I would lose, but I wouldn\u2019t hesitate for a second about \u003Cem\u003Ewhich\u003C\/em\u003E track I\u2019d choose.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENightwish is the musical love of my life. Their power metal gave me power to get through the darkest moments of my life. Their symphonic metal managed to combine into single songs my passion for both classical music and heavier sounds. Seeing them perform live was no doubt the most eargasmic experience of my life.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd their Tuomas Holopainen is IMO the greatest modern composer. Absolutely no doubt about it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhich brings me to the song that is the absolute peak of their work, combining plentitude of talent, years of experience developing their style, the refined technique, and a beautiful, powerful message.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201cThe Greatest Show on Earth\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELet\u2019s start with the message. It can\u2019t get more solemn than the story of the universe, of life and everything. Than asking the big questions, who are we and where are we going. Than contemplating life and death, creation and destruction. It\u2019s all there.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe whole album is inspired by one of the most brilliant and important theories in the history of science: Charles Darwin\u2019s evolutionary theory. The album\u2019s name actually comes from Darwin\u2019s \u201cOrigin of Species\u201d. And the name of the song itself comes from the title of Richard Dawkins\u2019s \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/The_Greatest_Show_on_Earth:_The_Evidence_for_Evolution\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E book\u003C\/a\u003E about evolution.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESpeaking of which, the album features Dawkins himself as a guest. He reads excerpts from both Darwin and himself, including this powerful quote from \u201cUnweaving the Rainbow\u201d that provides a wonderful solace for the fear of death without there being an afterlife:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe are going to die, and that makes us the lucky ones. Most people are never going to die because they are never going to be born. The potential people who could have been here in my place but who will in fact never see the light of day outnumber the sand grains of Sahara. [...] In the teeth of these stupefying odds it is you and I, in our ordinariness, that are here. We privileged few, who won the lottery of birth against all odds, \u003Cstrong\u003Ehow dare we whine\u003C\/strong\u003E at our inevitable return to that prior state from which the vast majority have never stirred?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMusically, the song is actually a mix of genres, even being a bit tribal or a bit pop in some places. As it tells the story of the entire universe, it consists of multiple vastly different parts, yet all of them fitting so well together. It\u2019s a whole conceptual album in one song.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd it\u2019s being sung by Floor Jansen \u2013 immensely talented woman with a beautiful voice, and probably the most versatile one that I\u2019ve ever heard \u2013 together with Marco Hietala, who manages to both contrast and complement Floor\u2019s voice. Simply wonderful!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd on top of that, they manage to take this already top-notch song and create a live show that elevates it even further \u2013 with a great stage design, sometimes even fireworks, or in case of the concert that I attended \u2013 weaving in my second-favourite song from Nightwish, \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=JYjIlHWBAVo\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Ghost Love Score\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EConsidering all that \u2013 could I make any other choice than going for The Greatest Song on Earth?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022text-center my-4\u0022\u003E\u003Ciframe width=\u0022640\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/uki-Ls_2qBk\u0022 frameborder=\u00220\u0022 allowfullscreen\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E","words":566,"readTime":3,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/how-come-i-m-both-gay-and-pan":{"key":"blog\/life\/how-come-i-m-both-gay-and-pan","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2019-12-08T11:21:53+01:00","publishedAt":"2019-12-08T11:08:00+01:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"how-come-i-m-both-gay-and-pan"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"how-come-i-m-both-gay-and-pan","title":"How come I\u0027m both \u201cgay\u201d and \u201cpan\u201d?","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pan-is-gay_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@UrFavGay_ on Twitter: Pansexuality is gay\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022399.2\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pan-is-gay_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@UrFavGay_ on Twitter: Pansexuality is gay\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022399.2\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy bio says I\u2019m \u201cpan\/gay\u201d, which might seem pretty self-contradictory, right? It\u2019s one or the other, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, here\u2019s why:\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pan-is-gay_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@UrFavGay_ on Twitter: Pansexuality is gay\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022600\u0022 height=\u0022499\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pan-is-gay_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@UrFavGay_ on Twitter: Pansexuality is gay\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022600\u0022 height=\u0022499\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/UrFavGay_\/status\/1232274231133720579\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\n                        \u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E\n                        twitter.com\/UrFavGay_\/status\/1232274231133720579\n                    \u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy bio says I\u2019m \u201cpan\/gay\u201d, which might seem pretty self-contradictory, right? It\u2019s one or the other, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, here\u2019s why:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFirst of all, \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Kinsey_scale\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E sexual orientation is a spectrum\u003C\/a\u003E.\nSecond of all, it\u2019s not set in stone. I don\u2019t think anyone has to just pick one label and stick to it.\nCalling myself \u201cpan\/gay\u201d is my way of saying that I\u2019m attracted to people of all genders,\nbut with a strong preference for guys. How strong? Am I a 4 or a 5 on the Kinsey scale? Dunno \ud83e\udd37\u200d\nThere\u2019s the word \u201chomoflexible\u201d... But \u003Cem\u003Eam I\u003C\/em\u003E homoflexible?\nAnd how many people know what it means without googling?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t know, and I care less and less about putting a label or a number on it.\nOne thing for sure: just \u201cpan\u201d or just \u201cgay\u201d doesn\u2019t tell the whole story.\nBut combined? They say enough and are easy to understand.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd then, there\u2019s also this thing that I\u2019m \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/am-i-non-binary\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-heartbeat\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E nonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E.\nI might look like a man at the first glance, I might own a penis, but I\u2019m not a man, I don\u2019t subscribe to the binary.\nIs it gay to be into guys, if I\u2019m not a guy? What do I call that?\nThere\u2019s this thing called \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/lgbta.wikia.org\/wiki\/Diamoric\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E diamoric orientations\u003C\/a\u003E,\nbut neither one from the list really fits me (and again, almost nobody knows them).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd finally, I\u2019ve spent a huge chunk of my life identifying as gay (\u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/coming-out-as-not-so-gay\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-heartbeat\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Coming out as... not so gay \ud83e\udd37\ud83c\udffc\u003C\/a\u003E).\nI\u2019ve become a part of the gay community, used gay apps, visited gay bars, and I still do.\nThat identity doesn\u2019t disappear overnight just because\nI finally decided to embrace other sides of my sexuality. It never will.\nMy \u201cgayness\u201d is more than just attraction to guys.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDon\u0027t forget, that in many contexts \u201cgay\u201d might actually be a synecdoche for the whole LGBTQ+ community.\nFor instance, when you advocate for \u201cgay rights\u201d, you probably don\u0027t want to exclude bi or pan folx,\nyou do demand the same rights for them as you demand for gay people, even if you don\u0027t explicitly mention them.\nOr when you use the rainbow flag to represent gays specifically, as well as queers in general.\nOr when you use \u201cgay pride\u201d and \u201cLGBTQ pride\u201d interchangably.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo, summing up: it\u2019s not self-contradictory, it\u2019s just complicated.\nBut \u201cpan\/gay\u201d is the best approximation of the truth I can fit in 7 bytes, so I\u2019ll go with that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/bryn-queerness_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@brynismyname on Twitter: My queerness has always fallen between the margins of identities and I will use whatever word I like to describe my experience. I\u2019m gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, non-binary, trans, femme, woman, domme, sub, daddy, poly. I\u2019m not erasing anyone\u2019s identity by describing my own.\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022602\u0022 height=\u0022399\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,iVBORw0KGgoAAAANSUhEUgAAACQAAAAXCAYAAABj7u2bAAAACXBIWXMAAA7EAAAOxAGVKw4bAAAFIklEQVRIib2WTW8ctxnHfw85Q87MzuyLd1cv6yBxUrS5Nrmkl6JAP1K\/TG+991agQF9PvTSA3QY+RY0R1JVdrWytJHe1LzM7OyR72LUs2ZKboE7+wIBD8uFD8v+8UZrGBe\/WHP\/ra0b3foiKYl4iNA0SRXxfCCGgRITxV3\/n4a9\/SXl2yKNHj\/jr55\/z5MkTHv\/md4jwvXzVaoWIEAH84be\/Z5QXHI\/HDH\/wY+K0RWwt+qc\/4enxCQhoUfQ6BVmafCfsZGmC9wFxzoejw8ccfHGfz372c9r94Sv6lMJ7j4ggIteovdp\/nXYRuVHm9bnX28sDPXz4kH6\/TxxHiAjzxQJrLHVdo7Si2+lwenqGKKHb6TK9mKK1RkQo8pzDJ0+x1hJHEcYagg+s12uMMTRNgyghjmOqsqLVyqhWK0wc47ynrmustXzw\/vt4H1AAo9E+1apiWZZU1caWSZqglEIQmsZhjIEAq9UKrTTBB5bLEuccnU6bosjRWtPKWvjgyfOcxjUgkCQJcRyTFzmiFHmrxbKsqFc1BAg+EEIA2DB0\/8EDjImZzedEWmOMZbFcEGnN3dFd\/n10RGItURyjRJicnjIcDPAhoNSG8rOzc7TWpGkCCHEUkWUZF7MZEGi1WpRlxWQy4b337rJclty79wG7Oztvmmw+n5FmGc16zXy+oJW3NkKAUoqmaVBKEccx9XqN1holirJc4n0ga2UI0DQNjXNEWm9uK0Jdr2m1MpbL5WadUtvN\/caZs+zagSKA+w\/+hveeTqfNfL4AYH9\/j5OTCb1ul8npKau6pl0UhBAuFQPcHY348uCALE15fHjI3u4uRZ7z\/OSEOI4py5Jut0NRFDx\/fnItQNrtgk8\/+eSa84tzPsxmF6ybhjiK8cFjYoNzDd57AuCdY2PigNrePk0SyqrCOYc1BhCmF1OsMVuHVxhrUCLUdY1zDq0j1NbBz8\/PsdZuDqgUnXYbEbVh6OAfX2HtRlFVVhhraBrH3u4Ok9MzEmsJBAShWq2wxlBWJaP9fY6fPaeVZYgIOtLMZ3PKqiLLMurVCmMMi+WSPG9xfv6CXq9Hkeccjcf0ej0uLmZEWtOM9hn0B5soGw4GxHHMRx9+SGxijDFUVYVSmr29XaI4Yl2vGQz6tNsFd+70SJKUFy\/+Q6\/bwViD847lcolNLMPBAOca8iInANYYOu0O3U6Hi4spk9NTrE2w1pKmKcPhkJ3h8JXJjp8d45yjyAum0ylRpPFhk0sSa1FKU5Yl\/f4dlNIEAovFAu88WZbivacsK2ITc3Z2zqB\/h8Y56romTdJNyhCoymrrewHnPM5t0okPnv29vVdR9sc\/\/4lIR7TbbSaTCd1ul9VqxWDQZz5fMOj3ORqPARjt7\/Pxxz\/6ZvXgWyKELUMib5aD9XrNer0mTVOqqiJN0xuVvEz9V\/9va\/+XzGXYT2dzRITZYkm3XTCbLy6j5Xx6gfeB2Bj+OfdoEdJIqF0AgdoFjBJ2M00WyRv162X\/WmjfIgNbhlZ1TRRpCKC0omkc3nuUCG6bwNLEsmgCLkCswAfQAgFoPGSREKmbC+43xaUP\/V9a3jE2eejggN5w5zKdhxAY7QwYj4+ZTqd0BzvAZuwmE7xLH9oydHWREAiobf+qs9\/2BnpXuIyy73SXbwkF19+2y6pifDJ56\/v3L9OvOSif3Trvv3xK+YtfvVXHydn55vF2ZQxAmsaF103hg0eJuvUWDR6NILzFhM7BthDfhKquiaMIrV7tE0Lgv0kpykSjuU0\/AAAAAElFTkSuQmCC\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/bryn-queerness_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@brynismyname on Twitter: My queerness has always fallen between the margins of identities and I will use whatever word I like to describe my experience. I\u2019m gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, non-binary, trans, femme, woman, domme, sub, daddy, poly. I\u2019m not erasing anyone\u2019s identity by describing my own.\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022602\u0022 height=\u0022399\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/brynismyname\/status\/1233768229010579456\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\n                        \u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E\n                        twitter.com\/brynismyname\/status\/1233768229010579456\n                    \u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["homosexuality","identity","labels","lgbtq","pansexuality","sexuality","diamoric"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pan-is-gay_small.png","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pan-is-gay_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pan-is-gay_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@UrFavGay_ on Twitter: Pansexuality is gay\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022199.6\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy bio says I\u2019m \u201cpan\/gay\u201d, which might seem pretty self-contradictory, right? It\u2019s one or the other, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, here\u2019s why:\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pan-is-gay_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pan-is-gay_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@UrFavGay_ on Twitter: Pansexuality is gay\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022199.6\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/UrFavGay_\/status\/1232274231133720579\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Etwitter.com\/UrFavGay_\/status\/1232274231133720579\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy bio says I\u2019m \u201cpan\/gay\u201d, which might seem pretty self-contradictory, right? It\u2019s one or the other, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, here\u2019s why:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFirst of all, \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Kinsey_scale\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E sexual orientation is a spectrum\u003C\/a\u003E.\nSecond of all, it\u2019s not set in stone. I don\u2019t think anyone has to just pick one label and stick to it.\nCalling myself \u201cpan\/gay\u201d is my way of saying that I\u2019m attracted to people of all genders,\nbut with a strong preference for guys. How strong? Am I a 4 or a 5 on the Kinsey scale? Dunno \ud83e\udd37\u200d\nThere\u2019s the word \u201chomoflexible\u201d... But \u003Cem\u003Eam I\u003C\/em\u003E homoflexible?\nAnd how many people know what it means without googling?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t know, and I care less and less about putting a label or a number on it.\nOne thing for sure: just \u201cpan\u201d or just \u201cgay\u201d doesn\u2019t tell the whole story.\nBut combined? They say enough and are easy to understand.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd then, there\u2019s also this thing that I\u2019m \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/am-i-non-binary.lite\u0022\u003E nonbinary\u003C\/a\u003E.\nI might look like a man at the first glance, I might own a penis, but I\u2019m not a man, I don\u2019t subscribe to the binary.\nIs it gay to be into guys, if I\u2019m not a guy? What do I call that?\nThere\u2019s this thing called \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/lgbta.wikia.org\/wiki\/Diamoric\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E diamoric orientations\u003C\/a\u003E,\nbut neither one from the list really fits me (and again, almost nobody knows them).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd finally, I\u2019ve spent a huge chunk of my life identifying as gay (\u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/coming-out-as-not-so-gay.lite\u0022\u003E Coming out as... not so gay \ud83e\udd37\ud83c\udffc\u003C\/a\u003E).\nI\u2019ve become a part of the gay community, used gay apps, visited gay bars, and I still do.\nThat identity doesn\u2019t disappear overnight just because\nI finally decided to embrace other sides of my sexuality. It never will.\nMy \u201cgayness\u201d is more than just attraction to guys.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDon\u0027t forget, that in many contexts \u201cgay\u201d might actually be a synecdoche for the whole LGBTQ+ community.\nFor instance, when you advocate for \u201cgay rights\u201d, you probably don\u0027t want to exclude bi or pan folx,\nyou do demand the same rights for them as you demand for gay people, even if you don\u0027t explicitly mention them.\nOr when you use the rainbow flag to represent gays specifically, as well as queers in general.\nOr when you use \u201cgay pride\u201d and \u201cLGBTQ pride\u201d interchangably.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo, summing up: it\u2019s not self-contradictory, it\u2019s just complicated.\nBut \u201cpan\/gay\u201d is the best approximation of the truth I can fit in 7 bytes, so I\u2019ll go with that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/bryn-queerness_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/bryn-queerness_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@brynismyname on Twitter: My queerness has always fallen between the margins of identities and I will use whatever word I like to describe my experience. I\u2019m gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, non-binary, trans, femme, woman, domme, sub, daddy, poly. I\u2019m not erasing anyone\u2019s identity by describing my own.\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022159.06976744186\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/brynismyname\/status\/1233768229010579456\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Etwitter.com\/brynismyname\/status\/1233768229010579456\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E","words":427,"readTime":2,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/we-should-see-other-people":{"key":"blog\/life\/we-should-see-other-people","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2019-11-17T21:19:36+01:00","publishedAt":"2019-12-01T10:56:00+01:00","group":"polyamory","category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"we-should-see-other-people"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"we-should-see-other-people","title":"We should see other people","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/compersion_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022341.07091172214\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/compersion_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022341.07091172214\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI think we should see other people... No, I\u2019m not breaking up with you, quite the opposite.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESeeing other people might be beneficial for a relationship. How? Well, let me introduce you to the concepts of \u201cNRE\u201d and \u201ccompersion\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/compersion_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022691\u0022 height=\u0022491\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/compersion_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022691\u0022 height=\u0022491\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/zadenalove.wordpress.com\/2016\/06\/22\/compersion-jealousy-is-that-really-all-there-is\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\n                        \u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E\n                        zadenalove.wordpress.com\/2016\/06\/22\/compersion-jealousy-is-that-really-all-there-is\n                    \u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI think we should see other people... No, I\u2019m not breaking up with you, quite the opposite.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESeeing other people might be beneficial for a relationship. How? Well, let me introduce you to the concepts of \u201cNRE\u201d and \u201ccompersion\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EImagine there\u2019s a situation that makes your partner objectively happy. How do you feel? Happy as well, right? Duh, obviously, you love them, of course you\u2019re happy for them!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut what if this \u201csituation\u201d is the fact that they started being romantically involved with someone else? They still love you, they don\u2019t intend to end things with you, it doesn\u2019t negatively impact your relationship \u2013 they have simply found someone else who \u003Cem\u003Ealso\u003C\/em\u003E makes them happy, that\u2019s all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow does it make you feel? If you\u2019re unhappy about it \u2013 that\u2019s jealousy. If you\u2019re happy for them \u2013 that\u2019s \u003Cstrong\u003Ecompersion\u003C\/strong\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf it weren\u2019t for this strange idea, which society feeds us almost every day, that romantic and sexual exclusivity are absolutely necessary for a happy relationship, we would simply treat romance as yet another source of happiness. My partner picked up a new hobby? Great! Found new friends? Awesome! Got a raise? Wonderful! Found a lover? Marvelous!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAccording to a definition from \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.polymatchmaker.com\/main.mvc?Screen=HTML\u0026Page=polyglossary\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E PolyMatchMaker.com\u003C\/a\u003E:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote class=\u0022blockquote ml-4 pl-4 border-left\u0022\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cstrong\u003ECompersion\u003C\/strong\u003E \u2013 The opposite of jealousy; the feelings of happiness that your lover(s) are also loving and being loved by other lovers. Coined by the Kerista Commune of San Francisco, which practiced polyfidelity and was disbanded in the early 1990s.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow, for the other thing...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019ve been in a wonderful relationship for over six years now. It\u2019s plenty of time to build something incredible. For years we\u2019ve been living together, spending most of our time together, we got married, we are each other\u2019s best friends and we can\u2019t imagine our lives without the other.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut six years is also plenty of time to forget what we felt back when we had just started dating. Our love is now stronger and more mature than ever, but that initial euphoric joy of falling in love has obviously faded away by now.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut I\u2019ve met another great guy recently, and he reminded me how it is to feel that. And I know how crazy it might sound to someone who\u2019s monogamous, but dating him actually might have made me a better husband to my husband. He made me remember how I felt when our relationship started. He constantly reminds me to always put my husband first and to always be honest to him. Knowing him makes me discover new things about my primary relationship. He makes me a better person.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd that\u2019s the \u003Cstrong\u003ENew Relationship Energy\u003C\/strong\u003E. Or as \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.polymatchmaker.com\/main.mvc?Screen=HTML\u0026Page=polyglossary\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E PolyMatchMaker.com\u003C\/a\u003E\u2019s defines it:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote class=\u0022blockquote ml-4 pl-4 border-left\u0022\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cstrong\u003ENRE \u2013 New Relationship Energy\u003C\/strong\u003E \u2013 That lovely euphoria you experience when you become involved with a new love.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo in short: that\u2019s why I think that we, the people, should see other people.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["compersion","euphoria","exclusivity","honesty","jealousy","love","monogamy","nre","polyamory","relationship"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/compersion_small.png","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/compersion_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/compersion_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022170.53545586107\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI think we should see other people... No, I\u2019m not breaking up with you, quite the opposite.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESeeing other people might be beneficial for a relationship. How? 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No, I\u2019m not breaking up with you, quite the opposite.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESeeing other people might be beneficial for a relationship. How? Well, let me introduce you to the concepts of \u201cNRE\u201d and \u201ccompersion\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EImagine there\u2019s a situation that makes your partner objectively happy. How do you feel? Happy as well, right? Duh, obviously, you love them, of course you\u2019re happy for them!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut what if this \u201csituation\u201d is the fact that they started being romantically involved with someone else? They still love you, they don\u2019t intend to end things with you, it doesn\u2019t negatively impact your relationship \u2013 they have simply found someone else who \u003Cem\u003Ealso\u003C\/em\u003E makes them happy, that\u2019s all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow does it make you feel? If you\u2019re unhappy about it \u2013 that\u2019s jealousy. If you\u2019re happy for them \u2013 that\u2019s \u003Cstrong\u003Ecompersion\u003C\/strong\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf it weren\u2019t for this strange idea, which society feeds us almost every day, that romantic and sexual exclusivity are absolutely necessary for a happy relationship, we would simply treat romance as yet another source of happiness. My partner picked up a new hobby? Great! Found new friends? Awesome! Got a raise? Wonderful! Found a lover? Marvelous!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAccording to a definition from \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.polymatchmaker.com\/main.mvc?Screen=HTML\u0026Page=polyglossary\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E PolyMatchMaker.com\u003C\/a\u003E:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cstrong\u003ECompersion\u003C\/strong\u003E \u2013 The opposite of jealousy; the feelings of happiness that your lover(s) are also loving and being loved by other lovers. Coined by the Kerista Commune of San Francisco, which practiced polyfidelity and was disbanded in the early 1990s.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow, for the other thing...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019ve been in a wonderful relationship for over six years now. It\u2019s plenty of time to build something incredible. For years we\u2019ve been living together, spending most of our time together, we got married, we are each other\u2019s best friends and we can\u2019t imagine our lives without the other.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut six years is also plenty of time to forget what we felt back when we had just started dating. Our love is now stronger and more mature than ever, but that initial euphoric joy of falling in love has obviously faded away by now.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut I\u2019ve met another great guy recently, and he reminded me how it is to feel that. And I know how crazy it might sound to someone who\u2019s monogamous, but dating him actually might have made me a better husband to my husband. He made me remember how I felt when our relationship started. He constantly reminds me to always put my husband first and to always be honest to him. Knowing him makes me discover new things about my primary relationship. He makes me a better person.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd that\u2019s the \u003Cstrong\u003ENew Relationship Energy\u003C\/strong\u003E. Or as \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.polymatchmaker.com\/main.mvc?Screen=HTML\u0026Page=polyglossary\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E PolyMatchMaker.com\u003C\/a\u003E\u2019s defines it:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cstrong\u003ENRE \u2013 New Relationship Energy\u003C\/strong\u003E \u2013 That lovely euphoria you experience when you become involved with a new love.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo in short: that\u2019s why I think that we, the people, should see other people.\u003C\/p\u003E","words":496,"readTime":2,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/coming-out-as-not-so-gay":{"key":"blog\/life\/coming-out-as-not-so-gay","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2019-11-03T13:41:40+01:00","publishedAt":"2019-11-03T17:00:00+01:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"coming-out-as-not-so-gay"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"coming-out-as-not-so-gay","title":"Coming out as... not so gay \ud83e\udd37\ud83c\udffc","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pansexual-pride-flag_small.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022309.41538461538\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,iVBORw0KGgoAAAANSUhEUgAAACQAAAAXCAYAAABj7u2bAAAACXBIWXMAAA7EAAAOxAGVKw4bAAAHM0lEQVRIiT2WzY9lVRXFf3vvc85971U1XTT9wYfYINBAA4kmxgFoTIxxYhwZRzrAOHDizLnxXzAw8d9wotEJJgY0MbRfqKiNBhqhGxqqurreu\/eec\/Z2cAv\/gJO99llrr7Xk5ZdfCrXEPI0cHp2w201INHoHEQcBFSFQggDAA1rriCiEk0smlcR6SBAGON4DVUFVyCZ0d052jd08owgEqIJGIASCsM6JZKlgZsy1YskoxfCeMHU8HHCSJVxAVRAxPIJpbiAQDjknSkkMQ8HUEHHGXUVUSWnZQEXIK\/DT94STNOHuuAfhjgyJlEqmB4QYZkYpme6AO90d8SDlRIiiCqFKYITMIEF0kGJITpT1mpwyeKfFjI2dBqgGCqzUUYPojdoCFZDIKJ3ehW13kmK4OKqGWcZFMBeiN3BHIoiiaAglGWaJ7k6IkZMxVWfIRsmZ9XqPZAZ\/+S\/2ize4\/MGKg69d4cyLn+aVv96iBwwIPjfG5vTeURVcE70JgZNCFAJcAAUAQ5kxRG3hVwynE5r4whuFeeqMqaAa3N3d4f3hkPXl+7l4s3H0+p\/ZXrtORPAOd7jxm0PmzwaSjIfvv8Rmb83x8cgHHx0zzjNIJqTTu9N6J4kqUTvafeFZjCaOiCLiBAkRQWUR9JP\/gAv\/aSArSCuIDR\/7ES\/Nv+KXfhMCNmF8+YHzfPjwLeRTI3v1Et0+w4WzA08\/eh5pndf+nnnnwzuELL8gCOM4kVQNaDgCsVyTS9AdRAQETAQTQUTpODU6yhatFdHMgexxJV1ifc75\/lce5Ht\/+DXP\/UB4\/3bj+o2Z7fa3PHf1eS4d3MN0d+Lw6JhHLp1lW4OxdnqAWUItkVLK1FqRCBDFNGgtmD2IAE1C0kROBRHoL9ygPnuIi+ObBveOxENbrq4+4qc\/eYu3b1\/nS1\/ccO6ezFCUvbVx7c07HN1+nbv3fZW748ytox1XL9\/L55+8yDh23ry5w8XY29uQck5Ms4EVWpvo4YQmSgnEwYqxyolAMAn6N96mD+\/THdwDWID\/8\/cnpCR8++v38finV5z0gTfaFV5NV3jt7Flu\/O4mP7+65tz+gJigOWMCB6uB58\/t88d3R1AWyloP5gjEjHSq7GROEkHNsJwJBLwvbItguhhfhBABhxzw76MtP3zlc\/QXvsu18QpVynIo9wWsTvhb\/4hvPTDzwLl9xjmYxIgO63XmzBklREliRqigagiCAE6cwnLUbBG7DfQ+8+rxU9w+foab9YB3p\/Ncnx7kzfFhbr\/3FnvyY97bPsGuPQtFFjAGiMBwhmut8009wlZBnSdKKkRSuiUefajQ0IWyVcn0XglP4B0PQBwhI2qLqBP0gB+98yL\/aufgE5tQWYY+dZE7T\/6MyIXBgsf2Kk\/vN57Yazy2GrnAyDPnDAmhz8aHY5Bb5cLBhl0Iq2HFFJAgMBWyGSFBO80iJGEImCJ6mmOdJb90ASMmXMxbLpctj+QTHt9Unth3rh4I959dsVeUpEL1znY3o575uAorFs3Omrm5A03Q5opIJqWcKKkwW6NFJ6ThEYgH1YSittCoigs8pEdcsZs8NxzySD5mT51hGLCcycOGQRI+Z3ZTUJKTEEwUklEdvDakZMom092Y3YhdkFdKKom0Xg9Ec4JgniZMhd6dCEdUGfJAj07FiHC+s\/oTkzeMwhAGmghd0jskcILag+OpMrVgU4Tz92zYGzI1BBWj9yDcaN1Ilpi9oaZYNpLKUgP2NitSTqxqZ7cb8ejkXNCcqa0SPWiieDjRIJLjIYgsFSJgqRQiqAkeMHbFJyhTZzMsWqx9pjYYW6e1YNCEidG7UKuTdlPFI+geKIIkY7UacIE8ZDarNSe7HXe343L6QCcwEXpAdSeLkj6hNpzmjoljJCpw606laGUYBMOorXF3njEtMC8a9h7QnNSmxjTNeECEo6KU1UBSxYpRNgVJSk6JaXuC5oz0gAjktFwFnY5j4bQm1NRJvUAKwgV3Zzs31lXZZGXqnd22ognKoOSc0Q4eQtrtRuZ5IgQcsFCIQl4ZagmfHQX29zfs7W84u3+GO2VkmitxmkEmxuLZgiO0LgTLgOgdj8XNp9rpUvHZGScn9YbHDCLLHHXS8XZ7WkdBFAyhe0ckyHFKUihpCAxBFM6UgZUlTmpFRdFsIIuBJl2K3uLoiuP0uRPutOa0BmaLV9bWiZiJaISDpkI6Ppnw6MuW1shilBzofNqHBAjHR6fVxjxVBFmAqC2t0QMUIoIg0IDoDnlZyD1oveIOtTlqgfvSgbo7NRQckkPaTTsiBLQhAs1g7kHzAJHTrZWUEq11WndEBMfJuoSNt44kwQXcheZgXdBW6K0zt0qrM93j\/5kYEbRaERUsFxBlcCHt6qIFUEQC11hKfe8QwZCNHUEpA3OdsWlcKMyGpYSL4OFI68tPeZwm4gxi9Naoc6XNE5M7AnR35lqptZNU0DxhlnBv\/A88zCH9LzFeNQAAAABJRU5ErkJggg==\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pansexual-pride-flag_small.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022309.41538461538\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo it turns out, coming out is still something that I have to do sometimes \ud83d\ude44. Surprisingly, though, it\u2019s the other way around now. That\u2019s a brand new experience to me \ud83d\ude05 So here it goes:\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pansexual-pride-flag_big.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022650\u0022 height=\u0022419\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pansexual-pride-flag_big.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022650\u0022 height=\u0022419\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/krikienoid.github.io\/flagwaver\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\n                        \u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E\n                        krikienoid.github.io\/flagwaver\n                    \u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo it turns out, coming out is still something that I have to do sometimes \ud83d\ude44. Surprisingly, though, it\u2019s the other way around now. That\u2019s a brand new experience to me \ud83d\ude05 So here it goes:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELet me tell you a story of a random, average gay guy growing up in a homophobic environment.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHe discovers something strange about himself, but he can\u2019t even put a name on it. He never saw gay couples in his life, he has no idea that liking boys is \u003Cem\u003Ean option\u003C\/em\u003E, he never saw gay porn, he never even heard the word.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThen he does hear it. And he hears that it is a bad thing.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHe lives half of his teenage years in fear \u2013 fear that he\u2019ll have to tell someone one day, fear that he\u2019ll be hated for who he is, fear that he\u2019ll end up alone for the rest of his life...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut he also hears the word \u201cbisexual\u201d. Hmm, sounds like a safe middle ground, actually. Maybe his parents will hate him less if he tells them he\u2019s bisexual, and not gay? (they won\u2019t, don\u2019t kid yourself, kid)... Maybe he actually \u003Cem\u003Edoes\u003C\/em\u003E like girls? He was focusing so much on the threat of eternal damnation for liking boys, that he didn\u2019t really consider that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey tell him that one \u003Cem\u003Emust\u003C\/em\u003E \u201cpick a side\u201d though. They bombard him with Disney movies and Hollywood clich\u00e9s of a perfect romantic love that he absolutely \u003Cem\u003Emust\u003C\/em\u003E pursue if he ever wants to be happy. The once-in-a-lifetime love only happens once in a lifetime, silly! If you ever want to find \u003Cem\u003E\u201cthe one\u201d\u003C\/em\u003E, first select the right half of the population!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s a struggle to come out. But he finally does. As gay. It\u2019s simpler that way. Nobody knows about the \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.m.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Kinsey_scale\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Kinsey scale\u003C\/a\u003E anyway. Nobody can think outside the binary. They won\u2019t understand you. You don\u2019t even know yourself who you are \u2013 how can you expect anyone else to?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBeing gay turns out to be not so bad. Homophobia is terrifying, sure, but the community is so lovely! Everywhere he goes, there\u2019s his queer family ready to welcome him! Well, his \u003Cem\u003Egay\u003C\/em\u003E family.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Chr \/\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo here I was. I met a perfect guy for me. We were monogamish and our sex was always 100% male. We got married. I was pretty much \u003Cem\u003E\u201cconfirmed\u201d\u003C\/em\u003E as gay.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EExcept that\u2019s not what I am.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI never \u201ccame out\u201d to my husband as (as he calls it) \u201cpussy-curious\u201d. It just was out there, that some day I might want to experiment in that direction.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOur relationship got more open and slightly poly, so I did. And I liked it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI might be turned on by masculinity and cocks more strongly and more often than by femininity and pussies, but I\u2019ve noticed that at the end the person\u2019s gender or their genitals are not really that high up on the list of reasons to sleep with them \ud83e\udd37\ud83c\udffc\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut hey, everyone thinks I\u2019m gay... I\u2019m married to a guy after all! I fight for marriage equality, I\u2019ve used the \u201cgay\u201d label so many times in my life... No wonder that friends simply see me as gay.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut I\u2019m surprised that even to me it kinda feels \u003Cem\u003Ewrong\u003C\/em\u003E in a way...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut it isn\u2019t. At all. Human sexuality is \u003Cem\u003Enot\u003C\/em\u003E set in stone. Your sexual orientation can just change overtime (it\u2019s not the same as saying that you can forcibly change someone\u2019s orientation!), and it\u2019s totally fine. You can keep discovering your sexuality that has always been there and it\u2019s still fine.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/am-i-non-binary\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-heartbeat\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Experimenting with my gender\u003C\/a\u003E made me realise: we\u2019re not really bound by binaries. They\u2019re all in our heads.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t have to comply with gender norms, I don\u2019t have to be \u201cmale\u201d or \u201cfemale\u201d. And my sexuality isn\u2019t (and doesn\u2019t have to) be so clearly defined either. I\u2019m still gay, it\u2019s still a huge part of my identity. But I\u2019m also pan.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to feel like I\u2019m kinda self-censoring. Like I\u2019m \u003Cem\u003Enot supposed to\u003C\/em\u003E like this or that. It\u2019s so much easier not to care anymore!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI didn\u2019t lose my identity after eating the first pussy. I just discovered a new one.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt took me a while to figure it out, but beter late than ever, right? \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["coming out","homosexuality","identity","lgbtq","pansexuality","sex","sexual orientation","sexuality"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pansexual-pride-flag_small.jpeg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pansexual-pride-flag_big.jpeg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pansexual-pride-flag_mini.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022154.70769230769\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo it turns out, coming out is still something that I have to do sometimes \ud83d\ude44. Surprisingly, though, it\u2019s the other way around now. That\u2019s a brand new experience to me \ud83d\ude05 So here it goes:\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pansexual-pride-flag_big.jpeg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/pansexual-pride-flag_mini.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022154.70769230769\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/krikienoid.github.io\/flagwaver\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Ekrikienoid.github.io\/flagwaver\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo it turns out, coming out is still something that I have to do sometimes \ud83d\ude44. Surprisingly, though, it\u2019s the other way around now. That\u2019s a brand new experience to me \ud83d\ude05 So here it goes:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELet me tell you a story of a random, average gay guy growing up in a homophobic environment.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHe discovers something strange about himself, but he can\u2019t even put a name on it. He never saw gay couples in his life, he has no idea that liking boys is \u003Cem\u003Ean option\u003C\/em\u003E, he never saw gay porn, he never even heard the word.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThen he does hear it. And he hears that it is a bad thing.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHe lives half of his teenage years in fear \u2013 fear that he\u2019ll have to tell someone one day, fear that he\u2019ll be hated for who he is, fear that he\u2019ll end up alone for the rest of his life...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut he also hears the word \u201cbisexual\u201d. Hmm, sounds like a safe middle ground, actually. Maybe his parents will hate him less if he tells them he\u2019s bisexual, and not gay? (they won\u2019t, don\u2019t kid yourself, kid)... Maybe he actually \u003Cem\u003Edoes\u003C\/em\u003E like girls? He was focusing so much on the threat of eternal damnation for liking boys, that he didn\u2019t really consider that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey tell him that one \u003Cem\u003Emust\u003C\/em\u003E \u201cpick a side\u201d though. They bombard him with Disney movies and Hollywood clich\u00e9s of a perfect romantic love that he absolutely \u003Cem\u003Emust\u003C\/em\u003E pursue if he ever wants to be happy. The once-in-a-lifetime love only happens once in a lifetime, silly! If you ever want to find \u003Cem\u003E\u201cthe one\u201d\u003C\/em\u003E, first select the right half of the population!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s a struggle to come out. But he finally does. As gay. It\u2019s simpler that way. Nobody knows about the \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.m.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Kinsey_scale\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Kinsey scale\u003C\/a\u003E anyway. Nobody can think outside the binary. They won\u2019t understand you. You don\u2019t even know yourself who you are \u2013 how can you expect anyone else to?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBeing gay turns out to be not so bad. Homophobia is terrifying, sure, but the community is so lovely! Everywhere he goes, there\u2019s his queer family ready to welcome him! Well, his \u003Cem\u003Egay\u003C\/em\u003E family.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Chr \/\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo here I was. I met a perfect guy for me. We were monogamish and our sex was always 100% male. We got married. I was pretty much \u003Cem\u003E\u201cconfirmed\u201d\u003C\/em\u003E as gay.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EExcept that\u2019s not what I am.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI never \u201ccame out\u201d to my husband as (as he calls it) \u201cpussy-curious\u201d. It just was out there, that some day I might want to experiment in that direction.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOur relationship got more open and slightly poly, so I did. And I liked it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI might be turned on by masculinity and cocks more strongly and more often than by femininity and pussies, but I\u2019ve noticed that at the end the person\u2019s gender or their genitals are not really that high up on the list of reasons to sleep with them \ud83e\udd37\ud83c\udffc\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut hey, everyone thinks I\u2019m gay... I\u2019m married to a guy after all! I fight for marriage equality, I\u2019ve used the \u201cgay\u201d label so many times in my life... No wonder that friends simply see me as gay.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut I\u2019m surprised that even to me it kinda feels \u003Cem\u003Ewrong\u003C\/em\u003E in a way...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut it isn\u2019t. At all. Human sexuality is \u003Cem\u003Enot\u003C\/em\u003E set in stone. Your sexual orientation can just change overtime (it\u2019s not the same as saying that you can forcibly change someone\u2019s orientation!), and it\u2019s totally fine. You can keep discovering your sexuality that has always been there and it\u2019s still fine.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/am-i-non-binary.lite\u0022\u003E Experimenting with my gender\u003C\/a\u003E made me realise: we\u2019re not really bound by binaries. They\u2019re all in our heads.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t have to comply with gender norms, I don\u2019t have to be \u201cmale\u201d or \u201cfemale\u201d. And my sexuality isn\u2019t (and doesn\u2019t have to) be so clearly defined either. I\u2019m still gay, it\u2019s still a huge part of my identity. But I\u2019m also pan.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to feel like I\u2019m kinda self-censoring. Like I\u2019m \u003Cem\u003Enot supposed to\u003C\/em\u003E like this or that. It\u2019s so much easier not to care anymore!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI didn\u2019t lose my identity after eating the first pussy. I just discovered a new one.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt took me a while to figure it out, but beter late than ever, right? \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E","words":749,"readTime":3,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/comingoutday":{"key":"blog\/life\/comingoutday","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2019-10-11T15:25:02+02:00","publishedAt":"2019-10-11T15:20:00+02:00","group":"nonbinary","category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"comingoutday"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"comingoutday","title":"#ComingOutDay","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_small.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022640\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg 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Most people still aren\u2019t.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen I first came out, it was scary, risky and dangerous. But I did it. It got worse, but then it got better. Being truly myself made it better.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u2019re scared to come out, remember:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Eyou don\u2019t have to if you\u2019re not ready \u2764\ufe0f\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Eyour global queer family will always be there for you \u2764\ufe0f\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Eyou\u2019re perfect the way you are  \u2764\ufe0f\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/volt-debate_big.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022720\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg 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Internet, with all the inclusive Netflix shows, with all the celebrities coming out... Those kids will educate their parents, teachers, friends...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u2019s why your coming out is so important. It\u2019s a snowball effect. More visibility \u21d2 more acceptance \u21d2 it\u2019s easier to come out \u21d2 more people do so \u21d2 more visibility.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EInclusive society is inevitable! \u2764\ufe0f\ud83e\udde1\ud83d\udc9b\ud83d\udc9a\ud83d\udc99\ud83d\udc9c\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHappy \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/ComingOutDay\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E #ComingOutDay\u003C\/a\u003E!\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["coming out","diversity","sexuality","visibility","nonbinary"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_small.jpeg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_big.jpeg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_mini.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022320\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/ComingOutDay\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E #ComingOutDay\u003C\/a\u003E, so I feel like I should tell you something...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere it goes...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEkhm...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019m queer af \ud83d\ude31\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI know, I know, but please try to contain your shock \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_big.jpeg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_mini.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022320\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/ComingOutDay\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E #ComingOutDay\u003C\/a\u003E, so I feel like I should tell you something...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere it goes...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEkhm...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019m queer af \ud83d\ude31\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI know, I know, but please try to contain your shock \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut in all seriousness: I\u2019m so lucky and privileged that I can just say it out in the open. Most people still aren\u2019t.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen I first came out, it was scary, risky and dangerous. But I did it. It got worse, but then it got better. Being truly myself made it better.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u2019re scared to come out, remember:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Eyou don\u2019t have to if you\u2019re not ready \u2764\ufe0f\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Eyour global queer family will always be there for you \u2764\ufe0f\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003Eyou\u2019re perfect the way you are  \u2764\ufe0f\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/volt-debate_big.jpeg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/volt-debate_mini.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022180\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat hit me most at \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/events\/388058368527094\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E yesterday\u2019s debate\u003C\/a\u003E, was a story of a workshop where 12-13yo kids were totally open about their identity, but their teacher just couldn\u2019t understand \u201cthat pansexual and nonbinary nonsense\u201d \u2013 despite her being a lesbian herself.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow come kids are better educated, more open and more self-aware than their teachers?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESimple: because now they grow up with the Internet, with all the inclusive Netflix shows, with all the celebrities coming out... Those kids will educate their parents, teachers, friends...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u2019s why your coming out is so important. It\u2019s a snowball effect. More visibility \u21d2 more acceptance \u21d2 it\u2019s easier to come out \u21d2 more people do so \u21d2 more visibility.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EInclusive society is inevitable! \u2764\ufe0f\ud83e\udde1\ud83d\udc9b\ud83d\udc9a\ud83d\udc99\ud83d\udc9c\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHappy \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/ComingOutDay\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E #ComingOutDay\u003C\/a\u003E!\u003C\/p\u003E","words":241,"readTime":null,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/am-i-non-binary":{"key":"blog\/life\/am-i-non-binary","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2019-09-18T10:19:54+02:00","publishedAt":"2019-09-28T16:54:00+02:00","group":"nonbinary","category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"am-i-non-binary"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"am-i-non-binary","title":"Am I nonbinary?","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-in-rainbows_small.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022640\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-in-rainbows_small.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022640\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENo, honestly, am I? 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I wanna know \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOne thing is, in general, I don\u2019t think gender should be \u003Cem\u003Ea thing\u003C\/em\u003E. It\u2019s just some set of stupid arbitrary rules telling you what are you allowed to do and what not depending on which genitals you were born with. I don\u2019t want to follow those rules. I \u003Cem\u003Erefuse\u003C\/em\u003E to follow them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWomen used to have no right to vote. Women used to not be allowed to wear pants. But they refused to play by those rules \u2013 and now, surprise surprise, turns out having a penis is not a requirement to vote or to wear pants anymore! Who would have thought!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI went to a Pride Week showing of \u201cThe Danish Girl\u201d this Monday, followed by a panel discussion with three transgender people who told the audience about their experience of being trans in the Netherlands. What struck me is how much their lives would\u2019ve been easier if only our society didn\u2019t have those strange gender rules. No one would mock that trans guy as a child for having a \u201cboy haircut\u201d or riding a \u201cboy bike\u201d if there was no such thing as a \u201cboy haircut\u201d or \u201cboy bike\u201d. Our society has put gender labels on mundane things like toys, books, movies or haircuts and now it hates people who don\u2019t comply. That\u2019s crazy and hurtful!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESumming up, I really believe that breaking all the idiotic gender-related rules that our society has made up is a right thing to do.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut \u003Cem\u003Edo\u003C\/em\u003E I break them?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, that\u2019s why I\u2019m not sure if calling myself nonbinary would be \u003Cem\u003Eokay\u003C\/em\u003E... I just look like a guy. That\u2019s all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI mean, I have a friend that looks a different gender in each picture of their dating profile. I see Jonathan van Ness rocking their heels and long hair... And then there\u2019s me \u2013 a guy that looks like a guy. I sometimes feel that if I did call myself nonbinary, I\u2019d be all like \u003Cem\u003Ehow dare I\u003C\/em\u003E do that?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut also, I don\u2019t always look 100% like a guy. I paint my nails every once in a while when I feel like it \u2013 and I\u2019m gradually getting more and more comfortable wearing shiny pink nail polish in public. On some occasions (mostly Pride) I wear some makeup on my face as well.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_big.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022525\u0022 height=\u0022700\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_big.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022525\u0022 height=\u0022700\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOn the other hand, I don\u2019t shop in the \u201cwomen\u2019s\u201d part of stores, I don\u2019t wear heels or shirts or dresses. I \u003Cem\u003Eam\u003C\/em\u003E planning to buy some, but I probably won\u2019t dare to wear them in public for quite a while anyway.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI use the \u201cmen\u2019s\u201d locker room at the gym and the \u201cmen\u2019s\u201d restroom at work, no matter how inclusive for gender nonconforming people that restroom might be. I don\u2019t think I\u2019m ready for the confusion \/ confrontation it might possibly spark... Does it make me conforming after all?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/cic-gender_big.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022941\u0022 height=\u0022680\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/cic-gender_big.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022941\u0022 height=\u0022680\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPeople refer to me as he\/him, but I honestly wouldn\u2019t mind she\/her or they\/them. I really, really, don\u2019t care. In my native Polish, which distinguishes gender in many more ways than English, I started using artificial, gender-neutral forms or words (\u201dchcia\u0142\u2090bym\u201d instead of male \u201cchcia\u0142bym\u201d or femal \u201cchcia\u0142abym\u201d, \u201czrobi\u0142\u00e6m\u201d instead of male \u201czrobi\u0142em\u201d or female \u201czrobi\u0142am\u201d). Oh, and I also use female emojis \ud83e\udd37\ud83c\udffc\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t do that because I don\u2019t feel like a man anymore or because I feel like a woman, or even anywhere in between.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI do that because I truly hate the very distinction of \u201cfemininity\u201d and \u201cmasculinity\u201d. Skirts should be just yet another type of clothing one could wear, and not a political statement or a reason to be beaten up in the street. Makeup should be just a time-consuming way to look better \u2013 not something reserved to a particular half of the population depending on the contents of their underwear.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t care about being or not being a particular gender. I care about being \u003Cem\u003Efree\u003C\/em\u003E from caring about those stupid rules.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd you know what? Is a person not gay if they\u2019re still in the closet? Are they not gay if they are still a virgin? Of course not! Then why do I care so much if I am non-conforming \u003Cem\u003Eenough\u003C\/em\u003E to call myself so?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI am angry at the world for attempting to put us all into binary categories \u2013 and I don\u2019t wanna stay in one of them anymore.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo yes, I will be putting \u201cenby\u201d in my bio \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["dress","enby","femininity","gender","labels","makeup","masculinity","nail polish","non-binary","nonbinary","skirt","social norms"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-in-rainbows_small.jpg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-in-rainbows_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-in-rainbows_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022320\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENo, honestly, am I? I wanna know \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-in-rainbows_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-in-rainbows_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022320\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENo, honestly, am I? I wanna know \ud83d\ude05\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOne thing is, in general, I don\u2019t think gender should be \u003Cem\u003Ea thing\u003C\/em\u003E. It\u2019s just some set of stupid arbitrary rules telling you what are you allowed to do and what not depending on which genitals you were born with. I don\u2019t want to follow those rules. I \u003Cem\u003Erefuse\u003C\/em\u003E to follow them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWomen used to have no right to vote. Women used to not be allowed to wear pants. But they refused to play by those rules \u2013 and now, surprise surprise, turns out having a penis is not a requirement to vote or to wear pants anymore! Who would have thought!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI went to a Pride Week showing of \u201cThe Danish Girl\u201d this Monday, followed by a panel discussion with three transgender people who told the audience about their experience of being trans in the Netherlands. What struck me is how much their lives would\u2019ve been easier if only our society didn\u2019t have those strange gender rules. No one would mock that trans guy as a child for having a \u201cboy haircut\u201d or riding a \u201cboy bike\u201d if there was no such thing as a \u201cboy haircut\u201d or \u201cboy bike\u201d. Our society has put gender labels on mundane things like toys, books, movies or haircuts and now it hates people who don\u2019t comply. That\u2019s crazy and hurtful!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESumming up, I really believe that breaking all the idiotic gender-related rules that our society has made up is a right thing to do.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut \u003Cem\u003Edo\u003C\/em\u003E I break them?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, that\u2019s why I\u2019m not sure if calling myself nonbinary would be \u003Cem\u003Eokay\u003C\/em\u003E... I just look like a guy. That\u2019s all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI mean, I have a friend that looks a different gender in each picture of their dating profile. I see Jonathan van Ness rocking their heels and long hair... And then there\u2019s me \u2013 a guy that looks like a guy. I sometimes feel that if I did call myself nonbinary, I\u2019d be all like \u003Cem\u003Ehow dare I\u003C\/em\u003E do that?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut also, I don\u2019t always look 100% like a guy. I paint my nails every once in a while when I feel like it \u2013 and I\u2019m gradually getting more and more comfortable wearing shiny pink nail polish in public. On some occasions (mostly Pride) I wear some makeup on my face as well.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_big.jpeg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/me-nail-polish_mini.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022320\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOn the other hand, I don\u2019t shop in the \u201cwomen\u2019s\u201d part of stores, I don\u2019t wear heels or shirts or dresses. I \u003Cem\u003Eam\u003C\/em\u003E planning to buy some, but I probably won\u2019t dare to wear them in public for quite a while anyway.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI use the \u201cmen\u2019s\u201d locker room at the gym and the \u201cmen\u2019s\u201d restroom at work, no matter how inclusive for gender nonconforming people that restroom might be. I don\u2019t think I\u2019m ready for the confusion \/ confrontation it might possibly spark... Does it make me conforming after all?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/cic-gender_big.jpeg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/cic-gender_mini.jpeg\u0022 alt=\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022173.43251859724\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPeople refer to me as he\/him, but I honestly wouldn\u2019t mind she\/her or they\/them. I really, really, don\u2019t care. In my native Polish, which distinguishes gender in many more ways than English, I started using artificial, gender-neutral forms or words (\u201dchcia\u0142\u2090bym\u201d instead of male \u201cchcia\u0142bym\u201d or femal \u201cchcia\u0142abym\u201d, \u201czrobi\u0142\u00e6m\u201d instead of male \u201czrobi\u0142em\u201d or female \u201czrobi\u0142am\u201d). Oh, and I also use female emojis \ud83e\udd37\ud83c\udffc\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t do that because I don\u2019t feel like a man anymore or because I feel like a woman, or even anywhere in between.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI do that because I truly hate the very distinction of \u201cfemininity\u201d and \u201cmasculinity\u201d. Skirts should be just yet another type of clothing one could wear, and not a political statement or a reason to be beaten up in the street. Makeup should be just a time-consuming way to look better \u2013 not something reserved to a particular half of the population depending on the contents of their underwear.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t care about being or not being a particular gender. I care about being \u003Cem\u003Efree\u003C\/em\u003E from caring about those stupid rules.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd you know what? Is a person not gay if they\u2019re still in the closet? Are they not gay if they are still a virgin? Of course not! Then why do I care so much if I am non-conforming \u003Cem\u003Eenough\u003C\/em\u003E to call myself so?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI am angry at the world for attempting to put us all into binary categories \u2013 and I don\u2019t wanna stay in one of them anymore.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo yes, I will be putting \u201cenby\u201d in my bio \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E","words":768,"readTime":4,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/blinded-by-the-light":{"key":"blog\/life\/blinded-by-the-light","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2019-08-13T23:45:46+02:00","publishedAt":"2019-08-13T23:40:00+02:00","group":"movie-review","category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"blinded-by-the-light"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"blinded-by-the-light","title":"Blinded by the Light \u2013 so fucking relatable!","intro":"\u003Cp\u003EI just had a chance to watch a prerelease showing of \u201cBlinded by the Light\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI started crying during one of the first scenes and I couldn\u2019t stop till the end.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003EI just had a chance to watch a prerelease showing of \u201cBlinded by the Light\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI started crying during one of the first scenes and I couldn\u2019t stop till the end.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t think I ever saw a cinema audience reacting so affectionately to a movie. There was a moment when I thought \u201cdamn, good job, Javed, I so wanna start clapping for you!\u201d. Stupid, right? He\u2019s not gonna hear me. He\u2019s an actor playing some guy and they both are nowhere near, why would anyone sane applaud some pixels on the screen?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd literally one second later half of the movie theater started applauding Javed.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe were laughing with him, we were sad with him, we were angry with him, we dreamed with him, we enjoyed music with him...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEven the strange musical-ish scene turned out to be not so fake after all. Have you ever seen a musical where people don\u2019t know the choreography or lyrics? Yeah, it\u2019s called life.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJaved was told by his father that he, as a Pakistani, has to keep his head low to avoid racism. I was told just today, for a thousandth time, that as a gay man I have to hold my head low to avoid homophobia.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJaved had parents who wouldn\u2019t let him be any other version of himself than what they had imagined for him \u2013 no matter how unhappy it would make him, no matter that they could lose him about it. And myself, well...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJaved went through his struggles. I went through different ones. And anyone who wasn\u2019t privileged enough went through theirs. But we all saw the same hatred and the same bigotry on the faces of people who wanted to hurt us. We all heard the same arrogance and lack of understanding in the voices of people who thought they knew better what\u2019s best for us.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt felt like everybody could relate to some part of his story. And that everybody could find hope there.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI saw plenty of movies this year, but I don\u2019t think any of them was anywhere near as good as this one. You should definitely see it once it\u2019s released. I know I will.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022text-center my-4\u0022\u003E\u003Ciframe width=\u0022640\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/f1YFA_J5JBU\u0022 frameborder=\u00220\u0022 allowfullscreen\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["awesome","fascism","first kiss","hatred","love","movie","music","muslim","nationalism","nazism","pakistani","racism","review"],"hasMore":true,"image":null,"introLite":"\u003Cp\u003EI just had a chance to watch a prerelease showing of \u201cBlinded by the Light\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI started crying during one of the first scenes and I couldn\u2019t stop till the end.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cp\u003EI just had a chance to watch a prerelease showing of \u201cBlinded by the Light\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI started crying during one of the first scenes and I couldn\u2019t stop till the end.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t think I ever saw a cinema audience reacting so affectionately to a movie. There was a moment when I thought \u201cdamn, good job, Javed, I so wanna start clapping for you!\u201d. Stupid, right? He\u2019s not gonna hear me. He\u2019s an actor playing some guy and they both are nowhere near, why would anyone sane applaud some pixels on the screen?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd literally one second later half of the movie theater started applauding Javed.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe were laughing with him, we were sad with him, we were angry with him, we dreamed with him, we enjoyed music with him...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEven the strange musical-ish scene turned out to be not so fake after all. Have you ever seen a musical where people don\u2019t know the choreography or lyrics? Yeah, it\u2019s called life.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJaved was told by his father that he, as a Pakistani, has to keep his head low to avoid racism. I was told just today, for a thousandth time, that as a gay man I have to hold my head low to avoid homophobia.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJaved had parents who wouldn\u2019t let him be any other version of himself than what they had imagined for him \u2013 no matter how unhappy it would make him, no matter that they could lose him about it. And myself, well...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJaved went through his struggles. I went through different ones. And anyone who wasn\u2019t privileged enough went through theirs. But we all saw the same hatred and the same bigotry on the faces of people who wanted to hurt us. We all heard the same arrogance and lack of understanding in the voices of people who thought they knew better what\u2019s best for us.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt felt like everybody could relate to some part of his story. And that everybody could find hope there.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI saw plenty of movies this year, but I don\u2019t think any of them was anywhere near as good as this one. You should definitely see it once it\u2019s released. I know I will.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022text-center my-4\u0022\u003E\u003Ciframe width=\u0022640\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/f1YFA_J5JBU\u0022 frameborder=\u00220\u0022 allowfullscreen\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E","words":374,"readTime":2,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/naturism-is-not-exhibitionism-and-it-s-not-gay":{"key":"blog\/life\/naturism-is-not-exhibitionism-and-it-s-not-gay","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2019-03-23T00:20:11+01:00","publishedAt":"2019-03-23T00:19:00+01:00","group":"nudism","category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"naturism-is-not-exhibitionism-and-it-s-not-gay"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"naturism-is-not-exhibitionism-and-it-s-not-gay","title":"Naturism is NOT exhibitionism and it\u0027s NOT gay","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-gay-prawak-en_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@PoddanyKorony on Twitter: \u0022If we allow LGBT and other leftists too much, they will be riding around our cities naked on bikes. As they already do in the cities of former Western civilisation.\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022600\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-gay-prawak-en_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@PoddanyKorony on Twitter: \u0022If we allow LGBT and other leftists too much, they will be riding around our cities naked on bikes. As they already do in the cities of former Western civilisation.\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022600\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt might be obvious for most people, (you know, those who know the \u003Cem\u003Emeaning of words\u003C\/em\u003E), but apparently, judging from the tweet above and the answers to it, (where Polish right-wingers show \u003Cabbr title=\u0022World Naked Bike Ride\u0022\u003EWNBR\u003C\/abbr\u003E as an example of how the \u003Cabbr title=\u0022Lesbian Gay Bisexual Trans Queer\u0022\u003ELGBTQ\u003C\/abbr\u003E community has \u201cdeprived\u201d the West), some people still confuse naturism with exhibitionism and they think that it\u2019s gay...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, here\u2019s why it\u2019s neither of those things: \u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-gay-prawak-en_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@PoddanyKorony on Twitter: \u0022If we allow LGBT and other leftists too much, they will be riding around our cities naked on bikes. As they already do in the cities of former Western civilisation.\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022668\u0022 height=\u0022835\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-gay-prawak-en_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@PoddanyKorony on Twitter: \u0022If we allow LGBT and other leftists too much, they will be riding around our cities naked on bikes. As they already do in the cities of former Western civilisation.\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022668\u0022 height=\u0022835\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/PoddanyKorony\/status\/1107342197974802432\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\n                        \u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E\n                        twitter.com\/PoddanyKorony\/status\/1107342197974802432\n                    \u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt might be obvious for most people, (you know, those who know the \u003Cem\u003Emeaning of words\u003C\/em\u003E), but apparently, judging from the tweet above and the answers to it, (where Polish right-wingers show \u003Cabbr title=\u0022World Naked Bike Ride\u0022\u003EWNBR\u003C\/abbr\u003E as an example of how the \u003Cabbr title=\u0022Lesbian Gay Bisexual Trans Queer\u0022\u003ELGBTQ\u003C\/abbr\u003E community has \u201cdeprived\u201d the West), some people still confuse naturism with exhibitionism and they think that it\u2019s gay...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, here\u2019s why it\u2019s neither of those things: \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAccording to \u003Cabbr title=\u0022International Statistical Classification of Diseases and Related Health Problems\u0022\u003EICD-10\u003C\/abbr\u003E \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.icd10data.com\/ICD10CM\/Codes\/F01-F99\/F60-F69\/F65-\/F65.2\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E F65.2\u003C\/a\u003E exhibitionism is classified as sexual deviation and is described as:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote class=\u0022blockquote ml-4 pl-4 border-left\u0022\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA disorder characterized by recurrent sexual urges, fantasies, or behaviors involving the exposure of one\u2019s genitals to an unsuspecting stranger.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA disorder in which fantasies about or the act of exposing the genitals to an unsuspecting stranger produces sexual excitement with no attempt at further sexual activity with the stranger.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow here\u2019s what the World Naked Bike Ride, and naturism in general, is all about: \u003Cstrong\u003Eprecisely not that\u003C\/strong\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s about freedom, it\u2019s about loving your body, it\u2019s about not caring about clothes, it\u2019s about feeling good...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EUsually, we\u2019re naked at home or at a nude beach, among other nude people... But not necessarily. For instance in Germany it\u2019s pretty common to see nude people sunbathing in random public parks. It\u2019s perfectly \u003Cstrong\u003Elegal\u003C\/strong\u003E, it\u2019s considered \u003Cstrong\u003Enormal\u003C\/strong\u003E, and it\u2019s \u003Cstrong\u003Enot sexual\u003C\/strong\u003E and it\u2019s \u003Cstrong\u003Enot exhibitionistic\u003C\/strong\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWith WNBR there\u2019s an additional message attached to the public nudity: bringing the public\u2019s attention to the problems of car-based transportation in the cities and \u201cdelivering a vision of a cleaner, safer, body-positive world\u201d. \u003Cstrong\u003EIt\u2019s a political statement, not a sexual act.\u003C\/strong\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETake it from a person who has actually done it once: \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/my-first-world-naked-bike-ride-and-i-absolutelly-loved-it\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-heartbeat\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E My first World Naked Bike Ride \u2013 and I absolutelly loved it!\u003C\/a\u003E. I rode totally naked through the city centre of Amsterdam, and yet I\u2019m not a exhibitionist. I don\u2019t get off of that sexually, I don\u2019t fantasise about it, I\u2019m totally capable of achieving sexual pleasure without any stranger seeing me. I simply enjoy being naked, that\u2019s it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-iamsterdam_big.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022World Naked Bike Ride Amsterdam 2018\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022575.55383423703\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-iamsterdam_big.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022World Naked Bike Ride Amsterdam 2018\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022575.55383423703\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(Full disclosure: I did have sex in public places a couple of times, but the whole point was \u003Cstrong\u003Enot\u003C\/strong\u003E to get caught by anyone. \ud83e\udd37\u200d\u2642 I also post some explicit content online sometimes, but it\u2019s specifically targeted to people who want to see it. \ud83e\udd37\u200d\u2642)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt differs between countries, obviously, but in all of those I\u2019ve been publicly naked in: \ud83c\udde9\ud83c\uddea Germany, \ud83c\uddf3\ud83c\uddf1 The Netherlands and \ud83c\uddea\ud83c\uddf8 Spain, there\u2019s a distinction in law between just being naked in public (legal, with some exceptions like churches, cemeteries, schools...) and sexually exposing yourself (illegal).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo, what about public nudity allegedly being gay? Some people on Twitter were thinking that those photos from WNBR were taken during Pride, which is simply not true. I happen to take part in both, but in general they are separate events targeted to a different group of people.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJudging from my observations of how few of my gay friends are eager to join me at a nude beach, and how many guys I\u2019ve met during the WNBR Amsterdam who talked about their wives\/girlfriends or came together with them \u2013 I can see no clear correlation between the LGBTQ community and naturists.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlthough they do have a lot in common: freedom and openness.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd that\u2019s all it is about.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["bike","deviation","exhibitionism","homosexuality","lgbtq","naturism","nudism","paraphilia","pride","public","public place","public transport"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-gay-prawak-en_small.png","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-gay-prawak-en_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-gay-prawak-en_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@PoddanyKorony on Twitter: \u0022If we allow LGBT and other leftists too much, they will be riding around our cities naked on bikes. As they already do in the cities of former Western civilisation.\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022300\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt might be obvious for most people, (you know, those who know the \u003Cem\u003Emeaning of words\u003C\/em\u003E), but apparently, judging from the tweet above and the answers to it, (where Polish right-wingers show \u003Cabbr title=\u0022World Naked Bike Ride\u0022\u003EWNBR\u003C\/abbr\u003E as an example of how the \u003Cabbr title=\u0022Lesbian Gay Bisexual Trans Queer\u0022\u003ELGBTQ\u003C\/abbr\u003E community has \u201cdeprived\u201d the West), some people still confuse naturism with exhibitionism and they think that it\u2019s gay...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, here\u2019s why it\u2019s neither of those things: \u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-gay-prawak-en_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-gay-prawak-en_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@PoddanyKorony on Twitter: \u0022If we allow LGBT and other leftists too much, they will be riding around our cities naked on bikes. As they already do in the cities of former Western civilisation.\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022300\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/PoddanyKorony\/status\/1107342197974802432\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Etwitter.com\/PoddanyKorony\/status\/1107342197974802432\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt might be obvious for most people, (you know, those who know the \u003Cem\u003Emeaning of words\u003C\/em\u003E), but apparently, judging from the tweet above and the answers to it, (where Polish right-wingers show \u003Cabbr title=\u0022World Naked Bike Ride\u0022\u003EWNBR\u003C\/abbr\u003E as an example of how the \u003Cabbr title=\u0022Lesbian Gay Bisexual Trans Queer\u0022\u003ELGBTQ\u003C\/abbr\u003E community has \u201cdeprived\u201d the West), some people still confuse naturism with exhibitionism and they think that it\u2019s gay...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, here\u2019s why it\u2019s neither of those things: \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAccording to \u003Cabbr title=\u0022International Statistical Classification of Diseases and Related Health Problems\u0022\u003EICD-10\u003C\/abbr\u003E \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.icd10data.com\/ICD10CM\/Codes\/F01-F99\/F60-F69\/F65-\/F65.2\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E F65.2\u003C\/a\u003E exhibitionism is classified as sexual deviation and is described as:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA disorder characterized by recurrent sexual urges, fantasies, or behaviors involving the exposure of one\u2019s genitals to an unsuspecting stranger.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA disorder in which fantasies about or the act of exposing the genitals to an unsuspecting stranger produces sexual excitement with no attempt at further sexual activity with the stranger.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow here\u2019s what the World Naked Bike Ride, and naturism in general, is all about: \u003Cstrong\u003Eprecisely not that\u003C\/strong\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s about freedom, it\u2019s about loving your body, it\u2019s about not caring about clothes, it\u2019s about feeling good...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EUsually, we\u2019re naked at home or at a nude beach, among other nude people... But not necessarily. For instance in Germany it\u2019s pretty common to see nude people sunbathing in random public parks. It\u2019s perfectly \u003Cstrong\u003Elegal\u003C\/strong\u003E, it\u2019s considered \u003Cstrong\u003Enormal\u003C\/strong\u003E, and it\u2019s \u003Cstrong\u003Enot sexual\u003C\/strong\u003E and it\u2019s \u003Cstrong\u003Enot exhibitionistic\u003C\/strong\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWith WNBR there\u2019s an additional message attached to the public nudity: bringing the public\u2019s attention to the problems of car-based transportation in the cities and \u201cdelivering a vision of a cleaner, safer, body-positive world\u201d. \u003Cstrong\u003EIt\u2019s a political statement, not a sexual act.\u003C\/strong\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETake it from a person who has actually done it once: \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/my-first-world-naked-bike-ride-and-i-absolutelly-loved-it.lite\u0022\u003E My first World Naked Bike Ride \u2013 and I absolutelly loved it!\u003C\/a\u003E. I rode totally naked through the city centre of Amsterdam, and yet I\u2019m not a exhibitionist. I don\u2019t get off of that sexually, I don\u2019t fantasise about it, I\u2019m totally capable of achieving sexual pleasure without any stranger seeing me. I simply enjoy being naked, that\u2019s it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-iamsterdam_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-iamsterdam_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022World Naked Bike Ride Amsterdam 2018\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022143.88845855926\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(Full disclosure: I did have sex in public places a couple of times, but the whole point was \u003Cstrong\u003Enot\u003C\/strong\u003E to get caught by anyone. \ud83e\udd37\u200d\u2642 I also post some explicit content online sometimes, but it\u2019s specifically targeted to people who want to see it. \ud83e\udd37\u200d\u2642)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt differs between countries, obviously, but in all of those I\u2019ve been publicly naked in: \ud83c\udde9\ud83c\uddea Germany, \ud83c\uddf3\ud83c\uddf1 The Netherlands and \ud83c\uddea\ud83c\uddf8 Spain, there\u2019s a distinction in law between just being naked in public (legal, with some exceptions like churches, cemeteries, schools...) and sexually exposing yourself (illegal).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo, what about public nudity allegedly being gay? Some people on Twitter were thinking that those photos from WNBR were taken during Pride, which is simply not true. I happen to take part in both, but in general they are separate events targeted to a different group of people.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJudging from my observations of how few of my gay friends are eager to join me at a nude beach, and how many guys I\u2019ve met during the WNBR Amsterdam who talked about their wives\/girlfriends or came together with them \u2013 I can see no clear correlation between the LGBTQ community and naturists.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlthough they do have a lot in common: freedom and openness.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd that\u2019s all it is about.\u003C\/p\u003E","words":562,"readTime":3,"lang":"en"},"pl":{"slug":"naturyzm-nie-jest-ekshibicjonizmem-i-nie-jest-gejowski","title":"Naturyzm NIE jest ekshibicjonizmem i NIE jest gejowski","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-gay-prawak_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@PoddanyKorony on Twitter: \u0022Pozwolimy LGBT i innym lewicowcom na za du\u017co, to b\u0119d\u0105 po naszych miastach je\u017adzi\u0107 nago na rowerze. Tak, jak ma to miejsce w miastach by\u0142ej cywilizacji Zachodu.\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022600\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-gay-prawak_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@PoddanyKorony on Twitter: \u0022Pozwolimy LGBT i innym lewicowcom na za du\u017co, to b\u0119d\u0105 po naszych miastach je\u017adzi\u0107 nago na rowerze. Tak, jak ma to miejsce w miastach by\u0142ej cywilizacji Zachodu.\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022600\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBy\u0107 mo\u017ce dla wielu jest to oczywiste, (dla tych, kt\u00f3rzy znaj\u0105 \u003Cem\u003Eznaczenia s\u0142\u00f3w\u003C\/em\u003E), ale s\u0105dz\u0105c po tweetach z prawej strony, niekt\u00f3rzy mieszaj\u0105 naturyzm z ekshibicjonizmem, i my\u015bl\u0105, \u017ce \u003Cabbr title=\u0022World Naked Bike Ride\u0022\u003EWNBR\u003C\/abbr\u003E to przyk\u0142ad tego jak spo\u0142eczno\u015b\u0107 \u003Cabbr title=\u0022Lesbian Gay Bisexual Trans Queer\u0022\u003ELGBTQ\u003C\/abbr\u003E seksualnie deprawuje Zach\u00f3d...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, naturyzm nie jest ani ekshibicjonizmem, ani domen\u0105 homoseksualist\u00f3w, a oto dlaczego:\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-gay-prawak_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@PoddanyKorony on Twitter: \u0022Pozwolimy LGBT i innym lewicowcom na za du\u017co, to b\u0119d\u0105 po naszych miastach je\u017adzi\u0107 nago na rowerze. Tak, jak ma to miejsce w miastach by\u0142ej cywilizacji Zachodu.\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022668\u0022 height=\u0022835\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,iVBORw0KGgoAAAANSUhEUgAAABwAAAAkCAYAAACaJFpUAAAACXBIWXMAAA7EAAAOxAGVKw4bAAAJjklEQVRIibWXWWxcVxnHf+euc+fObo89XhLbcRq7qd2QJkpTQlsopS1dHiiigBAPIB5ACCF4RwKJx1aIZ4oET0UIibUIqLqxtCVN2sRuE+\/L2PGMZzz7Pnc5PIztBBAEVeJ7uPfobN\/5\/8\/3P+c74rvf+46cmpoGBEIAgBAgJYcmBAgUEAJxWHn4uaVOIBAgQEEgFLHfKkHCtevX0GZmZvn0059BSknXk5iawv\/LWu0WysGaX\/jzMl957kV2K84HnlA6Ln65gfPGddzLK\/j5CrLj0HV6cwoh0JAgpcRWPD4+HaHT7ZDJVZBSoqoqqqIQDAawTPP2HhUFoatos+M9JoUARUHXFOT+Hmn+5g2EENx\/1yDx+DRCCBzHRFEUVFWl2WxSr9aoygr9fX0IIVBVFQDHcdB1Hc\/zenWqADvwnxmQEk0r9tA0Gg0Wl5YRAgJmgE63SyQcQtl3GolECFoWCwuL+wM1wpEw+XyecChMo9nAMAyklESjUfb2CsRiUQQwNTXVcwgowuqtaK9QQEqfeDxOwAoQCtlUazUymSymYdJutdjcTOO4Dqqm4nkeuqZhGiaFQoF2u3PobGtrG5AUiyXGxsb\/CaVmnp5BCMHY2BjdTgdd1\/GlRNtHpqgqrWaTaDSKLyWxWJRYLEapVCIajRIMBlFVFV3XqVareJ7H7MxdKIqCBCzrJsUC0FB6MnAdl51MhtTgIFJKHCFwPY9Oo4lpGrRabWLxGPl8Htu2KZZK+4IFTdfwfB8JtNttQKDrGlJKpJQIIfaDRqAdbGapVKRareI4Dp7nEQ6FcRyHaq1Gsr+fRrNBeisNQKVcQSiCbqdDLpdH0zVc1yUejzO9v1\/\/GiwATrmChuchhGBwaJjU8MihXkxDxzSM2yrh+PHjt+1zYMqNXTQnmwOgXqvgui6xaBhFValU6pi6hue5dLsujucSDJhsFbfpT6Twa23C0SjlZhG\/A67rIWWX3F6VQETvhaQEVVUZTg0zlBxF6Dqav7CClJIf\/fh5ImGbRx++H1XTmJt\/n9HUAK7bxXG6rN\/Y5cTkEX7w0g95cPoCUaOPuqzxfnqe84PnmVucZ35riasvLXH0dIrc2h4Tsyn8lsqDH3uA73\/7OfB8NHF0BCEEwXCEequBomk4jstuqY6uqRQrebKVHMVKg47ssL6eo91+Bb9tc2wiSXp3k6QdoWq0WcvkiQSj5N4rM5QaIb9YIWjbiK6B2L8ZNKnrSCnJ76SZPSbxpU+jVqXedWjWKvzqL39gaLhDeluyXLtOu+bRjLsoXodsucJepcFiZYHVdJXBaIIvff1zFHa2kapNNGTQcOqcv\/djvcARoGw0qwghcH2Vt683EJpFWwmQSCYpVluYagLSMUoVMEaPEg4n8IohKhsuXjNEtRagnHOgqGIbGmtra4xPHmUgbHEk0Y8ZjJHP1w\/CFW188hgA50aHWE23uPbiL+mYEaxClobj8cyjn2Xn8l8Z3dshoB9h9sHTuMvrbNtVjh07x8fPfob61bcoGmtEP3SBWLlOvuyQvZHm4ntX+MijjxAwelrEcTm8\/K7OXWZheYnd5QWsRpmdrVXOum8Q2b3CZCjIbDzKNAEKL7\/GPaMJHjl\/lvjOdcz8BifjAU4eSeHsbnH03jPUkdx53wX6JibJ5ksEE8neIeD7N4V\/6sxxXl8tMvfbN3n8fpWZ\/jgZv5\/djQxXrq9yYfYkqcoeX3zsw+T1GGp2jd\/8\/kXuue8+qk6bmaF+ml3Jo594iEce\/iiNRpOz584xOjKEafb0rAz2o\/VSC0GmYnBvZISfF9\/CMHT8cBypmFyaWyHltkiGQqxXm7TMOiutFn2+z7FYgF+\/u8Sn7p6g2O5y5sQwKwvXufT3N9nJ5aDl8uVvfgPdSPSuvUIRRdI7di7OLTJUUTn94QfQR8fJ1MtcXL6OHhvDa9bYWM8gXYV2Pk8bHb+0zampUb52YYLpVAwZDKEYNhf\/9hqxehWv3eBUn8kfX\/wdF995B4Du+AiKpvYOWTSVTrPNF776Ldp9Y5SqgtOT4+j5VRrNBlvFEqmBfgpCZXN9mXgsSjSZQI0nqUkFrd3CdV2KmW3mtnbIVrvcKFbJr26yt5tDSkkkEkXR9R6\/qdFRXp5fJTD\/Z4ydddZzJfI7aZJxleHBAfzyDV559U8kk3HMeB9tDxTDZFvp43LJZ+zoAKub2xRchRuZHLn0Blv5PCtLiyxcu9YTvab3olQIgRkIEJuc5vVL7\/LWO1do6ibFtsfZE6M0K3s0zQCbvsFE2KS9vU24kSOZGsGTgoKw+OtSlvFjJzgxnKJhqASDOiuFKkMnp5iZOXnzpOnsZ1SyWSWkKhCKEzBV0FRUpcVAKIDsesycPsXq3Davvz3PQ3EdTVcpVDr0qQEGBlKk84LkTpZnn\/8Jru7j+z40fd679g6tVpannnqKdtdBOUhjfd2i4Xhc3c4SDNn0DQziA3uFItbgMNPjI+hmgKWyxLIkz\/\/2TS5fusKpo0kya2sYskWhukTUsgkoKpZqYGgaeiBCqewcIryZ9UqolYtY4TChoIX0PJZLbSr1BlPTUwRchzsmJ8n68OuFHR7+9NNkGg4Lr\/4eO2hx6dVXOfcAPPH4EwyH4py56yzSCHHqxDRn7jlzeAkrB8If7LNJJBIYhsHa8iLL8+\/SkiGuru1wYvoOijtZkiEL33Uwjt3N+ZEEnXCSudUsmdwupqbxws8yvPf+AjIUI6RJkgMJ0rk9lje2DnFpB0EzNRoivRWkUDOwgkGK5SodfN5v6Fh2nGx9hWx7h5OzpygX8jz701+w3PKZtXzSG2t0RACzMcTi6hyRaAi5K+lPJlFNC8uybwbNAULPGOD+My3mN9t0uj5HjsDGyiKxcJTXXn6Fza6GnRogt7eLFQrTmTzJaKWIbtvcoQepVytYusqTT34Sz\/PwPQ\/X9VEUhYmxsZuZ9wHChx5+jK7j8HggQLfr4EuJ7\/vEo2EMXf+f85bb2SHCaDjEwQvNDlo3e0jwb327fQC79Yl3iHB5ZYVQJIYQAtsKsLeXJxiKELaD3MgVML0urUKWilOhdWWbFdVhemSI3UqLiYkBEv0jzL99kcee+Tzaf2FEOygcn5zkVhy2PcYB+ngkREBTIRHDrldxBiaZsm0sTeNO6dF2dYK6xx333Iuiav\/GiLilfOiw1mji+5Jo2KbTdXBcFyEEoaCFoWt4UhKNxXGERjhloWka\/2qx5OBt6T0cFbaDHNDbS4Jv0nLQBhCLhA7Lt6bxt\/7\/UxvAPwBt94OKqSA49wAAAABJRU5ErkJggg==\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-gay-prawak_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@PoddanyKorony on Twitter: \u0022Pozwolimy LGBT i innym lewicowcom na za du\u017co, to b\u0119d\u0105 po naszych miastach je\u017adzi\u0107 nago na rowerze. Tak, jak ma to miejsce w miastach by\u0142ej cywilizacji Zachodu.\u0022\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022668\u0022 height=\u0022835\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/PoddanyKorony\/status\/1107342197974802432\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\n                        \u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E\n                        twitter.com\/PoddanyKorony\/status\/1107342197974802432\n                    \u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBy\u0107 mo\u017ce dla wielu jest to oczywiste, (dla tych, kt\u00f3rzy znaj\u0105 \u003Cem\u003Eznaczenia s\u0142\u00f3w\u003C\/em\u003E), ale s\u0105dz\u0105c po tweetach z prawej strony, niekt\u00f3rzy mieszaj\u0105 naturyzm z ekshibicjonizmem, i my\u015bl\u0105, \u017ce \u003Cabbr title=\u0022World Naked Bike Ride\u0022\u003EWNBR\u003C\/abbr\u003E to przyk\u0142ad tego jak spo\u0142eczno\u015b\u0107 \u003Cabbr title=\u0022Lesbian Gay Bisexual Trans Queer\u0022\u003ELGBTQ\u003C\/abbr\u003E seksualnie deprawuje Zach\u00f3d...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, naturyzm nie jest ani ekshibicjonizmem, ani domen\u0105 homoseksualist\u00f3w, a oto dlaczego:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EZgodnie z \u003Cabbr title=\u0022International Statistical Classification of Diseases and Related Health Problems\u0022\u003EICD-10\u003C\/abbr\u003E \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.icd10data.com\/ICD10CM\/Codes\/F01-F99\/F60-F69\/F65-\/F65.2\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E F65.2\u003C\/a\u003E ekshibicjonizm jest klasyfikowany jako parafilia i opisany jako:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote class=\u0022blockquote ml-4 pl-4 border-left\u0022\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EZaburzenie charakteryzuj\u0105ce si\u0119 nawracaj\u0105cymi pop\u0119dami seksualnymi, fantazjami lub zachowaniami zwi\u0105zanymi z eksponowaniem swoich genitali\u00f3w niczego nie podejrzewaj\u0105cym nieznajomym.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EZaburzenie, w kt\u00f3rym fantazje lub eksponowanie genitali\u00f3w niczego nie podejrzewaj\u0105cemu nieznajomemu wywo\u0142uje podniecenie seksualne bez pr\u00f3by dalszej aktywno\u015bci seksualnej z tym nieznajomym.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA oto czym jest World Naked Bike Ride i og\u00f3lnie naturyzm: \u003Cstrong\u003Eczym\u015b zupe\u0142nie innym\u003C\/strong\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChodzi w nim o wolno\u015b\u0107, o kochanie swojego cia\u0142a, o nie dbanie o ciuchy, o czucie si\u0119 dobrze...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPrzewa\u017cnie jeste\u015bmy nago w domu albo na nagiej pla\u017cy, w\u015br\u00f3d innych naturyst\u00f3w... Ale niekoniecznie. Na przyk\u0142ad w Niemczech ca\u0142kiem cz\u0119sto mo\u017cna spotka\u0107 w publicznych parkach ludzi po prostu opalaj\u0105cych si\u0119 nago. Jest to ca\u0142kowicie \u003Cstrong\u003Elegalne\u003C\/strong\u003E, postrzegane jako \u003Cstrong\u003Enormalne\u003C\/strong\u003E, to \u003Cstrong\u003Enie ma podtekstu seksualnego\u003C\/strong\u003E i \u003Cstrong\u003Enie jest eksbibicjonizmem\u003C\/strong\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EW przypadku WNBR nago\u015b\u0107 ma jeszcze dodatkowy przekaz: ma zwr\u00f3ci\u0107 uwag\u0119 opinii publicznej na problemy zwi\u0105zane z opieraniem transportu w miastach na samochodach oraz ma \u201cpokaza\u0107 wizj\u0119 czystszego, bezpieczniejszego, body-pozytywnego \u015bwiata\u201d. \u003Cstrong\u003EWNBR jest manifestem politycznym, a nie aktem seksualnym.\u003C\/strong\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EM\u00f3wi to cz\u0142owiek, kt\u00f3ry sam bra\u0142 w nim raz udzia\u0142: \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/my-first-world-naked-bike-ride-and-i-absolutelly-loved-it\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-heartbeat\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E My first World Naked Bike Ride \u2013 and I absolutelly loved it!\u003C\/a\u003E. Wprawdzie jecha\u0142em ca\u0142kiem nago przez centrum Amsterdamu, a jednak nie jestem ekshibicjonist\u0105. Nie jara mnie to seksualnie, nie fantazjuj\u0119 o tym, nie potrzebuj\u0119 eksponowa\u0107 si\u0119 nieznajomym by osi\u0105gn\u0105\u0107 satysfakcj\u0119 seksualn\u0105. Po prostu lubi\u0119 by\u0107 nago, to tyle.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-iamsterdam_big.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022World Naked Bike Ride Amsterdam 2018\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022575.55383423703\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,iVBORw0KGgoAAAANSUhEUgAAACQAAAAVCAYAAAAuJkyQAAAACXBIWXMAAA7EAAAOxAGVKw4bAAAIRklEQVRIiZXQ2Y9kVQHH8e85595Tt6pu7V1d3V0zPT1LDwPMgAIGIWpiJAhEE3F5wMSQaGJijD754tv8AyS8oxBfXRITiTHuxAWiRGbAgVl6lt67lq7t1nLXc3wA\/wB+j7\/8Hn75iK17R1YIiVQSRzkgAARSSpQUOEqhlEQ7DloLlAQEiA+HHyvGGH704rfIJZbIZszHY5547lm+8PWv0lw6QZpYxI07B9ZxFI4jkUJhEYBACIEUEqUErqNQAoQUHx53FFKAlAL1MX5Z4OevvcrvfvkLKoUi6XzBbCWGvOEbX\/k2Bwd3EXfu7lukREoBFnauXOXspx5DSIESH\/VCABYLpFnKza1rnD19gXKpjJdzcdSHXhaw9v8aICQcvP8BR1tbLCZjlONw6elnePH5r5GmI5Yqgi0zQTrg+wJXZzj39vcoleu4rmY8HvD3P\/2TnoxpNFZYWlrjxq23sDZmdanNyRMXuHn7fV557SVOrLX5\/nd\/TKPe\/EiVj2xBCIG1Hwpee+MfvPnKT8hMyuaXv4jTXiWIY6KiA25AOMpIkozZVFCvK8Q3f\/g96zkuhfGYWWFOMf8JHlhf4urNN0AbSBeEixEmk7RPnaXfGRLHPQq6xoMXn2R5ZZnHH32KfveQwVGHhx79FEW\/hJQSgNlwzMtPP4uxGT\/4\/eu8+vJL\/Psff0OXNAfZEYvQkMUW5Vj8qsJRcYIJIyqtNmY2xHcNe\/0JTX+NhYX2qTJX\/vw7KsMEv5hw+OZtKs02iC67nd9wJYn5y89\/RacbkGaG1XaLz33p86ysnOb0xiZ2EkFqEFpy+4MPuHH1CkpKEh0THlu0yDGazSnXFcWCxnnk3EUO+yNm85Dnnn6ea+98gNWWd69tU11Zp1E+z0PmXfYObxJMb7E8iHg72+E+N8\/SYYSexxyfjlktVEgl3Ltxm1lyjM4XqOVbiEWE8l2cUpFf\/+ynRIsFOu\/h+i3yvZAktFT8Or4vSEIP1VptX1bKRacQDPr8dX\/EpZN19u\/cJhpPUCZm+PY7xH6J3dUm7mTEjqfw8j4zv0BhNGXPEQynAe2az8X1k5QbJ1mvNvCQVIoV3FoeW6uwt7tDmiZUy8sEsxCdGqxQtP0lNvQ6Nw6Oka2qj0gWDMYj+oNjauM7RNGc3nBMoXGGvF+hWK8Tdbs0HUv7\/AaTLOK9w33+s7vNNO9RPrNJFM65cvMWR9MA1yTEiwhpM0aDLolw6HS7zGdTTtz\/BOcfeAK\/VMcv1Oj3j6kCh7u3sIMOqtZoXh6HCUEEYTLDCkW\/ewhCofJL7N15Dy+JKUvFXq5As7HCv25eZxHFLOKESykEp85Q1w57+7u4rsNkNGTrzm1GxwPmwYTjbodEaQrVBvE84+7dW3hmhqqto5OIR9wSJVzmyy3Ud1544XLVz\/P21Xe5dP85tASRpbiO5K1\/\/w2pcwxdxb5WBL1DnFqNrZ0dTrVbPHjuNGMvxzwcU3AVifBwXEm4mNMZjrj\/zCnKzRbXto+YKB\/XEVA9TbHeYpwtOD48IAmG1AtFfj\/osDca4Mhcnqbn8sxjF1hbbZIiSTKLJ+Gge8xTn3kCpRRJmjHY2wGb8YkHLtDvdAhnCxonVuncvsFM1Yk9zSyLaFer1Cs+Rb\/IhQcu8Mf3tnBTS211gz\/85XWEsEhdYD6f01o6xW87XbqjAVXfR62dOHV5MhnhhAmFSpksjknjmCDOEMqh6hdwlARrcL0iIldg695dTqytUPM0D1+6RL\/bY3V1lVqjQc4kDGcha80mSiqq5RJJEnPz+n9pNevMj\/ucO7tBtVxmdDyisHSGMA7AxAjHQ\/UHw8vHoxGPPfk4WIuUEi\/nkncVFb9ILFwWYcJiPmU+nzOfzyj7RTytiSyMpgvy1TrVRgNhUoJen8k8pFIs4mmHUjFPqeCxu3fA6aU6RSlYP3+eol+iOBmSX\/QJZgHDRUTeUcjlapnlRo0gTImVRyYdMmMRUpLTDmUNuZyGXAkjFdp1qZZLlEslmo0GFb9ApewjdJ7BLKLRXmO1XuH97R2MsSzCkFajRqWxzNbBEUEuTxKFlHISg+D0fZtstpapVyscBRHOZ5\/8NOViEZEsmA\/nOJ6PVyyxSGJkGpHXmqIr0cphourYLCEnUyQGKSXWWqbTBeNel5JSKGPQWFq+z+2DQ4rFHPV6jUIhh65uklMxws2z2xuQ6RwH3R662UCOJhgrkIPhkDSJsRa0lMgkJBx2WIQhkSoyNZJFnCCFpeYJPO0SpIrQOiAk01nEnf1DdDBmsr\/NcByAFBRcSRhGDIM5QTBFSkliQOaWySnLku8xShZc39+hNxxw7tx5MBnq8U8+clkqh8QYpBDonMZRCi0N8WJKZBSqWCFODSaNMVnC9evXmUcxN+\/uYi1srLWQOY9yaxUrXWwa40hBe7nJ+9t7rK8sM54l3NrrcXJ9k16\/iystxXyBtdYaGyfbBEd7JGmC4zouqTG4SmEtxHGCdiRSOXiuwhISdALwSnS6HaSwXLywSRJF+F6OVGpsvoqXixAmxfgwG3dw8x6Ocrl4aoM33r6K1h7zWcq97T2KhRKpytCeQTsSJSXBoMvjD1\/AARDWApbUpNjMAA42TnG0i1KCkqeIsoBGtYzM+Wz3exzu3iNnIh568EEKriI2edI4JJ8XjI1BhDFRCq7WVHOad+5tY7w1ev0eUblCME3Y3FhCSUmWRAxmIY1M4AgBSkowhsRYsiwjVQYhJCYWOI5EOwoloaQEN25dRSjNirY8cnaTnKeQ2QSLIFOWME5RxmCyjFk0xQkFIotRJmUyG5IaS5rGmCzm\/JqPk9Ps9Xvo5TNsd\/v8D7nb4G9vyQZ3AAAAAElFTkSuQmCC\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-iamsterdam_big.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022World Naked Bike Ride Amsterdam 2018\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022960\u0022 height=\u0022575.55383423703\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(Full disclosure: Musz\u0119 przyzna\u0107, \u017ce zdarzy\u0142o mi si\u0119 kilka razy uprawia\u0107 seks w miejscach publicznych, ale nie by\u0142 to ekshibicjonizm, a wr\u0119cz przeciwnie: w\u0142a\u015bnie o to chodzi\u0142o, by nikt nas nie przy\u0142apa\u0142 \ud83e\udd37\u200d\u2642 Wrzucam te\u017c czasem seksualny content do Internetu, ale jest on konkretnie kierowany do ludzi, kt\u00f3rzy chc\u0105 go zobaczy\u0107. \ud83e\udd37\u200d\u2642)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EW r\u00f3\u017cnych krajach wygl\u0105da to r\u00f3\u017cnie, wiadomo, ale we wszystkich tych, gdzie by\u0142em publicznie nago: \ud83c\udde9\ud83c\uddea Niemczech, \ud83c\uddf3\ud83c\uddf1 Niderlandach i \ud83c\uddea\ud83c\uddf8 Hiszpanii, istnieje w prawie rozr\u00f3\u017cnienie pomi\u0119dzy po prostu byciem nago publicznie (co jest legalne, z paroma wyj\u0105tkami jak ko\u015bcio\u0142y, cmentarze, szko\u0142y...), a obna\u017caniem si\u0119 przed kim\u015b seksualnie (nielegalne).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA teraz kwestia tego, \u017ce publiczna nago\u015b\u0107 jest niby domen\u0105 homoseksulist\u00f3w. Niekt\u00f3rzy na Twitterze uwa\u017caj\u0105, \u017ce te zdj\u0119cia z WNBR by\u0142y zrobione podczas kt\u00f3rej\u015b z Parad R\u00f3wno\u015bci \u2013 a to zwyczajnie nie jest prawda. Ja akurat chodz\u0119 i na jedno i na drugie, ale s\u0105 to zupe\u0142nie osobne wydarzenia skierowane do r\u00f3\u017cnych grup ludzi.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ES\u0105dz\u0105c po moich obserwacjach, jak niewielu moich znajomych gej\u00f3w chce p\u00f3j\u015b\u0107 ze mn\u0105 na nag\u0105 pla\u017c\u0119, oraz jak wielu facet\u00f3w poznanych na WNBR Amsterdam opowiada\u0142o o swoich \u017conach\/dziewczynach albo przysz\u0142o razem z nimi \u2013 nie widz\u0119 korelacji mi\u0119dzy byciem LGBTQ a byciem naturyst\u0105.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAczkolwiek obie grupy maj\u0105 sporo wsp\u00f3lnego: wolno\u015b\u0107 i otwarto\u015b\u0107.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI tylko o to w tym wszystkim chodzi.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["dewiacja","ekshibicjonizm","homoseksualno\u015b\u0107","lgbtq","nago\u015b\u0107","naturyzm","nudyzm","rower","wnbr","zboczenie"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-gay-prawak_small.png","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-gay-prawak_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-gay-prawak_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@PoddanyKorony on Twitter: \u0022Pozwolimy LGBT i innym lewicowcom na za du\u017co, to b\u0119d\u0105 po naszych miastach je\u017adzi\u0107 nago na rowerze. Tak, jak ma to miejsce w miastach by\u0142ej cywilizacji Zachodu.\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022300\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBy\u0107 mo\u017ce dla wielu jest to oczywiste, (dla tych, kt\u00f3rzy znaj\u0105 \u003Cem\u003Eznaczenia s\u0142\u00f3w\u003C\/em\u003E), ale s\u0105dz\u0105c po tweetach z prawej strony, niekt\u00f3rzy mieszaj\u0105 naturyzm z ekshibicjonizmem, i my\u015bl\u0105, \u017ce \u003Cabbr title=\u0022World Naked Bike Ride\u0022\u003EWNBR\u003C\/abbr\u003E to przyk\u0142ad tego jak spo\u0142eczno\u015b\u0107 \u003Cabbr title=\u0022Lesbian Gay Bisexual Trans Queer\u0022\u003ELGBTQ\u003C\/abbr\u003E seksualnie deprawuje Zach\u00f3d...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, naturyzm nie jest ani ekshibicjonizmem, ani domen\u0105 homoseksualist\u00f3w, a oto dlaczego:\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-gay-prawak_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-gay-prawak_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022@PoddanyKorony on Twitter: \u0022Pozwolimy LGBT i innym lewicowcom na za du\u017co, to b\u0119d\u0105 po naszych miastach je\u017adzi\u0107 nago na rowerze. Tak, jak ma to miejsce w miastach by\u0142ej cywilizacji Zachodu.\u0022\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022300\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/PoddanyKorony\/status\/1107342197974802432\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Etwitter.com\/PoddanyKorony\/status\/1107342197974802432\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBy\u0107 mo\u017ce dla wielu jest to oczywiste, (dla tych, kt\u00f3rzy znaj\u0105 \u003Cem\u003Eznaczenia s\u0142\u00f3w\u003C\/em\u003E), ale s\u0105dz\u0105c po tweetach z prawej strony, niekt\u00f3rzy mieszaj\u0105 naturyzm z ekshibicjonizmem, i my\u015bl\u0105, \u017ce \u003Cabbr title=\u0022World Naked Bike Ride\u0022\u003EWNBR\u003C\/abbr\u003E to przyk\u0142ad tego jak spo\u0142eczno\u015b\u0107 \u003Cabbr title=\u0022Lesbian Gay Bisexual Trans Queer\u0022\u003ELGBTQ\u003C\/abbr\u003E seksualnie deprawuje Zach\u00f3d...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, naturyzm nie jest ani ekshibicjonizmem, ani domen\u0105 homoseksualist\u00f3w, a oto dlaczego:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EZgodnie z \u003Cabbr title=\u0022International Statistical Classification of Diseases and Related Health Problems\u0022\u003EICD-10\u003C\/abbr\u003E \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.icd10data.com\/ICD10CM\/Codes\/F01-F99\/F60-F69\/F65-\/F65.2\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E F65.2\u003C\/a\u003E ekshibicjonizm jest klasyfikowany jako parafilia i opisany jako:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EZaburzenie charakteryzuj\u0105ce si\u0119 nawracaj\u0105cymi pop\u0119dami seksualnymi, fantazjami lub zachowaniami zwi\u0105zanymi z eksponowaniem swoich genitali\u00f3w niczego nie podejrzewaj\u0105cym nieznajomym.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EZaburzenie, w kt\u00f3rym fantazje lub eksponowanie genitali\u00f3w niczego nie podejrzewaj\u0105cemu nieznajomemu wywo\u0142uje podniecenie seksualne bez pr\u00f3by dalszej aktywno\u015bci seksualnej z tym nieznajomym.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA oto czym jest World Naked Bike Ride i og\u00f3lnie naturyzm: \u003Cstrong\u003Eczym\u015b zupe\u0142nie innym\u003C\/strong\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChodzi w nim o wolno\u015b\u0107, o kochanie swojego cia\u0142a, o nie dbanie o ciuchy, o czucie si\u0119 dobrze...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPrzewa\u017cnie jeste\u015bmy nago w domu albo na nagiej pla\u017cy, w\u015br\u00f3d innych naturyst\u00f3w... Ale niekoniecznie. Na przyk\u0142ad w Niemczech ca\u0142kiem cz\u0119sto mo\u017cna spotka\u0107 w publicznych parkach ludzi po prostu opalaj\u0105cych si\u0119 nago. Jest to ca\u0142kowicie \u003Cstrong\u003Elegalne\u003C\/strong\u003E, postrzegane jako \u003Cstrong\u003Enormalne\u003C\/strong\u003E, to \u003Cstrong\u003Enie ma podtekstu seksualnego\u003C\/strong\u003E i \u003Cstrong\u003Enie jest eksbibicjonizmem\u003C\/strong\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EW przypadku WNBR nago\u015b\u0107 ma jeszcze dodatkowy przekaz: ma zwr\u00f3ci\u0107 uwag\u0119 opinii publicznej na problemy zwi\u0105zane z opieraniem transportu w miastach na samochodach oraz ma \u201cpokaza\u0107 wizj\u0119 czystszego, bezpieczniejszego, body-pozytywnego \u015bwiata\u201d. \u003Cstrong\u003EWNBR jest manifestem politycznym, a nie aktem seksualnym.\u003C\/strong\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EM\u00f3wi to cz\u0142owiek, kt\u00f3ry sam bra\u0142 w nim raz udzia\u0142: \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/my-first-world-naked-bike-ride-and-i-absolutelly-loved-it.lite\u0022\u003E My first World Naked Bike Ride \u2013 and I absolutelly loved it!\u003C\/a\u003E. Wprawdzie jecha\u0142em ca\u0142kiem nago przez centrum Amsterdamu, a jednak nie jestem ekshibicjonist\u0105. Nie jara mnie to seksualnie, nie fantazjuj\u0119 o tym, nie potrzebuj\u0119 eksponowa\u0107 si\u0119 nieznajomym by osi\u0105gn\u0105\u0107 satysfakcj\u0119 seksualn\u0105. Po prostu lubi\u0119 by\u0107 nago, to tyle.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-iamsterdam_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-iamsterdam_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022World Naked Bike Ride Amsterdam 2018\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022143.88845855926\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(Full disclosure: Musz\u0119 przyzna\u0107, \u017ce zdarzy\u0142o mi si\u0119 kilka razy uprawia\u0107 seks w miejscach publicznych, ale nie by\u0142 to ekshibicjonizm, a wr\u0119cz przeciwnie: w\u0142a\u015bnie o to chodzi\u0142o, by nikt nas nie przy\u0142apa\u0142 \ud83e\udd37\u200d\u2642 Wrzucam te\u017c czasem seksualny content do Internetu, ale jest on konkretnie kierowany do ludzi, kt\u00f3rzy chc\u0105 go zobaczy\u0107. \ud83e\udd37\u200d\u2642)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EW r\u00f3\u017cnych krajach wygl\u0105da to r\u00f3\u017cnie, wiadomo, ale we wszystkich tych, gdzie by\u0142em publicznie nago: \ud83c\udde9\ud83c\uddea Niemczech, \ud83c\uddf3\ud83c\uddf1 Niderlandach i \ud83c\uddea\ud83c\uddf8 Hiszpanii, istnieje w prawie rozr\u00f3\u017cnienie pomi\u0119dzy po prostu byciem nago publicznie (co jest legalne, z paroma wyj\u0105tkami jak ko\u015bcio\u0142y, cmentarze, szko\u0142y...), a obna\u017caniem si\u0119 przed kim\u015b seksualnie (nielegalne).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA teraz kwestia tego, \u017ce publiczna nago\u015b\u0107 jest niby domen\u0105 homoseksulist\u00f3w. Niekt\u00f3rzy na Twitterze uwa\u017caj\u0105, \u017ce te zdj\u0119cia z WNBR by\u0142y zrobione podczas kt\u00f3rej\u015b z Parad R\u00f3wno\u015bci \u2013 a to zwyczajnie nie jest prawda. Ja akurat chodz\u0119 i na jedno i na drugie, ale s\u0105 to zupe\u0142nie osobne wydarzenia skierowane do r\u00f3\u017cnych grup ludzi.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ES\u0105dz\u0105c po moich obserwacjach, jak niewielu moich znajomych gej\u00f3w chce p\u00f3j\u015b\u0107 ze mn\u0105 na nag\u0105 pla\u017c\u0119, oraz jak wielu facet\u00f3w poznanych na WNBR Amsterdam opowiada\u0142o o swoich \u017conach\/dziewczynach albo przysz\u0142o razem z nimi \u2013 nie widz\u0119 korelacji mi\u0119dzy byciem LGBTQ a byciem naturyst\u0105.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAczkolwiek obie grupy maj\u0105 sporo wsp\u00f3lnego: wolno\u015b\u0107 i otwarto\u015b\u0107.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI tylko o to w tym wszystkim 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But do you have a photo of yourself biking naked in front of the Iamsterdam sign in the centre of Amsterdam? \ud83d\ude04\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt was definitelly the craziest thing I\u2019ve ever done in my entire life \u2013 and I enjoyed every single second of it!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/wnbr.nl\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E World Naked Bike Ride\u003C\/a\u003E is an event that happens every year in multiple cities around the globe. Its goal is to promote two things: biking as an efficient, environmentally friendly, zero-emission mode of transportation, and nudity as a natural, healthy and pleasant way of living (that doesn\u2019t necessarily have to be sexual). Although admittedly the Dutch love their bikes so much, that the first goal becomes kinda moot.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs much as I love being naked and even have no problem posting my nudes online, biking naked through a city centre is a totally different league, it\u2019s totally hardcore. I wasn\u2019t sure until the very start, if I\u2019ll be able to do it. I\u2019ve made a friend online, we went there together, and we supported each other to do it. We don\u2019t regret it at all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat totally surprised me, was how positive random people were about the whole action. They were waving, screaming, cheering, supporting, clapping, taking pictures! Sure, many were confused about what\u2019s going on, a few (but only women!) were covering their eyes. But that\u2019s as far as the \u201cnegative\u201d reactions went!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOn the other hand there was a guy \u2013 a clothed bystander \u2013 who saw us and just took off his pants and started waving his cock \ud83d\ude04 Another guy, a really friendly and open-minded Brazilian, saw us biking, decided it looks fun, got completely naked and joined us, without even being sure what is the action about. It really felt like in a big big family.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow does one feel, when riding naked through Amsterdam with like a hundred other nude people? Free. Liberated. Extatic. It\u2019s totally indescribable. It really teaches you not to give a fuck. And that\u2019s just beautiful!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere had to be also some things I didn\u2019t like that much. The speed, for instance. When riding in a group, it\u2019s almost inevitable that you start and stop really often, and you\u2019re going really slow in the process. Also: driving round and round and round the square in front of the Rijksmuseum was kind of lame, IMO. And some guy kept ringing his bell \u003Cem\u003Econstantly\u003C\/em\u003E, as if he was a 6 years old girl on her first bike...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut what was the saddest, was how few women came to the event. It\u2019s sad, because it\u2019s a sign of what people generally think about naturism: that it\u2019s something sexual. That the whole point is to stare at naked chicks, or whatever. Well, it\u2019s not. There\u2019s still a long way before us to fix that misconception.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EApart from that, I really can\u2019t complain. The whether was wonderful, the people were so friendly, the ride was so fun!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWho\u2019s joining us next year? \ud83d\ude0a\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Chr \/\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBTW, if you\u2019re looking for a nudist place near your location, confirmed and described by people who have actually been there, you might want to check out our project \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/naked-adventure.eu\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E naked-adventure.eu\u003C\/a\u003E. The database of places is still small, but constantly growing \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["amsterdam","bicycle","bike","biking","city","environment","fkk","naked","naturism","nudism"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-iamsterdam_small.jpg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-iamsterdam_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/wnbr-iamsterdam_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022World Naked Bike Ride Amsterdam 2018\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022143.88845855926\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYeah, you have some cool photos... 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But do you have a photo of yourself biking naked in front of the Iamsterdam sign in the centre of Amsterdam? \ud83d\ude04\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt was definitelly the craziest thing I\u2019ve ever done in my entire life \u2013 and I enjoyed every single second of it!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/wnbr.nl\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E World Naked Bike Ride\u003C\/a\u003E is an event that happens every year in multiple cities around the globe. Its goal is to promote two things: biking as an efficient, environmentally friendly, zero-emission mode of transportation, and nudity as a natural, healthy and pleasant way of living (that doesn\u2019t necessarily have to be sexual). 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Also: driving round and round and round the square in front of the Rijksmuseum was kind of lame, IMO. And some guy kept ringing his bell \u003Cem\u003Econstantly\u003C\/em\u003E, as if he was a 6 years old girl on her first bike...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut what was the saddest, was how few women came to the event. It\u2019s sad, because it\u2019s a sign of what people generally think about naturism: that it\u2019s something sexual. That the whole point is to stare at naked chicks, or whatever. Well, it\u2019s not. There\u2019s still a long way before us to fix that misconception.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EApart from that, I really can\u2019t complain. The whether was wonderful, the people were so friendly, the ride was so fun!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWho\u2019s joining us next year? \ud83d\ude0a\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Chr \/\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBTW, if you\u2019re looking for a nudist place near your location, confirmed and described by people who have actually been there, you might want to check out our project \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/naked-adventure.eu\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E naked-adventure.eu\u003C\/a\u003E. The database of places is still small, but constantly growing \ud83d\ude09\u003C\/p\u003E","words":555,"readTime":3,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/ich-bin-kein-berliner":{"key":"blog\/life\/ich-bin-kein-berliner","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2018-04-16T19:32:15+02:00","publishedAt":"2018-04-28T11:20:00+02:00","group":"berlin-idiots","category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"ich-bin-kein-berliner"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"ich-bin-kein-berliner","title":"Ich bin KEIN Berliner","intro":"\u003Cp\u003EI need to rant.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019ve had enough of Germany. I know, I know, it\u2019s given me opportunities that I could never expect in my homeland of Poland, I\u2019ve spent amazing three years here, \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/how-to-%C5%9Blub-jednop%C5%82ciowy-polak%C3%B3w-w-niemczech\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-people-carry\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E I married the love of my life here\u003C\/a\u003E... But now it\u2019s not time for good stuff. Now it\u2019s time for a complaint.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere\u2019s (some of) the reasons why I want to move out from this country.\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003EI need to rant.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019ve had enough of Germany. I know, I know, it\u2019s given me opportunities that I could never expect in my homeland of Poland, I\u2019ve spent amazing three years here, \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/how-to-%C5%9Blub-jednop%C5%82ciowy-polak%C3%B3w-w-niemczech\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-people-carry\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E I married the love of my life here\u003C\/a\u003E... But now it\u2019s not time for good stuff. Now it\u2019s time for a complaint.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere\u2019s (some of) the reasons why I want to move out from this country.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EAusbildungssystem\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGermans don\u2019t care if you \u003Cem\u003Eknow\u003C\/em\u003E how do a job. Germans don\u2019t care if you already have \u003Cem\u003Eexperience\u003C\/em\u003E doing that job. There\u2019s just one thing they care about when deciding whether or not to hire you: your Ausbildung.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, ok, not necessarily. For high-level specialists it\u2019s skills that matter the most (but they probably have a degree anyway), and if you\u2019re happy with working without a contract or working your ass off at McDonald\u2019s or you simply have some luck \u2013 you can be fine without an Ausbildung as well. However, if you\u2019re a talented, clever, young person, speaking fluently in three languages, who emigrated right after their A-levels and didn\u2019t have a chance to start studies yet, but has ambitions beyond cleaning hotel rooms \u2013 it can be quite a while before your CV gets answered by anyone.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAusbildung is basically 3 years of working for a company, during which you \u201clearn\u201d how to do a given job. You\u2019re not an employee. You\u2019re not entitled to minimum wage, your working hours aren\u2019t regulated by law. The employer can theoretically abuse you as they wish. Why? Because if you get fired, you basically need to start all over again. Imagine working 10-12 hours a day for 500\u20ac\/month and after two years not being able to speak up, because those two years of sacrifice would get wasted.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlso: if you need three years to learn how to be receptionist or a cashier in a supermarket, you\u2019re an idiot. It\u2019s not rocket science, it\u2019s not car mechanics, it\u2019s not IT. My husband was a fully self-sufficient, responsible and highly valued hotel receptionist after, like, two months or so of work. In Poland, a training for a cashier can take two days. Germans require a 3-year \u201ckaufmannische Ausbildung\u201d to handle that job.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat\u2019s funny about that (well, bittersweet) is that even the employers are suffering from this system \u2013 on their own wish. We\u2019ve heard some complaining how they can\u2019t find any workers nowadays... sure, the CVs are coming in huge numbers, but none of those people have Ausbildung, so \u003Cem\u003Ehow the hell am I supposed to trust them to use a cash register and talk to people?!\u003C\/em\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ERude people\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere\u2019s a stereotype in Germany that Berliners are the most rude people you\u2019ll ever meet. You know how there\u2019s some truth to some stereotypes? That\u2019s definitely one of them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELet\u2019s start with smoking. Cigarette smoke is the stink I hate the most in the world. Not only is it nasty, it can also give you cancer. How could anyone force someone to breathe that shit in? \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/keiner-furzt-in-der-u-bahn\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-people-carry\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Of course, Berliners can\u003C\/a\u003E...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201cNo smoking\u201d signs are totally ignored, the fire hazard of open fire in a subway station is totally ignored, the common decency of not producing cancerogenous stench when you\u2019re in a crowd of people who cannot go away is not an issue anyone worries about. Seriously, I\u2019ve wasted a ticket to the second day of \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.pyronale.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Pyronale\u003C\/a\u003E because during the first day I \u003Cstrong\u003Eliterally couldn\u2019t breathe\u003C\/strong\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/frische-luft_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Frische Luft in Berliner S+U-Bahnh\u00f6fe: 31% Stickstoff, 19% Sauerstoff, 50% Zigarettenrauch\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022642\u0022 height=\u0022778\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/frische-luft_big.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Frische Luft in Berliner S+U-Bahnh\u00f6fe: 31% Stickstoff, 19% Sauerstoff, 50% Zigarettenrauch\u0022 class=\u0022border\u0022 width=\u0022642\u0022 height=\u0022778\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut it\u2019s not only smoking. For instance, recently my husband got shouted at for \u201cfollowing\u201d some lady \u2013 while he was walking \u003Cem\u003Ein front of her\u003C\/em\u003E. People can\u2019t learn to stick to the right side when walking slowly up or down narrow stairs. They don\u2019t even think of taking off their backpack when it\u2019s crowded in the subway, or about letting people \u003Cem\u003Eout\u003C\/em\u003E of the train first, before they start squeezing in. Those are things that 5-years-olds are learning! There\u2019s plenty of situations that make you doubt human decency and basic intelligence. I almost forgot that cars letting pedestrians through on a crossing is a thing \u2013 in one day in Rotterdam it happened to me more times than in three years in Berlin.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ETransportation\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESpeaking of transport and of comparing Berlin to Rotterdam: In the latter it\u2019s trams, bikes and pedestrians who are first-class citizens. Berlin is clogged with cars. In Rotterdam I saw half-empty parkings in the city centre! What I didn\u2019t see was idiots (pedestrians or cars) blocking a bike lane, which in Berlin or Szczecin is a sad norm.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDo you think air conditioning in public transportation should be a given in modern cities of the 21st century? If you\u2019re coming to Berlin, think again. Not even the newest models of U-Bahn or S-Bahn trains have (or are planned to have) AC. Busses do, but it\u2019s \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.berliner-woche.de\/steglitz\/sonstiges\/fahrgaeste-spueren-klimaanlage-in-bvg-bussen-kaum-d32312.html\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E usually set up in a way, that you can\u2019t really feel that it\u2019s colder\u003C\/a\u003E...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESpeaking of newest models... Did you know that Berlin still uses wagons from 60s and 70s that are also what \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Pyongyang_Metro#Rolling_stock\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E the Pyongyang Metro is using\u003C\/a\u003E?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt all makes them slow. They are unable to send trains in 1-2 minutes intervals, like they do in Warsaw or Madrid. They are unable to go fast, like a subway should. To both my current and previous job, the comute by bike (with all the lights, traffic, crappy bikelanes) takes roughly the same time as by subway (you know, with engines and designated tunnels just for the trains).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBVG is old, rusty and unpunctual. They don\u2019t see any problem whatsoever with \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/u-bahnmusikanten-verpisst-euch\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-people-carry\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E annoying musicians\u003C\/a\u003E or stinking people in their trains. Basically the only thing they do right is \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/BVG_Kampagne\/status\/938003895560884226\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E laughing at themselves for being this crappy\u003C\/a\u003E...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EConstant construction\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe Berlin-Brandenburg Airport (BER) is already known in the world for being constantly unfinished. Billions have been spent on it, but the opening date keeps getting pushed forward and forward. I think it would be fair to say it\u2019s the biggest waste of money in Germany\u2019s modern history.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESpeaking of airports: the two that Berlin currently has (and both to be replaced by BER) are both on tops of all the rankings of worst airports in the world. Whoever has flown from Sch\u00f6nefeld to, well, anywhere, will be able to give like tens reasons why SXF sucks.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen it comes to less significant constructions, it\u2019s still not impressive. For instance the U-Bahn station I live near to. How long can it take to renovate a simple subway station? In Berlin, apparently, \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/BismarkDaisy\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E 2,5 years already\u003C\/a\u003E \u2013 \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/BismarkDaisy\/status\/940549607242784768\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E and nobody really knows when is it going to be done\u003C\/a\u003E. But maybe let\u2019s not talk about the whole station. How long would it take to renovate a single entrance to a subway station? Nothing fancy, no escalators, no art, no fancy design, just some stairs with ~30 steps. I didn\u2019t count exaclty, but half a year is my lowest estimate. Seriously.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EApartment crisis\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERent prices in Berlin are skyrocketing, growing ~20% every year. No wonder: lots of people are coming, but hardly any new living spaces are being built. The city is huge (my daily commute is about one hour, without even leaving the city boundries), but it\u2019s unbelievably short. Berlin has virtually no skyline, no skyscrappers.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDon\u2019t people want to built them, live and work in them? Sure, many do. But even more don\u2019t, including the Senate of Berlin claims \u201cit\u2019s not in the spirit of Berlin to build high\u201d. They are fighting like lions to protect the \u201cspirit of Berlin\u201d, which seams to mean crappiness, unimpressive buildings and horrible rent prices.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPost\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDeutsche Post and DHL are crap. Me and my husband weren\u2019t able to collect each other\u2019s mail before the wedding, even though we signed a relevant authorisation, twice. I can\u2019t even count the number of times when a package wasn\u2019t even attempted to be delivered \u2013 just marked as \u201creceiver not at home\u201d and left at the post office (and yes, we were home, we even saw the delivery guy from the balcony).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s not any specific post office, by the way. We had to visit at least five different post offices, some of which were kilometers away, because they were, apparently, all responsible for the deliveries to our address. And sometimes they were dropping my package at a shop ~500 m away, claiming that shop is our \u201cneighbour\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019ve sent plenty of formal complaints to them about situations like this. How many were answered in any meaningful way? Just one. Only because I was especially furious \u2013 they forced me to rent a car, so I could bring some balcony furniture home from a far away post office. I specifically ordered it online with home delivery to avoid problems with transport. But why would they care about doing their job? They didn\u2019t even attempt delivery, just made me pick it up myself. So how did they react to my complaint? They gave me a 10\u20ac voucher for sending packages (which I never do, so it expired already).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBTW, what the fuck is the big deal with apartment numbers in Germany? In Poland, Netherlands or US people simply have numbers on their doors, mailbox and intercom. Germans aren\u2019t convinced by that idea. So when a mailman wants to deliver something, they need to scan all the mailboxes or walk door to door to find the correct receiver. In Poland they could just think \u201cok, appartment 40, there\u2019s five doors on each floor, so it would be on the 8th floor\u201d \u2013 and that\u2019s it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere only the surname matters. So having multiple families called \u201cM\u00fcller\u201d in one building is problematic, having multiple people with different surnames sharing an apartment is problematic, delivering stuff is problematic, picking up stuff is problematic, moving out is problematic.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ENotice periods and customer rights\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA notice period of three months is crazy \u2013 at least from the customer\/employee side. But Germans seem to love it (it\u2019s the legally allowed maximum for services).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd as much as I can understand it for contracts like employment or rent (where the other party needs time to find a replacement for you), what sense does it make in case of mobile phone or gym membership? None, except for them counting on you to miss the deadline and automatically prolong your contract for another year.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt kills flexibility and it kills my trust in the honesty of \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.1und1.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E 1\u0026amp;1\u003C\/a\u003E, \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/superfit.club\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E SuperFit\u003C\/a\u003E etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen I was fighting with \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/mysn-schenker-kurwa-ma%C4%87-de\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-computer-speaker\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Schenker\u003C\/a\u003E for my right to warrantee service I came to a sad discovery: while Poland has a special government agency that supports customer rights and helps in the cases like mine, Germany does not. They do have \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.verbraucherzentrale-berlin.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E  Verbraucherzentrale\u003C\/a\u003E, but the thing is \u2013 they\u2019re just an association, with no authority and no ability to fine companies that abuse customer rights. And you have to pay them to help you, while all they can offer you is a consultation.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EDigitalisation\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA Dutch guy who heard that we live in Germany joked \u201coh, so you\u2019re coming from the past?\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen I got my first German credit card (first available after six month living here, before that I could only get an EC-Karte that was useless anywhere abroad), it came with a leaflet, declaring that is has a brand new, shiny, modern, super-\u00fcber-comfortable feature: \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/fear-of-the-paypass\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-computer-speaker\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E PayPass\u003C\/a\u003E \ud83d\ude12\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPayPass is a thing that I already had in my first debit card when I was 13. PayPass is a thing I was always taking for granted. But no. Most Germans still have no idea you can pay contactlessly. After a long, long adaptation period, at least the cashiers know that it\u2019s possible.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey usually don\u2019t know, however, that you can pay with your phone with an NFC chip. One thought that my husband has to be trying to scam her, and she threated to call the police on him. Seriously.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere was a wind of hope last year \u2013 Vodafone introduced a service called Wallet, basically the NFC payments, like Android Pay. This year they are rolling back completely, because people didn\u2019t use it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENetto, a chain of supermarkets, has three (yes, only three) markets in Germany with an option of self-service cash check out. It\u2019s only for testing of how it would be received. And well, it\u2019s not being received well \u2013 queues to the remaining cashier-operated registers got longer, while the self-service stands are usually empty. Which makes it really fast for me to make groceries there.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen it comes to technology, Germany is in the third world.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EDubbing\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGermans put dubbing over every movie and series they can. Trying to find a movie in OV (original version) in a German cinema might be really hard sometimes. Even though I\u2019m fluent in both English and German, watching an English movie with a German (or Polish) dubbing is a total go-no for me. It just sounds fake. It doesn\u2019t match the dynamics of the film at all. (With a noble exception of dubbed animated movies, of course). I had to cancel my \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.maxdome.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Maxdome\u003C\/a\u003E (German Netflix) subscription, because crappily dubbed movies was all they offered.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u2019s why it usually takes Germans a couple of months more to prepare a premiere of a new movie \u2013 we can watch them only after the rest of the world already forgot about them. That\u2019s also one of the reasons why Germany isn\u2019t that good at English.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EEnglish\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou might have thought that Berlin is international and multilingual. Well, sure, in one sense. During a short subway ride you could hear like twenty different languages, either from tourists or residents. But try to use English in a shop (outside of Mitte, of course). Or try to run an errand in B\u00fcrgeramt, Finanzamt or a bank without speaking German. There\u2019s almost no way. One of my employment contracts was bilingual, but the other was German-only (for an English-speaking job). I can\u2019t imagine signing that, if I didn\u2019t know German.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor comparison: in the Netherlands you seem to be able to do anything in English. Employment contract, official paperwork, shopping, anything. And it\u2019s not even their official language (except in Dutch Caribbeans).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOf course I\u2019m learning Dutch anyway, but you know... It already felt like home, even just after first arriving there, when you\u2019re able to communicate with anyone freely. Shouldn\u2019t English be a given in our modern, globalised world?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPhone is the boss\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs a person who worked for a couple of start-ups trying to digitalise Germany (\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/campsy.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Campsy\u003C\/a\u003E,\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/caterwings.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Caterwings\u003C\/a\u003E,\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.zinsgold.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Zinsgold\u003C\/a\u003E,  \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/vendomo.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-link\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Vendomo\u003C\/a\u003E, ...), I know how big of a struggle that is. Germans are used to communicating over the phone and reluctant to change it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI, on the other hand, have a strange phobia of calling someone I don\u2019t know on the phone. Especially if it\u2019s in German (which I really prefer in writing) and if my signal reception is crappy (damn you, 1\u0026amp;1!). Sometimes you write someone an email (and maybe even explicitly select \u201cemail\u201d as a preferred contact method in a contact form) and they still call you back on the phone \u2013 only to complain about my shitty reception and to present me an offer that I could mishear, I could forget, and that I have no written record of.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut nothing can beat the situation that my husband had. He sent someone an email asking for an appointment. They asked him to call. But the next day he was around the place, so he just came over. The girl at the desk told him they only make appointments on the phone. So he did call her, literally standing two meters away \u2013 and he did, indeed, get an appointment this way. What the actual fuck?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022text-center my-4\u0022\u003E\u003Ciframe width=\u0022640\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/QoScZopb020\u0022 frameborder=\u00220\u0022 allowfullscreen\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOh, and some institutions love physical mail just as much as the others love phones. For instance our health insurance \u2013 whenever I send them a question via email, they answer it via post. Which costs them money, costs the environment and makes me wait 2-3 more day for a response. Brilliant, isn\u2019t it?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EHealth insurance\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI have praised the German healthcare system in \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/niemiecka-s%C5%82u%C5%BCba-zdrowia\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-people-carry\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E one of my blog posts\u003C\/a\u003E, but that was in comparison to Poland. If you look at it from the Dutch perspective, it starts to look really crappy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E~350\u20ac each month go from my salary to a health insurance company, plus another ~350\u20ac paid on the employer side, plus my husband had to pay 175\u20ac before we got married. In return we get a system when getting an appointment at a specialist usually takes about three months.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn the Netherlands a similar level of coverage, for two people, will cost us 247\u20ac\/month. Seriously. And although we didn\u2019t see it yet with our own eyes, they say queues to a specialist aren\u2019t a problem over there.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EMore?\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI could go on for quite a while, but I guess it\u2019s enough already. The point is clear, I think: as much as Germany is a better place to live than my country of origin, it can still be annoying as fuck.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe moved here looking for Ordnung, modernity, innovation... We got Berlin \u2013 total contempt for the rules, hipster-anarchy-squat-whatever culture, rude people and technological stagnation. Ich bin ja \u003Cstrong\u003Ekein\u003C\/strong\u003E Berliner. I\u2019m totally out of sync with \u201cthe spirit\u201d of this city.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s time to move on.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENederland, hier komen we!\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["air conditioning","ausbildung","berlin","crap","dubbing","emigration","english","germany","health","health insurance","insurance","language","migration","movies","netherlands","phobia","phone","public transport","taxes","transport","transportation"],"hasMore":true,"image":null,"introLite":"\u003Cp\u003EI need to rant.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019ve had enough of Germany. I know, I know, it\u2019s given me opportunities that I could never expect in my homeland of Poland, I\u2019ve spent amazing three years here, \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/how-to-%C5%9Blub-jednop%C5%82ciowy-polak%C3%B3w-w-niemczech.lite\u0022\u003E I married the love of my life here\u003C\/a\u003E... But now it\u2019s not time for good stuff. Now it\u2019s time for a complaint.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere\u2019s (some of) the reasons why I want to move out from this country.\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cp\u003EI need to rant.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019ve had enough of Germany. I know, I know, it\u2019s given me opportunities that I could never expect in my homeland of Poland, I\u2019ve spent amazing three years here, \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/how-to-%C5%9Blub-jednop%C5%82ciowy-polak%C3%B3w-w-niemczech.lite\u0022\u003E I married the love of my life here\u003C\/a\u003E... But now it\u2019s not time for good stuff. Now it\u2019s time for a complaint.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere\u2019s (some of) the reasons why I want to move out from this country.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EAusbildungssystem\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGermans don\u2019t care if you \u003Cem\u003Eknow\u003C\/em\u003E how do a job. Germans don\u2019t care if you already have \u003Cem\u003Eexperience\u003C\/em\u003E doing that job. There\u2019s just one thing they care about when deciding whether or not to hire you: your Ausbildung.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, ok, not necessarily. For high-level specialists it\u2019s skills that matter the most (but they probably have a degree anyway), and if you\u2019re happy with working without a contract or working your ass off at McDonald\u2019s or you simply have some luck \u2013 you can be fine without an Ausbildung as well. However, if you\u2019re a talented, clever, young person, speaking fluently in three languages, who emigrated right after their A-levels and didn\u2019t have a chance to start studies yet, but has ambitions beyond cleaning hotel rooms \u2013 it can be quite a while before your CV gets answered by anyone.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAusbildung is basically 3 years of working for a company, during which you \u201clearn\u201d how to do a given job. You\u2019re not an employee. You\u2019re not entitled to minimum wage, your working hours aren\u2019t regulated by law. The employer can theoretically abuse you as they wish. Why? Because if you get fired, you basically need to start all over again. Imagine working 10-12 hours a day for 500\u20ac\/month and after two years not being able to speak up, because those two years of sacrifice would get wasted.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlso: if you need three years to learn how to be receptionist or a cashier in a supermarket, you\u2019re an idiot. It\u2019s not rocket science, it\u2019s not car mechanics, it\u2019s not IT. My husband was a fully self-sufficient, responsible and highly valued hotel receptionist after, like, two months or so of work. In Poland, a training for a cashier can take two days. Germans require a 3-year \u201ckaufmannische Ausbildung\u201d to handle that job.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat\u2019s funny about that (well, bittersweet) is that even the employers are suffering from this system \u2013 on their own wish. We\u2019ve heard some complaining how they can\u2019t find any workers nowadays... sure, the CVs are coming in huge numbers, but none of those people have Ausbildung, so \u003Cem\u003Ehow the hell am I supposed to trust them to use a cash register and talk to people?!\u003C\/em\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ERude people\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere\u2019s a stereotype in Germany that Berliners are the most rude people you\u2019ll ever meet. You know how there\u2019s some truth to some stereotypes? That\u2019s definitely one of them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELet\u2019s start with smoking. Cigarette smoke is the stink I hate the most in the world. Not only is it nasty, it can also give you cancer. How could anyone force someone to breathe that shit in? \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/keiner-furzt-in-der-u-bahn.lite\u0022\u003E Of course, Berliners can\u003C\/a\u003E...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201cNo smoking\u201d signs are totally ignored, the fire hazard of open fire in a subway station is totally ignored, the common decency of not producing cancerogenous stench when you\u2019re in a crowd of people who cannot go away is not an issue anyone worries about. Seriously, I\u2019ve wasted a ticket to the second day of \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.pyronale.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Pyronale\u003C\/a\u003E because during the first day I \u003Cstrong\u003Eliterally couldn\u2019t breathe\u003C\/strong\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/frische-luft_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/frische-luft_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Frische Luft in Berliner S+U-Bahnh\u00f6fe: 31% Stickstoff, 19% Sauerstoff, 50% Zigarettenrauch\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022290.84112149533\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut it\u2019s not only smoking. For instance, recently my husband got shouted at for \u201cfollowing\u201d some lady \u2013 while he was walking \u003Cem\u003Ein front of her\u003C\/em\u003E. People can\u2019t learn to stick to the right side when walking slowly up or down narrow stairs. They don\u2019t even think of taking off their backpack when it\u2019s crowded in the subway, or about letting people \u003Cem\u003Eout\u003C\/em\u003E of the train first, before they start squeezing in. Those are things that 5-years-olds are learning! There\u2019s plenty of situations that make you doubt human decency and basic intelligence. I almost forgot that cars letting pedestrians through on a crossing is a thing \u2013 in one day in Rotterdam it happened to me more times than in three years in Berlin.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ETransportation\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESpeaking of transport and of comparing Berlin to Rotterdam: In the latter it\u2019s trams, bikes and pedestrians who are first-class citizens. Berlin is clogged with cars. In Rotterdam I saw half-empty parkings in the city centre! What I didn\u2019t see was idiots (pedestrians or cars) blocking a bike lane, which in Berlin or Szczecin is a sad norm.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDo you think air conditioning in public transportation should be a given in modern cities of the 21st century? If you\u2019re coming to Berlin, think again. Not even the newest models of U-Bahn or S-Bahn trains have (or are planned to have) AC. Busses do, but it\u2019s \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.berliner-woche.de\/steglitz\/sonstiges\/fahrgaeste-spueren-klimaanlage-in-bvg-bussen-kaum-d32312.html\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E usually set up in a way, that you can\u2019t really feel that it\u2019s colder\u003C\/a\u003E...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESpeaking of newest models... Did you know that Berlin still uses wagons from 60s and 70s that are also what \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Pyongyang_Metro#Rolling_stock\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E the Pyongyang Metro is using\u003C\/a\u003E?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt all makes them slow. They are unable to send trains in 1-2 minutes intervals, like they do in Warsaw or Madrid. They are unable to go fast, like a subway should. To both my current and previous job, the comute by bike (with all the lights, traffic, crappy bikelanes) takes roughly the same time as by subway (you know, with engines and designated tunnels just for the trains).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBVG is old, rusty and unpunctual. They don\u2019t see any problem whatsoever with \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/u-bahnmusikanten-verpisst-euch.lite\u0022\u003E annoying musicians\u003C\/a\u003E or stinking people in their trains. Basically the only thing they do right is \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/BVG_Kampagne\/status\/938003895560884226\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E laughing at themselves for being this crappy\u003C\/a\u003E...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EConstant construction\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe Berlin-Brandenburg Airport (BER) is already known in the world for being constantly unfinished. Billions have been spent on it, but the opening date keeps getting pushed forward and forward. I think it would be fair to say it\u2019s the biggest waste of money in Germany\u2019s modern history.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESpeaking of airports: the two that Berlin currently has (and both to be replaced by BER) are both on tops of all the rankings of worst airports in the world. Whoever has flown from Sch\u00f6nefeld to, well, anywhere, will be able to give like tens reasons why SXF sucks.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen it comes to less significant constructions, it\u2019s still not impressive. For instance the U-Bahn station I live near to. How long can it take to renovate a simple subway station? In Berlin, apparently, \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/BismarkDaisy\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E 2,5 years already\u003C\/a\u003E \u2013 \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/BismarkDaisy\/status\/940549607242784768\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E and nobody really knows when is it going to be done\u003C\/a\u003E. But maybe let\u2019s not talk about the whole station. How long would it take to renovate a single entrance to a subway station? Nothing fancy, no escalators, no art, no fancy design, just some stairs with ~30 steps. I didn\u2019t count exaclty, but half a year is my lowest estimate. Seriously.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EApartment crisis\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERent prices in Berlin are skyrocketing, growing ~20% every year. No wonder: lots of people are coming, but hardly any new living spaces are being built. The city is huge (my daily commute is about one hour, without even leaving the city boundries), but it\u2019s unbelievably short. Berlin has virtually no skyline, no skyscrappers.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDon\u2019t people want to built them, live and work in them? Sure, many do. But even more don\u2019t, including the Senate of Berlin claims \u201cit\u2019s not in the spirit of Berlin to build high\u201d. They are fighting like lions to protect the \u201cspirit of Berlin\u201d, which seams to mean crappiness, unimpressive buildings and horrible rent prices.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPost\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDeutsche Post and DHL are crap. Me and my husband weren\u2019t able to collect each other\u2019s mail before the wedding, even though we signed a relevant authorisation, twice. I can\u2019t even count the number of times when a package wasn\u2019t even attempted to be delivered \u2013 just marked as \u201creceiver not at home\u201d and left at the post office (and yes, we were home, we even saw the delivery guy from the balcony).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s not any specific post office, by the way. We had to visit at least five different post offices, some of which were kilometers away, because they were, apparently, all responsible for the deliveries to our address. And sometimes they were dropping my package at a shop ~500 m away, claiming that shop is our \u201cneighbour\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019ve sent plenty of formal complaints to them about situations like this. How many were answered in any meaningful way? Just one. Only because I was especially furious \u2013 they forced me to rent a car, so I could bring some balcony furniture home from a far away post office. I specifically ordered it online with home delivery to avoid problems with transport. But why would they care about doing their job? They didn\u2019t even attempt delivery, just made me pick it up myself. So how did they react to my complaint? They gave me a 10\u20ac voucher for sending packages (which I never do, so it expired already).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBTW, what the fuck is the big deal with apartment numbers in Germany? In Poland, Netherlands or US people simply have numbers on their doors, mailbox and intercom. Germans aren\u2019t convinced by that idea. So when a mailman wants to deliver something, they need to scan all the mailboxes or walk door to door to find the correct receiver. In Poland they could just think \u201cok, appartment 40, there\u2019s five doors on each floor, so it would be on the 8th floor\u201d \u2013 and that\u2019s it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere only the surname matters. So having multiple families called \u201cM\u00fcller\u201d in one building is problematic, having multiple people with different surnames sharing an apartment is problematic, delivering stuff is problematic, picking up stuff is problematic, moving out is problematic.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ENotice periods and customer rights\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA notice period of three months is crazy \u2013 at least from the customer\/employee side. But Germans seem to love it (it\u2019s the legally allowed maximum for services).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd as much as I can understand it for contracts like employment or rent (where the other party needs time to find a replacement for you), what sense does it make in case of mobile phone or gym membership? None, except for them counting on you to miss the deadline and automatically prolong your contract for another year.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt kills flexibility and it kills my trust in the honesty of \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.1und1.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E 1\u0026amp;1\u003C\/a\u003E, \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/superfit.club\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E SuperFit\u003C\/a\u003E etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen I was fighting with \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/mysn-schenker-kurwa-ma%C4%87-de.lite\u0022\u003E Schenker\u003C\/a\u003E for my right to warrantee service I came to a sad discovery: while Poland has a special government agency that supports customer rights and helps in the cases like mine, Germany does not. They do have \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.verbraucherzentrale-berlin.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E  Verbraucherzentrale\u003C\/a\u003E, but the thing is \u2013 they\u2019re just an association, with no authority and no ability to fine companies that abuse customer rights. And you have to pay them to help you, while all they can offer you is a consultation.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EDigitalisation\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA Dutch guy who heard that we live in Germany joked \u201coh, so you\u2019re coming from the past?\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen I got my first German credit card (first available after six month living here, before that I could only get an EC-Karte that was useless anywhere abroad), it came with a leaflet, declaring that is has a brand new, shiny, modern, super-\u00fcber-comfortable feature: \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/fear-of-the-paypass.lite\u0022\u003E PayPass\u003C\/a\u003E \ud83d\ude12\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPayPass is a thing that I already had in my first debit card when I was 13. PayPass is a thing I was always taking for granted. But no. Most Germans still have no idea you can pay contactlessly. After a long, long adaptation period, at least the cashiers know that it\u2019s possible.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey usually don\u2019t know, however, that you can pay with your phone with an NFC chip. One thought that my husband has to be trying to scam her, and she threated to call the police on him. Seriously.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere was a wind of hope last year \u2013 Vodafone introduced a service called Wallet, basically the NFC payments, like Android Pay. This year they are rolling back completely, because people didn\u2019t use it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENetto, a chain of supermarkets, has three (yes, only three) markets in Germany with an option of self-service cash check out. It\u2019s only for testing of how it would be received. And well, it\u2019s not being received well \u2013 queues to the remaining cashier-operated registers got longer, while the self-service stands are usually empty. Which makes it really fast for me to make groceries there.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen it comes to technology, Germany is in the third world.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EDubbing\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGermans put dubbing over every movie and series they can. Trying to find a movie in OV (original version) in a German cinema might be really hard sometimes. Even though I\u2019m fluent in both English and German, watching an English movie with a German (or Polish) dubbing is a total go-no for me. It just sounds fake. It doesn\u2019t match the dynamics of the film at all. (With a noble exception of dubbed animated movies, of course). I had to cancel my \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.maxdome.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Maxdome\u003C\/a\u003E (German Netflix) subscription, because crappily dubbed movies was all they offered.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u2019s why it usually takes Germans a couple of months more to prepare a premiere of a new movie \u2013 we can watch them only after the rest of the world already forgot about them. That\u2019s also one of the reasons why Germany isn\u2019t that good at English.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EEnglish\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou might have thought that Berlin is international and multilingual. Well, sure, in one sense. During a short subway ride you could hear like twenty different languages, either from tourists or residents. But try to use English in a shop (outside of Mitte, of course). Or try to run an errand in B\u00fcrgeramt, Finanzamt or a bank without speaking German. There\u2019s almost no way. One of my employment contracts was bilingual, but the other was German-only (for an English-speaking job). I can\u2019t imagine signing that, if I didn\u2019t know German.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor comparison: in the Netherlands you seem to be able to do anything in English. Employment contract, official paperwork, shopping, anything. And it\u2019s not even their official language (except in Dutch Caribbeans).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOf course I\u2019m learning Dutch anyway, but you know... It already felt like home, even just after first arriving there, when you\u2019re able to communicate with anyone freely. Shouldn\u2019t English be a given in our modern, globalised world?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPhone is the boss\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs a person who worked for a couple of start-ups trying to digitalise Germany (\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/campsy.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Campsy\u003C\/a\u003E,\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/caterwings.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Caterwings\u003C\/a\u003E,\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.zinsgold.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Zinsgold\u003C\/a\u003E,  \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/vendomo.de\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E Vendomo\u003C\/a\u003E, ...), I know how big of a struggle that is. Germans are used to communicating over the phone and reluctant to change it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI, on the other hand, have a strange phobia of calling someone I don\u2019t know on the phone. Especially if it\u2019s in German (which I really prefer in writing) and if my signal reception is crappy (damn you, 1\u0026amp;1!). Sometimes you write someone an email (and maybe even explicitly select \u201cemail\u201d as a preferred contact method in a contact form) and they still call you back on the phone \u2013 only to complain about my shitty reception and to present me an offer that I could mishear, I could forget, and that I have no written record of.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut nothing can beat the situation that my husband had. He sent someone an email asking for an appointment. They asked him to call. But the next day he was around the place, so he just came over. The girl at the desk told him they only make appointments on the phone. So he did call her, literally standing two meters away \u2013 and he did, indeed, get an appointment this way. What the actual fuck?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022text-center my-4\u0022\u003E\u003Ciframe width=\u0022640\u0022 height=\u0022360\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/QoScZopb020\u0022 frameborder=\u00220\u0022 allowfullscreen\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOh, and some institutions love physical mail just as much as the others love phones. For instance our health insurance \u2013 whenever I send them a question via email, they answer it via post. Which costs them money, costs the environment and makes me wait 2-3 more day for a response. Brilliant, isn\u2019t it?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EHealth insurance\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI have praised the German healthcare system in \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/niemiecka-s%C5%82u%C5%BCba-zdrowia.lite\u0022\u003E one of my blog posts\u003C\/a\u003E, but that was in comparison to Poland. If you look at it from the Dutch perspective, it starts to look really crappy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E~350\u20ac each month go from my salary to a health insurance company, plus another ~350\u20ac paid on the employer side, plus my husband had to pay 175\u20ac before we got married. In return we get a system when getting an appointment at a specialist usually takes about three months.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn the Netherlands a similar level of coverage, for two people, will cost us 247\u20ac\/month. Seriously. And although we didn\u2019t see it yet with our own eyes, they say queues to a specialist aren\u2019t a problem over there.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EMore?\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI could go on for quite a while, but I guess it\u2019s enough already. The point is clear, I think: as much as Germany is a better place to live than my country of origin, it can still be annoying as fuck.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe moved here looking for Ordnung, modernity, innovation... We got Berlin \u2013 total contempt for the rules, hipster-anarchy-squat-whatever culture, rude people and technological stagnation. Ich bin ja \u003Cstrong\u003Ekein\u003C\/strong\u003E Berliner. I\u2019m totally out of sync with \u201cthe spirit\u201d of this city.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s time to move on.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENederland, hier komen we!\u003C\/p\u003E","words":2935,"readTime":12,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/dumny-z-bycia-gejem":{"key":"blog\/life\/dumny-z-bycia-gejem","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2017-06-10T09:43:22+02:00","publishedAt":"2017-06-10T09:42:00+02:00","group":"duma","category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"dumny-z-bycia-gejem"},"content":{"pl":{"slug":"dumny-z-bycia-gejem","title":"Dumny z bycia gejem","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/dumny-z-bycia-gejem_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u2013 \u0022jestem dumny z bycia gejem\u0022 \u2013 ??? \u2013 Nie \u017ce \u0022dumny z wylosowania homo w loterii genetycznej\u0022, tylko \u0022dumny z bycia sob\u0105 mimo pojebanego spo\u0142ecze\u0144stwa\u0022.\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022393.13572542902\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/dumny-z-bycia-gejem_small.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u2013 \u0022jestem dumny z bycia gejem\u0022 \u2013 ??? 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\u2013 Nie \u017ce \u0022dumny z wylosowania homo w loterii genetycznej\u0022, tylko \u0022dumny z bycia sob\u0105 mimo pojebanego spo\u0142ecze\u0144stwa\u0022.\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022196.56786271451\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/dumny-z-bycia-gejem_big.png\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/dumny-z-bycia-gejem_mini.png\u0022 alt=\u0022\u2013 \u0022jestem dumny z bycia gejem\u0022 \u2013 ??? \u2013 Nie \u017ce \u0022dumny z wylosowania homo w loterii genetycznej\u0022, tylko \u0022dumny z bycia sob\u0105 mimo pojebanego spo\u0142ecze\u0144stwa\u0022.\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022196.56786271451\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/twitter.com\/AvrisIT\/status\/873158927994822656\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Etwitter.com\/AvrisIT\/status\/873158927994822656\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E","words":4,"readTime":null,"lang":"pl"}}},"blog\/life\/i-don-t-really-like-esperanto":{"key":"blog\/life\/i-don-t-really-like-esperanto","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2017-05-23T21:59:46+02:00","publishedAt":"2017-05-25T18:55:00+02:00","group":"askara","category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"i-don-t-really-like-esperanto"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"i-don-t-really-like-esperanto","title":"I don\u0027t really like Esperanto","intro":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\n                \u003Cnoscript\u003E\n                    \u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/flag-esperanto_small.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Esperanto flag\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022319.875\u0022\u003E                \n                \u003C\/noscript\u003E\n                \u003Cspan class=\u0022hide-noscript\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022data:image\/png;base64,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\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/flag-esperanto_small.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Esperanto flag\u0022 class=\u0022border-bottom\u0022 width=\u0022480\u0022 height=\u0022319.875\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\n                \n            \u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t really like Esperanto. 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As a language. As an idea I love it from all my heart! \u2764\ufe0f\nThat message of unity, peace and understanding though a common language! That brilliance of simplification and unification!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut I\u2019ve always seen it advertised as \u201cextremely simple\u201d. Simple indeed, but \u003Cem\u003Eextremely\u003C\/em\u003E? You can certainly do better!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EAlphabet\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEsperanto has five characters that annoy me way more than they should:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote class=\u0022blockquote ml-4 pl-4 border-left\u0022\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cstrong\u003E\u0109 \u011d \u0125 \u0135 \u015d\u003C\/strong\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt might have looked like a good idea to add those neat diacritics back in the times when you mostly wrote by hand. But in the age of computers having any non-latin characters in your alphabet is just annoying \u2013 with all the switching of keyboard layouts, with those damn non-UTF8 encodings, with some people replacing \u003Cstrong\u003E\u0109\u003C\/strong\u003E with the ugly \u003Cstrong\u003Ecx\u003C\/strong\u003E and others with \u003Cstrong\u003Ech\u003C\/strong\u003E...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd also: who \u003Cem\u003Ereally\u003C\/em\u003E cares about the difference between \u003Cstrong\u003Eh\u003C\/strong\u003E and \u003Cstrong\u003E\u0125\u003C\/strong\u003E?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ENouns\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey aren\u2019t in any way better or simpler than in natural languages. Such a missed opportunity! Especially for the words used \u003Cem\u003Eso\u003C\/em\u003E often. Just look:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022table-responsive\u0022\u003E\u003Ctable class=\u0022table table-bordered table-center\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ctr\u003E\n        \u003Cth colspan=\u00222\u0022\u003E\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Cth\u003Esingular\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Cth\u003Eplural\u003C\/th\u003E\n    \u003C\/tr\u003E\n    \u003Ctr\u003E\n        \u003Cth colspan=\u00222\u0022\u003E1st person\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Ctd\u003Emi\u003C\/td\u003E\n        \u003Ctd\u003Eni\u003C\/td\u003E\n    \u003C\/tr\u003E\n    \u003Ctr\u003E\n        \u003Cth colspan=\u00222\u0022\u003E2nd person\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Ctd colspan=\u00222\u0022\u003Evi\u003C\/td\u003E\n    \u003C\/tr\u003E\n    \u003Ctr\u003E\n        \u003Cth rowspan=\u00223\u0022\u003E3rd person\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Cth\u003Emasculine\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Ctd\u003Eli\u003C\/td\u003E\n        \u003Ctd rowspan=\u00223\u0022\u003Eili\u003C\/td\u003E\n    \u003C\/tr\u003E\n    \u003Ctr\u003E\n        \u003Cth\u003Efeminine\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Ctd\u003E\u015di\u003C\/td\u003E\n    \u003C\/tr\u003E\n    \u003Ctr\u003E\n        \u003Cth\u003Eneuter\/epicene\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Ctd\u003E\u011di\u003C\/td\u003E\n    \u003C\/tr\u003E\n    \u003Ctr\u003E\n        \u003Cth colspan=\u00222\u0022\u003Eindefinite\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Ctd colspan=\u00222\u0022\u003Eoni\u003C\/td\u003E\n    \u003C\/tr\u003E\n    \u003Ctr\u003E\n        \u003Cth colspan=\u00222\u0022\u003Ereflexive\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Ctd colspan=\u00222\u0022\u003Esi\u003C\/td\u003E\n    \u003C\/tr\u003E\n\u003C\/table\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlthough they describe people and things (=substantives) they have nothing to do with the substantive \u003Cstrong\u003E-o\u003C\/strong\u003E suffix. And the plural doesn\u2019t seem to stem from the singular at all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EApparently, it\u2019s necessary to distinguish between three 3rd persons, depending on their gender (as if someone\u2019s gender was relevant at all in most of the contexts...), but only as long as it\u2019s one person. And for the 2nd person even the singular\/plural distinction stops being relevant, for some reason.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESexism\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere is an \u003Cstrong\u003E-ino\u003C\/strong\u003E suffix for substantives that indicates femininity of a person. Which implies in a way, that all the human-describing substantives are \u003Cem\u003Emale by default\u003C\/em\u003E, and it takes a special effort to express such a \u003Cem\u003Erarity\u003C\/em\u003E as a woman...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EAccusative\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey say it\u2019s nice to have at least those two cases (Nominative and Accusative) in order to distinguish between phrases like \u201cPeter killed the lion\u201d and \u201cThe lion killed Peter\u201d. Except, you know... I just did it \u2013 in English, which has (almost) no cases anymore. You can easily tell, who killed whom. The word order is the key. And if you really want to start with the object, not the subject, (say, for emphasis), just use the passive voice: \u201cThe lion was killed by Peter\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEven in Polish, which has seven grammatical cases and not that strict rules regarding word order, messing up with this order can result in \u003Cem\u003Estrange\u003C\/em\u003E sounding sentences. Cases aren\u2019t really as useful as they seem to be.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAn why would you even want so highly flexible word order anyway? It might be fun for shorter, simpler sentences, but the more complex ones would become incomprehensible, regardless of the number of hints that are given by cases.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EDefinite article\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI never really got that concept. Why does it matter so much, if I\u2019m talking about something new and indefinite or something known and specific? Most of the time it\u2019s \u003Cem\u003Ereally\u003C\/em\u003E obvious from the context, isn\u2019t it? And when it\u2019s not, we can just add \u201csome\u201d or \u201cthis\u201d. Which is exactly the way that Polish does it. And it works just fine.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPlural adjectives\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA \u201ccute guy\u201d is \u201cbeleta ulo\u201d. To make it plural, we can\u2019t just pluralify the substantive: \u201cbeleta ulo\u003Cstrong\u003Ej\u003C\/strong\u003E\u201d makes no sense in Esperanto. Only \u201cbeleta\u003Cstrong\u003Ej\u003C\/strong\u003E ulo\u003Cstrong\u003Ej\u003C\/strong\u003E\u201d does. Cause, you know, nothing says \u201csimplicity\u201d like duplicating the same information twice.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EAdverbs\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGerman does just fine with adjectives simply acting as adverbs, depending on whether they describe a substantive or a verb, whereas Esperanto necessarily needs to distinguish them. You know, for simplicity\u2019s sake.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ENumerals\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPositional notation is awesome! Way simpler than Roman numerals or other systems that humankind came up with in the past. A digit can have a different value depending on its position in a number. Brilliant!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen writing a number down, digits (grouped by three\u003Ca href=\u0022#ftn-1\u0022 id=\u0022ftn-ref-1\u0022\u003E\u003Csup\u003E[1]\u003C\/sup\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E for convenience) and their positions are basically all we need to accurately represent it. But when saying a number out loud, in most languages we have to additionally emphasise the positions with verbal indicators: thir\u003Cstrong\u003Eteen\u003C\/strong\u003E, twen\u003Cstrong\u003Ety\u003C\/strong\u003E, five \u003Cstrong\u003Ehundred\u003C\/strong\u003E and so on. We end up with oral system not really being consistent with the written one.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESure, the numerals in Esperanto are already way simpler than in most natural languages, more consistent and lacking in exceptions, but one obviously can do better.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESo what?\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENot much. I just wanted to say that Esperanto disappointed me a bit. I really wanted to learn it (back when I was maybe 15?). But in the process I realised that it\u2019s \u003Cstrong\u003Ejust not as much fun\u003C\/strong\u003E as I expected. Its sound isn\u2019t really to my taste, it\u2019s grammar isn\u2019t such a piece of cake as everybody advertised it to me, it\u2019s not a magical \u201cfree\u201d language that just slips into your mind as you go. I do understand it quite well, without trying \u003Cem\u003Ethat much\u003C\/em\u003E, but I wouldn\u2019t say I have any considerable motivation to actually learn it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBecause, let\u2019s not kid ourselves, Esperanto isn\u2019t that \u003Cstrong\u003Euseful\u003C\/strong\u003E either... It has way fewer speakers, way smaller influence and significance than it deserves to have. (Yeah, I might not like it, but I do admire its achievements and wish it the best!). There is \u003Cem\u003Esome\u003C\/em\u003E practical purpose in learning Esperanto, but way to little to keep me interested.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat I do enjoy, however, is creating my own conlangs. Not as a competition with Esperanto, not with any aspirations for a world auxiliary language... Just because, just for fun. And I\u2019ve recently got back to working on my old project that stems from my adventure with Esperanto. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EKeep fingers crossed that I finally finally finish it \ud83d\ude00\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Chr\/\u003E\u003Cp class=\u0022small\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022#ftn-ref-1\u0022 id=\u0022ftn-1\u0022\u003E\u003Csup\u003E[1]\u003C\/sup\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E or not three, depending on a language\u003Cbr\/\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["artificial","complexity","conlang","contructed","difficulty","ease","esperanto","grammar","language","simplicity"],"hasMore":true,"image":"https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/flag-esperanto_small.jpg","introLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/flag-esperanto_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/flag-esperanto_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Esperanto flag\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022159.9375\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t really like Esperanto. As a language. As an idea I love it from all my heart! \u2764\ufe0f\nThat message of unity, peace and understanding though a common language! That brilliance of simplification and unification!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut I\u2019ve always seen it advertised as \u201cextremely simple\u201d. Simple indeed, but \u003Cem\u003Eextremely\u003C\/em\u003E? You can certainly do better!\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cfigure\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/flag-esperanto_big.jpg\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022https:\/\/avris.it\/image\/flag-esperanto_mini.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Esperanto flag\u0022 width=\u0022240\u0022 height=\u0022159.9375\u0022 loading=\u0022lazy\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cfigcaption\u003E\n                    \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/pixabay.com\/en\/flag-esperanto-language-symbol-1208849\/\u0022 target=\u0022_blank\u0022 rel=\u0022noopener\u0022\u003E\u003Csmall\u003Epixabay.com\/en\/flag-esperanto-language-symbol-1208849\u003C\/small\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n                \u003C\/figcaption\u003E\u003C\/figure\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t really like Esperanto. As a language. As an idea I love it from all my heart! \u2764\ufe0f\nThat message of unity, peace and understanding though a common language! That brilliance of simplification and unification!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut I\u2019ve always seen it advertised as \u201cextremely simple\u201d. Simple indeed, but \u003Cem\u003Eextremely\u003C\/em\u003E? You can certainly do better!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EAlphabet\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEsperanto has five characters that annoy me way more than they should:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cstrong\u003E\u0109 \u011d \u0125 \u0135 \u015d\u003C\/strong\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt might have looked like a good idea to add those neat diacritics back in the times when you mostly wrote by hand. But in the age of computers having any non-latin characters in your alphabet is just annoying \u2013 with all the switching of keyboard layouts, with those damn non-UTF8 encodings, with some people replacing \u003Cstrong\u003E\u0109\u003C\/strong\u003E with the ugly \u003Cstrong\u003Ecx\u003C\/strong\u003E and others with \u003Cstrong\u003Ech\u003C\/strong\u003E...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd also: who \u003Cem\u003Ereally\u003C\/em\u003E cares about the difference between \u003Cstrong\u003Eh\u003C\/strong\u003E and \u003Cstrong\u003E\u0125\u003C\/strong\u003E?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ENouns\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey aren\u2019t in any way better or simpler than in natural languages. Such a missed opportunity! Especially for the words used \u003Cem\u003Eso\u003C\/em\u003E often. Just look:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ctable class=\u0022table table-bordered table-center\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ctr\u003E\n        \u003Cth colspan=\u00222\u0022\u003E\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Cth\u003Esingular\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Cth\u003Eplural\u003C\/th\u003E\n    \u003C\/tr\u003E\n    \u003Ctr\u003E\n        \u003Cth colspan=\u00222\u0022\u003E1st person\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Ctd\u003Emi\u003C\/td\u003E\n        \u003Ctd\u003Eni\u003C\/td\u003E\n    \u003C\/tr\u003E\n    \u003Ctr\u003E\n        \u003Cth colspan=\u00222\u0022\u003E2nd person\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Ctd colspan=\u00222\u0022\u003Evi\u003C\/td\u003E\n    \u003C\/tr\u003E\n    \u003Ctr\u003E\n        \u003Cth rowspan=\u00223\u0022\u003E3rd person\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Cth\u003Emasculine\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Ctd\u003Eli\u003C\/td\u003E\n        \u003Ctd rowspan=\u00223\u0022\u003Eili\u003C\/td\u003E\n    \u003C\/tr\u003E\n    \u003Ctr\u003E\n        \u003Cth\u003Efeminine\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Ctd\u003E\u015di\u003C\/td\u003E\n    \u003C\/tr\u003E\n    \u003Ctr\u003E\n        \u003Cth\u003Eneuter\/epicene\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Ctd\u003E\u011di\u003C\/td\u003E\n    \u003C\/tr\u003E\n    \u003Ctr\u003E\n        \u003Cth colspan=\u00222\u0022\u003Eindefinite\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Ctd colspan=\u00222\u0022\u003Eoni\u003C\/td\u003E\n    \u003C\/tr\u003E\n    \u003Ctr\u003E\n        \u003Cth colspan=\u00222\u0022\u003Ereflexive\u003C\/th\u003E\n        \u003Ctd colspan=\u00222\u0022\u003Esi\u003C\/td\u003E\n    \u003C\/tr\u003E\n\u003C\/table\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlthough they describe people and things (=substantives) they have nothing to do with the substantive \u003Cstrong\u003E-o\u003C\/strong\u003E suffix. And the plural doesn\u2019t seem to stem from the singular at all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EApparently, it\u2019s necessary to distinguish between three 3rd persons, depending on their gender (as if someone\u2019s gender was relevant at all in most of the contexts...), but only as long as it\u2019s one person. And for the 2nd person even the singular\/plural distinction stops being relevant, for some reason.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESexism\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere is an \u003Cstrong\u003E-ino\u003C\/strong\u003E suffix for substantives that indicates femininity of a person. Which implies in a way, that all the human-describing substantives are \u003Cem\u003Emale by default\u003C\/em\u003E, and it takes a special effort to express such a \u003Cem\u003Erarity\u003C\/em\u003E as a woman...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EAccusative\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThey say it\u2019s nice to have at least those two cases (Nominative and Accusative) in order to distinguish between phrases like \u201cPeter killed the lion\u201d and \u201cThe lion killed Peter\u201d. Except, you know... I just did it \u2013 in English, which has (almost) no cases anymore. You can easily tell, who killed whom. The word order is the key. And if you really want to start with the object, not the subject, (say, for emphasis), just use the passive voice: \u201cThe lion was killed by Peter\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEven in Polish, which has seven grammatical cases and not that strict rules regarding word order, messing up with this order can result in \u003Cem\u003Estrange\u003C\/em\u003E sounding sentences. Cases aren\u2019t really as useful as they seem to be.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAn why would you even want so highly flexible word order anyway? It might be fun for shorter, simpler sentences, but the more complex ones would become incomprehensible, regardless of the number of hints that are given by cases.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EDefinite article\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI never really got that concept. Why does it matter so much, if I\u2019m talking about something new and indefinite or something known and specific? Most of the time it\u2019s \u003Cem\u003Ereally\u003C\/em\u003E obvious from the context, isn\u2019t it? And when it\u2019s not, we can just add \u201csome\u201d or \u201cthis\u201d. Which is exactly the way that Polish does it. And it works just fine.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EPlural adjectives\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA \u201ccute guy\u201d is \u201cbeleta ulo\u201d. To make it plural, we can\u2019t just pluralify the substantive: \u201cbeleta ulo\u003Cstrong\u003Ej\u003C\/strong\u003E\u201d makes no sense in Esperanto. Only \u201cbeleta\u003Cstrong\u003Ej\u003C\/strong\u003E ulo\u003Cstrong\u003Ej\u003C\/strong\u003E\u201d does. Cause, you know, nothing says \u201csimplicity\u201d like duplicating the same information twice.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EAdverbs\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGerman does just fine with adjectives simply acting as adverbs, depending on whether they describe a substantive or a verb, whereas Esperanto necessarily needs to distinguish them. You know, for simplicity\u2019s sake.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ENumerals\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPositional notation is awesome! Way simpler than Roman numerals or other systems that humankind came up with in the past. A digit can have a different value depending on its position in a number. Brilliant!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen writing a number down, digits (grouped by three\u003Ca href=\u0022#ftn-1\u0022 id=\u0022ftn-ref-1\u0022\u003E\u003Csup\u003E[1]\u003C\/sup\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E for convenience) and their positions are basically all we need to accurately represent it. But when saying a number out loud, in most languages we have to additionally emphasise the positions with verbal indicators: thir\u003Cstrong\u003Eteen\u003C\/strong\u003E, twen\u003Cstrong\u003Ety\u003C\/strong\u003E, five \u003Cstrong\u003Ehundred\u003C\/strong\u003E and so on. We end up with oral system not really being consistent with the written one.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESure, the numerals in Esperanto are already way simpler than in most natural languages, more consistent and lacking in exceptions, but one obviously can do better.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESo what?\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENot much. I just wanted to say that Esperanto disappointed me a bit. I really wanted to learn it (back when I was maybe 15?). But in the process I realised that it\u2019s \u003Cstrong\u003Ejust not as much fun\u003C\/strong\u003E as I expected. Its sound isn\u2019t really to my taste, it\u2019s grammar isn\u2019t such a piece of cake as everybody advertised it to me, it\u2019s not a magical \u201cfree\u201d language that just slips into your mind as you go. I do understand it quite well, without trying \u003Cem\u003Ethat much\u003C\/em\u003E, but I wouldn\u2019t say I have any considerable motivation to actually learn it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBecause, let\u2019s not kid ourselves, Esperanto isn\u2019t that \u003Cstrong\u003Euseful\u003C\/strong\u003E either... It has way fewer speakers, way smaller influence and significance than it deserves to have. (Yeah, I might not like it, but I do admire its achievements and wish it the best!). There is \u003Cem\u003Esome\u003C\/em\u003E practical purpose in learning Esperanto, but way to little to keep me interested.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat I do enjoy, however, is creating my own conlangs. Not as a competition with Esperanto, not with any aspirations for a world auxiliary language... Just because, just for fun. And I\u2019ve recently got back to working on my old project that stems from my adventure with Esperanto. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EKeep fingers crossed that I finally finally finish it \ud83d\ude00\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Chr\/\u003E\u003Cp class=\u0022small\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022#ftn-ref-1\u0022 id=\u0022ftn-1\u0022\u003E\u003Csup\u003E[1]\u003C\/sup\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E or not three, depending on a language\u003Cbr\/\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E","words":987,"readTime":4,"lang":"en"}}},"blog\/life\/i-love-being-gay":{"key":"blog\/life\/i-love-being-gay","type":"article","published":true,"meta":{"createdAt":"2017-05-10T17:54:09+02:00","publishedAt":"2017-05-12T10:00:00+02:00","group":null,"category":"blog","subcategory":"life","slug":"i-love-being-gay"},"content":{"en":{"slug":"i-love-being-gay","title":"I love being gay!","intro":"\u003Cp\u003EBeing gay is not easy. Depending on where you live, it might mean different things to you. Best case scenario \u2013 some minor inconveniences. Worst case \u2013 even danger of death. \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/lgbtq\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-tag\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E LGBTQ\u003C\/a\u003E youth has a higher suicide rate than their straight \u0026amp; cis friends, they fear getting disowned by their families, thrown out of their homes, in some countries being sentenced to prison or lashes... We don\u2019t have equal rights, we can\u2019t always show affection in public. Being gay can be scary, lonely and awful.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut there is also a good side to that. The side of being gay that I really really love!\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","content":"\u003Cp\u003EBeing gay is not easy. Depending on where you live, it might mean different things to you. Best case scenario \u2013 some minor inconveniences. Worst case \u2013 even danger of death. \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/lgbtq\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-tag\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E LGBTQ\u003C\/a\u003E youth has a higher suicide rate than their straight \u0026amp; cis friends, they fear getting disowned by their families, thrown out of their homes, in some countries being sentenced to prison or lashes... We don\u2019t have equal rights, we can\u2019t always show affection in public. Being gay can be scary, lonely and awful.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut there is also a good side to that. The side of being gay that I really really love!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EEquality and freedom to be yourself\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen I see a straight couple on a date, most of the time the guy seems nervous: he plans the whole thing, he tries to impress the girl, he bares responsibility for the date to work out well. She, on the other hand, is more passive, just enjoying his efforts.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen I hear about family problems of straight couples, they often concern the division of household chores or generally the traditional gender roles. The wife is expected to sacrifice her career for the children and the household, while the husband is expected to heroically protect the family from every danger.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd almost nobody seems to be happy with that. Girls, who try to impress a guy or want to ask him out, often feel strange, inappropriate. And some guys might be shy and prefer to be approached by a girl, or might not like the burden of organising their dates. Girls might want to focus on their careers, guys might need the privilege of being cowardly...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGays, on the other hand, can be so \u003Cstrong\u003Eflexible\u003C\/strong\u003E in all of that! Who reels up the the other? Well, whoever\u2019s brave enough. Who organises the dates? Whoever feels like it, or whoever has a nice idea, or we just do it together. Who does the chores? We just split it, so that everybody does, what they do best. If both of you are the man or the woman, then you don\u2019t have to \u201cbe the man in this relationship\u201d or wonder \u201cwhat should I do as a woman?\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019m not saying straight couples cannot have such \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/equality\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-tag\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E equality\u003C\/a\u003E and \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/freedom\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-tag\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E freedom\u003C\/a\u003E to be yourself, as same-sex couples do. That would be \u003Cstrong\u003Estereotypical, plain stupid and simply not true\u003C\/strong\u003E. They obviously can, and I know many that do. But you\u2019ve got to admit, the overall trend of equality in a relationship and the general expectations from the society in that matter look way better for same-sex couples, don\u2019t they?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EViews\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA girl meets a boy: he\u2019s nice, interesting, handsome and strong. She falls in love with him. Well, at least until they talk about politics for the first time. Then it turns out that her prince charming is actually a nationalistic fucktard, he\u2019s hateful towards other nations and skin colours, he wants to let the refugees die in the war zone...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EObviously, \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/how-come-you-don-t-like-a-gay-jew\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-people-carry\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E gays also can be right-wing extremists\u003C\/a\u003E, but statistically I would expect much lower percentage of such people among the LGBTQ community. Why? We can sympathise with \u003Cstrong\u003Eminorities\u003C\/strong\u003E, because we are a minority ourselves. We\u2019ve been hurt by inequality, so we have a lot of determination to fight against it. Our common suffering unites us and makes us stronger.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ECommunity\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhich brings me to the awesomeness of the LGBTQ community in general. My first time in a gay bar was an amazing, unforgettable experience, even though nothing special actually happened. But it was just \u003Cstrong\u003Eso open\u003C\/strong\u003E!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EObviously, that\u2019s a huge generalisation, but you know... In a gay bar, during a pride parade or in some LGBTQ association, as long as you share the same values, you can \u003Cstrong\u003Efeel welcome\u003C\/strong\u003E, you can \u003Cstrong\u003Ebe yourself\u003C\/strong\u003E and not be judged for that, you can \u003Cstrong\u003Efeel safe\u003C\/strong\u003E and wanted. It\u2019s just so warm and friendly! You can be on first name terms with everybody by default (even in Poland or Germany, where \u201cDu\u201d and \u201cSie\u201d thingy is quite a big deal).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe Community is like a huge, worldwide family for me. I cried after the massacre in \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/orlando\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-tag\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E Orlando\u003C\/a\u003E as if I\u2019d lost really close friends \u2013 even though I didn\u2019t know those people. After my biological family rejected me, it\u2019s the misfits of the LGBTQ community that made me feel at home again.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EOnline dating\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor a shy guy like me online dating is quite a big deal. Remember all the jokes in the sitcoms about couples being ashamed that they\u2019ve met online and coming up with some fake \u201chow we met\u201d stories? This shows a stigma around the topic. As if it was a \u003Cem\u003Eworse\u003C\/em\u003E way to meet someone. If anything, it\u2019s better in many ways. Like being able to get to know someone\u2019s interests and character (and not just their looks) from their profile before even talking to them \u2013 you can\u2019t see any of that when you\u2019re saying hello to a stranger in a bar.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESure, now in the age of Tinder\u2019s popularity, that stigma is getting smaller and smaller. But nevertheless: I\u2019m happy to be part of a community, where meeting your boyfriend or your hookup on the Internet is not a big deal, but practically a default.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESex\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEver wondered, why sex-related jokes about gays are almost always about us doing anal (\u201dhaha, they fuck in the shithole!\u201d) or about straight guys\u2019 irrational fears that we would rape them (\u201dI\u2019ll sleep on this side, otherwise you\u2019d fuck me, faggot, hehe...\u201d)? Well, yeah, we do anal, and it\u2019s awesome, what\u2019s your point? And no, gay \u2260 rapist, and if you\u2019d joke about that, it probably means that\u2019s the way you\u2019d treat a woman in a similar situation...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMeanwhile, in sit-coms, standups etc. I keep hearing jokes about guys constantly underperforming in bed, finishing after 3 minutes, refusing to go down on a girl while demanding a blowjob for themselves, being generally boring and self-absorbed in bed... I might think they\u2019re just jokes, but then I keep hearing complaints about precisely that from my straight female friends about their boyfriends.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESeems like many straight guys don\u2019t experiment with their bodies, as if their cock was their only sex organ and a woman was basically just a toy for their wank. Getting your nipples stimulated, your armpits or asshole licked, etc. etc., that feels so amazing! Your G-spot is your prostate, and if you don\u2019t play with it for fear that \u201cit\u2019s gay\u201d, you\u2019re just missing out. Licking other people\u2019s bodies can be so hot as well...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFrom what I hear, many straight people divide sex into foreplay and penetration. Penetration is what a guy really wants, while foreplay is what he is willing to do, reluctantly, to be allowed to get to the penetration. And gays? Seriously, I don\u2019t remember the last time I even used the word \u201cforeplay\u201d. It\u2019s all just sex. It\u2019s all awesome. Did you know that most of the time we don\u2019t even fuck in the ass during sex? Anal requires preparation, douching, status talk, condoms, lube, etc., meanwhile everything else is almost just as good, so why bother that much every time?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201cSeducing a straight guy\u201d is quite a common theme in gay porn. But I don\u2019t really get that phantasy. If the majority of straight guys is really the way standuppers, sitcoms, jokes and their own partners say they are in bed, well... I\u2019m just glad that there are only gay\/bi guys in my bed.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EAnd so much more...\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t have to worry about getting someone \u003Cstrong\u003Epregnant\u003C\/strong\u003E. Or about my country trying to restrict access to \u003Cstrong\u003Econtraception and abortion\u003C\/strong\u003E (although \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/schwarzermontag\u0022\u003E\u003Csvg class=\u0022icon\u0022\u003E\u003Cuse xlink:href=\u0022#light-people-carry\u0022\u003E\u003C\/use\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E I am fighting\u003C\/a\u003E for others\u2019 right to use them). I won\u2019t end up in a marriage where we don\u2019t actually want to be together, but we just ended up with an unwanted pregnancy and decided it\u2019s best for the baby... If I share my clothes and underwear with my boyfriend, my wardrobe becomes twice as big. There are so many things I don\u2019t really think about every day, but when they do come up, I can\u2019t help but think \u201cthank goddess I\u2019m gay!\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo if I were born straight, I guess I\u2019d be trying to be as \u201cgay\u201d as possible anyway. Looking for a girlfriend that would treat be like a partner, not as a patriarch. Visiting gay bars, because why not. Using online dating sites and not caring what others think...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere\u2019s naturally \u003Cstrong\u003Enothing wrong with being straight\u003C\/strong\u003E, or with being gay, or lesbian, or bisexual, or pansexual. But hell yeah I\u2019m happy I happened to be born just the way I have!\u003C\/p\u003E\u003Csvg xmlns=\u0022http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\u0022 style=\u0022display: none;\u0022\u003E\u003C\/svg\u003E","tags":["chores","community","dating","equality","expression","family","freedom","gay","gender","lesbian","lgbtq","online dating","porn","relationship","sex"],"hasMore":true,"image":null,"introLite":"\u003Cp\u003EBeing gay is not easy. Depending on where you live, it might mean different things to you. Best case scenario \u2013 some minor inconveniences. Worst case \u2013 even danger of death. \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/lgbtq\u0022\u003E LGBTQ\u003C\/a\u003E youth has a higher suicide rate than their straight \u0026amp; cis friends, they fear getting disowned by their families, thrown out of their homes, in some countries being sentenced to prison or lashes... We don\u2019t have equal rights, we can\u2019t always show affection in public. Being gay can be scary, lonely and awful.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut there is also a good side to that. The side of being gay that I really really love!\u003C\/p\u003E","contentLite":"\u003Cp\u003EBeing gay is not easy. Depending on where you live, it might mean different things to you. Best case scenario \u2013 some minor inconveniences. Worst case \u2013 even danger of death. \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/lgbtq\u0022\u003E LGBTQ\u003C\/a\u003E youth has a higher suicide rate than their straight \u0026amp; cis friends, they fear getting disowned by their families, thrown out of their homes, in some countries being sentenced to prison or lashes... We don\u2019t have equal rights, we can\u2019t always show affection in public. Being gay can be scary, lonely and awful.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut there is also a good side to that. The side of being gay that I really really love!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EEquality and freedom to be yourself\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen I see a straight couple on a date, most of the time the guy seems nervous: he plans the whole thing, he tries to impress the girl, he bares responsibility for the date to work out well. She, on the other hand, is more passive, just enjoying his efforts.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen I hear about family problems of straight couples, they often concern the division of household chores or generally the traditional gender roles. The wife is expected to sacrifice her career for the children and the household, while the husband is expected to heroically protect the family from every danger.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd almost nobody seems to be happy with that. Girls, who try to impress a guy or want to ask him out, often feel strange, inappropriate. And some guys might be shy and prefer to be approached by a girl, or might not like the burden of organising their dates. Girls might want to focus on their careers, guys might need the privilege of being cowardly...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGays, on the other hand, can be so \u003Cstrong\u003Eflexible\u003C\/strong\u003E in all of that! Who reels up the the other? Well, whoever\u2019s brave enough. Who organises the dates? Whoever feels like it, or whoever has a nice idea, or we just do it together. Who does the chores? We just split it, so that everybody does, what they do best. If both of you are the man or the woman, then you don\u2019t have to \u201cbe the man in this relationship\u201d or wonder \u201cwhat should I do as a woman?\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019m not saying straight couples cannot have such \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/equality\u0022\u003E equality\u003C\/a\u003E and \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/freedom\u0022\u003E freedom\u003C\/a\u003E to be yourself, as same-sex couples do. That would be \u003Cstrong\u003Estereotypical, plain stupid and simply not true\u003C\/strong\u003E. They obviously can, and I know many that do. But you\u2019ve got to admit, the overall trend of equality in a relationship and the general expectations from the society in that matter look way better for same-sex couples, don\u2019t they?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EViews\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA girl meets a boy: he\u2019s nice, interesting, handsome and strong. She falls in love with him. Well, at least until they talk about politics for the first time. Then it turns out that her prince charming is actually a nationalistic fucktard, he\u2019s hateful towards other nations and skin colours, he wants to let the refugees die in the war zone...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EObviously, \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/how-come-you-don-t-like-a-gay-jew.lite\u0022\u003E gays also can be right-wing extremists\u003C\/a\u003E, but statistically I would expect much lower percentage of such people among the LGBTQ community. Why? We can sympathise with \u003Cstrong\u003Eminorities\u003C\/strong\u003E, because we are a minority ourselves. We\u2019ve been hurt by inequality, so we have a lot of determination to fight against it. Our common suffering unites us and makes us stronger.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ECommunity\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhich brings me to the awesomeness of the LGBTQ community in general. My first time in a gay bar was an amazing, unforgettable experience, even though nothing special actually happened. But it was just \u003Cstrong\u003Eso open\u003C\/strong\u003E!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EObviously, that\u2019s a huge generalisation, but you know... In a gay bar, during a pride parade or in some LGBTQ association, as long as you share the same values, you can \u003Cstrong\u003Efeel welcome\u003C\/strong\u003E, you can \u003Cstrong\u003Ebe yourself\u003C\/strong\u003E and not be judged for that, you can \u003Cstrong\u003Efeel safe\u003C\/strong\u003E and wanted. It\u2019s just so warm and friendly! You can be on first name terms with everybody by default (even in Poland or Germany, where \u201cDu\u201d and \u201cSie\u201d thingy is quite a big deal).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe Community is like a huge, worldwide family for me. I cried after the massacre in \u003Ca href=\u0022\/tag\/orlando\u0022\u003E Orlando\u003C\/a\u003E as if I\u2019d lost really close friends \u2013 even though I didn\u2019t know those people. After my biological family rejected me, it\u2019s the misfits of the LGBTQ community that made me feel at home again.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EOnline dating\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor a shy guy like me online dating is quite a big deal. Remember all the jokes in the sitcoms about couples being ashamed that they\u2019ve met online and coming up with some fake \u201chow we met\u201d stories? This shows a stigma around the topic. As if it was a \u003Cem\u003Eworse\u003C\/em\u003E way to meet someone. If anything, it\u2019s better in many ways. Like being able to get to know someone\u2019s interests and character (and not just their looks) from their profile before even talking to them \u2013 you can\u2019t see any of that when you\u2019re saying hello to a stranger in a bar.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESure, now in the age of Tinder\u2019s popularity, that stigma is getting smaller and smaller. But nevertheless: I\u2019m happy to be part of a community, where meeting your boyfriend or your hookup on the Internet is not a big deal, but practically a default.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ESex\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEver wondered, why sex-related jokes about gays are almost always about us doing anal (\u201dhaha, they fuck in the shithole!\u201d) or about straight guys\u2019 irrational fears that we would rape them (\u201dI\u2019ll sleep on this side, otherwise you\u2019d fuck me, faggot, hehe...\u201d)? Well, yeah, we do anal, and it\u2019s awesome, what\u2019s your point? And no, gay \u2260 rapist, and if you\u2019d joke about that, it probably means that\u2019s the way you\u2019d treat a woman in a similar situation...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMeanwhile, in sit-coms, standups etc. I keep hearing jokes about guys constantly underperforming in bed, finishing after 3 minutes, refusing to go down on a girl while demanding a blowjob for themselves, being generally boring and self-absorbed in bed... I might think they\u2019re just jokes, but then I keep hearing complaints about precisely that from my straight female friends about their boyfriends.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESeems like many straight guys don\u2019t experiment with their bodies, as if their cock was their only sex organ and a woman was basically just a toy for their wank. Getting your nipples stimulated, your armpits or asshole licked, etc. etc., that feels so amazing! Your G-spot is your prostate, and if you don\u2019t play with it for fear that \u201cit\u2019s gay\u201d, you\u2019re just missing out. Licking other people\u2019s bodies can be so hot as well...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFrom what I hear, many straight people divide sex into foreplay and penetration. Penetration is what a guy really wants, while foreplay is what he is willing to do, reluctantly, to be allowed to get to the penetration. And gays? Seriously, I don\u2019t remember the last time I even used the word \u201cforeplay\u201d. It\u2019s all just sex. It\u2019s all awesome. Did you know that most of the time we don\u2019t even fuck in the ass during sex? Anal requires preparation, douching, status talk, condoms, lube, etc., meanwhile everything else is almost just as good, so why bother that much every time?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201cSeducing a straight guy\u201d is quite a common theme in gay porn. But I don\u2019t really get that phantasy. If the majority of straight guys is really the way standuppers, sitcoms, jokes and their own partners say they are in bed, well... I\u2019m just glad that there are only gay\/bi guys in my bed.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003EAnd so much more...\u003C\/h3\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u2019t have to worry about getting someone \u003Cstrong\u003Epregnant\u003C\/strong\u003E. Or about my country trying to restrict access to \u003Cstrong\u003Econtraception and abortion\u003C\/strong\u003E (although \u003Ca href=\u0022\/blog\/schwarzermontag.lite\u0022\u003E I am fighting\u003C\/a\u003E for others\u2019 right to use them). I won\u2019t end up in a marriage where we don\u2019t actually want to be together, but we just ended up with an unwanted pregnancy and decided it\u2019s best for the baby... If I share my clothes and underwear with my boyfriend, my wardrobe becomes twice as big. There are so many things I don\u2019t really think about every day, but when they do come up, I can\u2019t help but think \u201cthank goddess I\u2019m gay!\u201d.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo if I were born straight, I guess I\u2019d be trying to be as \u201cgay\u201d as possible anyway. Looking for a girlfriend that would treat be like a partner, not as a patriarch. Visiting gay bars, because why not. Using online dating sites and not caring what others think...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere\u2019s naturally \u003Cstrong\u003Enothing wrong with being straight\u003C\/strong\u003E, or with being gay, or lesbian, or bisexual, or pansexual. 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